Golden Wisdom from Mom: Mothers’ Stories

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I’ve been reading several memoirs that are inspiring. All of them are written by mothers and each one of them are accomplished women.

When we see successful women, they make it look so easy. We think they’ve breezed to success and now that they’re at the top, they’re kicking back and coasting. They seem to have it all figured out.

NOT TRUE!

 

Their memoirs make it very clear that they struggled every step of the way and they still face struggles today, in spite of their success.   They struggled with the very things that we “common” folk do.

Here are some of their struggles:

~work-life balance;

~staying connected to their spouse;

~staying connected to their children;

~being respected in the work place;

~dealing with coworkers that are jerks;

~dealing with workplace politics;

~wondering how they’re going to pay the bills;

~how to make space in their lives for “me” time;

~picking up the pieces after divorce;

~figuring out how to be a single parent and not have their kids “miss out”;

~keeping up with the fast-paced business world…

 

Do any of these struggles sound familiar to you?

 

The memoirs I’m reading are:

Cowgirl Power:   How to Kick Ass in Business and Life by Gay Gaddis

Inventing Joy:   Dare to Build a Brave & Creative Life by Joy Mangano

I’ve Been Thinking…:   Reflections, Prayers, and Meditations for a Meaningful Life by Maria Shriver

 

There are plenty of other memoirs available that can nurture and encourage you. In reading them, you’ll discover that the only difference between you and these successful women is that they find a way to keep taking at least one tiny baby step toward their dreams each day.

You can do it, too!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Golden Wisdom from Mom: How Handle Overwhelm

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I came across an article on Mashable featuring the advice SZA’s mother gave to her on how to handle feelings of overwhelm.

Here is the twitter post that describes it:

 

https://mashable.com/2018/03/20/sza-mom-advice-text/#2CvhfXllxPqa

 

 

What did you think of SZA’s mom’s technique? Did your mom ever give you a practical technique for handling a part of life where you may have struggled? Feel free to share it with us. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Golden Wisdom from Mom: Simple Easy Small

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This week we’re honoring those people who have mothered us–including our own mothers!

Yesterday I shared with you several of the things my mother had said to me over the years. I hope her words comforted and uplifted you as much as they have done so for me. Today I want to share with you a bit of mothering of my own.

From time-to-time I’ve become overwhelmed with all I needed to do in order to move myself forward out of the mess I was in and toward something better. The road ahead looked steep and rocky, and it was a daunting sight for sure. I found myself unable to get started because I felt so crushed and defeated even before I’d begun.

But then I hit upon a technique that’s helped me over the years.

I’ve found that if I selected tasks to do that were simple, easy, and small, that I would actually do them. I’d do them precisely because they were simple easy and small.

They were simple:

~making my bed in the mornings;

~straightening the kitchen in the evenings;

~sitting quietly in the morning and listening for the Divine;

~sitting quietly in the evening and sensing the Divine….

They were easy:

~I didn’t have to think very hard

~the tasks weren’t strenuous

~I didn’t need special knowledge or special equipment to do the tasks….

They were small:

Surprising to me was that most of the simple and easy tasks took less than 15 minutes to complete!

 

I’ve found by focusing on simple easy and small tasks I could overcome my feelings of inertia and overwhelm. As I continued with these types of tasks, I felt better about myself and momentum grew, which I then used to tackle projects that were a little larger.

Have you tried a technique like this to help yourself move forward? Please share it with us! Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Golden Wisdom from Mom: 6 Inspiring Quotes for a Happy Mother’s Day All Week Long!

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In honor of all of the mothers in our lives–our biological mother as well as people who have mentored us, encouraged us, protected us, and picked us up and brushed us off (women and men who have done this for us)–Happy Mother’s Day!

Here are six quotes from my Mom to help us celebrate the generously loving and kind people in our lives who have mothered us:

If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. 

 

How would you like it if someone did/said that to you? Then don’t do/say it to anyone else.

 

This too shall pass.

 

Not to worry, Sweet Doll.

 

All is well.

 

You’re my treasure; I love you!

 

What is your favorite quote from a Mom in your life? Please share it with us. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

As You Go Through Life by Ella Wheeler Wilcox

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As You Go Through Life by Ella Wheeler Wilcox

 

Don’t look for the flaws as you go through life;
And even when you find them,
It is wise and kind to be somewhat blind,
And look for the virtue behind them;
For the cloudiest night has a hint of light
Somewhere in its shadows hiding;
It’s better by far to hunt for a star,
Than the spots on the sun abiding.

The current of life runs ever away
To the bosom of God’s great ocean.
Don’t set your force ’gainst the river’s course,
And think to alter its motion.
Don’t waste a curse on the universe,
Remember, it lived before you;
Don’t butt at the storm with your puny form,
But bend and let it go o’er you.

The world will never adjust itself
To suit your whims to the letter,
Some things must go wrong your whole life long,
And the sooner you know it the better.
It is folly to fight with the Infinite,
And go under at last in the wrestle.
The wiser man shapes into God’s plan,
As water shapes into a vessel.

 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Books: The Far-And-Away Most Popular Books In The World

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Do you know what are the most popular books in the world? These two books have sold BILLIONS of copies worldwide and they continue to out-sell ALL other books.

The two books are the Holy Bible and the Holy Quran.

To me, this means that:

~people are far more interested in spirituality and Truth than they are in worldly materialism;

~people want to connect with Divine and to live from their heart and soul rather than from their pocketbook;

~people want a meaningful life—meaningful in a way that’s larger than their human selves;

~people are interested in leaving their mark on the world that is not measured by a large bank account but rather by the depth and breadth of service to others.

This is very good news and it’s what we should cling to in the face of fake news and all the drama in the world today.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Books: I’ve Been Thinking by Maria Shriver

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I’m still reading Maria Shriver’s new book entitled I’ve Been Thinking. I shared a quote from it with you a few weeks ago.

Perhaps you’re like me and when you think of people who are famous and accomplished have it all together.   They know where they’re going; they’re always confident; they never feel lost or sad or worried….

Maria is a real person and she freely shares this in her new book. I like that she does this because I can see that in more ways than I thought, Maria Shriver is just like me.

Sometimes she’s nervous, and even scared, when she’s trying something new–me, too! At times, she’s reluctant to let go of her children and step into the next phase of her own life–me, too! She’s doing it anyway, one little step at a time, and discovering a fresh new world out there that still needs her gifts, ideas, and her compassion. I’m discovering the same thing!

In the book, Maria also shares how her perceptions and assumptions have changed over time and how she’s becoming a deeper, richer person. I’m finding that, too. As I get out of my comfort zone, I’m meeting fascinating people with interesting ideas and experiences, and this is opening my mind, my heart, and my soul in ways I never imagined.

Stop by your local library and check out Maria’s book. I’m interested to hear what you think of it. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Books: The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

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A special place in my heart is reserved for The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale. My mother sent this book to me when I after I graduated college and was off on my own.

I had moved to a small town in a part of the US that was very different from the region where I grew up. I had a very hard time meeting people and finding my place in my new world.   Needless to say, this was a difficult experience for me–I didn’t know what to do to help my situation.

As always, though, Mom came through!

One day a package arrived in the mail and it was this book along with a beautiful letter from my mom.   Of course she knew of my struggles and, as she was reading the book herself, she realized it could be helpful to me. Her letter was filled with wisdom from her own life and the special encouragement that only a mother can give.

The book didn’t immediately solve all my problems, but it helped me take the next step in my life and gradually my situation improved. Most importantly, though, this book is a poignant reminder of my mother’s loving and wise guidance and encouragement.

How about you? What books have a special place in your heart?   Feel free to share. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Books: My Books and I by Edgar A. Guest

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I don’t know about you, but I LOVE books. I have gotten hours of pleasure from reading a fiction book that sparks my imagination and takes me to different lands and exotic climes, and that introduce me to “people” that I never would have met otherwise.

I have also learned so much about Life and the world by reading a wide variety of non-fiction books.   I’m curious about and fascinated by the thoughts, experiences, discoveries, and personal philosophies of other people. These books have helped me learn and understand more about myself and thus improve my life.

This week, I’d like to discuss with you the books I’m currently reading and enjoying and I’d be very pleased to hear about the ones you are reading. With that in mind, I found this poem about books. Enjoy!

 

My Books and I

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by Edgar A. Guest

 

My books and I are good old pals:

           My laughing books are gay,

         Just suited for my merry moods

             When I am wont to play.

         Bill Nye comes down to joke with me

             And, Oh, the joy he spreads.

         Just like two fools we sit and laugh

           And shake our merry heads.

 

         When I am in a thoughtful mood,

             With Stevenson I sit,

         Who seems to know I’ve had enough

           Of Bill Nye and his wit.

         And so, more thoughtful than I am,

           He talks of lofty things,

         And thus an evening hour we spend

             Sedate and grave as kings.

 

         And should my soul be torn with grief

             Upon my shelf I find

         A little volume, torn and thumbled,

           For comfort just designed.

         I take my little Bible down

           And read its pages o’er,

         And when I part from it I find

           I’m stronger than before.

 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Success by Edgar A. Guest

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Success

by Edgar A. Guest

 

I hold no dream of fortune vast,

           Nor seek undying fame.

         I do not ask when life is past

           That many know my name.

 

         I may not own the skill to rise

           To glory’s topmost height,

         Nor win a place among the wise,

           But I can keep the right.

 

         And I can live my life on earth

           Contented to the end,

         If but a few shall know my worth

           And proudly call me friend.

 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren