Category Archives: Gratefulness

Silence and Meditation: 24 Ways to Do It

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Yesterday we admitted that one of the reasons we don’t have a regular meditation practice is because we’re afraid it may be painful–sitting in one twisted position for hours (days!) on end…! We talked about several different types of meditation and that one of them might be just the ticket for you.

I also wanted to draw your attention to the fact that there are plenty of ways to meditate, to “sit” in silence, that don’t require sitting in one position for a long time.

Here are some suggestions, 24 to be exact:

Taking a slow walk – being aware of the sights, sounds, aromas…

Observing nature – closely watching squirrels, birds, ants, bees…

Moving your body – dance, walking, yoga, gentle exercise…

Doodling – making random marks or shapes;

Studying closely a favorite photograph – of loved ones, a landscape, flowers…

Repetitive activity – gardening, cleaning, folding laundry, kneading dough…

Making sounds – hum one or two notes, play with wind chimes, experiment with pots and pans and empty bottles…

Still water – fill a bowl with water and make ripples, waves, splashes, or gazing into the stillness…

Running water – let water run through your fingers or dangle your feet in a pond or in your bathtub!

Gazing into a flame – a candle flame, flames in a fireplace or fire pit

Gratefulness – counting your blessings instead of your troubles

Laughing – yes, this is a valid meditation technique AS WELL AS yoga technique! Even if you aren’t in a good mood or feel stupid laughing at nothing, force yourself to do it anyway. Soon, you’ll be laughing on your own. If you need a boost to get started, there are YouTube videos of people laughing.

Focus on a peaceful image – water gently lapping on a beach, a burbling brook, a field of flowers swaying in a playful breeze, a beautiful spring day, a peaceful snowy evening…

Memory – remembering and re-living a happy event: the holidays with your loved ones, a special vacation, the birth of a baby…

Listening to music – classical music, sacred music, uplifting music…

Guided meditations – many, many choices on YouTube

Breath – focusing on your breathing, counting your breaths, breathing deeply and slowly…

Rhythmic playing – gently bouncing a ball, easy tossing and catching a ball by yourself, looking through a kaleidoscope…

Letting go – letting your body totally relax, feeling as if you’re melting into the chair or floor or bed…

Daydreaming – softening your focus and gazing out the window

Holding an object – rosary beads, smooth stone, special object…

Rocking – by yourself or with a loved one in a rocking chair, standing and shifting from foot to foot…

Human contact – hug yourself, hug a loved, hold a friend’s hand…

Ponder – an inspiring thought, a sacred passage, something a friend or loved one said that has resonated with you.

 

The point is that there isn’t only one right way to meditate…although the one right method is the one that works best for you (there can be more than one right method for you).

Choose several of these types because you may find that when you’re in certain moods that some methods work better than others for you.

Experiment and have fun with this! Then commit to doing some type of meditation every day; you’ll be very glad you did!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Father’s Day 2017: Thank You!

 

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Thank you to all the men who are giving their best every day and living the true meaning of the words Father, Daddy, Grandpa, Dad, Pop-Pop….

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Happy Father’s Day!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Attitudes and Expectations: Expect To…

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Expect to enjoy yourself as you go for your dreams;

Expect to meet interesting people along the way as you go for your dreams;

Expect to meet helpful people who’ll encourage you as you go for your dreams;

Expect to learn some very interesting things about yourself as you go for your dreams;

Expect to find talents, abilities, and gifts inside yourself that you had no idea you had, as you go for your dreams;

Expect to do, see, and experience things you never thought possible as you go for your dreams;

Expect to be excited and energized as you go for your dreams;

Expect to have a peaceful contented mind as you go for your dreams;

Expect to build a life that matters , that makes a difference, as you go for your dreams;

Expect to love Life as you go for your dreams;

Expect to fall in love with yourself as you go for your dreams;

Go for it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Attitudes and Expectations: A Pep Rally

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We’ve been talking about expectations this week and are some thoughts about what we’ve learned so far.

Expect that you will achieve your dreams.

You have the dream in your heart which means that you have what it takes to achieve it. You have all the talents, all the abilities, and the latent specialized intelligence already inside of you.

Will it require work for you to dig in and pull out your talents and abilities and then develop them? Of course it will. But you have what it takes to achieve that dream in you. Will you have to take classes, find a coach or a mentor or teacher, or devise your own program of self-study? Of course you will.

You can do it, though. You have what it takes to do it.

Don’t make the mistake of comparing yourself to someone else–anyone else. You can’t do that because it isn’t about the talent and whether or not you have enough or the right kind. It’s about your dream, your mission here on Earth. Your talents and abilities are the vehicle through which you achieve your dreams as well as you manifesting your uniqueness.

And that’s the key, your uniqueness.

It’s through your uniqueness that you can reach, touch, and help others in a way that no one else in the world can do. These others are counting on you to achieve your dreams because in so doing, you’ll help them have a better life.

It’s critical that you live a soul-prospering life, which is what happens as you’re achieving your dreams.

You have what it takes!

You can do it!

I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Attitudes and Expectancy: A Closer Look at Expectations

 

 

I came across this video on expectations. I thought it was good and I think it can help you.

I agree with Brendon Burchard that to have no expectations in life is definitely not a recipe for achieving your dreams. Going through life with no expectations is a great way to set yourself up for just drifting through life. I don’t believe this is the most effective way to bring out the greatness within you–and we all have greatness within.

It’s our mission in life to manifest this greatness–not in a way that’s arrogant, stuck up, or better-than-others. Rather, manifesting your greatness is a celebration of the abundance of Life, the goodness of Life, and that it’s available to all of us.

I think Brendon hits the nail on the head when he says that there are three points to expectations:

Form positive expectations for your life.
Believe in yourself; believe you can figure it out when you hit rough patches. It’ll take work and the help of others, most likely, but you can do it. Believe it; expect it!

Have positive expectations of other people.
There are a lot of good people out there who are willing to give you a hand from time-to-time. They won’t do the work for you, of course, but they are glad to share what they’ve learned.

Yes, of course, there are people who aren’t very nice, but I’ve found that they are few and far between. Mostly, people want to help and they will help you. Put in the time, put in the effort and you’ll see that others are glad to reach out a helping hand.

Have positive expectations for Life.
Expect that your days, your life, is getting better and better. Expect Life to support this. Granted, it sometimes does this by throwing you curve balls but, when you look back, you see that the rough patch actually helped you become bigger, better, and more of who you truly are.

I agree with Brendon regarding expectations. How about you? Let me know in the comments below. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

Start the Week Out Right: Put on a Fresh New Attitude

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As we start the new week, it isn’t uncommon for us to look ahead in reluctance to what’s in store. Sure, we may be excited about an upcoming event or looking forward to visiting with loved ones and friends, but there can also be that undercurrent of dread.

It’s habitual so it’s easy to slip into this mindset.

This week, let’s work on this habitual attitude of disbelief that things really will get better, in spite of our desires and our efforts toward improvement.  It’s this disbelief that’s underlying the reluctance or dread that’s coloring our thoughts and emotions as we prepare for the week.

Put on a fresh new attitude instead. You may have to ease into it, but find something that gives you joy and a feeling of eager anticipation for the week. Focus on this; hold onto it. Let it infuse your mind and spirit. This’ll help you start the week off right.

Yesterday, we thought about our triggers that spoil our grateful spirit and thankful hearts and today I encourage us to think about what are the triggers that cause us to not feel hopeful and excited about the upcoming week. Also think about what you can do about this.

We’ll be talking about attitudes, expectancy, belief, hope, and the like this week. Let me know if you have any questions you’d like addressed and I’ll do my best to help you find answers.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Gratitude: Triggers

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I was reading a post in the Entrepreneur blog about 3 Reasons to Adopt a Grateful Attitude.

The 3 reasons the author suggests are:

~Gratitude shifts your mindset;

~Gratitude creates solutions;

~Gratitude is contagious.

 

After each reason the author had a brief explanation and it was in reason #2’s explanation, gratitude creates solutions, that the author mentioned something very interesting. He suggested looking for your triggers–events, situations, people that triggered your complaining, annoyance, and frustration. Once these emotions take over, gratefulness is derailed. I thought this was very interesting concept.

What are your triggers–especially the petty, insignificant ones? Here are a few that can easily spoil a grateful attitude:

~being stuck waiting in a long, slow-moving line;

~rush hour traffic;

~more work being heaped upon you where you’re employed;

~the change you’re trying to make being harder and taking longer than you though;

~every time you turn around there’s an unexpected bill to pay;

~feeling overlooked and unappreciated.

 

These are just a few of the many day-to-day irritations that can slowly a grateful heart and thankful spirit. Take a little time to contemplate what your triggers are so that you can be aware of them and nip them in the bud.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren