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Home Stretch 2017: How Will You Keep Yourself Motivated?

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After our discussions so far this week, you’re probably excited about achieving at least one of your goals by the end of this year.

What will you do, though, when you hit the inevitable rough patches?

For instance:

~Not having as much time as you thought:

Remember, several holiday celebrations are coming in the next few months and your time might get swallowed up in preparations as well as the many parties that you’re invited to;

 

~Feeling discouraged or sad about the slowness of your progress:

As December approaches, you may find that you haven’t made as much progress as you thought and you are at serious risk of not achieving the goal you selected this week;

 

~Worry

This is turning out to be harder than you thought and you may be wondering if it’s all too much for you;

 

~Frustration:

Perhaps you keep running into roadblocks, challenges, and setbacks….

 

When you find yourself in a rough patch, naturally you’ll turn to the tools we devised this week: your visualizations, your affirmations, and your habits and routines. You may find that you’ve been a little slack in one of these areas–not taking full advantage of these tools–and with a little tweaking, you can get yourself through the rough patch.

What if that doesn’t work–or if it works only a little. What do you do then?

Today, make a list of the things you can do, the resources available, that you can turn to.

For instance, for technical help–help related to your goal you’re working on–you can turn to a mentor, a colleague who has more experience than you; you can read books, magazines, and reliable information online. You can go to your local library and also the library of a college or university or community college nearest you and ask the reference librarian for assistance in finding help….

For personal help–resources that can help you cope with the emotions and feelings during this time–you can call a trusted friend or loved one for encouragement; you can read inspiring books and biographies; you can meditate; you can listen to uplifting music; taking a nap; going for a walk….

Make this list today while you aren’t in crisis and you can think clearly. Jot down everything you think will help. Keep this list handy and refer to it when the going gets tough.

Help yourself stay motivated! Help yourself to take one more step…!

You can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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Productive Waiting: Gratefulness

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Yesterday we talked about using your waiting time productively by putting together your Vision Album for your future–doing this in either an “old fashioned” hard-copy photo album or putting together a digital slideshow.

Today, let’s do the same thing and build a Gratitude Album for ourselves. By doing this, we are aligning with the “good stuff” in our life and the more in tune with it that we are, the more of it we will notice and the more we will bring into our life.

Making a Gratitude Album and referring to it often reminds us that there are wonderful things in our lives even if everything around us looks hopeless. Looking at the album first thing in the morning and last thing before sleep helps us also remember why we’re pressing forward in spite of the odds and in spite of the naysayers. Taking peeks at the album throughout the day can give us that boost we need so that we don’t give up or knuckle under.

Just like your Vision Album, your Gratitude Album doesn’t have to be elaborate or fancy or contain every little jot of every little thing you’re grateful for. You can add to and tweak the album as you go along–it isn’t something chiseled in stone, so you don’t have to “get it right” the first time!

It can also have symbols. For instance, you can include a picture of the gorgeous cherry tree in front of the public library and this can be your symbol of your gratitude for all of Mother Nature’s majestic beauty.

Above all, have fun with this! Make it a point to pull a few pictures together today–even one image from a recent event in your life will do. Regularly add a little bit here and there as you go along!

Have fun!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Mother Nature’s Wisdom

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Summer is in full swing and Mother Nature is at her most bountiful abundant prolific time.

This week we’ll talk about the wisdom we can glean from Mother Nature. She has much to teach us, if we’d only pause a moment and become aware of her. She doesn’t use abstract concepts that we have to wrap our minds around, rather she actually shows us through the actions of living things the Guiding Principles of Life.

Let’s make a pact that this week, as we explore and extract the teachings from the natural world around us, we’ll spend as much time as we can outdoors quietly watching, looking, and seeing what we see. Then we’ll take the time to note our observations and ponder how they might apply to our life.

Let’s start this today!

In the comments below, feel free to let me know what you discover. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Noblesse Oblige: What to Do if You’re Feeling Bad About Yourself – 6 Steps to Take

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When you’re feeling bad about yourself and can’t seem to shake it, here’s what to do:

1. Ditch the negative people around you as fast as you can! The reason you can’t shake feeling bad about yourself and your life is probably because you’re hanging around people who don’t value you, appreciate you, and/or celebrate you. They’re also the people who see nothing but woe and disaster ahead of you, which is most definitely NOT what you need right now.

What do you do? DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM THEM AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!!

Call up a few of your friends who make you feel great about yourself and always have something nice to say to you. Be up front with them and tell them you’ve had a hard day and you need them to remind you of a few good things about yourself. Jot them down and keep them handy in a scrapbook or in a folder on your mobile device or computer.

2. You’ve forgotten or lost–or never had it in the first place!!–a vision of the fabulous future that awaits you.

What do you do? REMEMBER THE DELICIOUS FUTURE THAT’S WAITING FOR YOU!

Get out your vision board, your mission statement, your Scrapbook of Optimism and remind yourself that the rough patch you’re in right now is NOT permanent–it, too, will pass. Remind yourself that better days are ahead. Remind yourself that, no matter how wonderful your life may have been in the past, your best days are still yet to come–they’re still ahead of you!

And, if you don’t have an exciting future imagined for yourself, then immediately and right now and at this very instant start dreaming! Write it all down, make a collage, choose some sort of item or symbol that reminds you of your dreams and keep that symbol where you can see it every single day.

3. Get the icky feelings and emotions out of your system!  Best advice from a dear friend: vent, steam, rant, rave, cry, gnash your teeth, shake your fist, scream if you have to and then take the next step forward.

What do you do? DON’T WALLOW; KEEP PRESSING ONWARD!

4. Pressing forward looks like this: networking to find a new job, bartering with friends and loved ones to get the help you need to clear out the clutter in your home, taking classes online to improve your knowledge and skills…. Put on your Thinking Cap and come up with the things YOU can do that will help YOU.

What do you do when you’ve done all you can? LET GO AND TRUST THAT THE GOOD WORKS YOU JUST DID ARE GOING FORTH AND BRINGING GOOD STUFF BACK TO YOU

5. Make your waiting time productive by pursuing things that interest you, that make you feel good, that bring you peace and contentment. I’m not talking about hedonistic pursuits, I’m talking about the soul-prospering pursuits.

What do you do next? GET BUSY!!

Some soul-prospering pursuits are: spending time with your hobbies, enjoying the people you love and who make you feel loved and cared for, following the thread of a new idea or activity that has captured your interest, taking a class in a topic that, for you, is “off the wall”, volunteering your time and helping others…. I’m sure you can come up with your own ideas to follow through on.

6. What do you do after all this? REPEAT THESE STEPS AS OFTEN AS NEEDED.

 

Let me know how these simple steps work out for you. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

Noblesse Oblige: Giving–To Yourself!

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When we think of giving and donating we think of our favorite charities and non-profit organizations. We may also think of community-based needs such as the local food bank, soup kitchen, or local fundraising efforts on behalf of a family or individual facing an overwhelming challenge.

But what about us? How often do we give to ourselves?

The kind of giving I’m talking about is the type where you cherish yourself and the life you’ve been given; you show your love to yourself by honoring and respecting yourself. For instance, you move yourself up on your list of priorities from the bottom to the top, or at least the middle of the list….

Here are a few suggestions of ways to cherish yourself and your life:

~Cleaning out the clutter in your home;

~Straightening up the landscaping;

~Working on that idea that will give you the soul-prospering life you seek;

~Enjoying hobbies;

~Scheduling time to pursue things that have captivated your interest;

~Getting rid of all the junk food in your refrigerator, freezer, and pantry;

~Adding enjoyable physical activities to your life–a fun way to get in your exercise;

~Each morning saying “I can’t wait to see what wonders, laughter, and interesting things this day will bring!”;

~Each evening saying “Thanks for the great day!”, then think about at least 3 good things that happened to you during the day;

~Saying kind and encouraging statements to yourself, especially if it’s a tough day…..

 

I’m sure you can think of other ways that will “hit the spot” in cherishing yourself.

Treat each day as if it’s your birthday because, in a sense it is–you birth from your nighttime slumbers into a fresh, new day filled with possibilities for you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Noblesse Oblige: Giving

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When we think of noblesse oblige and donating to worthy causes and organizations, we think we have to be wealthy. Seemingly counter-intuitively, studies have shown that people of moderate incomes give a higher percentage of their income than do their wealthier counterparts. When wealthy people give, it’s splashed across the headlines because it’s a large dollar amount. But when compared to their overall income, it’s a relatively small portion. People of moderate incomes rarely make the headlines with their donations but more of the money they earn goes to charities and other non-profit organizations.

Here are some interesting statistics on philanthropy in America:

~Per capita, Americans are one of the most generous peoples in the world;

~Over 70% of households donate to charities;

~While the wealthy give large sums to charities and organizations each year, it’s individuals from average households that form the backbone of philanthropic giving;

~Giving has increased every year since the recession of 2008;

~The numbers of women mega-donors continue to increase;

~Wealthy people tend to give to the arts and humanities, universities, and hospitals;

~People of moderate means tend to give within their communities: local churches, local human services organizations, community events, and reaching out a helping hand to community members who have fallen on hard times.

 

The point is, you don’t have to be Mr. or Ms. Gotbucks in order to have an attitude of noblesse oblige. Get out there and give a helping hand!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Noblesse Oblige: A Good Idea

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The idea of noblesse oblige came about during the Middle Ages, during the time of chivalry and courtly love. The concept is that people of privilege have an obligation and a duty to help those who are less fortunate.   The saying goes: to whom much is given, much is expected.

We are all privileged in some way.

Even if we don’t have much in the way of tangible things to offer–money, food, clothing, etc.–we all have abundance in some aspect of our lives. Perhaps we’re good listeners or we have a beautiful smile or an infectious laugh–these are a bounty worth sharing! Maybe we’re good at noticing someone’s new haircut or a piece of distinctive jewelry and we’re always quick to compliment them. This, too, is a wonderful thing to give to others.

Do you know there are benefits to being generous? Here are six:

~Being generous helps you develop an attitude of giving and helping rather than taking. This creates in you a more positive, optimistic outlook;

~Generosity gives you a physiological, psychological, mental, and spiritual boost–It feels good to know that you can be helpful and that you’ve helped someone;

~Giving helps you overcome feelings of discouragement;

~Helping others gets you out of your own little world. You meet other people, thus enlarging your social and professional circle.  People with better social networks are better adjusted and tend to live longer;

~Volunteering, getting involved in charities and other organizations helps you grow as a person; it’s a way to find out your likes and dislikes;

~Helping others helps you gain a new perspective on your own troubles and on your overall life.

 

What are your favorite ways to give back or to reach out a helping hand? Let me know in the comments below. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren