Category Archives: Golden Wisdom

Morning Routines: Morning Influences by Ella Wheeler Wilcox

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Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about morning routines. Not so much regarding getting things done so I can get out the door on time but rather putting my best foot forward, giving myself a good start to the day.

In my reading, I came across this essay by Ella Wheeler Wilcox on starting the day right. Her advice, penned in 1903, coincides with what today’s researchers have discovered: controlling one’s thoughts and habits and directing them toward the positive and the constructive increases effectiveness throughout the day.

Here’s what Ella would have told those researchers:

 

Morning Influences by Ella Wheeler Wilcox**

 

What do you think about the very first thing in the morning?

 Your thoughts during the first half-hour of the morning will greatly influence the entire day. You may not realize this, but it is nevertheless a fact.

 If you set out with worry, and depression, and bitterness of soul toward fate or man, you are giving the key note to a day of discords and misfortunes.

If you think peace, hope and happiness, you are sounding a note of harmony and success.

 The result may not be felt at once, but it will not fail to make itself evident eventually.

 Control your morning thoughts. You can do it.

 The first moment on waking, no matter what your mood, say to yourself: “I will get all the comfort and pleasure possible out of this day, and I will do something to add to the measure of the world’s happiness or well-being. I will control myself when tempted to be irritable or unhappy, I will look for the bright side of every event.”

 Once you say these things over to yourself in a calm, earnest way, you will begin to feel more cheerful. The worries and troubles of the coming day will seem less colossal.

 Then say: “I shall be given help to meet anything that comes to-day. Everything will be for the best. I shall succeed in whatever I undertake. I cannot fail.”

 Do not let it discourage you if the moment you leave your room you encounter a trouble or a disaster. This usually happens. When we make any boasts, spiritually or physically, we are put to the test. The occult forces about us are not unlike human beings. When a school-boy boasts of his strength, and says he can “lick any boy in school,” he generally gets a chance to prove it.

 When we declare we are brave enough to overcome any fate, we find our strength put to the test at once. 

But that is all right. Prove your words to be true. Regard the troubles and cares you encounter as the “punching bags” of fate, given you to develop your spiritual muscle.

 Go at them with courage and keep to your morning resolve. 

By and by the troubles will lessen, and you will find yourself master of Circumstances.

 

What’s your morning routine? This week we’ll be discussing this topic. Feel free to share your thoughts and your morning routine. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

**Morning Influences by Ella Wheeler Wilcox appeared in The Heart of New Thought published by The Psychic Research Company, 1903

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Golden Wisdom: Destiny by Ella Wheeler Wilcox

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I came across the following essay entitled Destiny, by Ella Wheeler Wilcox. It’s advice is as relevant today as it was 110 years ago when she wrote it.

Let me know what you think of it:

Destiny by Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Never say that you wish your situation were different! Never wish you had some other person’s life or troubles or worries.

Accept your own as a working basis, the best for you.

Then go ahead and change whatever displeases you.

Remember you are the maker and moulder of your own destiny. You do not recall the fact, but you brought about the present conditions of your destiny in former incarnations.

Even if you do not believe this, you must acknowledge that you are here, and that the situation in which you find yourself seems to be inevitable for the present.

But it is not inevitable for the future, unless you lie down in the furrow and whine, and wish you were a millionaire, or a genius, and rail at the partiality of Providence.

There is no partiality in the Universe.

The whole scheme is well balanced. If you were allowed to change lots with anyone on the face of the earth, you would complain and find fault in a short time.

One of our best known millionaires, born to opulence, complains that he has been robbed of the privilege of making his own fortune.

He is no happier than you. His confession betrays his weakness of character just as your repining and fault-finding betrays yours.

The real worth-while character thanks God for its destiny and says, “I will show the world what I can do with my life.”

Not long ago there was a great trotting-race at Brighton Beach. The blind conqueror “Rythmic” won five consecutive races.

Think of it! He did not, like a mortal man, shrink back and say “I am blind—that is a terrible destiny—I am cursed of God—I will not try to win the race.” He just trusted the hand of the Master at the reins, did his best, and won the honors of the season.

We are all blind racers on the track of earth. The king, the millionaire, the statesman, the lawmaker, the beggar, the laborer, the cripple, we are all in the dark. The only thing is to trust the hand of the Master, and do our best.

Believe your position is the right starting point for you, merely the starting point.

It is the shapeless block of stone from which you are to fashion the perfect statue.

Or it is the mere mud from which you are to mould the clay image, and later that is to be put into enduring marble.

What is uglier or more unattractive than mud?

Yet think of the glorious conceptions which it imprisons.

Take the mud of your present environment and thank God for it, and make the image of the future you desire.

You can do it—you must do it—you will do it.

 

What did you think of the essay? Feel free to share it with a friend. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

**Destiny appeared in The Heart of New Thought, published by The Psychic Research Company, 1903

 

Golden Wisdom from Mom: Mothers’ Stories

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I’ve been reading several memoirs that are inspiring. All of them are written by mothers and each one of them are accomplished women.

When we see successful women, they make it look so easy. We think they’ve breezed to success and now that they’re at the top, they’re kicking back and coasting. They seem to have it all figured out.

NOT TRUE!

 

Their memoirs make it very clear that they struggled every step of the way and they still face struggles today, in spite of their success.   They struggled with the very things that we “common” folk do.

Here are some of their struggles:

~work-life balance;

~staying connected to their spouse;

~staying connected to their children;

~being respected in the work place;

~dealing with coworkers that are jerks;

~dealing with workplace politics;

~wondering how they’re going to pay the bills;

~how to make space in their lives for “me” time;

~picking up the pieces after divorce;

~figuring out how to be a single parent and not have their kids “miss out”;

~keeping up with the fast-paced business world…

 

Do any of these struggles sound familiar to you?

 

The memoirs I’m reading are:

Cowgirl Power:   How to Kick Ass in Business and Life by Gay Gaddis

Inventing Joy:   Dare to Build a Brave & Creative Life by Joy Mangano

I’ve Been Thinking…:   Reflections, Prayers, and Meditations for a Meaningful Life by Maria Shriver

 

There are plenty of other memoirs available that can nurture and encourage you. In reading them, you’ll discover that the only difference between you and these successful women is that they find a way to keep taking at least one tiny baby step toward their dreams each day.

You can do it, too!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Golden Wisdom from Mom: How Handle Overwhelm

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I came across an article on Mashable featuring the advice SZA’s mother gave to her on how to handle feelings of overwhelm.

Here is the twitter post that describes it:

 

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What did you think of SZA’s mom’s technique? Did your mom ever give you a practical technique for handling a part of life where you may have struggled? Feel free to share it with us. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Golden Wisdom from Mom: Simple Easy Small

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This week we’re honoring those people who have mothered us–including our own mothers!

Yesterday I shared with you several of the things my mother had said to me over the years. I hope her words comforted and uplifted you as much as they have done so for me. Today I want to share with you a bit of mothering of my own.

From time-to-time I’ve become overwhelmed with all I needed to do in order to move myself forward out of the mess I was in and toward something better. The road ahead looked steep and rocky, and it was a daunting sight for sure. I found myself unable to get started because I felt so crushed and defeated even before I’d begun.

But then I hit upon a technique that’s helped me over the years.

I’ve found that if I selected tasks to do that were simple, easy, and small, that I would actually do them. I’d do them precisely because they were simple easy and small.

They were simple:

~making my bed in the mornings;

~straightening the kitchen in the evenings;

~sitting quietly in the morning and listening for the Divine;

~sitting quietly in the evening and sensing the Divine….

They were easy:

~I didn’t have to think very hard

~the tasks weren’t strenuous

~I didn’t need special knowledge or special equipment to do the tasks….

They were small:

Surprising to me was that most of the simple and easy tasks took less than 15 minutes to complete!

 

I’ve found by focusing on simple easy and small tasks I could overcome my feelings of inertia and overwhelm. As I continued with these types of tasks, I felt better about myself and momentum grew, which I then used to tackle projects that were a little larger.

Have you tried a technique like this to help yourself move forward? Please share it with us! Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Golden Wisdom from Mom: 6 Inspiring Quotes for a Happy Mother’s Day All Week Long!

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In honor of all of the mothers in our lives–our biological mother as well as people who have mentored us, encouraged us, protected us, and picked us up and brushed us off (women and men who have done this for us)–Happy Mother’s Day!

Here are six quotes from my Mom to help us celebrate the generously loving and kind people in our lives who have mothered us:

If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. 

 

How would you like it if someone did/said that to you? Then don’t do/say it to anyone else.

 

This too shall pass.

 

Not to worry, Sweet Doll.

 

All is well.

 

You’re my treasure; I love you!

 

What is your favorite quote from a Mom in your life? Please share it with us. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Books: The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

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A special place in my heart is reserved for The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale. My mother sent this book to me when I after I graduated college and was off on my own.

I had moved to a small town in a part of the US that was very different from the region where I grew up. I had a very hard time meeting people and finding my place in my new world.   Needless to say, this was a difficult experience for me–I didn’t know what to do to help my situation.

As always, though, Mom came through!

One day a package arrived in the mail and it was this book along with a beautiful letter from my mom.   Of course she knew of my struggles and, as she was reading the book herself, she realized it could be helpful to me. Her letter was filled with wisdom from her own life and the special encouragement that only a mother can give.

The book didn’t immediately solve all my problems, but it helped me take the next step in my life and gradually my situation improved. Most importantly, though, this book is a poignant reminder of my mother’s loving and wise guidance and encouragement.

How about you? What books have a special place in your heart?   Feel free to share. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren