March. We’re entering the third month of the year.
By now you may be thinking that the resolutions you made and goals you set back in the early days of January are hopelessly lost. You haven’t thought of them in weeks or, if you have, you’ve thought of them with a heaping serving—or two—of guilt at how quickly you abandoned them.
It isn’t too late! You can press the reset button and start where you are.
Take a moment to review your resolutions and goals—especially in light of how the year is shaping up so far. Take your time with this. Sit quietly with it. Listen to your heart and soul. You will most likely find that you’ll need to put some goals and resolutions to the side; right now they aren’t as important to accomplish or you aren’t in a position to work on them.
Out of the goals and resolutions that are still important to you and you think you have a shot at accomplishing—or that you can make progress on them—listen closely because one will stand out to you. Make that one your top priority this month and focus on it. Don’t be surprised if it’s one that your logical mind tells you is really dopey and unimportant. Your heart and spirit know best so follow their counsel.
For instance, a friend of mine recently did this and the word “rest” kept popping up. She discounted it at first because there were other more important goals such as finding balance in her life between building up her business yet still spending time with family and friends. She decided to listen and follow her heart and soul and put more rest periods into each day.
She was surprised to find that these rest periods gave her clarity to identify customers that were unprofitable, which she gently dropped. This gave her a new burst of energy and creativity for her business. Also, during her daily rest periods she discovered that stepping back from activities she no longer enjoyed would give her the extra time she wanted to spend with her family and friends.
Of course my friend had to recommit daily to her rest periods because other things tugged at her. Yes, she felt guilty at taking the rest periods instead of working on “more important” goals. But she stuck with the rest periods and it paid off for her.
The same will happen for you. When you sit quietly with your resolutions and goals and listen with your heart and soul, you will find one that stands out. Make this your top priority in March and stick with it. As with my friend, you may find that you feel guilty or others pooh-pooh your choice, but it’s your life. You know what’s best for yourself so you get to make the choice and you get to stick to it!
It isn’t too late! Choose one goal and make it your top priority this month to work on it a little bit each day.
Studies have shown that the next few days in this New Year can be rough–January 8 through January 12. It’s at this point that people abandon their New Year resolutions.
The New Year isn’t even two weeks old and people are giving up!
DON’T LET THIS BE YOU!
Perhaps you’re feeling dismayed because you had such high hopes on January 1st. You thought that this year for sure you’d be able to carve out time to go after your dreams. Maybe you’re finding, though, that responsibilities and obligations still require much more of your time than you’d like. This results in not having the elbow room you thought you would so you haven’t had a chance to devote time and energy to your dreams.
Wisps of discouragement enter your thoughts.
Fight this by pressing the reset button and remind yourself of this week’s thought: YES I CAN!
It’s quite okay to make adjustments such as more reasonable expectations of the time you have available to devote to making your dreams come true. It’s much better to take smaller baby steps than to give up all together. Small baby steps will still get you to your dreams while giving up will never get you there at all.
You made it through the first weekend of the New Year and you may be finding that your resolve to make 2020 different–better–than previous years might be getting wobbly. This week keep reminding yourself that YES I CAN.
Put a sticky note with YES I CAN written on it on your alarm. This will remind you to have YES I CAN be the first thought you think.
Put a sticky note with YES I CAN on your bathroom mirror. Again, this will remind you to continue thinking YES I CAN as you shower and get ready for your day.
Put other YES I CAN notes in strategic places that you’ll see during the day. It’s very important to keep your thoughts focused on YES I CAN–to flood your mind with YES I CAN so that discouraging thoughts don’ t have room to enter your mind.
I wish that today and all days, everyone you meet is blessed by you. Just by your twinkling eyes, your bright smile, your gentle touch, and by your sparkling presence. Thank you for letting these gifts overflow to bless those all around you! ~paraphrased from Brother David Steindl-Rast’s writings
When we find ourselves in the midst of difficulties, oftentimes we think it’s always going to be this way and nothing we do is going to change it.
We lose hope.
When we’re in this place of little to no hope, we don’t know how to help ourselves. We don’t know where to turn, what to do, who to reach out to.
This can be very painful. And scary.
But we can always turn to Mother Nature, who is always brimming with Life. Even in the most inhospitable of her environments, life is thriving. Not just one teeny organism hanging on by the skin of its teeth, but rather whole rich, diverse ecosystems thriving and flourishing in conditions that scientists thought nothing could survive.
Life wants to live. Life is built for success. Life is made for abundance.
Look around. We don’t see only one scrawny tree or one tiny bush. No. There are millions of trees and bushes and plants and flowers. All colors, shapes, sizes. Growing in cracks of rocks, on cliff edges, on wind-blown prairies. Animals, insects, raindrops, clouds, rivers…. You get the idea. Nature is all around us brimming with Life.
The next time you’re feeling stuck, unsure, and alone, turn to Mother Nature and Trust Life.
I’m a week late in honoring Mr. Roger’s birthday—he would have been 91 on the 20th of March. He is best known for his gentle ways and his homespun wisdom. Sometimes now, and especially when he was alive, he is/was ridiculed for this. My thought is that some people make fun of his loving goodwill not because they think it’s stupid but rather because they’re desperate for that gracious acceptance and are terrified that it’s a sham, like so much else in this world.
I assure you that loving kindness is alive and well in this world. There are many people who are welcoming, friendly, and reaching out a hand to others. They are right in your community. In fact, you may be sitting next to them in school or at work. Like Mr. Rogers, they, too, like you just the way you are. You can be yourself, and that’s enough!