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Quotes: In Case Fear is Stopping You

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Here are a few quotes that I hope will help you when you’re feeling uncertain or afraid.

 

Do not let your fears choose your destiny. ~Unknown

Fear is a liar. Your fears make you feel that you don’t have what it takes, you can’t achieve your dreams, it’s too hard, you aren’t good enough.  If you listen to your fears then you’ll aim at and settle for a much smaller life than what you could have had.  We are capable of far more than we think we are and we each have a Destiny that’s richer, deeper, wider, juicier than what we can imagine right now.

 

Fear is never a reason for quitting; it’s only an excuse. ~Norman Vincent Peale

Some fears are legitimate and you are correct in pausing and thinking them through. For instance when you’re preparing to parachute out of an airplane, the butterflies in your stomach (a form of fear) are a great reminder to double-check your equipment as well as to go through in your mind the proper procedure for parachuting out of a plane.

Once you’ve done your safety check on the equipment as well as reviewing the proper parachuting procedures, you don’t let your butterflies stop you–you still jump out of the plane!

It’s the same when you’re working toward your dreams. There will be times when you’ll be worried, anxious, and fearful.  Pause a moment to assess them and, if needed, take steps to correct or alter what needs it, and then proceed forward.  Also, when you’re feeling worried, anxious, and fearful, it’s helpful to remember that it’s okay to go as slowly and as carefully as you need to–you don’t have to barrel ahead with a full head of steam!

 

Thinking will not overcome fear but action will. ~W. Clement Stone

It’s one thing to assess your fear in order to understand what’s driving it. It’s usually a weakness and once you identify that, you can take appropriate steps to strengthen it.

It’s a whole different story if your thinking turns into brooding and fretting and worrying over your fear. That kind of thinking will stop you dead in your tracks.  It does not lead to taking positive, constructive action toward your dreams.  Instead, keep your focus on what you can do–actions you can take–to help yourself through the fear.

Then take the next step!

 

I hope these help you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

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Self-Actualization and Goals: The Intangible Ones – Part 2

 

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Traditional achievements, such as getting a better job or going on a special vacation, lend themselves to techniques that goal-setting books and gurus teach.

But what about states of being–your desire to live a happy life, as an example?  They aren’t really goals, are they–at least that’s what the books and gurus say, right?

First of all, striving for a state of being is a goal, even though it seems to defy all the parameters of goal setting.

Secondly, the way you’ll go about achieving your chosen state of being is going to look totally different than the way someone else might strive for it. Don’t be surprised and don’t second-guess yourself when this happens!

To illustrate how to go about achieving a state of being, let’s use ‘being happy” as the goal.

Give yourself plenty of time to answer the following questions–it’s okay to take several sessions spread over several days in order to get to your True Answers:

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What YOU mean by “be happy”?

To you, does “happy” mean that you’re laughing and frequently doing a happy dance or does “happy” mean that you have a sense of fulfillment, satisfaction, and contentment?
Why do you want to be happy?

Is it because you’re tired of, and fed up with, being glum?  Is it because you want to do your part in counteract and fighting negativity in the world and living a happy life is the best way you know how to do this?  Is it that you’ve noticed people who are happy seem to have an easier time of living life?

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When are you happy?

Do you feel happy during quiet moments or when you’re with other people?  Are you happiest when you’re challenging yourself intellectually, or physically pushing yourself to your limits, or debating the spiritual and philosophical questions that have interested humans for millennia?  Are you happy with an active, fast-paced lifestyle or are you happier with a slower pace–one that gives you plenty of time to savor each moment?

 

Take the time to answer these questions.  Let them inspire other questions–or other shadings of these same questions–so that you can pinpoint your unique definition and personal meaning of “being happy”.

As you answer these questions, jot down the memories you have of the times when you were happy.

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Remember:  don’t be surprised or feel awkward that your definition is nothing like anyone else’s.  It’s supposed to be that way!!  You won’t be happy following someone else’s idea of happiness.  You want your happiness to be tailor-made to YOU!

On Monday we’ll take the next step in goal setting for intangible goals. In the meantime, if you have any questions or thoughts, feel free to share them in the comments below.  Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Connecting the Dots: Don’t Lose Hope

 

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I was talking to a friend of mine the other day about a portion of the famous Steven Job’s 2005 commencement speech at Stanford University where he talks about connecting the dots.

We were agreeing that this is so true: you don’t know how the dots will connect in your life.  And you won’t know until you have the perspective of time, meaning that you’ll see in retrospect that the dots have, or are in the process of, connecting up.

Sometimes that perspective of time is a long, long time. It isn’t a matter of days, weeks, or months.  And sometimes you can’t see the dots connecting after a year or even five years.  Sometimes it takes living nearly your whole life–40 or more years–before you start to see dots connecting and how events in your life have fit together to get you to where you are and to make you who you are.

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So, don’t lose hope if it seems like in spite of all your hard work and dedication that you seem off track and that things aren’t coming together. Keep going because in time you’ll see how it all fits together–how the dots connect.

Bookmark Steven Job’s speech and refer to it often–especially when you need a reminder about connecting the dots in your life.

Please pass this post along to a friend–thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Happy Father’s Day 2016

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Thanks, Dad! I wouldn’t be where I am in Life nor would I be who I am if it weren’t for your support, encouragement, and love.

To all who are stepping up to the plate every day to do their very best at being a father, and to those who also step up to the plate every day and do their best to filll the role of Father, thank you!

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Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Results of Yesterday’s Stillness

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In yesterday’s post we talked about sitting in Stillness for a time and then holding that feeling as we reviewed the goals we set for ourselves back in January. Then we talked about letting the goals perk in the back of our mind as we focused on peace, calm, and serenity throughout the day. We did this so we could connect our Still Small Voice with our goals so that we could hear the guidance as we then settled ourselves in the evening to tweak our goals as needed.

How’d you do?

I’ve found that one day isn’t enough to review my goals.

This review of my goals is too important to only give it a lick and a promise, or to think that a few hours is *good enough*. The rest of this year–which is a portion of my life!–depends upon well thought out goals and plans. This is way too important to dash it off and then move on to the next item on my To Do list.

In some areas of my life, good enough is indeed good enough. But not when the quality of my life depends upon it!

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So, I’m repeating the 5 steps I laid out in yesterday’s post.

I’ve already meditated this morning and, as with yesterday, I’m focusing on maintaining peace, calm, and serenity throughout the day.

Today’s item that’s simmering on the back burner of my mind is thinking through the categories for goals. For instance, Jim Rohn has three categories: Economic, Things, and Personal Development. Michael Hyatt has seven categories: Health, Family, Marriage, Business, Financial, Recreation, and Spiritual.

In doing a simple search on the Internet, I’ve discovered systems of nine categories and another one of twelve categories, along with other systems of varying amounts of categories.

In the Internet search, I came across Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs–a Blast from the Past and my Psychology 101 days in college! The article I came across was on The Simply Psychology website. I thought it was a good article explaining this system, including the updates to it

I like the expanded version: Biological/Physiological needs, Safety needs; Love and Belongingness needs, Esteem needs, Cognitive needs, Aesthetic needs, Self-Actualization needs, and Transcendence needs.

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I’ll be letting these categories perk in my mind as I go through the day today: I may want to combine some of these categories or further differentiate categories. Not sure yet, which is why I’m letting it perk!

How about you? What are your categories for your goals? Let me know in the comments below!

Also, please share this post with a friend. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Review Your Week: It’s the Little Things

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Oftentimes when we’re reviewing our lives–or even just a day or a week of our lives–and we’re trying to find where we went wrong and how things have gotten off track, we look for errors and mistakes–the Big Stuff. Many times we find them in the form of difficulties such as an unexpected bill, getting laid off or having your job downsized, or a friend or co-worker betraying you or just not being there when you needed them. When we find these things, we come up with strategies and plans of what to do to fix them.

On the surface, this sounds like a great strategy. And it works sometimes because there are phases of our lives when things outside of us go haywire and create all sorts of havoc for us.

But what about the times when we can’t really find anything that’s causing our life to feel “not right”?

That’s when we have to look at ourselves and what we’re doing–or not doing–that’s created the situation.

Oftentimes, if we can bear to be very honest with ourselves (and I highly recommend this!), we’ll find it’s the little things that we’ve done–or haven’t done–that have had a ripple effect and have inexorably led to us where we are right here and right now. And we may also find–as much as we don’t want to admit it–we may have even had a hand in the big stuff that’s seemingly totally outside our control.

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Because it’s the little things.

It’s the small habits, routines, and thought patterns that are the culprit. They’re so small that we don’t notice them–or if we do notice them, we think they don’t really matter.

But they do matter because they add up and become a determining factor in whether or not we’re living the life of our dreams.

So what are some of these small things?

Perhaps you are in the habit of putting aside projects that aren’t quite completed, saying that you’ll get back to them tomorrow or next week. But you know as well as I do that it’s difficult to get back to them later on so usually the project is left incomplete. As a result, there’s a pile of papers related to the project that’s taking up space on your desk or on the end table near the chair you sit in when you watch TV. Multiply this by several projects and multiply this by weeks or months or years, and no wonder your house or office is disheveled and you can’t find anything and you don’t have room to work!

Or, perhaps you know you need to get into better shape but instead of parking at the end of the lot and walking a longer distance to your office building, you tell yourself you’re a little tired today or you’re running late so you’ll park closer today and park farther tomorrow. And you’ll take the elevator today instead of the stairs, but tomorrow…and you’re pressed for time so you grab something from the vending machine or the fast food place for lunch, but tomorrow…. And then weeks, months, years down the road you wonder why you haven’t lost weight and why you’re still out of shape.

It’s the little things.

So as you look over your week in preparing to set yourself up for a great upcoming week, search for the little things that you can tweak that DO make a big difference down the road. Then be very mindful–and very, very honest with yourself–as you follow through on these tweaks whether or not you feel like it, whether or not it’s convenient, whether or not it’s hard, whether or not it’s comfortable….

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Follow through on the little things!

You can do it, I know you can!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

Review Your Week: Celebrate the Small Stuff

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You may have had a really tough week and the last thing you want to do is look back over it and be reminded of all the times you fumbled and stumbled. You don’t want to think about all the projects at work and at home that are still undone; all the emails from friends and family that you still haven’t replied to; all the myriad of ways you just aren’t measuring up.

First of all, whose measuring stick are you using to gauge yourself by?

Secondly, I’ll bet you’re doing just fine.

Here are a few reasons why I think so:

~Perhaps instead of coming down hard on someone–justifiably so–you erred on the side of kindness and compassion and gave them a break–cut them some slack–and it turned out to be just enough elbow room for them to take the next step.

~Maybe you held the door for someone, smiled at a passerby, let someone pull in front of you in traffic. It could be something as simple as returning a library book and the timing was such that a person who desperately needed its wisdom was able to check it out.

~You showed up in your life. You did the best you could to take care of your responsibilities and obligations.  And by doing so, in hundreds of ways that you’ll never know about, you helped make the world a little softer and gentler.

 

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Don’t turn your nose up at the small things because you just don’t know the ripple effect they’ll have not only in your life but in someone else’s as well.

Celebrate the small stuff! It’s all good–it all counts!

I’m proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren