Disillusionment

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Disillusionment with yourself must precede enlightenment.

~Vernon Howard

 

Disillusionment can make you feel very uncomfortable because it’s the moment at which you see the “clay feet” of yourself, others, a situation, or the world. You may feel as if you’ve been fooled or lied to. This can make you feel overwhelmed, bewildered, frustrated, anxious—sometimes all at once!

You don’t know where to turn because the old ways, the old patterns, the old thoughts, the old ideas just aren’t working anymore.

But disillusionment can be a good thing. You’re disillusion is saying that the status quo is no longer good enough. It also is saying that being a good egg and doing what you’re supposed to do just isn’t cutting it anymore. It’s telling you that something has to change.

If you hang tough and face your disillusion, you’ll see things in a new way, in a new light, or from a different angle or perspective. You’ll hear your heart and soul reminding you that it’s time for you to stand up and be who you are.

Disillusionment can motivate you to make real changes—changes that matter.

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Your homework today is to embrace your disillusionment because there are big, important gifts that are contained within it. Follow the lead of your disillusionment and where it’s indicating that change is needed. Then come up with a plan and break it into steps. Break those into small pieces. Keep breaking them down until you get to bits that you are confident that you can easily do. Then do them—follow through!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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Be Selective

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Isolation is a dream killer.

~Barbara Sher

 

Isolation and being alone too much can cause our thoughts and ideas to become negative. Without anyone there to point out to us that things aren’t as bad as we think and then to help us think more positively, it becomes very easy to convince ourselves that we don’t have what it takes to be successful. We are sure that we can’t do it because we aren’t smart enough or we’re not old enough or we’re not young enough or two tall, too short, or whatever it is that we think is our fatal flaw.

It’s important that you have people in your life—all types of people. This is good for your overall quality of life, but it’s also very helpful to have supportive people with you on your journey to your dreams.

It’s good to have people who have different ways of thinking, different interests and ideas. They can help you see your quest to your dreams in a different light and this can help you have insights that you might not have had otherwise.

The one thing that the people you hang around with MUST have in common is that they are positive, supportive, and encouraging people.

Being selective and hanging around positive people is imperative and of extreme importance.

For that reason, it’s vitally important that when you are with the different people in your life you answer two questions: How does this person make me feel when I am with them? Also, how do I feel after I’ve spent time with this person?

The answer must be that while you are with the person as well as afterward, you should feel positive, uplifted, encouraged, energized, and have confidence to take the next step.

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Your homework today is to be selective with who you hang around with. In your own mind, evaluate the people you normally hang around with. Do they Positive Petes and Uplifting Ursulas who make you feel good about yourself and confident that you can do it? Are they Negative Nellies and Downer Daves and while you are with them, and afterward, you feel exhausted, miserable, and think that maybe you should throw in the towel?

Make a point to limit your contact with the Negative Nellies and Downer Daves in your life. If you can, eliminate them from your life completely. Then, spend as much time as you can with the Positive Petes and Uplifting Ursulas in your life.

Make a plan to be selective and to hang around positive people!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Decision to Make

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You don’t have a problem to solve, you have a decision to make.

~Robert Schuller

 

When things are going well, we’re making decisions left and right. We’re making choices without even thinking about it. As things come up we make a decision and we move on. We only run into problems and challenges when we can’t make a decision.

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Your homework today is to think about a problem you’re having. What decision are you not making, whether you are unwilling or unable to make it. Think it through; figure it out. Figure out what decision or part of the decision you are unwilling or unable to make. Then brainstorm ways to make the decision. You can always break it into steps, small pieces, little parts and tiny bits.

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you.

Your friend and pepper pal,

Lauren

Review the Week: First Week of the New Year

 

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We’re just over one week into the New Year. How are you doing on your progress toward your dreams? Are you already harried and hassled, frustrated and frazzled, disappointed and disillusioned, overawed and overwhelmed? Are you thinking about chucking it all—or perhaps you’ve already abandoned your dreams for the year?

No need to give up and throw in the towel for the year—or forever. You can still achieve your dreams. It’s just a matter of sitting quietly without disturbances and reviewing your week.

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Your homework is to take the time to review your week. Think it through, just like you would if this was a project your boss gave you to take the lead on. Your life and your dreams are vitally important and deserve serious thought, serious attention, and serious efforts. Make sure they get it!

Answer the following questions:

Did I over-commit myself? If so, is there a way to delegate tasks and projects or to train someone (colleagues, your kids, your spouse) to take over projects and tasks for me? Which are the things to which I can “just say no”?

Also answer:

What went right? What did I do well? What tasks and projects were easy to get done? How can I take that success and apply the techniques to areas where I am experiencing difficulty?

Your frustration may come from the fact that the steps you’re trying to take are too large for the reality of your life—or you’re trying to take too many of them too fast. If you find this is true, remember that there is no time limit or expiration date on reaching your dreams. It’s okay to set a slow and steady pace. More often than not, if you study successful people, you’ll find that it was the very rare exception that were overnight successes—most of them took years, decades even, to achieve their dreams.

Remember, too, to break the steps into small pieces, little parts, and tiny bits. Taking a small, small step and a bit of step is what will ensure that you make steady progress toward your dreams.

Don’t give up—you can do this! I believe in you!

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Most important of all, as you review, note the progress you made, the things you did well, the situations that worked to your advantage. It’s essential to applaud yourself for your progress and your achievements—no matter how insignificant they may seem. Every little bit counts because it all adds up and moves you that much closer to your dreams!

I’m so proud of you for your progress so far no matter how small or humble!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Psyching Ourselves Out

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It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it is because we do not dare that things are difficult.

~Seneca

 

How many times has it happened that we’ve psyched ourselves out over a task or project? We dragged our feet, procrastinated, put it off, and came up with reasons why we couldn’t do it at that moment.

How many times has it happened that we then found ourselves with our back against a wall facing a deadline and we then had no choice but to do the task or complete the project?

How many times has it happened that once we started, we found that it wasn’t as bad as we thought it would be? We might have even wondered why we avoided it for so long. And, we might have realized that had we started sooner, we could have done a better job.

Also, we might have realized that even though there may have been challenges or setbacks, we were able to figure it out. We did it either by our own brainpower and ingenuity or we were able to ask a friend or colleague—or do an Internet search—that helped us over the rough spots.

So why did we spend all that time and effort psyching ourselves out over the task or project?! Why didn’t we get busy as soon as possible?!

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Your homework today is to stop with the psyching out and start with just getting busy. Break the task or project into steps. Break those into small pieces and little parts. Then break those into tiny, manageable, and easily doable bits. Do a bit, then do the next bit, then the next.

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Success Secrets in Movies: Legally Blonde: Dreams Mature

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Spoiler alert for the movie Legally Blonde that stars Reese Witherspoon! I’ll keep it to a minimum but today’s post will give away some of what happens.

Elle, the Barbie-type character Reese Witherspoon plays, expects to be proposed to by Warner, her Ken-type boyfriend, but he dumps her instead saying that since he has been accepted to Harvard Law School, he needs a serious-minded, prudent girlfriend that would be an asset to him in his career.

At first, Elle is devastated but then gets the idea to go to Harvard Law School, too, to impress Warner and to win him back. She studies and works hard and is accepted.

She is on her way to becoming a lawyer so that she can impress Warner and win him back and to then accept a marriage proposal from him—and, presumably, live happily ever after.

When she arrives at Harvard, things aren’t at all like what she imagined or expected. She is very different from the typical Harvard Law School student and she meets with all sorts of obstacles and setbacks, including being ridiculed and treated dismissively. But she still has hope that if she tries hard enough, she’ll win back Warner.

After a particularly humiliating and painful experience, she realizes that in Warner’s eyes, she’ll never be good enough.

This causes her to do a little soul-searching and, through a series of events, ends up reformulating her goals and dreams. She commits to becoming an excellent attorney with character, integrity, and compassion for her clients. She ends up graduating at the top of her class, accepting a position at one of the most prestigious law firms in Boston, and becomes engaged to a man who truly loves her.

This journey is what successful people experience as they work toward their dreams. They start out with a dream but then as they move toward it, they have to tweak it and even rework it. This is because dreams need to deepen and mature. The dream then evolves into one that is the person’s true calling.

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Your homework today is to know that it’s a good thing if you have to tweak and rework your dreams, and your reasons for wanting to achieve them. You’ve probably discovered new information and you’ve probably grown and developed as an individual. It’s normal and natural then that your dreams will deepen and mature as well.

Follow the direction they’re leading you. Take it one step at a time. Break the steps into small pieces, little parts, and tiny bits. Then choose a bit and move forward!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

It’s All In Your Mind

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The ability to control my experiences and have them result in happiness, prosperity and success lies in my own mind and my use of it.

~Ernest Holmes

 

Our biggest roadblock to our success is all in our minds. We have habitual ways of thinking about things that happen. WE are the ones that declare something good or bad, helpful or a problem. WE are the ones to make a mountain out of a molehill, to be drama queens, to be prickly pears about situations and other people.

WE are the ones that look at a blooming plant and declare it a beautiful flower or an ugly, nuisance weed.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. As stated in Sunday’s post, Making a Different Choice, we can decide to think another thought instead of our habitual ones—our go-to ones.

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Your homework today is to decide to think different thoughts and follow through with that decision. If you find your mind reverting back to the same old way of thinking, gently guide it to more positive, uplifting thoughts. If nothing else, think something different than what you usually think, even if it’s on the negative side of things.

This sounds crazy to advise you to think different negative thoughts but it’s a small step in the direction of getting your mind out of the rut that it’s in. You’ll shake up your mind and make it easier to think new, more positive thoughts.

Take it in baby steps and know that some days you’ll be more successful than others. Keep at it, though, and you’ll soon see progress.

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Crafting a soul-prospering life.