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Mother Nature’s Wisdom: Seed Time versus Harvest Time

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We all know that there are cycles or phases of nature: when seeds are planted; when they are growing into grain, vegetables, fruits, and the like; then harvesting at the peak of ripeness; and the final cycle or phase is storing for the future and resting.

We can take a lesson from this. Sometimes we get mixed up about the phase we’re in. We have a fantastic idea–seed time–and we work a little bit–we plant the seed of the idea by working with it. But then we get impatient and think we ought to jump right to the harvest and reap big juicy rewards…and we’re surprised when that doesn’t happen.

Or we may have great ideas but then we go right to the resting phase, somehow thinking the ideas will magically manifest themselves.

It doesn’t work like this.

Each phase of bringing our dreams into reality is important and can’t be skipped or rushed through. Like the planting cycles, each phase is essential. If a farmer skips the seed phase, there won’t be a crop to harvest no matter how diligent and careful the farmer was during the growing phase.

Same with our ideas. If we don’t think them through until we have something fresh and new to present to the marketplace, they’ll be the same old ideas that have been done before and they’ll fall flat.

If the farmer rushes through the growing phase, there won’t be a mature, ripe crop to harvest. And if the farmer decides to rest instead of tending the crops during the growing phase or if the farmer rests instead of harvesting, the results will be disastrous.

Even if we’re diligent during the seed phase of making our dreams come true, if we rush through the growing phase where we nurture our ideas and prepare them properly for the marketplace, our results could be disastrous as well.

The farmer knows that different plants have different growing times. Radishes are ready for harvesting in 25 to 30 days where pumpkins take 3 to 4 months to mature. Same with our ideas. Some of them are quickly manifesting little things and our more complex ideas may take months or years of growth before we see results. A farmer doesn’t rush the crops and we shouldn’t rush our ideas!

If you find yourself hitting a rough patch, stop and analyze what’s going on. You may find that you’ve rushed through a phase, or got them out of order, or completely skipped a phase!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

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Encouraging Quotes to Keep Handy

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As you look over this week and prepare for the next one, note the places where you felt unsure or anxious–when you felt resistance and the urge to procrastinate.   This is when encouragement would come in handy!

I have some quotes that I think will help but before I share them, take another moment to look for patterns in what causes you to feel unsure or anxious. What tasks, what times of day, what people, what places, etc., cause you to respond with resistance and procrastination?

You can prepare yourself for these times by having handy quotes, images, music, poems, and other resources that uplift you. When you feel the first tinglings of emotions that throw you off track, immediately pull out the things that encourage you!

Here are some quotes you can add to your resources list (you can get more quotes by following me on twitter@YesICanPepTalks):

 

When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn. ~ Harriet Beecher Stowe

 

A bend in the road is not the end of the road… unless you fail to make the turn. ~ Unknown

 

Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure. ~ Oprah Winfrey

 

Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

Listen to your being. It is continuously giving you hints; it is a still, small voice. It does not shout at you, that is true. And if you are a little silent you will start feeling your way. Be the person you are. Never try to be another, and you will become mature. Maturity is accepting the responsibility of being oneself, whatsoever the cost. Risking all to be oneself, that’s what maturity is all about. ― Osho

 

The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why. –Mark Twain

 

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Let me know in the comments section which of these quotes resonated with you.

Thanks for passing this post along to a friend or loved one who you think can benefit from it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

4 tips for Encouraging Others Who Have Hit a Rough Patch

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When a friend, loved one, or co-worker hits a rough patch, oftentimes we aren’t quite sure what to say or to do.

While the tips we talked about in Tuesday’s post are wonderful, (3 Tips for Encouraging Others), here are 4 additional tips that can also help:

1. Small gifts:

No need to break the bank! A small bouquet of flowering “weeds” from alongside a road can be lovely. An interestingly shaped leaf, a colorful rock, or a

2. Share uplifting resources:

Perhaps you have a cherished poem that uplifts you or a favorite motivational speaker, share these with someone who may be going through a tough time.

3. Be transparent:

It can be helpful to talk to them about difficulties you’ve faced and what you did to overcome them. Hearing what another has done can spark ideas about what they can do to help themselves and it also gives them hope that their situation can be conquered.

4. Volunteer:

Perhaps you can offer to search the Internet for local and online resources that can help them with their specific difficulty. Or perhaps you can offer to sit with their kids if they need time alone to think and plan their way out of the rough patch. Also, you can drop off homemade chicken soup or a casserole.

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This short list should get your creative juices flowing. When you come up with other ideas, please share them in the comments section below!

Please pass this post along to a friend–thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

3 Tips for Encouraging Others

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Smiles, kind words, and pats on the back are great, but sometimes they seem empty, as if we’re just phoning it in.

But yet, we draw a blank when we try to think of meaningful ways to encourage others.

Here are 3 tips for you:

1. Write a note:

Whether to a co-worker, a friend, or a loved one, sending a card with a few handwritten lines about how they’ve helped you in the past, something you admire about them, or just that you’re glad to know them and have them part of your work team, or family, or circle of friends, whichever is appropriate. The people you write to will treasure these notes and I’ll bet they’ll save them and refer to them when they’re feeling down.

2. Share something of yourself in the form of a gift:

For instance, if you enjoy pretty rocks or shells, give one from your collection. Perhaps you’re an artist. Make a doodle specifically for the person and give it to them. Or if you’re a photographer, print out one of the photos you like and put it in a simple frame from the dollar store and give it to a co-worker, friend, loved one who needs a boost.

3. Give of yourself:

Print out coupons and gift certificates to give to friends, co-workers, loved ones where you’ll do things with them such as read a chapter in a favorite book, take a walk in nature, or even just sitting in silence with someone who’s going through a rough patch.

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I hope these suggestions have gotten your creative juices flowing and have given you other ideas of things you can do. If so, please share them in the comments below!

Please pass this post along to a friend. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

The One Fool-Proof Way to Get a Boost

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Oftentimes when we need a boost, we look outside of ourselves to see what we can use to help ourselves. We look to friends and family to give us an encouraging word, we look to things going our way to boost us; we look to the outside to make us feel better about ourselves and our situation–to give us a boost.

But the surest way to get a boost is to give a boost.

When you’re feeling down and discouraged, when you’re feeling hopeless and helpless, when you are worried and afraid, when you think there’s just no way you’re going to get out of the fix you’re in, THAT’S the time to look outside yourself and see what you can do for others.

I’m not talking about taking on their problems, although if you can lend a hand that would be a good thing. What I’m really talking about is saying a good word to people.

For instance, in the check out lane, you can notice something about the cashier to compliment her or him on. If, at work, your team is faced with a problem, you can be the one to say that with all the talent and know-how the team has, you’re sure a solution will be found.

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At home, even though your kids’ rooms may be a mess, you realize that you don’t have to tell them to feed the pets or wash the dishes or to do their homework. And your spouse or partner may not be perfect, but perhaps she/he gives great back rubs or keeps the house or yard tidy and attractive. Let your family know you appreciate them!

Give an encouraging word to everyone around you and watch how that boosts your confidence, self esteem, and happiness!

In the comments below, let me the boost it gives you!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

You Just Never Know: Revisited

For “See It Again Saturday”, I thought you’d enjoy this post I did way back in 2014. It’s as relevant today as it was then–it’s still critically important that you listen to your Still Small Voice and make progress each day toward your dreams.

You can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

PS Let me know what you think of this post. Leave your comments below. Thanks!

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“No one knows enough to be a pessimist” ~Earl Nightingale

This quote reminds us that no one has a crystal ball and no one can clearly and with certainty look into the future and know with 100% accurately what will happen.  No matter what anyone says, no one can tell the future.  This means that you can’t discount your dream until you see it through—investigate it completely and follow where it leads.  This also means that you really can’t let anyone else’s opinion of your idea stop you from pursuing it.

Even if they’re experts.

But you do know, even if you don’t have tangible proof.  You know it “in your bones”.

YOU are the one who hears the Still Small Voice inside of you.  YOU are the one who has the special vision that your dream gives to you.  Because of this, you see connections, possibilities…

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Review Your Week: It’s the Little Things

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Oftentimes when we’re reviewing our lives–or even just a day or a week of our lives–and we’re trying to find where we went wrong and how things have gotten off track, we look for errors and mistakes–the Big Stuff. Many times we find them in the form of difficulties such as an unexpected bill, getting laid off or having your job downsized, or a friend or co-worker betraying you or just not being there when you needed them. When we find these things, we come up with strategies and plans of what to do to fix them.

On the surface, this sounds like a great strategy. And it works sometimes because there are phases of our lives when things outside of us go haywire and create all sorts of havoc for us.

But what about the times when we can’t really find anything that’s causing our life to feel “not right”?

That’s when we have to look at ourselves and what we’re doing–or not doing–that’s created the situation.

Oftentimes, if we can bear to be very honest with ourselves (and I highly recommend this!), we’ll find it’s the little things that we’ve done–or haven’t done–that have had a ripple effect and have inexorably led to us where we are right here and right now. And we may also find–as much as we don’t want to admit it–we may have even had a hand in the big stuff that’s seemingly totally outside our control.

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Because it’s the little things.

It’s the small habits, routines, and thought patterns that are the culprit. They’re so small that we don’t notice them–or if we do notice them, we think they don’t really matter.

But they do matter because they add up and become a determining factor in whether or not we’re living the life of our dreams.

So what are some of these small things?

Perhaps you are in the habit of putting aside projects that aren’t quite completed, saying that you’ll get back to them tomorrow or next week. But you know as well as I do that it’s difficult to get back to them later on so usually the project is left incomplete. As a result, there’s a pile of papers related to the project that’s taking up space on your desk or on the end table near the chair you sit in when you watch TV. Multiply this by several projects and multiply this by weeks or months or years, and no wonder your house or office is disheveled and you can’t find anything and you don’t have room to work!

Or, perhaps you know you need to get into better shape but instead of parking at the end of the lot and walking a longer distance to your office building, you tell yourself you’re a little tired today or you’re running late so you’ll park closer today and park farther tomorrow. And you’ll take the elevator today instead of the stairs, but tomorrow…and you’re pressed for time so you grab something from the vending machine or the fast food place for lunch, but tomorrow…. And then weeks, months, years down the road you wonder why you haven’t lost weight and why you’re still out of shape.

It’s the little things.

So as you look over your week in preparing to set yourself up for a great upcoming week, search for the little things that you can tweak that DO make a big difference down the road. Then be very mindful–and very, very honest with yourself–as you follow through on these tweaks whether or not you feel like it, whether or not it’s convenient, whether or not it’s hard, whether or not it’s comfortable….

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Follow through on the little things!

You can do it, I know you can!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren