As I’ve been encouraging you to do all week, I try to incorporate pilgrimages into each week.Last week I told you about my practice of arriving early at clients’ offices so I can enjoy the sunrise.
To me, watching the sunrise—as well as the sunset—is a pilgrimage because I connect with that quiet, serene, calm place inside that accepts the moment for what it is.It’s that place within each of us that can feel expansive awe and wonder in the midst of a busy day or a difficult situation.It’s that part of us that knows we are bigger and more than who we think we are.
Perhaps you’d like to know about a few recent pilgrimages I’ve made.Recently, I visited a beloved friend and we hiked in a park, enjoying the splendor of Mother Nature.
We also visited a historic location and toured a church at the site.The stained glass was exquisite and the church was infused with benevolence and grace from nearly two centuries of peoples prayers and worship.
Please tell me about the pilgrimages you’ve been on recently.Thanks!
I want to help you get the week off to a great start and today’s post contains 12 statements you can make to yourself first thing in the morning, throughout your day, and the last thoughts before bedtime.
You may not believe it but you do have what it takes. The day and week ahead may seem daunting but it’s manageable when you take it one little piece at a time. Don’t look too far ahead down the road and DO NOT look behind, especially don’t do this in judgment of yourself–harsh judgment in particular.
In spite of your circumstances, and instead of waking up with dread and misgivings and fretting, tell yourself that you can’t wait to see the good that will come to you today and the beauty that you’ll see along the way. Even if it feels like a lie and the most outlandish thing to think about the day, think it anyway. You need to retrain your mind and starting with your thoughts and your attitudes at the beginning of the day is a great place to start.
Here are some pep statements you can say to yourself in the morning, especially as you’re brushing your teeth and washing up in front of the mirror. Look at yourself. Right in the eyes. SMILE at yourself–in spite of the toothbrush in your mouth!–and say these statements with as much enthusiasm and pep as you can:
I have what it takes;
No matter what, I can and I will figure it out;
I can take care of myself; I can stand on my own two feet;
I have resources I can turn to that will support me as I figure it out;
I am talented and smart;
I am creative and can think of new and interesting and fun ways to use my talents, my abilities, my skills and my knowledge in ground-breaking ways to help myself;
All the raw materials I need to build my soul-prospering life are already within me;
I am strong, I am capable, I am competent; I am well able;
I am locked and loaded for victory and for greatness in my own life;
My life is the perfect fit for me and I am a perfect fit for my life:
I am approved, anointed, and I have the authority to live my life my way;
I am the only one who can live my life successfully, with majesty and greatness–no one else can do it; only I can!
Now stand straight and tall with your shoulders back and your head held high, looking the world square in the face. Now go out there and craft your soul-prospering life!
I came across this little essay and it resonated strongly with me. I thought you’d like it, too.
The Wise Woman’s Stone
A wise woman who was traveling in the mountains found a precious stone in a stream. The next day she met another traveler who was hungry, and the wise woman opened her bag to share her food. The hungry traveler saw the precious stone and asked the woman to give it to him. She did so without hesitation. The traveler left, rejoicing in his good fortune. He knew the stone was worth enough to give him security for a lifetime. But a few days later he came back to return the stone to the wise woman.
“I’ve been thinking,” he said, “I know how valuable the stone is, but I give it back in the hope that you can give me something even more precious. Give me what you have within you that enabled you to give me the stone.”
This is such a simple way of reminding us that it isn’t who we are on the outside–riches, fame, beauty–it’s all about who we are on the inside. With an attitude of loving-kindness, humility, and gratitude, we are far richer, far more beautiful, and can have a deep, far-reaching impact on our life, our loved ones’ lives, and, perhaps, we can make a significant difference in the larger world.
Here are a few quotes to follow yesterday’s theme of loving and appreciating yourself:
You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserves your love and affection. ~Buddha
Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it. ~M. Scott Peck
When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life. ~Jean Shinoda Bolen
Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own? ~Brigham Young
To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives. ~Denis Waitley
Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself, no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are, completely—the good and the bad—and make changes as YOU see fit, not because you think someone else wants you to or to make others like you. ~Stacey Charter
Back in the ’70s there was a popular song that was sung by Steven Stills of Crosby Stills & Nash called Love the One You’re With.
People come and go in your life and you don’t always have control over that. But you always have you. You’re the one who will be there all the time, no matter what.
I heartily encourage you to love the one you’re with, the one you’re with every day, all day and all night. That’s YOU!
If you don’t already, learn to appreciate yourself. Instead of focusing on the things that you perceive as not right about yourself, focus on the things you like and appreciate about yourself. I’m sure you can come up with a list—which is what I encourage you to make for yourself.
Here are a few suggestions to jump-start you—remember that nothing is too small or too insignificant to include:
You make your bed every morning
You have a nice smile
Your laugh is infectious
You have a good sense of humor
You give good hugs
You’re good at math
You’re good at grammar
You’re a good speller
Your hair is thick and lustrous
Your hair is smooth and satiny
You like to sing
You see the beauty around you
You’re a good cook
Keep going with your list! Keep it handy and refer to it OFTEN!
Keep reminding yourself why you are soooo lucky to be you!
The part I talked about was where he says that during our time of gestation, when we are still in our mother’s womb, we have all the know-how we need to go from one cell to the billions of cells that make up a human body.
Dr. Dyer asks the question if we had all the know-how at that time, why don’t we have it now—what happened to it?
The answer is implied but let me make it clear: The answer is that we didn’t lose it. It didn’t disappear. We still have the know-how within us to achieve our true dreams. All we have to do is to look within and to trust what we see and hear there.
Let me know what you think of this concept. Thanks!