One of the most important things we can keep in mind as we build our soul-prospering lives is that we can always begin again. We can always press the reset button, start fresh, begin anew. It’s never too late, we’re not too old, and it isn’t true that too much time has passed. We can and we should start again whenever we need to.
It is not enough to begin; continuance is necessary. Success depends upon staying power. The reason for failure in most cases is lack of perseverance. ~ Miller
Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time. ~ Thomas A. Edison
Most people never run far enough on their first wind to find out they’ve got a second. ~ William James
All of us have bad luck and good luck. The man who persists through the bad luck – who keeps right on going – is the man who is there when the good luck comes – and is ready to receive it.~ Robert Collier
Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. – Thomas Edison
If you are going through hell, keep going. ~ Winston Churchill
Your homework today is to earmark time in your upcoming week where you can take the next step.
We’re all busy and our time is over-committed. With that in mind, make sure you break the steps into teensy-tiny, itsy-bitsy pieces that are so small that they can easily fit into the little smidgens of free time in your schedule. Then do those bits and smidgens!
We’ve all been afraid, especially when we’re going after our dreams. Fear seeps into our thoughts not only when we’re outside our comfort zone but even when we’re just thinking about maybe stepping a tiny bit outside, perhaps….
Have you ever suffered a frenemy attack? Perhaps a colleague at work–someone you’d worked well with previously–throws you under the bus; now it’s you the boss is unfairly zeroing in on. Maybe, in confidence, you told a friend something very personal only to find when the whole group gets together that everyone knows….
After you recover from the shock and embarrassment, what do you say to yourself?
I’m sure you have thoughts of anger and you may even think about revenge how you’ll avenge yourself.. You may feel fear or worried because this may negatively impact your career. You may be sad and disappointed that someone you thought was a friend turned around and betrayed you.
These thoughts and feeling can lead to you telling yourself lies such as:
Maybe I am less talented;
Maybe I don’t have what it takes to be team leader;
Maybe I’ve been deluding myself all along and maybe I truly am an idiot…
NONE OF THESE THOUGHTS ARE TRUE!! THEY’RE ALL LIES!!!
Here are a few things to tell yourself instead:
This says more about them than it does about me;
This will show me who my true friends and allies are;
I am talented, I am intelligent, I do have a lot on the ball;
I am a child of the Universe, no less than the trees and the stars. I have a right to be here. (from the Desiderata by Max Ehrmann)
Choose on of these thoughts to keep handy–or one that you’ve thought of for yourself. When a frenemy attacks, repeat to yourself the positive statements about yourself.
Here are 7 quotes about frenemies for this week. Let me know which one(s) ring true for you.
Thank you fake friends! You’ve only made me stronger and wiser. ~Unknown
Time will prove the worth of friendship. As time goes by we lose the false ones and keep the best. True friends stay when all the rest are gone. ~Ritu Ghatourey
Don’t worry about those who talk behind your back. They’re behind you for a reason. ~Unknown
An honest enemy is better than a false friend. When in doubt, pay more attention to what people do and less to what they say. Actions not only speak louder than words, they are more difficult to fake. ~Zero Dean
An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind. ~The Buddha
A friend who stands with you in pressure is more valuable than a hundred ones who stand with you in pleasure. ~Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton
Better to have an enemy who slaps you in the face than a friend who stabs you in the back. ~Unknown
Tomorrow we’re going to be talking about handling the feelings you have after being with a frenemy. Come back and join the conversation!
Scientists have shown that meditating is good for you. A regular practice can help to lower blood pressure, fight insomnia and lead to a better night’s sleep, among other things.
Another thing meditation can do is to help us calm down and press the reset button after an attack by a frenemy.
No, you don’t have to twist yourself into an uncomfortable position and hold it forever; no, you don’t have to chant or “ohm”. All you need to do is to sit quietly and tune into the serene part of yourself.
Focus on that part of yourself that’s timeless and limitless. Doing this can help to put the situation and the frenemy in perspective. In doing this you’ll see that your frenemy is someone to be pitied, rather than punched. It’s a sad, insecure person who’s worried about their prospects in the future who tends to be a frenemy. People who are creating a soul-prospering life tend to be authentic, helpful, and optimistic.
Also, when you go within, you’ll be reminded of your talents, gifts, and the soul-prospering life you’re crafting for yourself!