When you sit in silence, it’s common to have issues that are bothering you come up. For instance the quietness reveals you are holding unresolved grief. Unresolved grief is actually quite common so don’t think there is something wrong with you if you discover this.
Instead of moving away from grief as you may have in the past, use your sitting in silence time to sit with it. Ask yourself gentle questions such as
- Tell me about this, tell me the whole story;
- What can I do to help?
- How can I help the healing?
Sit quietly and listen tenderly, meaning absolutely no judgement. And no telling yourself how you’ll fix it! Instead, let the grief tell you how to help. Most likely at first it will want you to just sit with loving kindness and let it unburden itself to you. This may take several sessions of sitting in silence. And it may come in cycles, meaning that you may have several sessions of sitting with the unresolved grief and then a number of sessions when you don’t hear from it in a while. It’s all perfectly fine. No worries!
Please know that all types of grief are valid. You may feel silly to be grieving the loss of a favorite pen, as an example. Don’t dismiss this grief! It’s sticking with you because it has something to tell you! What it has to say can deepen and enrich your life if you take the time to listen and understand.
The key is to listen gently and tenderly as well as offering to help in an attitude of loving kindness.
It’sthrough this sitting in silence work that you discover Something Better is Up Ahead!
What are your thoughts about sitting with and listening to your unresolved grief? Share your comments below. Thank you!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,