I was running errands the other day and passed by an old cemetery. I knew the inhabitants in that particular cemetery had lived in the 1700s and early 1800s. Most of them had been dead for 200 or more years. I wondered what they would have thought of how different our world looks when compared to theirs. It occurred to me that they’ve been dead far longer than they were alive.
Then a thought zapped me like a lightning bolt: I, too, will spend much more time dead than alive! Same goes for you and for every single one of us in this world!
Even if we live to be one hundred years old or more, we’re still going to spend far more time dead than alive. Even if reincarnation is guaranteed, we won’t get the same life, the same circumstances, the same opportunities.
There is no do-over!
So, what the heck are we waiting for?!
Your homework today is to get busy! Take the next step. If that’s too large or too overwhelming, then break it into small pieces, little parts, and tiny bits. Then choose a tiny bit and get busy completing it!
This post is inspired by today’s beautiful sunrise. The colors were so vibrant and rich. The scene was breathtaking and you couldn’t help but to stop and stare in awe. As Dad would say, Mother Nature sure did put on quite a show for us this morning! While I was admiring the sunrise, the words “the sun will come out tomorrow” were in my mind. I thought about this and had to admit that in the long run, things eventually work out for the best, even though it may take a while. This then led me to realize that no matter how narrow or how rocky the path to my dreams may be, if I can keep my eye on the sun—my goals and dreams—then things will work out. I thought about the times that I skidded off the path into a gully and the times that I seemed to have taken a wrong turn and found myself at the bottom of a deep, gloomy ravine, not able to see the sun—meaning that I lost sight of my goals and dreams. The natural feelings in this situation are discouragement and lack of motivation. But the antidote to this is keeping in mind images of the sun—specific things gained by pressing forward toward my goals and dreams. One of my suns is being able to reach out in a wider and bigger way to help others achieve their dreams. What’s your sun?
Your homework today is to take the time to get specific about what exactly your sun is. It’s fine if your sun is financial gain, just make sure at the core of it is a product or service that you love and are passionate about. List the things that are your suns. Have pictures of them, if you can. Keep these handy and refer to them often, especially if you’re at the bottom of that deep and dark ravine. Referring to this list and these images will remind you that there is a sun and you will find it. As you review your week, evaluate what needs tweaking and, in light of this, how you plan to fine-tune your upcoming week. Also remember to note the tasks that went well, the projects you crossed off your To Do list, and the increments of progress you’re seeing. Celebrate these! They’re victories! It doesn’t matter how small or humble, they all add up and are moving you that much closer to your dreams. Yay you! Do something fun and indulgent to applaud yourself. You’ve earned it! You can do it! Congratulations! I’m so proud of you! Your Friend and Pep Pal, Lauren
To give you a little backstory, I’ve been doing things a little different this year. Instead of writing out my goals for the year only once (at the beginning of the year) and writing the goals for the current month only once (at the start of each month), I’ve decided to write out my 2015 goals and the current month’s goals once each week as I plan out that week.
I’ve already noticed a difference!
Yesterday, as I reviewed January’s goals, I discovered a pattern. While I had worked on tasks and projects that moved me toward my goals and dreams, I found I was much more likely to do the easy and fun steps and assignments. I clearly saw that I gave “a lick and a promise” to the things that overwhelmed or intimidated me or the things that appeared too difficult.
This is valuable information!
This tells me that I need to buckle down and not let myself off the hook so easily and to encourage myself to work on the things that make me nervous.
It also tells me that the tasks and projects that are creating my anxiety need to be broken down into smaller pieces—they’re still too big for me. I need to break these down into steps and break those into parts and break those into pieces and break those down until I get to the tiny bits that I know are easy for me to do. I know for certain that I’m more apt to follow through on the bite-sized pieces. This is because I’ll feel confident in my ability to do them—and to handle it if something goes wrong or turns out to be much different than what I thought. Also, these bite-sized pieces will fly under the radar of my resistance. Even if they don’t, even if these tiny bits are picked up by my Resistance Radar, the blip will be much smaller and I’ll have a good chance of overriding the anxiety or nerves. I’ll be more likely to do the tiny bit in spite of the slight resistance I may be feeling.
The other thing I plan to do to help myself change the pattern of avoiding some tasks and projects is to reward myself. After completing a tiny bit of a step I could reward myself with reading a chapter of a novel or daydreaming for a few minutes. I think, though, that a better reward would be to sit quietly after completing the tiny bit and savor the feelings of accomplishment. At the bottom of the resistance is a lack of confidence and taking the few minutes to treasure my achievements, no matter how small or humble, will help me build a solid foundation of self-confidence,
Your homework today is to commit to each week writing out your goals for 2015 and your goals for the current month—in addition to writing out your plans for the week. As you go through the month, keep an eye on what you don’t cross off the list. Is it showing you that you’re avoiding completing tasks and projects that will move you light-years ahead to your dreams?
If so, break these tasks and projects into steps, then into parts, then into pieces, then into tiny bits. Break them down to the point where you know that they’re a snap for you to do. Then, of course, follow through and do them!
Remember to honor yourself by taking the time to bask in the glow of your accomplishments and achievements, no matter how small or humble. Invite your friends and family to celebrate with you, if you’d like.