Kindness: Putting Your Best Foot Forward

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Throw kindness around like confetti. ~Molly B. Kansas

The world is a crazy place, seemingly more so now than ever before. Not only is there strife and unrest everywhere we look, but bad behavior seems to be at an all-time high. We’re left feeling overwhelmed and helpless and, sometimes, hopeless. We think there isn’t anything we can do.

I came across today’s quote on a Dove chocolate bar wrapper: Throw kindness around like confetti. ~Molly B. Kansas

I like this quote very much because it’s easy and fun to throw confetti and it’s easy and fun to throw kindness around.

Even if you have a bully boss who trashes the office environment with their abuse, you can be kind and respectful to your coworkers. Even if you have been on the phone waiting on hold for over 45 minutes, instead of being sarcastic and cutting to the person at the call center, you can sympathize with them that some days it’s a tough to keep up at work.

You can remember that everyone has struggles and worries, even those that seem to have it made. You aren’t helping them by being grumpy, cranky, mean, uncaring, and not giving them a break. You’ve been in the same boat and you’ve appreciated a smile, a kind word, or someone giving you the benefit of the doubt. Throw that kindness around, just like handfuls of confetti!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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Bullying – Not Just for Kids

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When someone mentions the word “bullying”, we think of the schoolyard, assuming that bullying is a problem only children face. We believe that when kids grow into adulthood, they drop their childish ways: We think they’ll become more understanding and compassionate, that they’ll develop mastery over their emotions, that they’ll learn to be helpful to others, and that they’ll strive to become the best version of themselves. This is the course we’ve followed and we figure that everyone else will, too.

But they don’t.

Some adult bullies carry their bullying ways from childhood into adulthood. Others were nice as youngsters but something happened along their pathway to adulthood that turned them into bullies.

The point is that bullying is not a problem just for children. We adults can—and do—face it every day, too. We can encounter adult bullies in a variety of settings such as clubs and organizations, churches, neighborhoods, within our group of friends, and at work.

We don’t foresee this, which is why it’s so shocking when we run up against it. We expect adults to behave like, well, adults. We don’t anticipate that they’ll humiliate, belittle, or sabotage us or that we’ll see them do this to others. When we experience bullying directly or indirectly (witnessing another being bullied), we’re left bewildered, stunned, and wondering if what we just experienced/witnessed really did happen.

The effects can be devastating. We can feel isolated and alone, which leads to anxiety and depression. Our self-confidence plummets, our work suffers, and our mental and physical health can be negatively impacted. Anxiety.org has published a good article on bullying in the workplace. It contains additional information and resources regarding workplace bullying. 

The good news is there are things we can do to help ourselves if/when we find ourselves in this type of situation. We can:

~Get out.

~Develop a support system.

~Pursue professional development opportunities.

~Feel good about ourselves.

~Take care of ourselves.

~Keep work in perspective.

We will talk more about these in upcoming posts. Stay tuned and check back often!

In the meantime, here are a few statements to say to yourself this week:

I am a child of the Universe, no less than the trees and the stars.

I am valuable and my thoughts, ideas, and talents are desperately needed in the world.

I am fully loaded with all I’ll need to create a wonderful life for myself.

I am someone’s miracle.

I am perfectly positioned to make my mark in the world.

I am so grateful that this situation is setting me up to be slingshotted decades ahead in my career and my life.

I am enlivened and aglow with the Divine Spark within me.

Repeat these statements first thing in the morning, several times throughout the day, and the last thing before going to bed. Let their power and inspiration infuse your mind, body, soul, and spirit.

You can do this, Pep Pal, especially since we’ll be doing it together!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Best Wishes for 2019!

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Together, we are going to make a wonderful 2019 for ourselves because together we’re going to create soul-prospering lives.

I haven’t posted much in the last half of 2018. Even though I wasn’t posting, I was thinking of you and wishing you Peace and Goodness.

As I said, the second half of 2018 was difficult due to challenges that have forced me to reach deeper into myself. I continue to wrestle with these challenges—no, they didn’t automatically disappear at 12:00:01 AM on January 1, 2019 (darn!) (Haha!). Because of these, I have gained information and knowledge that is very helpful to me and I think it can help you, too. While it’s been good overall, holy moly it has been difficult and painful!!!

I hesitate to tell you that it’s been difficult and painful, however, it seems that’s the way growth and development goes. While we can learn techniques and have tools and information to work with during difficulties, it isn’t until obstacles, setbacks, and heartbreaks show up that we get to take our knowledge and tools out for a spin—just like we do with a car.

During the challenging times, we get to take everything we’ve learned and that we know and kick the tires on it. We see how quickly they respond in the sharp curves and steep hills, and how they perform when the conditions are icy and snowy, or in a hard steady rain when there’s flooding all around.

We’ll talk more about this in upcoming posts. I’ll share my experiences and what I’ve learned from them and I look forward to hearing about what you’ve experienced and learned.

While I’d love to get back to my schedule of daily posts, I know it’s unrealistic. For right now, I plan to post once a week on Mondays. Let’s help each other start the week off on a positive note!

With that in mind, here are positive truths for us to embrace this week. Join me in saying the following:

I am a Child of the Universe; I have a right to be here.

I am a valuable part of the world.

I am talented, gifted, and skilled, and what I offer is needed in the world.

I am kind.

I am generous.

I am positive.

I am ready for all the Magic, Miracles, and Majesty that is mine in 2019!

Happy New Year!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren