30 Days of Gratitude to Finish 2020: Day 29



As I was driving to work this morning, I was thinking about this month of 30 Days of Gratitude.  I realized that the vast majority of my gratitudes were all things that brought me joy and made me feel good in some way—peaceful, content, confident, valued…. 

Then I thought about the “bad” stuff—the obstacles, difficulties, and heartbreaks.  I don’t think many of those—if any!—made it to my gratitude list…yet. 

Okay.  I’m going to challenge myself for the rest of this week—the remainder of 2020—to think about the difficulties and heartbreaks and other “bad” stuff that happened this year.  I’ll view it from the lens of how each one of those events may have benefitted me—and then be grateful for that benefit. 

Would you like to join me?

Here goes!  These are my 3 gratitudes for today–difficulties that I’m grateful for:

  • I am grateful to have taken over the care of a beloved family member.  It’s been a very difficult journey getting everything straightened out, but I’m grateful because now I know for sure our beloved relative is getting the care, the supplies, and the services that she needs.  That all of her needs—including her financial affairs—are being handled with love and compassion;


  • I’m grateful that my family has come together to support me in taking care of our beloved family member.  They have devoted countless hours of hard work in untangling the financial mess, thinking through the home maintenance issues with me and coming up with creative cost-effective fixes, and supporting me as I’ve dealt with attorneys, accountants, and other professionals;


  • I’m very grateful for the lessons learned from this whole experience:  family really does come together in a time of trouble; there are professionals who will stand beside you and fight for what’s right for your loved one; many times my heart broke but that breaking made my heart able to be more compassionate and hold more loving kindness; I don’t have to “do it all”—others will help; I don’t have to have everything figured out and have answers for every possible permutation of a problem, I can let it unfold as it will and handle the issues as they come up; I can let go and step back and let others step forward and shine as they unleash their talents and expertise.


As much as we may want to stomp our foot and cry “Unfair!” when “bad stuff’ happens, we also have to admit that there is usually a silver lining.  Are there difficulties you experienced this year that now in looking back you have come to recognize the gift they gave you?  Feel free to share your gratitudes in the comments below.  Thank you!

Please share this post with your friends and loved ones.  Thank you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,




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