We talked yesterday about ‘what ifs’ and that they are negative more often than they’re positive. We challenged ourselves to think of the positive ‘what ifs’ whenever a negative one pops into our mind.
There are times, though, when we are hit really hard by Life and we just can’t seem to turn those ‘what ifs’ around. In fact, we might be so discouraged that we begin to wonder about our worth in the world–and wonder if we have any worth at all.
I’ve had times like this–we’ve all had times like this. When we’re in the midst of these thoughts it can seem like they’re the truth about us and there’s nothing we can do about it.
Here is an article I came across that had excellent suggestions about how to help ourselves out of this thought pattern:
Please note: if feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness persist, please seek assistance from professionals trained to help in these circumstances. Please call a health care professional, a therapist or counselor, or your spiritual leader. Please reach out for help!
Each of the suggestions outlined in the article are powerful:
~Don’t expect the world to validate your worth.
There is always going to be someone who–by the world’s standards–is “better than” us. First of all, it’s a big wide world and there’s plenty of room for everyone’s talents and gifts, plus there’s plenty of room for everyone to live a soul-prospering life.
Secondly, people can’t really be compared fully to one another, even when performing the same skill, because each of us has our own unique perspective on it and our own original mark to the way we do it.
Although this is easier said than done: don’t compare yourself to others!
~You will never find your worth outside of you.
Yep, the world is a fickle place. What’s popular and hot one moment is kicked to the curb in the next moment. If you try to mold yourself to please the world, you’ll wind up a knotted mess that’s pretzeled into a shape that you don’t recognize.
Keep your focus on your own heart and soul and sharing their gifts with the world.
~Be careful who you spend your time with.
Frenemies. Yes, there may be one or two within your circle of friends. Be aware of who drains your energy and who, even though they say they’re being supportive, find clever and subtle ways to tear you down or make you feel bad about yourself.
When you discover these people, either eliminate them from your life or keep your distance from them.
~Don’t believe everything you think.
You’ve been wrong before–you may not want to admit it, but it’s true. Therefore, you could very well be wrong about your feelings of worthlessness and that there’s no hope for you.
I guarantee you that you are valuable and needed in this world and that there is hope. Hang in there and keep moving forward, even if it’s in slow tiny bits of steps.
~If you’re feeling worthless, disconnect in order to reconnect.
This is so true. Get off of Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, and the like. Stop watching the news. Turn off the stupid sitcoms and reality shows!
Pick up a good book, read something uplifting, connect with someone who makes you feel better about yourself!
~Tell yourself what you want to hear from others.
Give yourself a pep talk. Also search the posts here at YesICanPepTalks.com and I guarantee you’ll find at least one post that will lift your spirits!
~Be kind and gentle with yourself.
When you’re feeling bad, the last thing you need is to come down like a ton of bricks on yourself. Give yourself loving-kindness: Take a hot bath, treat yourself to your favorite home cooked meal, read a favorite book, talk to someone who cares about you, take a walk in Nature, play with your pets, play with your kids….
Do you have other techniques you use? Please share them with us in the comments below. Thanks!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,