Category Archives: You Can Do It

Pep Talks: Bullies in the Workplace Day 1

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Most of us don’t have the luxury of devoting 24/7/365 to pursuing our passions and living our purpose.  Many of us still have obligations and responsibilities to fulfill.  That requires us to work with other people and, unfortunately, some of them are very prickly.

This week, I’ll share with you pep talks that can be used for most situations, although the inspiration for these came from others’, as well as my own, challenges at work because of a difficult co-worker.

I hope the following pep talk can help you when you find yourself confronted by someone who makes you second guess yourself.

 

No matter what others say about me or do to me, and no matter how difficult the day may be, I allow myself to remember and believe that I am capable, I am competent, and I do have what it takes to live my life so that I am pleased.

I also allow myself to remember and believe that although my progress may be slow, I am crafting a soul-prospering life.

Thank you, Source, for your power, your protection, your provision, and your peace today.

 

Notice the “I allow myself…” statements.  I have discovered that oftentimes when we’re confronted by someone with a very strong personality, we subconsciously might think that we don’t have the right to think positive and supporting thoughts about ourselves.

Ridiculous!  We know the truth about ourselves and we can remind ourselves of our truth when someone is trying to get us to think their way about ourselves.

No way!  Not happening!

Repeat frequently throughout the day:  I know the truth about me and I’m allowed to think it!!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Walk the Talk: How

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You may be thinking that all these posts this week have been fine and dandy but what if you have no idea what your “talk” is so there’s no way you can do any walking of it and forget about doing the work!

No worries!

Here are a few techniques to help you get going:

Sit in Silence – I know, I know.   You’re rolling your eyes at this one because I ALWAYS recommend this technique.  The benefits of regularly sitting in silence and checking in with yourself, including the Divine within, are soooo worth it that it’s my first go-to recommendation.  If you aren’t regularly doing this, I urge you to set up a practice NOW, today.  It doesn’t have to be long—starting out with 5 minutes each day is a great start.  It’s the consistency of showing up for that 5 minutes every day that will give you the payoff.

Sitting in silence is a great place to start for hearing and understanding your “talk” and then thinking of the ways you can walk it.  Not only does the silence help you get in touch with the Divine within and give you the quiet to hear the Still Small Voice within, but the silence gives you the breathing space and elbow room away from the pushing and pulling, poking and prodding of the world.

That in itself is worth it!

 

Playlists – music is a great way to inspire yourself and keep you motivated.  Also, it’s helpful to listen to Audio books and Youtube speeches to encourage you and fortify yourself.

Because you’ve been regularly sitting in silence *ahem*…*wink*, you’ll know which emotions and feelings are your habit.  For instance, perhaps you are easily frustrated or annoyed, or maybe you worry and fret.  You may find that your go-to emotions are discouragement and thinking you can’t do it.

Devise playlists for each of these emotions and feelings.  When you’re feeling any of these, you can play the songs, speeches, bits of wisdom and pull yourself out of these and into a more productive frame of mind.  You can stop yourself from a full-on pity party or sinking into despair or getting stuck and wallowing in it.

 

Socialize with people who celebrate you – Blue Zones of Happiness by Dan Beuttner found that the happiest most well-adjusted people spend 3 – 6 hours a day socializing.

No, they aren’t at bars downing brews and jello shots, and no, this doesn’t give you permission to gossip or fritter away your time with useless activities.

Spending 3 – 6 hours daily socializing can take the form of working with your colleagues at work completing your assignments with excellence; it may mean working with others in volunteer and civic organizations on projects you’re passionate about.  Daily socializing can include taking classes as well as sharing your interests, hobbies, and favorite activities with other like-minded people.  And, it can also mean reaching out a helping hand to your neighbor.

Of course socializing also means sharing meals with friends and family, going to cultural activities with those you love, and enjoying an afternoon of golf with your buddies or kayaking with your girlfriends.

Get involved and stay involved with others.   Even if you’re an introvert or very shy, you can find a level that’s comfortable for you.

It’s through socializing—spending time with others talking, laughing, exchanging ideas—that you can get a better handle on what’s important and meaningful to you.  From this you can then determine your purpose and your passion.

 

Give these a try and let me know how they work out for you.  Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Walk the Talk:  It Isn’t as Hard as You Think 

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You see quotes about hard work and you see successful people who seem to work all the time, and all the motivational videos on YouTube seem to feature men sweating profusely as they push the limits working out with weights or boxing in the ring.  It seems like a lot of effort and energy.

Most of all, it seems very painful…and lonely.

But that isn’t true.

Sure there are going to be sacrifices you’ll have to make but those sacrifices don’t have to be your family or friends or the activates that make your heart sing.

But there will be sacrifices you’ll have to make.  They’ll be thinks like sacrificing:

~watching hours on end of mindless and dumb TV;

~hanging out with people who don’t celebrate you;

~participating in activities you don’t enjoy;

~volunteer projects that you were guilted into joining;

~spending more time at work than what you really need to;

~trying to stay up with the latest trends in pop culture;

~wasting hours on social media and feeling deflated because of it;

~using a toothbrush to clean every nook and cranny of your home…

 

What if your loved ones and true friends complain that they don’t see much of you anymore?  Find a way to make them a part of what you’re doing to create a soul-prospering life.

Perhaps they can’t help you with hands-on tasks but showing them and explaining to them what you’re doing can give them a better idea of what you’re doing. They’ll come to understand how important it is to you.  Then, they’re more likely to help you create more time in your schedule to pursue your purpose and passion.  You’ll probably inspire them to do the same for themselves.  And this will then help you build richer, fuller relationships with those you love and those who are important to you.

It’s a win all around!

Plus that, doing the work isn’t really that hard or uncomfortable because your soul-prospering work is what you love and enjoy doing.

If you aren’t loving it or enjoying it in spite of the challenges then you are working someone else’s idea of what your soul-prospering work and soul-prospering life should be.

IMMEDIATELY change it to what is soul-prospering for YOU!!!!!

Walk YOUR talk:  do YOUR work!

I am positive you can do this.  I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Walk the Talk: The Benefits

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When you Walk the Talk and Do the Work of striving toward your dreams, you increase the likelihood of creating a soul-prospering life for yourself and there are other benefits as well.

When you consistently walk the talk and do the work, you can look forward to:

~Increased self-reliance

Let’s face it, crafting your soul-prospering life isn’t easy; you’ve probably endured many a rough patch.  And you made it through.  It may not have been pretty, and you may not have the outcome you hoped for, but you made it through.

You’ve learned that you can rely on yourself—you can count on you—in spite of what you think your shortcomings are (not smart enough, not talented, don’t have the “right” education…).  You were able to figure enough of it out so that you made it through.  And, since nothing’s cast in concrete, there’s always the opportunity to keep plugging away at it so you can modify the outcome!

~Increased self-esteem

Because you’ve been through the rockslides of life and you discovered that you can rely on yourself, your self-esteem naturally improves.  While you still may not be the most talented or smart or graceful about the whole thing—and I must interrupt here and say if you’re thinking this about yourself, or anything similar to this, STOP IT RIGHT NOW because you’re comparing yourself to others and you’ll always come out the loser when you do that—in spite of all of this, you did it and are continuing to do it.

Yay you!

~Increased self-awareness

You know yourself much better.  You have a better understanding of your strengths and weaknesses.  You know what to do to shore up your weaknesses and how to play to your strengths.  You’ve found people who will help you when you need it as well as discovered those who truly celebrate you.

Best of all, though, is that you have a deeper, wider understanding of your purpose and passion.  Along with this, you’ve probably discovered new ideas about how to bring your special talents to the world.

 

Walking the talk, doing the work, may be difficult and heartbreaking at times, but there now is a depth and wisdom to you and your character that you wouldn’t have gotten any other way.

And this is so worth it!

Walk the talk:  Do the Work!

I know you can do it!  I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Walk the Talk: No One Else Can Do It For You!

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Walk the Talk: Do the Work!

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Yes, we all have obligations and responsibilities. We have bosses to please, projects at work to complete, kids to raise, a spouse or partner to stay connected with, a home or apartment to maintain, pets to care for, church and community missions, and the like.

We also have to remember that this is our life to live–our only one. We weren’t given life so that we can give it all away to others and have nothing left for ourselves. I believe each of us was put here in this time and in this place (where ever in the world that may be) for a specific reason. And we each know this reason–we hear it in the whisperings of our heart, the urgings of our soul, and in the guidance of the Still Small Voice.

Do the work!

Follow your dreams and that thing that’s way bigger than you.

If we don’t do the work we were meant to do, then the world is not as luminous or as friendly as it could be. All of us have something of value to add to the world and it’s our job, our responsibility, to do it.

Of course take care of your family and be a good friend. Of course do your very best at your work and do what you can within your neighborhood and community to make the world a better place. But also live your life–work toward your destiny and craft your soul-prospering life.

Do the work!

You can do this, I’m sure you can. I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Walk the Talk: There’s Still Time

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Thanksgiving, Black Friday, and Cyber Monday are just about over. The holiday decorations are up in the stores and in our neighborhoods.   This can be a very exciting time of year.

It can also be overwhelming not only because of all the holiday preparations but also because at some point it hits us: there are four weeks left in 2017–34 days to be exact.

Ugh.

Along with feeling overwhelmed, we may also feel discouraged–all those goals and good intentions that we had at the beginning of the year, that we may have renewed our commitment to in the summer, then recommitted to when the kids went back to school….we’re nearing the end of the year and they’re still untouched.

UGH!

Ok. This happens to all of us so don’t feel bad.

Take a few minutes today–15 – 20 minutes–and go through your list of goals/intentions/resolutions for 2017. Ask yourself which of these has the biggest impact in your life. Keep in mind that it may not be the one or two goals that seem most obvious.

For instance, you may have a goal of making a certain amount of money as well as the goal of cleaning out and organizing your home. On the surface, it seems as if making more money is more important than cleaning and organizing because it’s obvious that enough money can impact your life in a big way: it’ll help you get out of debt, stay out of debt, and begin regularly saving and putting money away for your retirement. The money will also help you provide a good life for yourself and your loved ones.

However…

If you’re constantly tripping over all the stuff in your house, if you can’t find the tools and resources you know you have, if your living space isn’t the oasis from the chaos of the world and doesn’t make you feel nurtured and supported, then perhaps cleaning out and organizing your home is the true top priority for these next few weeks.

With this example in mind, take a look at your list and choose the one or two things you can work on.   Perhaps the projects are much bigger than you can complete in four weeks–completion isn’t the point, anyway.   It’s all about taking baby steps and chipping away at the goals and intentions you have that will make the biggest impact on your life.

I urge you to do this because keeping at it no matter what–even 5 minutes a day–will raise your self-esteem and enthusiasm, and give you the sustained energy to “slingshot” yourself into the New Year.

Give it a try and let me know how it’s working out for you. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Walk the Talk: 19 Quotes to Inspire Us to Keep On Keeping On

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It isn’t too late to achieve some of the goals/intentions/resolutions you chose for yourself at the beginning of 2017. Here are a few quotes to inspire you to choose one or two of your goals and to work on them during these next few weeks:

 

You can do it! I believe in you! –Lauren, Your Friend and Pep Pal

 

All growth depends upon activity. There is no development physically or intellectually without effort, and effort means work. –Calvin Coolidge

 

You are never really playing an opponent. You are playing yourself, your won highest standards, and when you reach and surpass your limits, that is real joy. –Arthur Ashe

 

There may be people that have more talent than you, but there’s no excuse for anyone to work harder than you do. –Derek Jeter

 

You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead pursue the things you love doing and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off of you. –Maya Angelou

 

The opposite of fear is love – love of the challenge, love of the work, the pure joyous passion to take a shot at our dream and see if we can pull it off.”  ― Steven Pressfield, Do the Work

 

Hard work spotlights the character of people: some turn up their sleeves, some turn up their noses, and some don’t turn up at all. –Sam Ewing

 

Every time you stay out late; every time you sleep in; every time you miss a workout; every time you don’t give 100%–you make it that much easier for me to beat you.   –Unknown

 

Things may come to those who wait, but only the thins left by those who hustle.   –Abraham Lincoln

 

Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there is love and inspiration, I don’t think you can do wrong. –Ella Fitzgerald

 

Stay stupid. Follow your unconventional, crazy heart. ― Steven Pressfield, Do the Work

 

A dream does not become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination, and hard work. –Colin Powell

 

Nobody ever drowned in his own sweat. –Ann Landers

 

To uncover your true potential you must first find your own limits and then you have to have the courage to blow past them. –Picabo Street

 

Don’t think. Act. We can always revise and revisit once we’ve acted. But we can accomplish nothing until we act.  ― Steven Pressfield, Do the Work

 

Success in no accident. It is hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice, and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do. –Pele

 

Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first. –Mark Twain

 

Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work. –Thomas Edison

 

Someday is not a day of the week. –Janet Daily

 

Choose a few of these quotes to keep handy as you go through the week. Refer to them often and let their wisdom and power infuse your being; let them be the fuel for your quest.

Which quotes do you like the best? Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Motivation: Crazy, Nutty, Outlandish, Weird, Stupid, Dumb, Frivolous…Ideas

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Yesterday we had a most excellent brainstorming session and came up with all sorts of ideas–some of them quite bold and outrageous but still very exciting. Got the old juices flowing!

Today, let’s take a closer look at ALL the ideas we jotted down, NOT leaving out any idea no matter how nutty, crazy, stupid, outlandish, dumb, frivolous, etc., they may seem.

Now, let’s categorize our ideas. We’ll have only two groups (1) Reasonable, (2) Totally NUTS!!. Some ideas may be hard to categorize because they’re not quite reasonable but they aren’t totally nuts either. With these, tune into your instincts and let that help you choose which category to put the idea into.

Take some quiet, uninterrupted time, about 15 – 20 minutes. When you have your Reasonable group and you have your Totally NUTS group, put the Reasonable ideas to the side.

We’re going to focus on the Totally NUTS ideas.

Why? Because THAT’S how you’ll achieve your soul-prospering life!

You won’t achieve the life you yearn for if you are reasonable, rational, logical. This is the thinking that’s keeping you in your comfort zone, stuck in your rut!

It’s when you seriously look at your Totally NUTS ideas that you find your way out of your dead-end, unsatisfying life and step into your soul-prospering life!

Sit quietly without interruptions and think about steps you can take within a day or two regarding your Totally NUTS ideas. I know this is scary stuff, but you don’t have to take giant leaps or enormous bounds. All you have to do is take one tiny little baby step. That’s it!

Hang onto this list of Totally NUTS ideas because we’re going to talk more about them tomorrow.

WooHoo! Exciting stuff! You and me, we’re on our way! WooHoo!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

Motivation: Idea Generation!

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Yesterday we took the time to ask ourselves what we’ve gotten used to in our lives. Today, let’s do some brainstorming regarding what we can do about this.

A reminder: we’re brainstorming so that means all ideas are worthy of being jotted down and considered.

This means:

~NO judging

~NO dismissing

~NO blowing off

~NO pooh-pooh-ing

~NO disparagement of any kind

 

of ANY idea, no matter how crazy or outlandish it is.

 

Also, do NOT:

~worry about the practicality

~fret about the money involved

~angst over how much time an idea might take to work out

~lament over the very few ideas you’ve come up with

~freak out over how may ideas you’ve come up with

~despair over the illogical ideas your brain produces for you

~feel like an idiot because of any idea that your creativity has gifted to you

 

We may find that a piece of one nutty idea combined with a piece of an outrageous forms a blockbuster action that move us forward faster and better than any rational or logical idea we’ve come up with so far!

Take the time today to write down as many ideas as you can. Don’t worry about the number of them, just write down all that come to you in the time you’ve allotted–I recommend 15-20 minutes of quiet uninterrupted time, perfect to do during your lunch hour (just sayin’!). Keep a notepad and pen, or other device handy, so you can jot down ideas that come to you during the day–trust me, they will!

Tomorrow we’ll talk about these. Be sure to make time in your schedule for 15 – 20 minutes of quiet uninterrupted time.

WooHoo! This is GREAT stuff!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Crafting a soul-prospering life.