Golden Wisdom: Destiny by Ella Wheeler Wilcox


I came across the following essay entitled Destiny, by Ella Wheeler Wilcox. It’s advice is as relevant today as it was 110 years ago when she wrote it.

Let me know what you think of it:

Destiny by Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Never say that you wish your situation were different! Never wish you had some other person’s life or troubles or worries.

Accept your own as a working basis, the best for you.

Then go ahead and change whatever displeases you.

Remember you are the maker and moulder of your own destiny. You do not recall the fact, but you brought about the present conditions of your destiny in former incarnations.

Even if you do not believe this, you must acknowledge that you are here, and that the situation in which you find yourself seems to be inevitable for the present.

But it is not inevitable for the future, unless you lie down in the furrow and whine, and wish you were a millionaire, or a genius, and rail at the partiality of Providence.

There is no partiality in the Universe.

The whole scheme is well balanced. If you were allowed to change lots with anyone on the face of the earth, you would complain and find fault in a short time.

One of our best known millionaires, born to opulence, complains that he has been robbed of the privilege of making his own fortune.

He is no happier than you. His confession betrays his weakness of character just as your repining and fault-finding betrays yours.

The real worth-while character thanks God for its destiny and says, “I will show the world what I can do with my life.”

Not long ago there was a great trotting-race at Brighton Beach. The blind conqueror “Rythmic” won five consecutive races.

Think of it! He did not, like a mortal man, shrink back and say “I am blind—that is a terrible destiny—I am cursed of God—I will not try to win the race.” He just trusted the hand of the Master at the reins, did his best, and won the honors of the season.

We are all blind racers on the track of earth. The king, the millionaire, the statesman, the lawmaker, the beggar, the laborer, the cripple, we are all in the dark. The only thing is to trust the hand of the Master, and do our best.

Believe your position is the right starting point for you, merely the starting point.

It is the shapeless block of stone from which you are to fashion the perfect statue.

Or it is the mere mud from which you are to mould the clay image, and later that is to be put into enduring marble.

What is uglier or more unattractive than mud?

Yet think of the glorious conceptions which it imprisons.

Take the mud of your present environment and thank God for it, and make the image of the future you desire.

You can do it—you must do it—you will do it.


What did you think of the essay? Feel free to share it with a friend. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,



**Destiny appeared in The Heart of New Thought, published by The Psychic Research Company, 1903


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Fear is part of being human, whether we like it or not, because our fears are triggered by change.   Our modern life is full of changes–fast-paced changes.

It’s natural and normal to feel fear; here are a few important questions to ask ourselves about our fears:

What are we going to do with our fears when we bump up against them?

~Will we choose to stop in our tracks?

~Will we choose to live a small life that’s less than what we know we were born to live? 


Will we choose to use our fears as tools to help us move forward? Will we use them as guides to:

~Show us when to slow down;

~Where to pay close attention;

~Reach out for help and guidance from more experienced people.


This week, let’s challenge ourselves to put a positive spin on our fears by thinking of them as guides and tools to move us into our soul-prospering life.

WE can do it!

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Your Friend and Pep Pal,



Back by Popular Demand: Thanking Yourself


This post was originally published on July 29, 2016.


Recently, I tweaked my morning practice. I now spend the first 20 – 30 minutes of the day sitting in silence–not meditating but sitting in silence and listening.  It’s through this updated practice that I discovered I don’t really thank myself.  I console myself, treat myself from time-to-time, and I even spoil myself when I’m feeling particularly bruised.

But I hadn’t made it a regular practice to thank myself.

The benefits I’ve discovered in the short while that I’ve done this have been pleasantly surprising. As I said in yesterday’s post, it’s helping me turn away from the past, letting go of it, and, as I said in yesterday’s post, I’ve found that forgiveness–of myself and others–is a natural, welcomed consequence.

I’ve also discovered that it’s an effective way to “turn that frown upside down”. The disparaging things that people have said about me–and even the negative things I tell myself–can be neutralized with this technique.

For instance, if someone says that we’re stubborn, usually that has a negative connotation: that we’re ornery and prickly and not very nice people.  Needless to say, this can have a very bad impact on our self-esteem!

But, what if we took that statement, “you’re so stubborn”, and instead dug a little deeper in ourselves to find what’s going on. We probably aren’t agreeing to go along with what the other person wants for a very good reason.  It can be that the person didn’t think through what they’re asking us to do and we can see all sorts of pitfalls.  We should thank ourselves for being the type of people who think things through and do reasonable due diligence before undertaking something.  We need to thank ourselves for being in tune with our intuition and the warning bells that are alerting us to something that needs further investigation.

So, stubborn? Not hardly!  And, Yay Us for having the skill and nerve to speak up and do what we think is right!

Also, I’ve found that thanking myself is a great way to start off the day. And, it’s also a great way to press the reset button on the day.  Naturally, it’s an excellent way to fall asleep, too!

You don’t have to make a big ordeal out of thanking yourself and it doesn’t have to be for Big Stuff. It can be for simple things such as “Thank you, me, for enjoying Nature and being able to give myself a lift by gazing at it through my window.”  Or “Thank you, me, for being diligent and persistent about understanding who I truly am.”  Or “Thank you, me, for choosing such good friends.” Or “Thank you, me, for buying fresh flowers for my home once a month.”  Or “Thank you, me, for always trying to see the good side of situations.” Or “Thank you, me, for giving people the benefit of the doubt.” Or “Thank you, me, for being a great cook!”

Simple things, ordinary things, the way you naturally are, the things you naturally do, are all excellent things to thank yourself for.

By making this a regular practice, you’ll find you feel lighter, more hopeful, and you’re more present in the moment and looking forward to the future. All good stuff!

Give it a try and let me know how it goes for you. Leave a comment!

Please pass this post along to a friend. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,



Back by Popular Demand: 5 Truths About You



This post was originally published on May 25, 2016.


As you’re encouraging others this week, remember to encourage yourself! Here are a few things I’d like to remind you about yourself:


  1. You have what it takes to achieve your dreams!

Even though you may not believe it, everything you to achieve your dreams is already inside of you.


  1. You have the intelligence to learn new skills and to gain knowledge that you can then put to good use in helping you take the next step.

You’ll have to put in the time and effort with studying and practicing but the smarts are there for you to use!


  1. You are packed full of talents and abilities that will give you an “unfair advantage” in achieving your dreams.

You’ll have to develop them, for sure, but they are there for you to use.


  1. You have the strength and wherewithal needed to achieve your dreams.

Packed inside you along with your talents, abilities, and know-how is the strength you need to press on through the rough patches. At times you may be strongly challenged but you have the depth and breadth within to dig into yourself and bring forth the Something Extra that you’ll need.  It’s there for you to use!

  1. You can do it, I know you can!

I believe in you! I’m cheering you on!  Go for it!  WooHoo!


Take the next step, even if it’s a tiny one. Keep making regular progress toward your goals each day.  You CAN do it!


Your Friend and Pep Pal,


PS  Happy Birthday, Big Brother!  🙂


Back by Popular Demand: Time Marches on


This post was originally published on June 24, 2015. Keep reading below for the updated version. Thanks!


Time will pass no matter what you do or don’t do.

Whether you go for your dreams or not, time will keep on marching. Whether you live the life of your dreams or not, time will keep moving forward. Whether you are ready or not, time will NOT pause and it will NOT wait for you.

Since time does not wait, you shouldn’t either.

Keep pace with time by being relentless in taking the next step or part of a step. It doesn’t matter how small the increment, all that matters is that you take it; you move forward bit by bit.

Don’t worry about being ready or having all your ducks in a row; don’t worry about taking leaps and bounds. You just need to continually take small actions on tasks and projects that will move you closer to living your soul-prospering life.

Ask yourself: Will doing this task or spending my time this way move me closer to or farther from my soul-prospering life? If you answer “Yes!” then by all means keep doing what you’re doing. If the answer is “No!” then do something else that will give you a “Yes!” answer!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,



Back by Popular Demand: What Are You Waiting For?


This post was originally published on September 25, 2015.   It’s just as relevant today as it was nearly three years ago.

I hope this post inspires you to take the next baby step toward your dreams!



Why are you waiting to take the next step?

There will never be a perfect time.  You will never be fully prepared.  You will never have all the answers.

Your product or service is good enough right now. Get it out there so that it can help people! You can tweak it and improve it as time goes on.

Go for it right now!

Challenge yourself this week to take a small baby step each day toward your soul-prospering life. I know it’s daunting, intimidating, scary, overwhelming, and many other adjectives. But don’t let that stop you! There is information out there that can help you and there are people who are very generous with their time and knowledge and who are eager share what they know.

Take the next step!

Break it into small pieces and little parts. Break those into tiny bits. Keep breaking the fragments into smaller and smaller dabs until you get to the specks that are just the right size for you. Then do them!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,



Back by Popular Demand: When Your Past Calls



When the past calls, let it go to voicemail, believe me, it has nothing new to say–Anonymous



This post was originally published on June 25, 2015
The advice is as important today as it was three years ago.


To take this quote one step further: if you accidentally pick up the call, HANG UP IMMEDIATELY! Nothing good will come of the conversation so do not let it begin.

The past has nothing to offer that will benefit your current life so let go of it. Clinging to the past cannot enhance the present. Staying focused on the past does not add anything to the present and it doesn’t help you move forward into the future.

And if you find that the past keeps calling, even after you keep hanging up on it, then CHANGE TO AN UNLISTED NUMBER!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Mirror Mirror on the Wall


I am a member of Toastmasters and this past weekend I attended a Toastmasters Conference for my District. As an aside, I was unable to publish my posts using my phone, which is why it’s been a few days since you’ve received anything from me!

The conference was beneficial on several levels. The biggest take-away for me was hearing the techniques people have come up with to encourage and motivate themselves to keep taking the next step toward their dreams.

One technique in particular stood out to me. The young man who spoke about it was from India and he was very bold in stating that the reason he came to the United States was to become rich. He was dynamic and enthusiastic and I believed that one day soon we’ll see him on the cover of Time or Forbes!

The way he motivated himself to stay on track toward his dreams was to stand in front of his mirror every morning and ask himself “If I knew today would be my last day on Earth, would I want to do what I’m about to do today?”

He said that at first he would answer that question with a resounding “No!”. Every day, though, he would make little changes in his routines and one day he was able to answer “Yes!”. He continues to ask himself that question every day.   He says opportunities have opened to him that he never imagined.

I encourage us all to follow his example and do what we can each day so that we can answer YES!! to the question “If today were my last day on Earth, would I want to do what I’m about to do today”

You CAN do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Golden Wisdom from Mom: Grandmothers’ Stories


Each of us has in our family tree ancestors who have lived honest, courageous lives. They may not have been famous and they may not have made millions, but they faced heartbreak and disappointment with grace and dignity; they crafted good lives for themselves. Each of our ancestors’ DNA is in each of us.

We can take courage from our forbearers–our foremothers, since we’re honoring all mothers this week.   When we face tough times, let’s remember our grandmothers’ and great-grandmothers’ strength in the face of adversity and use that to bolster our spirits and our will to go on.

We can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,