When the past calls, let it go to voicemail, believe me, it has nothing new to say. –Anonymous
This post was originally published on June 25, 2015
The advice is as important today as it was three years ago.
To take this quote one step further: if you accidentally pick up the call, HANG UP IMMEDIATELY! Nothing good will come of the conversation so do not let it begin.
The past has nothing to offer that will benefit your current life so let go of it. Clinging to the past cannot enhance the present. Staying focused on the past does not add anything to the present and it doesn’t help you move forward into the future.
And if you find that the past keeps calling, even after you keep hanging up on it, then CHANGE TO AN UNLISTED NUMBER!
I am a member of Toastmasters and this past weekend I attended a Toastmasters Conference for my District. As an aside, I was unable to publish my posts using my phone, which is why it’s been a few days since you’ve received anything from me!
The conference was beneficial on several levels. The biggest take-away for me was hearing the techniques people have come up with to encourage and motivate themselves to keep taking the next step toward their dreams.
One technique in particular stood out to me. The young man who spoke about it was from India and he was very bold in stating that the reason he came to the United States was to become rich. He was dynamic and enthusiastic and I believed that one day soon we’ll see him on the cover of Time or Forbes!
The way he motivated himself to stay on track toward his dreams was to stand in front of his mirror every morning and ask himself “If I knew today would be my last day on Earth, would I want to do what I’m about to do today?”
He said that at first he would answer that question with a resounding “No!”. Every day, though, he would make little changes in his routines and one day he was able to answer “Yes!”. He continues to ask himself that question every day. He says opportunities have opened to him that he never imagined.
I encourage us all to follow his example and do what we can each day so that we can answer YES!! to the question “If today were my last day on Earth, would I want to do what I’m about to do today”
Each of us has in our family tree ancestors who have lived honest, courageous lives. They may not have been famous and they may not have made millions, but they faced heartbreak and disappointment with grace and dignity; they crafted good lives for themselves. Each of our ancestors’ DNA is in each of us.
We can take courage from our forbearers–our foremothers, since we’re honoring all mothers this week. When we face tough times, let’s remember our grandmothers’ and great-grandmothers’ strength in the face of adversity and use that to bolster our spirits and our will to go on.
I’ve been reading several memoirs that are inspiring. All of them are written by mothers and each one of them are accomplished women.
When we see successful women, they make it look so easy. We think they’ve breezed to success and now that they’re at the top, they’re kicking back and coasting. They seem to have it all figured out.
Their memoirs make it very clear that they struggled every step of the way and they still face struggles today, in spite of their success. They struggled with the very things that we “common” folk do.
Here are some of their struggles:
~staying connected to their spouse;
~staying connected to their children;
~being respected in the work place;
~dealing with coworkers that are jerks;
~dealing with workplace politics;
~wondering how they’re going to pay the bills;
~how to make space in their lives for “me” time;
~picking up the pieces after divorce;
~figuring out how to be a single parent and not have their kids “miss out”;
~keeping up with the fast-paced business world…
Do any of these struggles sound familiar to you?
The memoirs I’m reading are:
Cowgirl Power: How to Kick Ass in Business and Life by Gay Gaddis
Inventing Joy: Dare to Build a Brave & Creative Life by Joy Mangano
I’ve Been Thinking…: Reflections, Prayers, and Meditations for a Meaningful Life by Maria Shriver
There are plenty of other memoirs available that can nurture and encourage you. In reading them, you’ll discover that the only difference between you and these successful women is that they find a way to keep taking at least one tiny baby step toward their dreams each day.
From time-to-time I’ve become overwhelmed with all I needed to do in order to move myself forward out of the mess I was in and toward something better. The road ahead looked steep and rocky, and it was a daunting sight for sure. I found myself unable to get started because I felt so crushed and defeated even before I’d begun.
But then I hit upon a technique that’s helped me over the years.
I’ve found that if I selected tasks to do that were simple, easy, and small, that I would actually do them. I’d do them precisely because they were simple easy and small.
They were simple:
~making my bed in the mornings;
~straightening the kitchen in the evenings;
~sitting quietly in the morning and listening for the Divine;
~sitting quietly in the evening and sensing the Divine….
They were easy:
~I didn’t have to think very hard
~the tasks weren’t strenuous
~I didn’t need special knowledge or special equipment to do the tasks….
They were small:
Surprising to me was that most of the simple and easy tasks took less than 15 minutes to complete!
I’ve found by focusing on simple easy and small tasks I could overcome my feelings of inertia and overwhelm. As I continued with these types of tasks, I felt better about myself and momentum grew, which I then used to tackle projects that were a little larger.
Have you tried a technique like this to help yourself move forward? Please share it with us! Thanks!
In honor of all of the mothers in our lives–our biological mother as well as people who have mentored us, encouraged us, protected us, and picked us up and brushed us off (women and men who have done this for us)–Happy Mother’s Day!
Here are six quotes from my Mom to help us celebrate the generously loving and kind people in our lives who have mothered us:
If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
How would you like it if someone did/said that to you? Then don’t do/say it to anyone else.
This too shall pass.
Not to worry, Sweet Doll.
All is well.
You’re my treasure; I love you!
What is your favorite quote from a Mom in your life? Please share it with us. Thanks!