Category Archives: Dreams & Goals

Kindness: Putting Your Best Foot Forward

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Throw kindness around like confetti. ~Molly B. Kansas

The world is a crazy place, seemingly more so now than ever before. Not only is there strife and unrest everywhere we look, but bad behavior seems to be at an all-time high. We’re left feeling overwhelmed and helpless and, sometimes, hopeless. We think there isn’t anything we can do.

I came across today’s quote on a Dove chocolate bar wrapper: Throw kindness around like confetti. ~Molly B. Kansas

I like this quote very much because it’s easy and fun to throw confetti and it’s easy and fun to throw kindness around.

Even if you have a bully boss who trashes the office environment with their abuse, you can be kind and respectful to your coworkers. Even if you have been on the phone waiting on hold for over 45 minutes, instead of being sarcastic and cutting to the person at the call center, you can sympathize with them that some days it’s a tough to keep up at work.

You can remember that everyone has struggles and worries, even those that seem to have it made. You aren’t helping them by being grumpy, cranky, mean, uncaring, and not giving them a break. You’ve been in the same boat and you’ve appreciated a smile, a kind word, or someone giving you the benefit of the doubt. Throw that kindness around, just like handfuls of confetti!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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Bullying – Not Just for Kids

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When someone mentions the word “bullying”, we think of the schoolyard, assuming that bullying is a problem only children face. We believe that when kids grow into adulthood, they drop their childish ways: We think they’ll become more understanding and compassionate, that they’ll develop mastery over their emotions, that they’ll learn to be helpful to others, and that they’ll strive to become the best version of themselves. This is the course we’ve followed and we figure that everyone else will, too.

But they don’t.

Some adult bullies carry their bullying ways from childhood into adulthood. Others were nice as youngsters but something happened along their pathway to adulthood that turned them into bullies.

The point is that bullying is not a problem just for children. We adults can—and do—face it every day, too. We can encounter adult bullies in a variety of settings such as clubs and organizations, churches, neighborhoods, within our group of friends, and at work.

We don’t foresee this, which is why it’s so shocking when we run up against it. We expect adults to behave like, well, adults. We don’t anticipate that they’ll humiliate, belittle, or sabotage us or that we’ll see them do this to others. When we experience bullying directly or indirectly (witnessing another being bullied), we’re left bewildered, stunned, and wondering if what we just experienced/witnessed really did happen.

The effects can be devastating. We can feel isolated and alone, which leads to anxiety and depression. Our self-confidence plummets, our work suffers, and our mental and physical health can be negatively impacted. Anxiety.org has published a good article on bullying in the workplace. It contains additional information and resources regarding workplace bullying. 

The good news is there are things we can do to help ourselves if/when we find ourselves in this type of situation. We can:

~Get out.

~Develop a support system.

~Pursue professional development opportunities.

~Feel good about ourselves.

~Take care of ourselves.

~Keep work in perspective.

We will talk more about these in upcoming posts. Stay tuned and check back often!

In the meantime, here are a few statements to say to yourself this week:

I am a child of the Universe, no less than the trees and the stars.

I am valuable and my thoughts, ideas, and talents are desperately needed in the world.

I am fully loaded with all I’ll need to create a wonderful life for myself.

I am someone’s miracle.

I am perfectly positioned to make my mark in the world.

I am so grateful that this situation is setting me up to be slingshotted decades ahead in my career and my life.

I am enlivened and aglow with the Divine Spark within me.

Repeat these statements first thing in the morning, several times throughout the day, and the last thing before going to bed. Let their power and inspiration infuse your mind, body, soul, and spirit.

You can do this, Pep Pal, especially since we’ll be doing it together!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Power Statements to Start the Week Off Right

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Hello Pet Pals! Even though I haven’t been blogging regularly I’ve been thinking of you.

Here are truths about you to say to yourself to start the week off right:

I am capable;

I am confident;

I am competent;

I have the intelligence that when faced with challenges, I come up I can figure it out;

I come up with creative and innovative solutions two difficulties and obstacles;

I have a pleasing personality;

I have excellent common sense;

I am a team player and I can also work well independently;

I have what it takes to be successful in my career;

I have what it takes to do an excellent job at my work;

I can depend on me to get the job done, get it done well, and get it done on time;

I am solution-oriented and I solve problems.

 

Repeat these phrases to yourself regularly throughout the day, especially if you’re working for a bully boss. You need to keep up your spirits and your self-confidence. These phrases are an effective tool to use. Feel free to tweak any of these statements to be more congruent with you and your particular situation.

You can do it! I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

Pep Talks: Bullies in the Workplace Day 1

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Most of us don’t have the luxury of devoting 24/7/365 to pursuing our passions and living our purpose.  Many of us still have obligations and responsibilities to fulfill.  That requires us to work with other people and, unfortunately, some of them are very prickly.

This week, I’ll share with you pep talks that can be used for most situations, although the inspiration for these came from others’, as well as my own, challenges at work because of a difficult co-worker.

I hope the following pep talk can help you when you find yourself confronted by someone who makes you second guess yourself.

 

No matter what others say about me or do to me, and no matter how difficult the day may be, I allow myself to remember and believe that I am capable, I am competent, and I do have what it takes to live my life so that I am pleased.

I also allow myself to remember and believe that although my progress may be slow, I am crafting a soul-prospering life.

Thank you, Source, for your power, your protection, your provision, and your peace today.

 

Notice the “I allow myself…” statements.  I have discovered that oftentimes when we’re confronted by someone with a very strong personality, we subconsciously might think that we don’t have the right to think positive and supporting thoughts about ourselves.

Ridiculous!  We know the truth about ourselves and we can remind ourselves of our truth when someone is trying to get us to think their way about ourselves.

No way!  Not happening!

Repeat frequently throughout the day:  I know the truth about me and I’m allowed to think it!!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Pep Rally: I Am!

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Start your day right with these statements:

 

I am capable

 

I am competent

 

I am intelligent and I have the common sense, and street smarts to figure it out

 

I am fully loaded with gifts and talents and latent abilities

 

I have what it takes to create a soul-prospering life for myself

 

I am tough in my own way and style

 

I am strong and I hang in there even when the going gets rocky

 

I am proud of myself for the baby steps I’m taking to craft my soul-prospering life

 

I am a child of the Universe

 

I am excited about my future

 

I am excited about today

 

I am happy to be me

 

I am lucky to be me!

 

Say these statements to yourself as you stand tall in front of the mirror smiling at yourself. Chose two or three statements to keep handy and repeat to yourself throughout your day.

You can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Pep Rally: I Am in Charge!

 

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One of the most important parts of the day is the early morning hours when we first awaken. How we use those minutes sets the tone and the pace for the day. Successful people as well as experts in the Personal Development field encourage us to start with something positive and uplifting.

Here is a Pep Rally to help us get off on the right foot each day. Thee best way to use these statements is to stand tall in front of a mirror, smile brightly, and say these with as much enthusiasm as possible:

 

I am in charge!

 

I am in charge of myself

 

I am in charge of my life

 

I am in charge of my present moment

 

I am in charge of my future

 

I am in charge of what I think about

 

I am in charge of what I believe about myself

 

II am in charge of what I believe about my dreams

 

I am in charge of my capabilities, skills, and abilities

 

I am in charge of my competency, intelligence, common sense, and street smarts

 

I am in charge of saying yes

 

I am in charge of saying no

 

I am in charge of my emotions and feelings

 

I am in charge of how I interpret each situation

 

I am in charge of looking for the good, the benefit, the catapult moving me forward in all situations

 

I am in charge of taking action, taking baby steps, of moving forward

 

I am in charge of getting it done

 

I am in charge of just doing it

 

I am in charge of my moods and temperament

 

I am in charge of taking one more step

 

I am in charge of the cards that Life has dealt me

I am in charge of whether an event, a situation–or what another has or hasn’t done to me or for me–whether it makes me or breaks me

 

I am in charge of what I do and what I do not

 

I am in charge of my doubts

 

I am in charge of my fears

 

I am in charge of my worries

 

I am in charge of my sadness

 

I am in charge of my anger

 

I am in charge of my disappointment

 

I am in charge of my frustration and annoyance

 

I am in charge of my despondency and depression

 

I am in charge of my anxieties and panicks

 

I am in charge of my body

 

I am in charge of my mind

 

I am in charge of my soul

 

I am in charge of my spirituality

 

I am in charge of how I respond to others

 

I am in charge of how I respond to situations

 

I am in charge of how I respond to events

 

I am in charge of how I respond to getting the short end of the stick

 

I am in charge of my freedom

 

I am in charge of my thoughts

 

I am in charge of my dreams

 

I am in charge!

 

If any of these statements resonate with you, jot them down and keep them handy. Say them often to yourself through out thee day.

You can do it because you ARE in charge!

 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren