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3 Ways to Make Tangible The Divine’s Anointing

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Previously we talked about how Source has anointed and consecrated us, and that we are holy. Even though we know this, sometimes the concept is nebulous and, therefore, doesn’t do much for us. Today and this week let’s make that more than just a nice thought. Let’s make that tangible so that we can bring that anointing and consecration into our lives and make it a real thing that we can feel and experience. Let’s make it something that we can truly know and believe for ourselves.

Here are three techniques that I use to help myself. First, though, let me add a disclaimer: I don’t always remember to do these things for myself. Sometimes life distractions get in the way and discombobulate me so I forget about these techniques—I’m not perfect! 🙂

First Technique:

As I’m washing up in the morning, instead of rushing through it or doing it mindlessly, when I’m in the shower, I’ll think about the water. I’ll tune into it running down over my head, my face, my shoulders, my arms, my body, my legs, and my feet. I imagine that the water is Source anointing and consecrating me. The water is not only washing away the earthly dirt, but it’s washing away the residue of yesterday and the unhelpful stuff I may be clinging to.

Then I think about the shower water flowing over me on a deeper level, that it’s cleaning and clearing blockages and sticking points and aligning me to the Divine. I think and say, “Every atom, every molecule, every structure, every cell, every tissue, every organ, every system, and all that is me is alight, alive, aglow, and aligned with Divine Source. I am resonating and vibrating at Divine Source’s frequency. I am aligned with all that is Good, all that is Holy, and all that is Divine.”

I think about this in an experiential way, meaning that I tune into my body as I am thinking and saying these statements and feel where they are resonating in my body. I tune in and describe what it feels like and the emotion it’s eliciting. I anchor those feelings and emotions so that as I go through my day and if/when I start to become discombobulated in some way, I can tune back in and remember Source’s anointing so I can focus and re-center on that.

Second Technique:

Another technique is to eat intuitively. When at the grocery store, instead of just grabbing this ‘n that to throw together into something somewhat edible, I’ll pause and think about each item first. I’ll hold the item near my heart chakra and tune in to how it’s making me feel, what emotions it’s bringing out.

For instance if I’m using this technique while buying bell peppers, I’ll hold one in my hand and ask myself how this makes me feel. I’ll tune into my thoughts, the feelings in my body, and the emotions I’m experiencing. I might think, “I like the green bell pepper but wow, those red peppers and the orange ones and those bright yellow ones! Holy moly, I love those colors!” In that case, I’ll choose the red, orange, and yellow peppers instead.

Do this for all the food you choose on that shopping trip, knowing that this is your inner wisdom guiding you, which is connected to the Divine. Actually, it’s Divine speaking to you through your inner wisdom. And don’t worry if you don’t really feel anything or you’re not sure. You really can’t make a wrong choice. It might take a few tries over time to be able to feel the little nudges and the small quiet voice of your inner wisdom.

Also, don’t worry if you find yourself in the cookies section or the chip section and you really, really, really want to buy some. Give yourself permission to buy one package. When you feel that you need to eat these things, especially if it’s a pressing need, go ahead and eat them, but try to be do it in moderation. As you’re eating, ask yourself, “Why do I feel I need this? What problem am I trying to solve? What lack am I trying to fulfill?” Tune into your body and where you’re feeling sensations and what emotions are coming up. Once you have some of these answers you can then think about solving them in a healthier way—solving them without reaching for cookies or ice cream or chips and dip.

Third Technique:

Another technique I use is listening to uplifting messages and sounds. Depending on what I think I need at that moment or that day—again, it’s a matter of tuning into my inner wisdom—I go to YouTube and I find audios/videos such as birds chirping, or Gregorian chants. Other days it’s wind chimes with nature sounds, or Tibetan singing bowls, or maybe inspiring messages. Other times it’s Ella Fitzgerald that “hits the spot” for me! I turn the volume very low if I’m at work so as not to disturb my colleagues.

These are three techniques that help me keep myself centered on the Truth about me which is I’m a child of the universe no less than the trees and the Stars and I have a right to be here. This is True about you, too. And the other truth about me—and you—is that I am anointed, I am consecrated, I am holy.


Feel free to tweak these techniques as needed to make them resonate more deeply for you. In the comments section let me know how they work for you. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Leaving: Letting Go and Releasing versus Leaving

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This week as we’ve talked about leaving, which sounds a lot like the act of releasing and letting go. But, it occurred to me that there’s a big difference between releasing and letting go versus leaving.
To me, releasing and letting go means that although you have made your break with a situation or a person or memories, there’s still a connection–a subtle one.

Releasing and letting go is a passive act. In a sense, you’re still looking back; you still have a longing for that thing, person, memory that you let go of. It can be likened to when a child is holding a helium balloon and it slips out of their grasp. They cry as they watch it float off into the sky, hoping that somehow something will change and make the balloon come back to them.
Leaving, on the other hand, is active and decisive. When you leave, you’re stepping away, turning your back, and moving in a different direction.

In fact now that I think about it, releasing and letting go is the first part of moving on and leaving–turning your back and going another way–is the second part of moving on.

The next time you have trouble moving on, even though you’ve released and let go of what’s bothering you, perhaps you need to take the next step of turning your back and walking away. I’m certainly going to keep this strategy in mind!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Self Care: Pilgrimages

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Think of the act of self caring as making a pilgrimage to feed and nurture that part of you–those parts of you–that gets dismissed and trampled by every day Life.

The pilgrimage doesn’t have to be traveling to a Holy Site, a basilica in a far-off country complete with a centuries-dead saint’s relics; the pilgrimage only has to be holy to you. This is what elevates self-indulgence to an act of self-care.

A pilgrimage of self-care is a form of honoring, connecting with, and even consecrating the place within you that is deep, rich, and eternal.  

Sometimes I need to sit on my deck at night or in the early morning and gaze at the stars in astonished wonder at the exquisite magnificence of the heavens. Other times I need the camaraderie of my family or my very good friends. At another time, I may need the nurturing comfort of a bowl of soup that I’ve made from scratch or the sustenance of a freshly baked batch of cookies made from a recipe handed down from my mother.

Then there are times when all I need is to take a breather by gazing out my window and daydreaming, or pulling out my bottle of bubbles and filling the air with shimmering, iridescent bubbles.

My pilgrimage of self-care morphs and shifts to what I need in the moment. It’s all good!

For instance, my pilgrimage today is reading. I’m reading a book about an autistic person’s experience and fascination with language, and another book on a person’s spiritual journey.

Of course there are those who would say that nothing good will come of this reading: these aren’t books to choose if you’re looking for entertainment; they aren’t books that I can somehow use to further my career by making my skills and knowledge more marketable.

But they’re feeding me and nurturing that part of me that’s feeling pushed to the side and overlooked.

They make me see the world from another’s point of view. My mind considers ideas I wouldn’t have had on my own. As I go about my other tasks today, I ponder a sentence, a phrase, or a whole thought from each of the books. I know I’ll continue to do this in the weeks and months to come. I know this pondering and considering will lead to insights that will smooth some of the rough spots on my path or show me beauty and goodness I would have otherwise been blind to.

So, if eating gourmet chocolate while sipping a fine wine is an activity that restores calm, peace, and balance in your life; if it fills you with hope and reinforces your belief that beauty, love, and goodness in all forms out-weigh the negative in the world, then I say you’re on the right track.

What self-care pilgrimage are you currently on? Feel free to share in the comments below. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Self-Care: The Difference Between Self Care and Self Indulgence

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People often confuse self-care with self-indulgence. People think treating themselves to chocolate or ice cream or cookies is a form of self-care. They think skipping their session at the gym is self-care. Or, they may convince themselves that staying out late with their friends, getting drunk or high or zoning out in front of the TV are forms of self-care.

These aren’t.

All of these are self-indulgence.

The difference between self-care and self-indulgence is that self-care helps balance the effects of emotional, physical, and mental stressors in every day life. The effects of self-care are long lasting.

Self-indulgence is a quick fix for stressors and the effects are very short-lived.

Self-care is doing things such as eating nutritious food, getting plenty of sleep, making sure you have quiet time for meditation and contemplation, including exercise and movement in your day, regularly engaging in activities that are enjoyable, and spending time with people who celebrate you.

Self-care is all about balance, moderation, and thoughtfully choosing what to do–how best to soothe and comfort yourself.

What are some things you do to care for yourself? I watch the sunrise or sunset and I enjoy blowing bubbles. How about you? Feel free to share in the comments below. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Your Environment: Get Outside!

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No matter what the weather is where you are–cold, rainy, foggy, hot, muggy, or picture-perfect–get outside today!

Get outside ESPECIALLY to meditate-sit in silence-pray-contemplate.

There is something very simple, very peaceful, and very profound about sitting outside. Many studies have proven the health and well-being benefits of getting outside and reconnecting with Mother Nature.

You don’t have to do anything big or spectacular to get the benefits. No need to move to the country so you can live off the land. You can still get the benefits by sitting on your fire escape in the middle of the city and noticing and absorbing the birds and other animals, the sky, the weather conditions that day.

Make this a regular part of your week, and, if possible, figure out a way to spend a few minutes every day outside contemplating natural world around you.

Oh; leave the electronics at home.

You can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Playlist for When You’re Anxious or Frightened

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Life can be scary, especially when we let our imaginations go and conjure all sorts of disasters waiting to befall us. Or, our imaginations can be more petrifying by not dishing up anything specific but yet terrorizing us with the Nebulous Unknown.

I hope one or all of these selections can help you feel grounded and safe when you’re in the throes of fear and anxiety:

 

The Cradle Song composed by Brahms

 

Ave Maria composed by Franz Schubert

 

Ave Maria composed by Bach/Gounod

 

Canon in D Major composed by Pachelbel

 

Clair de Lune composed by Debussey

 

Let it Be composed and sung by The Beatles

 

Twinkle Twinkle Little Star sung by Jewel

 

Over the Rainbow as sung by Judy Garland

 

Angel Standing By as sung by Jewel

 

 

If you have favorite songs that help you feel calm and safe, please share in the comments below.  Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Forgiveness: Self Care Quotes

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As we touched on in yesterday’s post, forgiving people who aren’t sorry is difficult.  When we find ourselves in this type of circumstance, it’s important to step back and take a deeper look at the situation to gain a better understanding of what’s going on below the surface.

The next step after doing this non-judgmental thinking is to take care of ourselves.  It’s important to be compassionate and kind toward ourselves.  Here are a few quotes to remind us of this:

 

Lighten up on yourself. No one is perfect. Gently accept your humanness. – Deborah Day

 

Nothing external to you has any power over you. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

To experience peace does not mean that your life is always blissful. It means that you are capable of tapping into a blissful state of mind amidst the normal chaos of a hectic life. – Jill Bolte Taylor

 

Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others. – Christopher Germer

 

The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another. – William James

 

When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life. – Jean Shinoda Bolen

 

Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves. – Nathaniel Branden

 

Whatever you are doing, love yourself for doing it. Whatever you are feeling, love yourself for feeling it. – Thaddeus Golas

 

It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary. – Mandy Hale

 

Lack of forgiveness causes almost all of our self-sabotaging behavior. — Mark Victor Hansen

 

When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits – anything that kept me small.  My judgement called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving. ~ Kim McMilllen

 

If one of these quotes resonated strongly with you, jot it down and keep it handy.  Refer to it whenever you need a boost.

Please pass this post along to a friend.  Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Sitting in Silence: Different Types of Silent Meditation

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When we think of meditating, the image that comes to mind is someone sitting cross-legged on the floor or on a cushion, back straight, eyes closed, and hands with palms up resting on the knees.

That’s only one way to meditate or to sit in silence.

If sitting like this doesn’t work for you, try a reclining position on a bed or couch.  For instance, sometimes I will sit in my recliner.  There’s a certain angle that’s impossible for me to achieve when sitting upright that, when I’m leaning back in the recliner at that particular angle, my lower back seems to instantly relax, which then allows me to meditate deeper.

Perhaps a walking meditation would suit you better, especially if it’s in a lovely garden or lightly wooded park.  You may find that being near moving water works for you, such as walking along a beach or sitting beside a burbling brook.  Or maybe it’s still water that does the trick for you.  A serene and calm lake or pond with its mirror-like surface may inspire you to release, let go, and to become calm and unruffled like the tranquil waters.

I came across this website that lists and explains 23 types of meditation.  Try a few of the methods.  Perhaps you’ll find that by combining a few and tweaking them a bit, it’ll be the perfect vehicle for your daily silent mediation practice.

Give it a try!

Let me know which of the meditation styles you like.  And, please let me know if you have any questions.  Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Thoughts on Reading from Earl Nightingale

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Here’s a wonderful essay from Earl Nightingale (who would have been 96 tomorrow) on the importance of reading.  Enjoy!

How are you coming with your home library? Do you need some good ammunition on why it’s so important to read? The last time I checked the statistics…I think they indicated that only four percent of the adults in this country have bought a book within the past year. That’s dangerous. It’s extremely important that we keep ourselves in the top five or six percent.

In one of the Monthly Letters from the Royal Bank of Canada it was pointed out that reading good books is not something to be indulged in as a luxury. It is a necessity for anyone who intends to give his life and work a touch of quality. The most real wealth is not what we put into our piggy banks but what we develop in our heads. Books instruct us without anger, threats and harsh discipline. They do not sneer at our ignorance or grumble at our mistakes. They ask only that we spend some time in the company of greatness so that we may absorb some of its attributes.

You do not read a book for the book’s sake, but for your own.

You may read because in your high-pressure life, studded with problems and emergencies, you need periods of relief and yet recognize that peace of mind does not mean numbness of mind.

You may read because you never had an opportunity to go to college, and books give you a chance to get something you missed. You may read because your job is routine, and books give you a feeling of depth in life.

You may read because you did go to college.

You may read because you see social, economic and philosophical problems which need solution, and you believe that the best thinking of all past ages may be useful in your age, too.

You may read because you are tired of the shallowness of contemporary life, bored by the current conversational commonplaces, and wearied of shop talk and gossip about people.

Whatever your dominant personal reason, you will find that reading gives knowledge, creative power, satisfaction and relaxation. It cultivates your mind by calling its faculties into exercise.

Books are a source of pleasure – the purest and the most lasting. They enhance your sensation of the interestingness of life. Reading them is not a violent pleasure like the gross enjoyment of an uncultivated mind, but a subtle delight.

Reading dispels prejudices which hem our minds within narrow spaces. One of the things that will surprise you as you read good books from all over the world and from all times of man is that human nature is much the same today as it has been ever since writing began to tell us about it.

Some people act as if it were demeaning to their manhood to wish to be well-read but you can no more be a healthy person mentally without reading substantial books than you can be a vigorous person physically without eating solid food. Books should be chosen, not for their freedom from evil, but for their possession of good. Dr. Johnson said: “Whilst you stand deliberating which book your son shall read first, another boy has read both.”
― Earl Nightingale

 

Make time in your week to read.  You’ll be glad you did!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Inspiring Quotes to Help You Press On In Spite of Fear

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These quotes are powerful and speak for themselves:

Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it. –Judy Blume

 

Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. Right now, today, we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of our loved ones.  –Thich Nhat Hanh

 

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.  –Theodore Roosevelt

 

First of all, let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself – nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.  ― Franklin D. Roosevelt

 

People always fear change. People feared electricity when it was invented, didn’t they? People feared coal, they feared gas-powered engines… There will always be ignorance, and ignorance leads to fear.  ~ Bill Gates

 

The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be and that God wishes to see people happy, amidst the simple beauty of nature. ~ Anne Frank

 

I was set free because my greatest fear had been realized, and I still had a daughter who I adored, and I had an old typewriter and a big idea. And so rock bottom became a solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ~ J. K. Rowling

 

Procrastination is the fear of success. People procrastinate because they are afraid of the success that they know will result if they move ahead now. Because success is heavy, carries a responsibility with it, it is much easier to procrastinate and live on the ‘someday I’ll’ philosophy. ~ Denis Waitley

 

Remember that you are a teacher; you are helping people, making them feel safer, taking them from fear to love, from ignorance to knowledge. ~ Stuart Wilde

 

Of all the liars in the world, sometimes the worst are our own fears.  ― Rudyard Kipling

 

I have loved the stars too fondly to be afraid of the dark.  – Galileo Galilei

 

Fear is a darkroom where negatives develop. ― Usman B. Asif

 

The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.  ― Joseph Campbell

 

The key to change…is to let go of fear. ~Rosanne Cash

 

Do not let your fears choose your destiny.  ~Unknown

 

I hope a few of these quotes rang true to you.  Keep them handy and refer to them often.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren