Category Archives: Helping Hand

Reaching Out to Others: Two Little Poems

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I came across these two sweet little poems that talk about the small gestures to give to others. I think you’ll enjoy them, too, with the added bonus that they’re a great reminder that it’s the small things that oftentimes matter the most.

 

They might not need me—yet they might,
I’ll let my heart be just in sight.
A smile so small as mine might be
Precisely their necessity
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~Emily Dickinson

 

It was only a glad “Good morning!”
As she passed along the way,
But it spread the morning glory
Over the livelong day.

~Anonymous

 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

12 Quotes of Inspiration

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The number one reason people fail in life is because they listen to their friends, family, and neighbors. ~Napoleon Hill

 

You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it. ~Margaret Thatcher

 

Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no help at all. ~Dale Carnegie

 

Our greatest fear should not be of failure but of succeeding at things in life that don’t really matter. ~Francis Chan

 

Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success. ~Dale Carnegie

 

The only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary. ~Vidal Sassoon

 

Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone. ~Pablo Picasso

 

All progress takes place outside the comfort zone. ~Michael John Bobak

 

Your problem isn’t the problem. Your reaction is the problem. ~Anonymous

 

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you. ~Lolly Daskal

 

If you want to achieve greatness stop asking for permission. ~Anonymous

 

The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away. ~Anonymous

 

Which quote resonated with you? Keep it handy throughout your day and refer to it frequently. Let it give you the boost you need!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

When Your Alarm Clock Rings: Thoughts to Think from James Allen

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There is a sense in which every day may be regarded as the beginning of a new life in which one can think, act, and live newly, and in a wiser and better spirit. ~James Allen

 

I came across a reading of a James Allen work entitled Morning and Evening Thoughts. As the title indicates, some of these thoughts are intended for the morning and the others are meant to be read at night just before sleep. Even so, they are all profound and, in my opinion, are good to listen to regardless of the time of day. In fact, if you can manage it, this recording could be helpful to have running as you go about the tasks of your day.

Just a note:  James Allen had a deep faith.  In some of these thoughts, he talks about Jesus and other Christian ideas.  Please don’t let that hinder you!   Feel free to substitute other holy or wise people such as Buddha, Mahatma Gandhi, or the Dalai Lama,.  Feel free also to use descriptors that fit with your philosophy or faith such as instead of God, use The Universe, The Divine Intelligence, or The Great Spirit.

Have a listen and let me know what you think:

 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Start the Week off Right: Get Up When Your Alarm First Rings

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I was listening to James Allen’s Byways to Blessedness, a Librivox recording.  The first section of the book talks about beginnings.

James Allen states that there are beginnings we have no control over, for instance we may have been laid off from work and now we’re facing the beginning of unemployment and the process of looking for a new job.  He advises to not focus on these beginnings, aside from taking care of our responsibilities, but rather to focus on the beginnings we have total and complete control over.  He says that these types of beginnings are of vital importance because they create the complex web of results that then make up our life.  He went on to say that these beginnings are controlled by our thoughts and mental attitudes, and the resulting daily conduct and actions we take.

According to James Allen, the first beginning to focus on—the easiest one to take control of—is the start of a new day, namely when your alarm clock first rings. He suggests answering these questions because “…much happiness or unhappiness depends upon the right or wrong beginning of the day…”:

 

~At what time does the alarm go off?

~Do we immediately get up?

~In what frame of mind do we enter the sacredness of a new day?

~How do we go about getting ready for the day?

 

One of his suggestions is to rise at an early hour, even if we don’t have to because this will help “…start the day strongly by shaking off indolence.”

 

Then this statement jumped out at me: “…How are you to develop strength of will in mind and body if you begin every day by yielding to weakness?”

 

He’s telling us to stop hitting the snooze button and to get up when our alarm first goes off. 

 

I get his point that by hitting the snooze alarm, we aren’t really getting a few extra Zzzz’s—in fact researchers have shown that hitting the snooze alarm does not help; the “extra sleep” you get is not restful.  James Allen is saying that when we hit the snooze alarm what we’re actually doing is telling our mind and body that it’s okay to procrastinate, it’s okay to indulge ourselves, it’s okay to go for instant gratification.

James Allen goes on to say:  “Self-indulgence is always followed by unhappiness.  People who lie abed until a late hour are never bright and cheerful and fresh but are the prey of irritabilities, depressions…and all unhappy moods.”

He then goes on to say that hitting the snooze alarm is like an alcoholic taking a nip in order to brace him/herself and steady his/her nerves for the upcoming issues in the day.

 

It’s our self-indulgence in hitting the snooze alarm that creates indolence and avoidance that is creating the issues–it’s our weaknesses and our pandering to our moods and emotions that are at the root cause of the issues that we’re avoiding!

 

James Allen adds:  :…Men and women are totally unaware of the great losses which they entail by this common indolence (hitting the snooze alarm):  loss of strength of both mind and body, loss of prosperity, loss of knowledge, and loss of happiness.

James Allen isn’t the only one who urges getting up early and getting up right away.  Earl Nightingale, Brian Tracy, Wayne Dyer and other successful people join him in this.  One of James Allen suggestions for this “extra time” is to take a gentle walk in Nature.  Earl Nightingale, Brian Tracy, Wayne Dyer, and others advise filling the time with studying sacred and/or inspirational writings, studying the industry in which we work, and pursuing other avenues of self-development and education.

Wow.

Usually I get up the first time the alarm rings.  Occasionally, though, I’ve let myself sleep a little later, commonly on the weekends.  I have noticed that James Allen’s statement is true:  I seem to be a little less focused and less productive on the days I allow myself to catch up on my sleep.  In fact, I had been wondering if it wouldn’t be better to get up at my normal time and take a short nap during the day if I need it.  I guess James Allen’s answer would be YES!!!

This week’s challenge is to get up on time—when the alarm first rings. Let me know the differences you notice in your week. Feel free to leave your comments below. Thanks!

Please pass this post along to a friend. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Exciting Week Ahead! A Review of the Piglet’s Quote Challenge

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“…I wonder what’s going to happen exciting today.”  said Piglet.

 

By the way, happy International Star Wars Day!

 

Today I want to share with you a few observations I’ve had regarding starting my day with Piglet’s quote in mind.

Here’s what I discovered:

~It’s great to receive happy surprises of unexpected gifts from friends and strangers–and even The Universe;

~It’s even better to receive boosts in self-esteem and gratitude that comes from helping another who may be struggling–even if the help seems to be a small, trifling thing;

~Best of all is to wake up feeling curious, with hopeful anticipation of what good thing might come along that day.

 

Awaking with a positive expectancy is the best and greatest gift I received this week. I’ve noticed that I was more buoyant and cheerful each day. I was better able to handle disappointments–the motherboard on my laptop crashing, several projects at work being more difficult and challenging than I’d anticipated. Naturally these things were frustrating but I found they didn’t get under my skin; I was able to shrug them off, focus on what I had to do, and then move on. I also discovered that I was more effective and productive this week, in spite of the setbacks and obstacles.

I’ve proven to myself that it really is true that waking up with and keeping a good thought in mind and holding onto a positive attitude does pay off! It really works!

What have you discovered during this week’s challenge of waking with Piglet’s thought in mind and holding it throughout the week? Feel free to share in the comments below. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Exciting Week Ahead! Another Form of Receiving

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“…I wonder what’s going to happen exciting today.”  said Piglet.

 

We’ve been rising to the challenge we gave ourselves earlier this week to wake each day with Piglet’s quote in mind.

When we think of Piglet’s quote, we usually think that something good is going to happen to us such as finding a quarter on the sidewalk, our grumpy boss being cheerful and giving us praise and recognition for the hard work we’ve been doing, or perhaps it’s hearing from a long lost friend and them insisting upon treating us to dinner at a fancy restaurant.

Receiving in this form isn’t the only way that exciting happenings can come about.

Let me explain. Last night I went to a Toastmasters meeting and, afterward on the way to our cars, I was chatting with a young man whose passion and dream is to become a public speaker encouraging and motivating kids. He  overcame a very difficult and persistent bullying situation and is now a dynamic and engaging young man. He thinks his experiences can help other kids, and he’s absolutely right.

Because he’s so enthusiastic and so certain about his chosen path, I presumed he didn’t really need any help. Boy was I ever wrong! He has one foot in his dream life–making great connections, meeting and receiving the support of fabulous people–but he still had his other foot in his current “reality”–having to work full-time at another job, limited finances, living in a very small apartment.

I was able to remind him that big name motivational speakers such as Brian Tracy and Larry Winget went through their own difficult times.   In order to get to their dream life, they had to do what was necessary to get there. Larry Winget had to sell his furniture, his house, his nice cars and take any job he could get in order to make ends meet. Brian Tracy started out as a dishwasher at a local restaurant and gradually (over years) he worked his way to where he is now.

I also reminded my friend to not let current “reality” be his focus. Of course, pay attention and be responsible with where he is right now, but to keep his eye on where he wants to go–the dream in his heart.

This was just the boost my young friend needed. He’s naturally cheerful and after our chat, he regained his focus and exuberance and bounded to his car.

My exciting happening was feeling so honored, pleased, and grateful that I had the right examples and expressed them in the right way so that he heard them and received them.

I’m still riding high!

What have been your exciting happenings this week? Please share in the comments below. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

How Comfortable is Your Comfort Zone?

 

 

 

I’ve come across a couple of books on the comfort zone that I think are good.  I’d like to share them with you, so this week we’ll be talking about a few tips, techniques, and steps for getting out of your comfort zone.

There are many good resources and I’d love it if you would share a few of the ones you’ve found helpful in getting you out of your comfort zone.  Feel free to leave the information in the comments below.  Thanks!

I’m looking forward to this week; it’s gonna be great!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren