Most of us don’t have the luxury of devoting 24/7/365 to pursuing our passions and living our purpose. Many of us still have obligations and responsibilities to fulfill. That requires us to work with other people and, unfortunately, some of them are very prickly.
This week, I’ll share with you pep talks that can be used for most situations, although the inspiration for these came from others’, as well as my own, challenges at work because of a difficult co-worker.
I hope the following pep talk can help you when you find yourself confronted by someone who makes you second guess yourself.
No matter what others say about me or do to me, and no matter how difficult the day may be, I allow myself to remember and believe that I am capable, I am competent, and I do have what it takes to live my life so that I am pleased.
I also allow myself to remember and believe that although my progress may be slow, I am crafting a soul-prospering life.
Thank you, Source, for your power, your protection, your provision, and your peace today.
Notice the “I allow myself…” statements. I have discovered that oftentimes when we’re confronted by someone with a very strong personality, we subconsciously might think that we don’t have the right to think positive and supporting thoughts about ourselves.
Ridiculous! We know the truth about ourselves and we can remind ourselves of our truth when someone is trying to get us to think their way about ourselves.
No way! Not happening!
Repeat frequently throughout the day: I know the truth about me and I’m allowed to think it!!
You may be thinking that all these posts this week have been fine and dandy but what if you have no idea what your “talk” is so there’s no way you can do any walking of it and forget about doing the work!
Here are a few techniques to help you get going:
Sit in Silence – I know, I know. You’re rolling your eyes at this one because I ALWAYS recommend this technique. The benefits of regularly sitting in silence and checking in with yourself, including the Divine within, are soooo worth it that it’s my first go-to recommendation. If you aren’t regularly doing this, I urge you to set up a practice NOW, today. It doesn’t have to be long—starting out with 5 minutes each day is a great start. It’s the consistency of showing up for that 5 minutes every day that will give you the payoff.
Sitting in silence is a great place to start for hearing and understanding your “talk” and then thinking of the ways you can walk it. Not only does the silence help you get in touch with the Divine within and give you the quiet to hear the Still Small Voice within, but the silence gives you the breathing space and elbow room away from the pushing and pulling, poking and prodding of the world.
That in itself is worth it!
Playlists – music is a great way to inspire yourself and keep you motivated. Also, it’s helpful to listen to Audio books and Youtube speeches to encourage you and fortify yourself.
Because you’ve been regularly sitting in silence *ahem*…*wink*, you’ll know which emotions and feelings are your habit. For instance, perhaps you are easily frustrated or annoyed, or maybe you worry and fret. You may find that your go-to emotions are discouragement and thinking you can’t do it.
Devise playlists for each of these emotions and feelings. When you’re feeling any of these, you can play the songs, speeches, bits of wisdom and pull yourself out of these and into a more productive frame of mind. You can stop yourself from a full-on pity party or sinking into despair or getting stuck and wallowing in it.
Socialize with people who celebrate you – Blue Zones of Happiness by Dan Beuttner found that the happiest most well-adjusted people spend 3 – 6 hours a day socializing.
No, they aren’t at bars downing brews and jello shots, and no, this doesn’t give you permission to gossip or fritter away your time with useless activities.
Spending 3 – 6 hours daily socializing can take the form of working with your colleagues at work completing your assignments with excellence; it may mean working with others in volunteer and civic organizations on projects you’re passionate about. Daily socializing can include taking classes as well as sharing your interests, hobbies, and favorite activities with other like-minded people. And, it can also mean reaching out a helping hand to your neighbor.
Of course socializing also means sharing meals with friends and family, going to cultural activities with those you love, and enjoying an afternoon of golf with your buddies or kayaking with your girlfriends.
Get involved and stay involved with others. Even if you’re an introvert or very shy, you can find a level that’s comfortable for you.
It’s through socializing—spending time with others talking, laughing, exchanging ideas—that you can get a better handle on what’s important and meaningful to you. From this you can then determine your purpose and your passion.
Give these a try and let me know how they work out for you. Thanks!
You see quotes about hard work and you see successful people who seem to work all the time, and all the motivational videos on YouTube seem to feature men sweating profusely as they push the limits working out with weights or boxing in the ring. It seems like a lot of effort and energy.
Most of all, it seems very painful…and lonely.
But that isn’t true.
Sure there are going to be sacrifices you’ll have to make but those sacrifices don’t have to be your family or friends or the activates that make your heart sing.
But there will be sacrifices you’ll have to make. They’ll be thinks like sacrificing:
~watching hours on end of mindless and dumb TV;
~hanging out with people who don’t celebrate you;
~participating in activities you don’t enjoy;
~volunteer projects that you were guilted into joining;
~spending more time at work than what you really need to;
~trying to stay up with the latest trends in pop culture;
~wasting hours on social media and feeling deflated because of it;
~using a toothbrush to clean every nook and cranny of your home…
What if your loved ones and true friends complain that they don’t see much of you anymore? Find a way to make them a part of what you’re doing to create a soul-prospering life.
Perhaps they can’t help you with hands-on tasks but showing them and explaining to them what you’re doing can give them a better idea of what you’re doing. They’ll come to understand how important it is to you. Then, they’re more likely to help you create more time in your schedule to pursue your purpose and passion. You’ll probably inspire them to do the same for themselves. And this will then help you build richer, fuller relationships with those you love and those who are important to you.
It’s a win all around!
Plus that, doing the work isn’t really that hard or uncomfortable because your soul-prospering work is what you love and enjoy doing.
If you aren’t loving it or enjoying it in spite of the challenges then you are working someone else’s idea of what your soul-prospering work and soul-prospering life should be.
IMMEDIATELY change it to what is soul-prospering for YOU!!!!!
When you Walk the Talk and Do the Work of striving toward your dreams, you increase the likelihood of creating a soul-prospering life for yourself and there are other benefits as well.
When you consistently walk the talk and do the work, you can look forward to:
Let’s face it, crafting your soul-prospering life isn’t easy; you’ve probably endured many a rough patch. And you made it through. It may not have been pretty, and you may not have the outcome you hoped for, but you made it through.
You’ve learned that you can rely on yourself—you can count on you—in spite of what you think your shortcomings are (not smart enough, not talented, don’t have the “right” education…). You were able to figure enough of it out so that you made it through. And, since nothing’s cast in concrete, there’s always the opportunity to keep plugging away at it so you can modify the outcome!
Because you’ve been through the rockslides of life and you discovered that you can rely on yourself, your self-esteem naturally improves. While you still may not be the most talented or smart or graceful about the whole thing—and I must interrupt here and say if you’re thinking this about yourself, or anything similar to this, STOP IT RIGHT NOW because you’re comparing yourself to others and you’ll always come out the loser when you do that—in spite of all of this, you did it and are continuing to do it.
You know yourself much better. You have a better understanding of your strengths and weaknesses. You know what to do to shore up your weaknesses and how to play to your strengths. You’ve found people who will help you when you need it as well as discovered those who truly celebrate you.
Best of all, though, is that you have a deeper, wider understanding of your purpose and passion. Along with this, you’ve probably discovered new ideas about how to bring your special talents to the world.
Walking the talk, doing the work, may be difficult and heartbreaking at times, but there now is a depth and wisdom to you and your character that you wouldn’t have gotten any other way.
This means that no one else can do it for you. It is up to you to do it.
Do the work:Walk the talk!
Don’t worry, this doesn’t mean that you have to go it alone and that you have to figure everything out by yourself.
No, not at all.
There are mentors and coaches to help you; there are books, classes, teachers, and other resources to help you. There are libraries and reputable resources on the Internet.There are support groups, clubs, and organizations that are designed to help others with specific difficulties or for teaching particular skills.
There is plenty of help in the world, but it’s up to you to find it and use it to help yourself achieve your special purpose for being in this world.
Yes, we all have obligations and responsibilities. We have bosses to please, projects at work to complete, kids to raise, a spouse or partner to stay connected with, a home or apartment to maintain, pets to care for, church and community missions, and the like.
We also have to remember that this is our life to live–our only one. We weren’t given life so that we can give it all away to others and have nothing left for ourselves. I believe each of us was put here in this time and in this place (where ever in the world that may be) for a specific reason. And we each know this reason–we hear it in the whisperings of our heart, the urgings of our soul, and in the guidance of the Still Small Voice.
Do the work!
Follow your dreams and that thing that’s way bigger than you.
If we don’t do the work we were meant to do, then the world is not as luminous or as friendly as it could be. All of us have something of value to add to the world and it’s our job, our responsibility, to do it.
Of course take care of your family and be a good friend. Of course do your very best at your work and do what you can within your neighborhood and community to make the world a better place. But also live your life–work toward your destiny and craft your soul-prospering life.
Do the work!
You can do this, I’m sure you can. I believe in you!
Thanksgiving, Black Friday, and Cyber Monday are just about over. The holiday decorations are up in the stores and in our neighborhoods. This can be a very exciting time of year.
It can also be overwhelming not only because of all the holiday preparations but also because at some point it hits us: there are four weeks left in 2017–34 days to be exact.
Along with feeling overwhelmed, we may also feel discouraged–all those goals and good intentions that we had at the beginning of the year, that we may have renewed our commitment to in the summer, then recommitted to when the kids went back to school….we’re nearing the end of the year and they’re still untouched.
Ok. This happens to all of us so don’t feel bad.
Take a few minutes today–15 – 20 minutes–and go through your list of goals/intentions/resolutions for 2017. Ask yourself which of these has the biggest impact in your life. Keep in mind that it may not be the one or two goals that seem most obvious.
For instance, you may have a goal of making a certain amount of money as well as the goal of cleaning out and organizing your home. On the surface, it seems as if making more money is more important than cleaning and organizing because it’s obvious that enough money can impact your life in a big way: it’ll help you get out of debt, stay out of debt, and begin regularly saving and putting money away for your retirement. The money will also help you provide a good life for yourself and your loved ones.
If you’re constantly tripping over all the stuff in your house, if you can’t find the tools and resources you know you have, if your living space isn’t the oasis from the chaos of the world and doesn’t make you feel nurtured and supported, then perhaps cleaning out and organizing your home is the true top priority for these next few weeks.
With this example in mind, take a look at your list and choose the one or two things you can work on. Perhaps the projects are much bigger than you can complete in four weeks–completion isn’t the point, anyway. It’s all about taking baby steps and chipping away at the goals and intentions you have that will make the biggest impact on your life.
I urge you to do this because keeping at it no matter what–even 5 minutes a day–will raise your self-esteem and enthusiasm, and give you the sustained energy to “slingshot” yourself into the New Year.
Give it a try and let me know how it’s working out for you. Thanks!