Category Archives: Appreciation

Top Post #1: Pep Rally! Inspiring Quotes

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As we’re crafting our soul-prospering life, we all need pep rallys, pep talks, inspiring quotes, and motivational boosts. This is one of the most popular ones on my blog.

Enjoy!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

This was originally posted on 6.3.15

 

PEP RALLY! INSPIRING QUOTES

 

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If you cannot fly, drive; if you cannot drive, run; if you cannot run, walk; if you cannot walk, crawl; but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward. ~Martin Luther King, Jr.

I would add to this that if you can’t crawl, lean forward. If you can’t lean, then at least look in the direction you want to go. Keep moving forward!

 

If you want something you’ve never had, you must be willing to do something you’ve never done. ~Thomas Jefferson

Occasionally, you are going to feel uncomfortable as you work toward your dreams. There will be days when you feel anxious and even afraid. But you must not let that stop you. It’s normal to feel nervous and unsure. Accept that you’ll feel this way from time-to-time. And when you do, go slower and break the steps into small pieces and little parts. Keep breaking them down until you get to the little tidbits that are comfortable and easy to do. Then do them!

Keep on going and the chances are you will stumble on something, perhaps when you are least expecting it. I have never heard of anyone stumbling on something sitting down. ~Charles F. Kettering

You never know what’s around the corner. You never know what piece of information you’ll pick up, what skill you’ll learn, or what person you meet that’s at the next step. So, keep going! The break you need may be just around the corner!

Your homework today is to read through the quotes. Choose the one—or ones—that resonate with you. Then, first thing in the morning, stand tall in front of your mirror with your shoulders back and a big smile on your face. Look at yourself and say the quotes you like, using as much enthusiasm as you can.

Take the quotes with you and refer to them during the day; repeat them as often as you can. Remember to be enthusiastic! Use the energy they generate to help you take the next step. Break it into small specks—as small as you need. Then do them!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

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Top Post #3: Quotes About Frenemies

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This post was originally published on 11/5/16. I’m not at all surprised that it’s in the top five of the top posts on my blog.   Frenemies are a problem we all struggle with: people who are with us when the going is good and success is easy but leave us in a lurch once the going gets tough; people who are nice to our face and constantly flatter us yet stab us in the back and thwart us at every turn; people who swear they’re our friends but then when someone else comes along who they perceive is better than us (for whatever reason)….

 

When we have run-ins with these types of “friends” we feel mistreated, betrayed, and abandoned.   We must remember that our Frenemies’ dropping us or treating us badly is not a judgment on us or an assessment of our worth and value. Their behavior shows that THEY are the ones lacking in maturity and manners; THEY are the ones that are superficial and weak-willed.

 

Here are quotes to comfort you when you discover a person you had thought was your friend turns out to be a frenemy.

 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

 

QUOTES ABOUT FRENEMIES

 

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We talked about Frenemies in yesterday’s post.

Here are a few quotes to help you move them out of your life:

Cutting people out of your life doesnt mean you hate them. It simply means you respect yourself.  Not everyone is meant to stay.  ~Anonymous

 

I didnt changeI just grew up. I learned whats best for me and if that means I have to lose a couple of people to get to where I need to be, then I[m actually okay with that.  ~Anonymous

 

An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast. A wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind.  ~Anonymous

 

How to be happy: Delete toxic people from your life.  ~Anonymous

 

As you move forward in life, you may need to change your circle of friends. Everyone around you isnt interested in seeing you improve.  ~Anonymous

 

Sometimes it isnt the people who change, its the mask that falls off.~Anonymous

 

You have enemies? Good.  That means youve stood up for something in your life.  ~Winston Churchill

 

Let me know which ones helped you the most. Leave a comment.  Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

Top Posts #6: I’d Rather be a Failure by Edgar A. Guest

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This post was published earlier this year on 1/27/17 and it continues to be an excellent reminder that it’s the journey and not the destination that that matters. It’s what we learn, who we meet, the new things we see, and the interesting things that we discover. And it’s how all of this enriches us and our life and how we then share this with others.

This poem also reminds us that riches and influence can be useful tools in crafting a soul-prospering life, but they aren’t what’s truly important. It’s the comforting silence as well as the laughter shared with dear friends and loved ones; playing with your kids; making a difference in someone’s life. These achievements are the true successes in life.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

I’d Rather Be a Failure by Edgar A. Guest

 

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I came across this poem and I thought you might like it, too.

I’d Rather Be a Failure by Edgar A. Guest

I’d rather be a failure than the man who’s never tried;
I’d rather seek the mountain-top than always stand aside.
Oh, let me hold some lofty dream and make my desperate fight,
And though I fail I still shall know I tried to serve the right.

The idlers line the ways of life and they are quick to sneer;
They note the failing strength of man and greet it with a jeer;
But there is something deep inside which scoffers fail to view—
They never see the glorious deed the failure tried to do.

Some men there are who never leave the city’s well-worn streets;
They never know the dangers grim the bold adventurer meets;
They never seek a better way nor serve a nobler plan;
They never risk with failure to advance the cause of man.

Oh, better ’tis to fail and fall in sorrow and despair,
Than stand where all is safe and sure and never face a care;
Yes, stamp me with the failure’s brand and let men sneer at me,
For though I’ve failed, the Lord shall know the man I tried to be.

 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

Top Post #7: Sitting in Silence with Mr. Rogers

 

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Mr. Rogers, in his unassuming and unaffected way, was a very powerful man. His kind, gentle, profound wisdom is as relevant and desperately needed.

We tell ourselves that we don’t have the time to sit in silence, but really it’s the other way around: we don’t have time NOT to sit in silence. Take time today to sit in silence, even if for just five minutes. Promise yourself that you’ll do it every day, then follow through!

You can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

This was first published on 10/5/16. Click here to be taken to it.

SITTING IN SILENCE WITH MR. ROGERS

Oh my, this is a noisy world…. Real revelation comes through silence. ~Mr. Rogers

 

Mr. Rogers was a soft-spoken, kind and gentle, reflective person. In an interview he had with Charlie Rose, Mr. Rogers talked about making time for thought, reflection, and contemplation. He even commented that with the written word, there needed to be white space on the page so that the reader has time to think about and digest what she/he just read.

Join me in following Mr. Rogers’ advice today and sit quietly, even if for only a few moments. It’ll help you press the reset button on your day and your week and help you set yourself up for a good finish to the week.

But…
Is your mind racing, though, and you can’t figure out what to contemplate? Here are a few quotes from Mr. Rogers that can help:

There’s a special place for you. You have a place that no one else has; there is only one like you. ~Mr. Rogers

Would you be mine, could you be mine, won’t you be my neighbor? Won’t you please, won’t you please…please, won’t you be my neighbor?~Mr. Rogers

You always make each day such a special day. You know how–by just your being you! ~Mr. Rogers

I like you, right now, just the way you are! ~Mr. Rogers

I, too, like you just the way you are!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

Top Posts #8: Taking Action: What to Do When You’re Paralyzed with Fear

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Just like you, I’ve been paralyzed with fear–unable to move forward, unable to move backward or to the side; plain old unable to move. Period.

I knew I had to move forward, though. To stay stuck would have meant death, not physical death, but the price of giving in to fear and terror is that a little piece of your essence must die. And the price of staying stuck in fear and terror is that little pieces of your essence, your spirit, are continually, imperceptibly, chipped away from you. At first, you don’t really notice. But then one day you awake to find that you are so incredibly far off the mark of who you thought you’d be. And you wonder if it’s too late to become who you know you could have been….

That is the true horror.

Better to face the terror and fear, better to figure out a way to do something about it, than to let it slowly kill you.

At the end of this post, I’ll share with you four additional tips of how to take the next step when you are terrified.

This was originally posted on 9/17/15.

TAKING ACTION: WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU’RE PARALYZED WITH FEAR

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When you’re in a state of anxiety, worry, fear, panic, or terror, it’s difficult to think straight and it’s even more difficult to take any action. Our natural tendency is to want to hide or to run in the opposite direction.

But hiding or running “for the hills” will not help. It may feel good for a little while but the issue is still there, lurking, waiting to pounce the moment you peep out of where you ducked for cover.

Yesterday we talked about Life’s Ambushes and how they can terrorize us. We learned that the best thing to do in that case is to take action. (click here to be taken to that post).

But if you’re scared stiff, how the heck are you supposed to move, much less take action?!

By breaking the actions into steps and breaking those into small parts and little pieces. Then break those into tidbits; break those into jots…. Keep breaking things down into smaller and smaller increments until you get to the tiny specks that you are confident that you can do–even if those specks are as small as atoms or even electrons! Then do them–cross them off your To Do list one by one.

 

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You might be thinking: Easy for you to say but what does that look like, exactly?

Okay, let’s say you need a new job. You easily and quickly wrote up an excellent resume, you emailed and called all your contacts, and you looked online at different job postings. The last pro-active thing on your list is to call an employment agency to speak with a recruiter. But let’s say that you had a very bad experience previously so now just the thought of calling the agency creates such distress in you that you are literally trembling.

Break down the task of making the phone call into itsy-bitsy fragments of steps.

For instance, one day you put it on your To Do list to just think in general about phones. Perhaps you find it interesting that they were invented in the late 1800’s. You may find it fascinating thinking about the amazing changes telephone technology has gone through in the 139 years of its existence.

That’s all you have to do for the day. You can cross it off your To Do list! Make sure you congratulate yourself–pat yourself on the back for a job well done! Then reward yourself: listen to your favorite music for a half hour, read for 15 minutes, watch an episode of your favorite TV program, spend a half hour with your favorite hobby.

The next day you write down that you want to think of the phones you’ve had over the years: the clunky wired ones of your childhood all the way to the sleek wrist models that recently came to market.
Once you do this, then you’re done for the day. You don’t have to think about phones or phone calls to the recruiter at all! Again, cross it off your list and then celebrate your victory!

The following day, think about your current phone, it’s color and style. Remember the feel of it–its shape and its weight in your hand. Maybe, at this point, you can push yourself a little bit and think about the last conversation you had using it, or when you talked to your friend or loved one on the phone.

When that’s done, you can cross it off the list and celebrate. You did it!

Over the next few days you take the next few bits of steps: You’ll look at the phone; another day you’ll touch the phone; after that you’ll pick up the phone and listen to the dial tone. After each task finished, you’ll cross it off your list and celebrate.

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Notice that each day you have something to cross off your To Do list–this is evidence that you are making progress which builds confidence and momentum. Notice, too, that you celebrate each day what you did that day. This shows your mind that facing your fear and taking small bits of action results in making progress and that there’s a reward for dealing with scary stuff and that reward feels good and makes you happy.

This conditions you to focus on successful outcomes!

Gradually you’ll progress to dialing the agency’s phone number and actually speaking to a recruiter.

While this example may seem silly and extreme, the principles apply to how to break down your action steps into teensy-tiny specks.
Sometimes, in order to conquer fear so you can move forward, the actions you take must be itsy-bitsy. If this is how small you have to break them down in order to move forward, it does not make you a weakling or incompetent, incapable, or silly.

Quite the contrary.

It makes you very, very brave because instead of shaking uncontrollably and staying frozen to the spot with fear, you are finding a way to move forward–in spite of your shaking and in spite of the terror.

 

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That makes you brave.
That makes you courageous.
That makes you a hero!

Your homework is to take the next step. With your head held high, break that step into smaller and smaller pieces until you get to the tiny dots that you know you can easily accomplish. Then do them!

Then look in the mirror and see what a true hero looks like!

You can do it!

I’m so very proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

UPDATE:

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Tip 1:
When you’re going through this process of moving inspite of your paralyzing fear, it helps to have someone to talk to. This person can be a loved one, trusted friend, or trained professional. I urge you to reach out to others because it helps you see the truth that you are not alone in feeling terrified.

Tip 2:
Also, devise a playlist for yourself. Youtube has a wide variety of uplifting music–ranging from sacred songs to pop music and everything in between–as well as motivational and inspirational messages. Check out Librivox, too (librivox.org). It’s a great resource for audios of books that are in the public domain.

Tip 3:
Make sure you get your rest! Research is showing that 7 – 9 hours of sleep is required for optimal performance. When you’re tired, your emotions are ragged and you’re more apt to react poorly to little annoyances that normally would have rolled right off you. Also, when you’re fatigued, you don’t do your best thinking and you can forget about being creative or inventive–skills that are needed when you’re working your way through problems.

Tip 4:
Make sure you eat nutritious food! Do NOT reach for the bag of chips, gallon of ice cream, package of cookies, and the soda–or alcohol–to wash it all down. And, step away from the fast food! J Add fresh fruits and vegetables to your diet, as well as other nutritious foods. Your body needs good fuel to do its best thinking and its best work. It’s your responsibility to give good stuff to your body!

Take the next itty bitty tiny step toward your soul-prospering life. You can do it, I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

Top Post #11: Year End Reflections to Make You Think

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This post was originally published almost a year ago on 12/17/16. The thoughts are as relevant today as they were a year ago. And, these ideas will still be powerful in the years to come.

Enjoy the post!

 

YEAR END REFLECTIONS QUOTES TO MAKE YOU THINK

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Here are a few quotes that’ll make you change your thinking–just a little bit.  And that little bit might be enough to let in the idea that’ll make the difference for you.

There is only one way to avoid criticism:  do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.  ~Aristotle

What this is telling us is that no matter what we do or don’t do, there’s always someone who will find fault with it, tell us they’ve already done it, that someone else is doing it better…etc..  So don’t worry about others.  Keep your mind and actions focused on what your heart and soul are guiding you to do.

UPDATE:

Aristotle is still right:   no matter what you do or don’t do, someone will criticize you and gripe about it. You may as well live your passions, pursue your dreams, and craft your soul-prospering life!

 

Certain things catch your eye, but pursue only those that capture your heart.  ~Ancient Indian Proverb

There’s all sorts of flashy, sparkly things that capture our attention.  Oftentimes we think we ought to go after these because everyone else is.  But our eyes can sometimes mislead us so it’s important to take what our eyes see and run it through the wisdom of our heart and soul.  If it captures them, then we can proceed.  If not, then we should let it go and continue looking for that which thrills our heart and soul!

UPDATE:

Our world is noisy and brash; there’s always something flashy to capture your attention. The things that matter, though, are the ones that capture your heart and soul. THOSE are the things to pursue because they are resonating with the Still Small Voice within. Go for it!

 

Let me know what you think of these–if they’ve resonated with you.  Leave your thoughts in the comments section below.  Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

UPDATE:

Keep these thoughts–or other thoughts that are favorites of yours–within reach. Refer to them often and let their wisdom and their power infuse you and give you the energy to take the next step. 

You can do it! I believe in you! 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Top Post #13: Love the One You’re With

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A healthy self-love is vitally important to crafting the soul-prospering life of which you dream.

A healthy self-love gives you the confidence to go after your soul-prospering life.

It helps you work through the rough patches, especially when those rough patches seem to go on without an end in sight. Also, the healthier love and respect you have for yourself, the more love and respect you have for others–the more you can reach out, inspire, and help others.

The post below was originally published on Valentine’s Day 2017.

Let me know what you think of it. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

 

 

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY: LOVE THE ONE YOU’RE WITH

 

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Back in the ’70s there was a popular song that was sung by Steven Stills of Crosby Stills & Nash called Love the One Youre With. 

 

People come and go in your life and you don’t always have control over that.  But you always have you.  You’re the one who will be there all the time, no matter what.

 

 I heartily encourage you to love the one youre with, the one youre with every day, all day and all night.  Thats YOU!

 

If you don’t already, learn to appreciate yourself.   Instead of focusing on the things that you perceive as not right about yourself, focus on the things you like and appreciate about yourself.  I’m sure you can come up with a list—which is what I encourage you to make for yourself.

Here are a few suggestions to jump-start you—remember that nothing is too small or too insignificant to include:

You make your bed every morning

You have a nice smile

Your laugh is infectious

You have a good sense of humor

You give good hugs

You’re good at math

You’re good at grammar

You’re a good speller

Your hair is thick and lustrous

Your hair is smooth and satiny

You like to sing

You see the beauty around you

You’re a good cook

You’re creative

You’re inventive

You’re resourceful

 

Keep going with your list!  Keep it handy and refer to it OFTEN!

Keep reminding yourself why you are soooo lucky to be you!

 

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren