“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson.
This is excellent advice. Reviewing your day to look for ways to improve is one thing but going over your day and agonizing over it does no good whatsoever.
Berating yourself over the day does not turn back the clock and give you a second chance at it. It doesn’t erase what you did or did not do. The only thing agonizing and berating does is punish and torture you.
Where’s the good in that? There isn’t any–it doesn’t uplift you.
How does that help you move forward? It doesn’t.
How can you tell the difference between a healthy review of your day and agonizing over the day? With a healthy review, once you are finished, you put it aside and forget about it. When you are agonizing, you don’t put it aside. You keep poking at it, stirring it up, and you can’t leave it alone. It stays with you for hours–sometimes even through the night, disturbing your rest.
In order to train yourself to let the day go, post this quote on your bathroom mirror. As you’re washing up and getting ready for bed, read it and think about it. Let it’s simple wisdom loosen your grip on the day.
Law of Attraction: when you truly want something and go after it without limiting yourself with disbelief, the Universe will make it happen. ~www.facebook.com/thesecret
I’ve been thinking about this quote all day. What’s been sticking in my mind is the phrase “…without limiting yourself with disbelief…”. This is the key to achieving your dreams!
If you’re constantly trash-talking yourself, and even if you have the most supportive, encouraging, competent mentoring team in the world, you will not reach your dreams. Your limiting beliefs–trash talk–will sabotage and trip you up every single time.
With upbeat, encouraging self-talk you’ll not only overcome obstacles and challenges, but you’ll also neutralize the comments and attitudes of people who think you don’t have what it takes to succeed.
Here are examples of empowering self-talk statements:
I’m going to take this mess and turn it into my message to help others!
This setback is really a set-up for my fame and fortune!
I’m a victor, never a victim!
My future’s so bright, I need my sunglasses on all the time!
For an extra kick, stand in front of the mirror and say these to yourself. Be sure to have a grin on your face and be enthusiastic!
It’s important, too, to keep up our morale. Sometimes we can turn to others but we may find that those close to us might be unnerved by the changes they’re sensing in us. We may not be able to rely on them to be as supportive as they’ve always been. We need to allow them to get used to the changes in us as much as we need to give ourselves a chance to get used to them!
In the meantime, we can boost our own morale. When we need encouragement, we can read accounts of how others have successfully changed and improved their lives. We can do some mirror work and encourage as well as soothe ourselves by saying that this challenging and/or uncomfortable phase will pass–it won’t last forever.
Getting out into Nature can be grounding, as can yoga, deep breathing, light exercise, and contemplation.
Other people have found that cleaning and organizing can center them. Many people find that cooking, baking bread, and tinkering in workshops can calm their nerves and steady them.
Experiment with different activities and note which ones work best for you. Feel free to use them as an aid to help you take the next step–even if it’s “just” an itsy-bitsy tidbit of a step!
When my daughter was young, it seemed as if the world was a very dangerous place. There were wars and conflicts and “police actions” everywhere, it seemed. Taxes were high, prices were going up, and it looked as if new diseases were popping up daily.
I remember walking out to the mailbox one day and I was uptight and on edge because of worries about the state of the world and feeling anxious and inadequate protecting my daughter from all the “bad stuff” that was out there.
Standing in front of the mailbox. I had a moment of astounding clarity. In that moment, I realized I was okay. My daughter was okay–better than okay, actually! My family was okay, too.
That day happened to be a beautiful spring day and I remember feeling the warmth of the sun on my shoulders and hearing the birds chirping. It occurred to me that if the world was that terrible of a place, the flowers wouldn’t be blooming, and the air wouldn’t be springtime-fresh.
In that moment, I knew all was well.
Over the years I’ve returned to the saying “all is well” over and over again because it’s usually true. From one moment to the next, all really is well–even in spite of issues that I may have to deal with. Any perceived unpleasantness is usually in the future, not in the moment. And if it is unpleasant in that particular moment, it does not last forever and very soon, I can go back to saying in each moment that all is well.
During your day, remind yourself of this fact–especially when you find your thoughts veering off the road into the ditch of negative thinking. Pull them back by reminding yourself that right now, right here, in this moment, all is well.
Let me know how saying “All is well” works for you in the comment section below. If you’ve come up with tweaks that make it work better for you, feel free to share those in the comments below as well. Thanks for sharing!
Today I’m exhausted and I couldn’t figure out why. I’ve been making sure to eat nutritious food, I’m incorporating more movement and short exercise sessions throughout the day, I’ve been getting enough sleep….
Although I’ve been drinking water throughout each day, I suppose I could bump up the amount—not sure I’m getting the full 8 glasses in! Even so, this shouldn’t account for why I’m so tired.
I decided to sit quietly and ask myself what’s going on, why so tired? After a few moments, I had the thought: the comfort zone.
It occurred to me that lately I’ve been working outside of my comfort zone. I think this tiredness is my emotional self’s way of telling me that it needs time to assimilate and get used to the newness. I think it’s telling me to ease up a bit.
So, here is what I’m going to do today to honor the request of easing up a bit (and what I’ve done so far):
~I’m going to brew a pot of Constant Comment tea (Bigelow brand) and have cups of hot tea, with lemon, throughout the day. I can remember winter evenings as a child when Mom was cooking dinner and Dad was on his way home from work…. Mom would always brew a pot of Constant Comment tea for her and Dad. We kids were young and usually drank milk at dinner. It was a treat when Mom would pour a little bit of tea into our milk.
Maybe instead of lemon, I’ll add milk to my tea for a full “throwback” experience.
I am specifically choosing the tea because it is a throwback experience. The tea invokes a vivid memory of when Mom and Dad were young and strong so I was safe and secure in the world. Connecting with this memory will help me bring those feelings of safety and security into my day today. What sorts of things do you do to comfort yourself?
~As I got ready this morning, I took a few moments to do some mirror work. I smiled at myself in the mirror and said to my emotional self: All is well. We’re doing this together. We’re taking it one step at a time and, in plenty of time, we’ll easily see when there are any upcoming bumps in the road. When we see them, we’ll put our heads together and we’ll come up with a plan—we’re smart gals! And, if we need to, we’ll get help. The ladies at the library are fantastic at helping us find resources. And, recently we’ve met a lot of nice business people who have great information they’re freely sharing. We know we can also search the Internet for resources and information. We’ll figure it out—we have before and we’ll do it again! All is well!
I feel better after I give myself a pep talk! What uplifting statements do you say to yourself?
~My playlist! Today I know I need an extra dose of positivity and uplifting, and listening to good stuff is another way I give myself the boost I need. Today I’ll be listening to Ella Fitzgerald. I love her smooth, mellow voice. I’ll listen to the “Pure Ella” album (the 1954 version) that’s my favorite (right now, at least!). I’ll also listen to different songs that are on YouTube: Peggy Lee’s “It’s a Good Day”, The Planetshakers “Nothing is Impossible”, American Authors “Go Big or Go Home”, American Authors “The Best Day of My Life” American Authors “Pride”, Katy Perry’s “Roar”, Handel’s Messiah….
Yes, I know, a very eclectic mix! All of it is music that makes me feel that everything is okay; it’s all working out; all is well.
What’s your playlist?
Writing this post and telling you about the things I’m doing today has given me a boost! Now I can get busy and have a productive day! I hope you can have one, too!
Your homework today is to jot down the things you can do to give yourself a boost when you’re feeling tired, unsure, or anxious. Feel free to use some of the things I’ve shared here.
This is important homework to do because when you’re in the grip of fear and doubt, it’s easy to say that you’ll give yourself a break and back off for today. So often, though, “today” turns into tomorrow and then the next tomorrow…. Before you know it, you turn around and find that for the past week—or more!—you’ve drifted and lost your momentum. When you first notice anxiety or some other emotion creeping in, with your list handy, it’ll be easier for you to hold steady and keep on course.
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. ~Leo Buscaglia
One aspect of living the life of your dreams is joy and a manifestations of joy is smiling.
Your homework today is to be extravagantly, wastefully, generous in giving your smiles away. Your smile is awesome and you never know who it will help, even if fleetingly, and how that help will boomerang back to you.
Remember to smile at yourself, too! Stand straight and tall in front of your mirror and smile at yourself. And, don’t give it a lick and a promise! Take the time to really look at yourself, the way your smile causes your eyes to sparkle and creates a pleasant glow about you. Relish the positive and joyous feelings that smiling at yourself gives you.
Give yourself something to smile about such as when reviewing your week, smile and whoop and dance with joy at all the progress you’ve made, no matter how small and seemingly insignificant. It all adds up so it all counts!!
And celebrate with your friends and family by having a Send a Smile fest! Make a game of it by seeing who can smile the biggest, who can smile the wackiest, who has the cutest smile, and any other categories you can think of.
A note of thanks: This is my 600th post and I am so grateful and happy that you’re here to share this moment with me. I appreciate you being a part of this journey with me. Thank you very much!
During the day we sometimes need a boost and oftentimes just the right word will do the trick—will help us find that little bit of calm or the extra reserve of strength that we need to make it through to the next moment.
Here are some that I use:
I am a
victor, conqueror, overcomer, vanquisher;
I am a
hero, winner, champion, VIP;
intelligent, smart, astute, brilliant;
resourceful, creative, enterprising, inventive;
strong, mighty, empowered, capable and competent;
gifted, talented, fully equipped, ingenious;
brave, bold, spirited, spunky;
steadfast, persistent, resolute, determined;
vigorous, energized, rarin’-to-go, dynamic;
vim, vitality, zest, snap crackle and pop!
I have what it takes;
I have it going on;
I am an up-and-comer;
I can and I will do this!
Your homework today is to choose pep words that really get you going. Keep them in mind and say them to yourself all day long. Let their power infuse you and slingshot you toward your dreams.
For an added kick as you say these words to yourself, stand straight and tall in front of your mirror with a big smile on your face and looking yourself in the eye. Say these with as much energy and enthusiasm as you can.
You can do it, I know you can!
I’m so proud of you!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Crafting a deeply meaningful, soul-prospering life