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It Isn’t Too Late!

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March. We’re entering the third month of the year.

By now you may be thinking that the resolutions you made and goals you set back in the early days of January are hopelessly lost. You haven’t thought of them in weeks or, if you have, you’ve thought of them with a heaping serving—or two—of guilt at how quickly you abandoned them.

It isn’t too late! You can press the reset button and start where you are.

Take a moment to review your resolutions and goals—especially in light of how the year is shaping up so far. Take your time with this. Sit quietly with it. Listen to your heart and soul. You will most likely find that you’ll need to put some goals and resolutions to the side; right now they aren’t as important to accomplish or you aren’t in a position to work on them.

Out of the goals and resolutions that are still important to you and you think you have a shot at accomplishing—or that you can make progress on them—listen closely because one will stand out to you. Make that one your top priority this month and focus on it. Don’t be surprised if it’s one that your logical mind tells you is really dopey and unimportant. Your heart and spirit know best so follow their counsel.

For instance, a friend of mine recently did this and the word “rest” kept popping up. She discounted it at first because there were other more important goals such as finding balance in her life between building up her business yet still spending time with family and friends. She decided to listen and follow her heart and soul and put more rest periods into each day.

She was surprised to find that these rest periods gave her clarity to identify customers that were unprofitable, which she gently dropped. This gave her a new burst of energy and creativity for her business. Also, during her daily rest periods she discovered that stepping back from activities she no longer enjoyed would give her the extra time she wanted to spend with her family and friends.

Of course my friend had to recommit daily to her rest periods because other things tugged at her. Yes, she felt guilty at taking the rest periods instead of working on “more important” goals. But she stuck with the rest periods and it paid off for her.

The same will happen for you. When you sit quietly with your resolutions and goals and listen with your heart and soul, you will find one that stands out. Make this your top priority in March and stick with it. As with my friend, you may find that you feel guilty or others pooh-pooh your choice, but it’s your life. You know what’s best for yourself so you get to make the choice and you get to stick to it!

It isn’t too late! Choose one goal and make it your top priority this month to work on it a little bit each day.

You can do it, I know you can!

Your friend and pep pal,

Lauren

Blessed by You

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I wish that today and all days, everyone you meet is blessed by you. Just by your twinkling eyes, your bright smile, your gentle touch, and by your sparkling presence. Thank you for letting these gifts overflow to bless those all around you!  ~paraphrased from Brother David Steindl-Rast’s writings

 

You ARE a blessing! Never EVER forget that!!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

You’re Fine Just the Way You Are

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I’m a week late in honoring Mr. Roger’s birthday—he would have been 91 on the 20th of March. He is best known for his gentle ways and his homespun wisdom. Sometimes now, and especially when he was alive, he is/was ridiculed for this. My thought is that some people make fun of his loving goodwill not because they think it’s stupid but rather because they’re desperate for that gracious acceptance and are terrified that it’s a sham, like so much else in this world.

I assure you that loving kindness is alive and well in this world. There are many people who are welcoming, friendly, and reaching out a hand to others. They are right in your community. In fact, you may be sitting next to them in school or at work. Like Mr. Rogers, they, too, like you just the way you are. You can be yourself, and that’s enough!

I like you just the way you are!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren (and Mr. Rogers!)

Just for Today….

 

Just for today, what if there is nothing wrong with you?

I challenge you this week, as I’m challenging myself, to live each day into the possibility that there is nothing wrong with you.

You are just right, exactly as you are.

What will you do that you haven’t allowed yourself to do because you thought there was something wrong with you? Now that you are just right exactly as you are, you can pursue that thing!

Good luck!

Have FUN!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

An Irish Blessing to Honor St. Patrick’s Day

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To honor St. Patrick’s Day, here is a blessing for luck, peace, and happiness (this blessing was originally posted on March 17, 2016):

May love and laughter light your days,

and warm your heart and home.

May good and faithful friends be yours,

wherever you may roam.

May peace and plenty bless your world

with joy that long endures.

May all life’s passing seasons

bring the best to you and yours!

 

May the luck and the blessings of the Irish be with you this whole week through.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

12 True Statements About You

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For this week’s mid-week boost, let’s remind ourselves of some of the many Truths about ourselves. Repeat these often to yourself:

I unconditionally, unshakably, totally, and completely love myself

I accept myself

I honor myself

I approve of myself

I respect myself

I protect myself

I take care of myself

I forgive myself

I appreciate myself

I am pleased with myself

I am a good person

I am happy to be me

 

You ROCK!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

9 Quotes to Celebrate Earl Nightingale’s Birthday

 

Earl Nightingale was one of the first motivational speakers that I listened to regularly. I took a number of his recordings out of the library and listened to him repeatedly. I found his messages—and his gravely voice—to be very comforting. He instilled in me a sense of hope, which was something I really needed at that time. Because of this, he has a special place in my life.

To honor him, here are 9 quotes to enjoy:

~Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use.

~You’ll find boredom where there is the absence of a good idea.

~ A great attitude does much more than turn on the lights in our worlds; it seems to magically connect us to all sorts of serendipitous opportunities that were somehow absent before the change.

 ~Work never killed anyone. It’s worry that does the damage. And the worry would disappear if we’d just settle down and do the work.

~The more intensely we feel about an idea or a goal, the more assuredly the idea, buried deep in our subconscious, will direct us along the path to its fulfillment.

~We can let circumstances rule us, or we can take charge and rule our lives from within.

~We all walk in the dark and each of us must learn to turn on his or her own light.

~Don’t concern yourself with the money. Be of service … build … work … dream … create! Do this and you’ll find there is no limit to the prosperity and abundance that will come to you.

~You are, at this moment, standing right in the middle of your own acres of diamonds.

I hope these quotes can help you as they have helped me over the years.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Counteract the Effects of Being Bullied Through Increasing Endorphins

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As we head into the new week, some of us may be worried about how to prepare ourselves for the bully in our workplaces. No matter how much we arrange our schedules to limit our contact with them, sometimes they seem like guided missiles locked onto us intent upon maximum damage and destruction. That statement may seem overly dramatic but when in day-to-day proximity of a bully, their tactics can feel like they’re aiming for total annihilation.

Naturally we should stand up for ourselves as best as we can, but don’t bother trying to change their mind about us and we shouldn’t think that we can show/prove that we’re capable, competent, and worthy of their respect. Their minds are closed and locked against us, so let’s not waste our time.

Instead, let’s concentrate on filling ourselves with endorphins. Our positive thoughts about ourselves and about our happiness, contentedness, and fulfillment from other aspects of our lives are our most potent weapons to counteract a bully’s attack.

Here are some ways to flood ourselves with endorphins in the midst of the workplace:

~in our mind, repeating positive statements about ourselves: I am capable; I am competent; I am doing good work, I am helpful to others; I am cheerful,; I am creative…

~pictures of our loved ones: recreate the happy feelings we had when the picture was taken…

~quietly listening to uplifting music…

~quietly listening to inspiring messages…

~connecting with nature: taking a short walk during the lunch hour, closely observing a small bouquet of flowers we give ourselves to have on our desk, gazing out the window for a few moments and watching the weather, the clouds, the trees swaying in the breeze, birds and wildlife moving around…

~reading poems or essays that create feelings of hope within us…

~reading a short passage from sacred writings…

These techniques are a few ways to remind ourselves that we are much more that our work. We have way more potential and opportunity that just what’s available through work. This can keep us hopeful and looking forward to the Goodness that’s awaiting us in the future!

The more we do these and other techniques to strengthen ourselves within, the less affected we’ll be by the bully’s attacks.

We can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

A Mid-Week Pep Rally!

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I don’t know about you, but oftentimes I need a little boost mid-way through the week. Here are eight pep statements that I’ve used over the years:

This setback is actually a set-up for something fantastic for me

As I keep taking steps, magic and miracles are being released to help me

I have what it takes

I’m smart, I’m strong, I’m creative, I’m tough, I’m inventive, I’m resilient

My breakthrough is just around the corner

I can do this and I AM doing this

All is well

This too shall pass

 

Feel free to tweak any of the pep statements so that they’ll resonate more powerfully for you.

I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Kindness Matters

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We’re half way through the work week and it may have been a brutal one so far. Or up to now, the work week might be mind-numbingly, soul-crushingly boring! Whatever the case, we may need something to lift our spirits so we can power through the rest of the week. Here are two short articles that prove kindess matters. Even the smallest gestures that we don’t even think twice about can make all the difference to someone else.

You may have seen this article on the Internet about the man in his 80’s who bought a VCR on eBay, which enabled him to take a stroll down memory lane. His thank you note to the seller went viral. Click here to view it.

This article from the Internet gathers some of the responses when a Twitter user issued a call for stories of strangers’ random acts of kindness that had a big impact on them. Click here to view it.

I hope these lifted your spirits. These give us hope because they show that most people have generous hearts and that they want to be helpful and do good.

Yay for people reaching out a helping hand!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren