Category Archives: Appreciation

Happy Valentine’s Day!

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When you celebrate Valentine’s Day with your loved ones and friends, don’t forget to celebrate yourself!

 

Happy Valentine’s Day!

 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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Remember These 7 Truths About Yourself

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When we’re in a difficult situation, such as being targeted by the bully in the workplace, oftentimes we have trouble remembering—and believing—the Truth about ourselves. Being in these circumstances can cause us to doubt our capabilities and our competencies to perform even the simplest, most basic of tasks. Our minds can become scattered and our ability to focus can be hampered. We can’t and we don’t think straight about ourselves.

Worst of all, we might question our worth as an individual. In extreme circumstances, we may even question our existence—whether or not we should even be on Earth.

First of all, if you are thinking these kinds of thoughts, GET HELP. Reach out to trained counselors and therapists, speak with your minister or spiritual leader, and/or talk to your doctor. There are also support groups, prayer circles, helplines, and other resources available to assist you. REACH OUT TO THEM.

Let me also point out that the thoughts you may have of questioning your worth and whether or not you should even exist is—if for no other reason—the bottom-line justification to GET OUT of ALL abusive situations.

If you find, though, that you can’t immediately leave until other pieces come together, such as finding a new job, then repeat the following Truth statements about you to yourself. Constantly repeat these in your mind. Constantly. I’m not kidding and it isn’t a dramatic overstatement when I implore you to keep repeating these statements non-stop to yourself.

The following statements have a spiritual bent to them but please don’t let that put you off. I find it to be very helpful to think that there is a Benevolent Being “out there” who has Goodness in mind for me.

Here are the Truths—feel free to tweak them so they are more meaningful to you:

 

I am a child of the Universe, no less than the trees and the stars….I have a right to be here. Inspired by The Desiderata by Max Ehrmann

 

God has anointed me. I am consecrated and I am holy. Inspired by Joel Osteen’s messages

 

I have good things, good people, good experiences in my life and they make me happy, in spite of what others—bullies—are trying to do to me. Inspired by the 23rd Psalm

 

God put deep loving thought into creating me and, when finished with me, God declared that I am Good. Inspired by Joel Osteen’s messages

 

I am sheltered. I am protected. Inspired by the 91st Psalm

 

God does not make junk, therefore, I am not junk. Inspired by spiritual books and materials I have studied.

 

God has a Purpose and a Reason for each and every creation, including me! Inspired by spiritual books and materials I have studied.

 

Remember these Truths about yourself. Keep repeating them in your mind. Non-stop. Let their wisdom seep into every cell and fiber of your being. Feel their strength and comfort.

I am with you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Start the Week Off Right: 7 Quotes

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These seven quotes are short and to the point. That means they’re easy to remember and easy to repeat to yourself often, especially when things aren’t going as planned.

 

Dear Stress, let’s break up. ~Anonymous

Take action. Any action taken—even the “wrong” action—is better than not taking even the tiniest of actions. ~Anonymous

Actually, I can. ~Anonymous

Do not compare yourself to others. ~Anonymous

Smile and be glad because this too shall pass! ~Anonymous

Loving kindness is the most powerful force in the Universe. ~Anonymous

When in doubt, go to the library. ~Anonymous

 

Have a wonderfully soul-prospering week!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Workplace Bullying: Take Care of Yourself – Hidden Gems

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One way to take care of ourselves if we’re a victim of workplace bullying is to remember and know deep within ourselves that we are much, much more than the small piece of ourselves that the bully is targeting. This poem reminds us about the Hidden Gems within each of us.

 

HIDDEN GEMS

By Ella Wheeler Wilcox

We know not what lies in us, till we seek;
Men dive for pearls—they are not found on shore,
The hillsides most unpromising and bleak
Do sometimes hide the ore.

Go, dive in the vast ocean of thy mind,
O man! far down below the noisy waves,
Down in the depths and silence thou mayst find
Rare pearls and coral caves.

Sink thou a shaft into the mine of thought;
Be patient, like the seekers after gold;
Under the rocks and rubbish lieth what
May bring thee wealth untold.

Reflected from the vastly Infinite,
However dulled by earth, each human mind
Holds somewhere gems of beauty and of light
Which, seeking, thou shalt find.

 

I hope this helps you. Next week we’ll talk more about how to take care of ourselves while we are in a bullying situation and as we are searching for a new position.

We will get through this together. As beloved family members frequently counsel me, “This, too, shall pass.”

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Thank you to Those Who Inspire Us

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Yesterday would have been the 92nd birthday of a person who has touched my life profoundly. Even though he is no longer with us, his wisdom and the way he lived his life is still teaching me today.

I am grateful that he lived and that I was privileged to know him. I am thankful for the guidance and inspiration I continue to draw from him.

Today, please join me in celebrating the people who are an inspiration to us, whether they are still here or have passed on. It isn’t about whether or not they were perfect but how they and their lives provide loving guidance to us.

Thank you and Happy Birthday!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Bullying – Not Just for Kids

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When someone mentions the word “bullying”, we think of the schoolyard, assuming that bullying is a problem only children face. We believe that when kids grow into adulthood, they drop their childish ways: We think they’ll become more understanding and compassionate, that they’ll develop mastery over their emotions, that they’ll learn to be helpful to others, and that they’ll strive to become the best version of themselves. This is the course we’ve followed and we figure that everyone else will, too.

But they don’t.

Some adult bullies carry their bullying ways from childhood into adulthood. Others were nice as youngsters but something happened along their pathway to adulthood that turned them into bullies.

The point is that bullying is not a problem just for children. We adults can—and do—face it every day, too. We can encounter adult bullies in a variety of settings such as clubs and organizations, churches, neighborhoods, within our group of friends, and at work.

We don’t foresee this, which is why it’s so shocking when we run up against it. We expect adults to behave like, well, adults. We don’t anticipate that they’ll humiliate, belittle, or sabotage us or that we’ll see them do this to others. When we experience bullying directly or indirectly (witnessing another being bullied), we’re left bewildered, stunned, and wondering if what we just experienced/witnessed really did happen.

The effects can be devastating. We can feel isolated and alone, which leads to anxiety and depression. Our self-confidence plummets, our work suffers, and our mental and physical health can be negatively impacted. Anxiety.org has published a good article on bullying in the workplace. It contains additional information and resources regarding workplace bullying. 

The good news is there are things we can do to help ourselves if/when we find ourselves in this type of situation. We can:

~Get out.

~Develop a support system.

~Pursue professional development opportunities.

~Feel good about ourselves.

~Take care of ourselves.

~Keep work in perspective.

We will talk more about these in upcoming posts. Stay tuned and check back often!

In the meantime, here are a few statements to say to yourself this week:

I am a child of the Universe, no less than the trees and the stars.

I am valuable and my thoughts, ideas, and talents are desperately needed in the world.

I am fully loaded with all I’ll need to create a wonderful life for myself.

I am someone’s miracle.

I am perfectly positioned to make my mark in the world.

I am so grateful that this situation is setting me up to be slingshotted decades ahead in my career and my life.

I am enlivened and aglow with the Divine Spark within me.

Repeat these statements first thing in the morning, several times throughout the day, and the last thing before going to bed. Let their power and inspiration infuse your mind, body, soul, and spirit.

You can do this, Pep Pal, especially since we’ll be doing it together!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren