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What Do I Want? Quiet Contemplation to Hear What Your Soul is Saying

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If your soul had a voice, what would it say? ~Iyanla Vanzant

 

This is one of the quotes from yesterday. I’m repeating it today because this one struck a chord with me. Thinking about what I want in terms of how my soul would answer that question helps me tune out the suggestions that well-meaning friends, family, and others have given me over the years.

I know the people who care about me want Life’s finest for me and they are trying their very best to help me get it. But their idea of what Life’s finest is and my idea aren’t always the same, especially when it comes to living a soul-prospering life.

The best way to hear your soul–the best way to quiet the loop of what your friends and family have told you that’s continually chattering in your mind–is in quiet contemplation. This rumination doesn’t have to be done in a prayerful or meditative state and it doesn’t have to be done in any particular pose or any certain place or time. You can be engaged in an activity you enjoy–gardening, woodworking, cooking, tinkering in your workshop. Lightly listen as you’re enjoying yourself; notice your feelings and gently figure out exactly what activity–and what particular part of the activity–is giving you pleasure and bringing you joy.

This is your soul speaking!

Find a way to bring this–what your soul is telling you–into your dealings every day and you’ll be firmly on your path to crafting a soul-prospering life for yourself!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

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What Do I Want: 9 Inspiring Quotes to Think About This Week

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Last week we talked about the first of five things that people who are living a soul-prospering life know about themselves.

This week we’ll talk about the second thing they know about themselves: they know what they want. The following are a few quotes to ponder this week:

If your soul had a voice, what would it say? ~Iyanla Vanzant

It’s a helluva start, being able to recognize what makes you happy.   – Lucille Ball

If you want to be at peace, you have to be clear about your intention and, moment by moment, in alignment with your intention. ~Iyanla Vanzant

Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner ~Lao Tzu

You are responsible for what you sand and do. You are NOT responsible for whether or not people freak out about it. ~Jen Sincero

People who repeatedly attach your confidence and self-esteem are quite aware of your potential, even if you are not. ~Wayne Gerard Trotman

We only become what we are by the radical and deep-seated refusal of that which others have made of us.   ~Jean-Paul Sartre

Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes. – Carl Jung

Like an old gold-panning prospector, you must resign yourself to digging up a lot of sand from which you will later patiently wash out a few minute particles of gold ore. – Dorothy Bryant

 

 

Which quote was your favorite? Thanks for sharing in the comments below!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Who Am I? It’s a Great Day to Be…!

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I subscribe to a marketing newsletter and the fellow who writes it often starts it with “It’s a great day to be you!” When the newsletter arrives once a week, I usually read it first thing in the morning when I start my work day. Thinking the thought “It’s a great day to be me!” gives me a boost that lasts throughout the day. If it’s a particularly tough day, the thought buoys me when I may have otherwise stumbled.

Recently a friend and I met for coffee. She’s having a tough time of it and is starting to lose hope and become demoralized. I remembered the statement from the newsletter so I told her about it and suggested she repeat the statement when she first opens her eyes in the morning and then repeats it throughout her day. She thought it was too simple and dumb, and said that it smacked too much of “new-agey woo-woo stuff”, but she agreed with me that she had nothing to lose.

She’s been doing it for only a short while and, no, it hasn’t solved all of her problems. Yet. And no, she isn’t like the Disney version of Snow White with bluebirds gaily chirping on her shoulder and cute, fluffy woodland creatures frolicking at her feet as she whistles while she works, but she says it has been helping.

Maybe she’s shifting her vibration and the Universe is responding but it could also be that saying “It’s a great day to be me!” is turning her attention to the good stuff that’s in her life–in spite of the challenges.

We talked about other statements to say, and here’s a few we really liked:

It’s a great day to be me!

I’m lucky to be me!

All sorts of good stuff is coming my way and happening to me today!

Feel free to use these statements yourself–or tweak them so that they are powerful for you.

You may be wondering, “How does this fit into our topic this week of who am I?” I’m glad you asked! These positive statements are showing you who you actually are: you’re a person who can help yourself when you run into a rough patch–you don’t have to rely on others and stay stuck while waiting for help; you can help yourself! When you realize this about yourself it makes you feel a little more capable a little more confident. This then bolsters your feelings of self-reliance and self-efficacy and this raises your confidence and gives you a strong foundation for an unshakable belief in yourself and a genuinely positive attitude.

I’ve followed my own advice and am saying these statements to myself. Join me and my friend in this habit of waking up and saying: “It’s a great day to be me!” and “I’m so lucky to be me!” and “Good stuff is coming to me and happening to me today!”

Let me know the wonderful changes that you notice!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

Who Am I? Use Your Life!

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Here’s another poem by Edgar A. Guest to remind us about our lives. Yes, it’s important to know who we are and to stay true to who we are, but it’s also very important to LIVE life–not to be put on a shelf and wait until everything’s perfect.

Get out there and live your life!

LIFE

  Life is a gift to be used every day,
  Not to be smothered and hidden away;
  It isn’t a thing to be stored in the chest
  Where you gather your keepsakes and treasure your best;
  It isn’t a joy to be sipped now and then
  And promptly put back in a dark place again. 

Life is a gift that the humblest may boast of
  And one that the humblest may well make the most of.
  Get out and live it each hour of the day,
  Wear it and use it as much as you may;
  Don’t keep it in niches and corners and grooves,
  You’ll find that in service its beauty improves.

~Edgar Guest

 

WooHoo!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Who Am I? The 4 Letter Word that Stops Us

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Usually, it isn’t the big challenges or the or the heartbreaking setbacks that stop us in our tracks. Oftentimes it’s the small simple things that stop us. There’s a 4-letter that stops us even before we realize what’s happened. It’s the word ‘can’t’.

Tell me what you think of the following poem about the damage the word ‘can’t’ does in our lives.   The poem also gives us the antidote to the word ‘can’t’.

CAN’T

  Can’t is the worst word that’s written or spoken;
    Doing more harm here than slander and lies;
 On it is many a strong spirit broken,
    And with it many a good purpose dies.
 It springs from the lips of the thoughtless each morning
    And robs us of courage we need through the day:
It rings in our ears like a timely-sent warning
    And laughs when we falter and fall by the way.

 Can’t is the father of feeble endeavor,
    The parent of terror and half-hearted work;
  It weakens the efforts of artisans clever,
    And makes of the toiler an indolent shirk.
  It poisons the soul of the man with a vision,
    It stifles in infancy many a plan;
  It greets honest toiling with open derision
    And mocks at the hopes and the dreams of a man.

Can’t is a word none should speak without blushing;
    To utter it should be a symbol of shame;
  Ambition and courage it daily is crushing;
    It blights a man’s purpose and shortens his aim.
  Despise it with all of your hatred of error;
    Refuse it the lodgment it seeks in your brain;
  Arm against it as a creature of terror,
    And all that you dream of you some day shall gain.

Can’t is the word that is foe to ambition,
    An enemy ambushed to shatter your will;
  Its prey is forever the man with a mission
    And bows but to courage and patience and skill.
  Hate it, with hatred that’s deep and undying,
    For once it is welcomed ’twill break any man;
  Whatever the goal you are seeking, keep trying
    And answer this demon by saying: “I can.”

~Edgar A. Guest

 

Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Who Am I? Go with the Flow!

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We’re healthiest when we view our sense of self as an ongoing journey–something that unfolds as we step out of our comfort zones and have new experiences. Who we see ourselves as isn’t cast in concrete, never to change. Of course there may be attributes or characteristics that we choose to keep the same, such as deciding that we’ll always have blond or auburn hair, but most other things about ourselves will change to a degree.

This is a good thing!

This is what enriches our lives and it also gives us the flexibility to successfully weather the challenges that Life throws our way.

Add this thought–keeping our senses of self fluid–into the mix as you’re thinking this week about who you are.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Crafting a Soul-Prospering Life: 5 Things Soul-Prospered People Know About Themselves

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Here are a few things people who are crafting soul-prospering lives for themselves know about themselves:

~Who they are–they have a clear sense of self;

~What they do–they know what they are good at and, therefore, how they can be effective in helping others with that same thing;

~Who they do it for–who they serve;

~What the people they serve want or need– what problem or issue they’re helping solve in partnership with the people they serve;

~What the people they serve are getting out of it–how the lives of the people they’re serving are transformed as a result of what the person is giving them.

 

People who are living soul-prospering lives can also be described as people who are living their purpose, achieving their mission here on earth, pursuing their destiny.

How about you? How do you describe yourself and your purpose/mission/destiny?

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren