Yesterday we talked about zeroing in on the thoughts and feelings we have when we think about taking action on any of our outrageous ideas. We know we need to do this because doing what’s logical and reasonable isn’t always going to get us to our soul-prospering life. Sometimes we just have to let it rip!
We need to know how to handle ourselves, though, when those thoughts and feelings do come up because they can stop us in our tracks. We don’t want that. We want our soul-prospering life, the life of our dreams!
~Perhaps our first reaction is some form of anger because we “know” someone is going to take our hard work and our success away from us;
~Perhaps our first reaction is a form of sadness because we “know” we’re going to work really hard and there’ll be very little payoff at the end;
~Perhaps our first reaction is a form of fear because we “know” it’s too hard and we can’t do it. We may also “know” that the effort will crush us and/or that we’ll be worse off afterward;
~Perhaps our first reaction is to give up before we start–to not even try–because we “know” we’ll work, work, work, and sacrifice, and meet obstacles, and it’ll all be too much;
~Perhaps our first reaction is excitement and enthusiasm but then we soon lose interest, become bored, or numb, and move on to the next “shiny object”.
We may have a different go-to first reaction and thought than what we’ve talked about here and that’s fine. In a sense it doesn’t matter what it is, just as long as each of us knows what our own particular and unique feeling and thought pattern is. Once we know this, we can build and have handy a “Bag of Tricks” that’s ready when we need it. This’ll help us move through the obstacles we’ve previously thrown in our own path to stop ourselves.
Take time today–about 15 – 20 minutes in a place that’s quiet and where you won’t be interrupted–and think about what can help you soothe/calm/comfort yourself so you can be more in control of yourself. The goal is to be able to take the next step, even if it’s tiny.
Here are some suggestions:
This gets you up and moving instead of sitting like a “bump on a log” as the old saying goes. Vigorous exercise can be great for blowing off the excess steam if you’re angry and frustrated. Light, gentle exercise can be perfect for when you’re feeling sad or frightened.
Playing a musical instrument; singing or toning or making nonsense noises; listening to music that’s uplifting, inspiring, energizing, or soothing. Music can help you blow off steam or it can calm you or it can energize you or it can comfort you.
Taking a nap; make sure you get a good night’s uninterrupted sleep; relaxing.
Getting outside and taking deep breaths to oxygenate your system; enjoy Mother Nature’s beauty and majesty.
~To expand your mind and your knowledge base; reading something for pleasure; reading for inspiration; reading to deepen your spirituality.
Praying; meditating; contemplating; thinking about Something That’s Bigger Than All of Us.
Meeting with or calling trusted friends who will cheer you on; loved ones who encourage you; mentors who believe in you.
Gather the resources in a place that’s easily accessible to you. When you’re in the throes of some emotion, it’s tough to think straight and to remember where you put what you are desperately looking for in the moment.
Just like in your home you know where the flashlights and batteries are, you’ve stored the candles and matches in a particular spot, the fire extinguisher is handy, and you have your doctor’s and other emergency service phone numbers prominently displayed, this is the same thing. Have your Bag of Tricks, your emergency materials, handy, easily accessed, and ready-to-go for when you need them!
You can do it!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,