You can, Too!

You can do it.  You CAN live the life of your dreams.  No matter what shortcomings you have, no matter what things you’re lacking, no matter what issues you’re dealing with, no matter what limitations you think are holding you back, someone somewhere at some point in time was successful in spite of—and sometimes even because of—that very same thing that you have or don’t have.

It’s true.

Check it out!

Your homework for today is Googling successful people who have the lack/limitation/shortcoming/issue that you have that you think is responsible for holding you back.  You’ll find at least one person who is leading a successful, fulfilling, exciting life in spite of—or because of—that limitation.

For instance, if you think you’re too short to be successful, click here for a link to a list of successful short people—men and women 5’5” and shorter.

If you think you’re too old to be successful, click here for a link listing people who found success after the age of 50.

Now it’s your turn.  What limitation do you have that you think is insurmountable?  Google it and see who’s successful even though they, too, have that lack.

Post in the comments section below what you’ve found out.

Now, take that next step!!

I’m so proud of you!  Yay you!

Your Friend,


PS:  Three cheers for the Internet!

No Matter

It isn’t what a person is, or was, that matters; it’s what the person can be that’s important. ~paraphrase of a quote from the Hopalong Cassidy TV program

This quote reminds us that as we plan the upcoming week, remember to draw a line under everything in the past; do your best in this moment, and keep an eye to the future.  It doesn’t matter into which family you were born, what anyone things or says or does regarding your goals and dreams, or what you did or did not do in the past.  You are allowed to achieve your goals and dreams!

Your homework for today is to write down your plans for this coming week–things you must do as well as things you want to do.  Remember to include some steps on the path to your goals and dreams!  Be sure to break them into very small, easily managed pieces.

You can do this!  Go you!

In the comments section below, post about something fun that you’re planning to do this week (subtle hint to schedule in some fun-time for yourself)!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,


How Are You Doing?

We’re seven days into March; how are you doing?  Let’s take a look!

Your homework today is to make some quiet, alone-time for yourself.  Evaluate the steps you’ve taken this week.  Make a note of what needs tweaking—steps that need breaking into smaller pieces, additional information you may need, some way to hold yourself accountable, and the like.

Also, take a look at some of the homework assignments and re-do the ones that resonated with you.  Or, perhaps, do the ones you skipped over.

Most importantly, acknowledge the victories and triumphs that you had this week.  No matter how small or inconsequential they may seem, all movement in a forward direction is good and deserves recognition.


Post in the comments section how you’ll celebrate the victories you’ve had this week!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend



You’re going to have to make some changes in your habits and routines in order to reach your goals and dreams.  If the habits and routines you have now were capable of taking you to your goals and dreams, then you would have already achieved them.  But you aren’t there so something has to change and that something is your habits and routines.

Habits and routines are comfortable because they are predictable, we can do them on autopilot, they give us a feeling of control and stability when we’re stressed, and they help us fit in.

But, noticing you making changes can be disconcerting to your friends and family.  They’re used to you doing the same old things and behaving in predictable ways.  When you change things up, it can make them feel uncomfortable and anxious, especially if they see you making big changes.  And, their uneasiness and distress can make you feel guilty or angry.

The good news is that  you probably will not have to make huge changes and any changes you do make won’t have to be made all at once.  This means that you can make changes step-by-step, a little bit at a time.  Taking things slowly will give your friends and family—and you—a chance to get used to the new you.

Your homework for today is to think about your routines and habits in relation to your goals and dreams.  What are you doing now that’s counter-productive, unhelpful?  What do you need to change in order to achieve your goals and dreams?

Identify these and then break them into very small pieces.  Tiny bits will make it an easier and more comfortable transition for you into the new you.  Also, the process will be smoother and less disruptive for your friends and family.

Go for it!  You can do it!

Post in the comments about the small changes you’re making that, over time, will make a big difference.

I’m proud of you!

Your Friend,


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You try to do your best every day but occasionally you aren’t at peak performance.

When this happens, your body and/or your mind is telling you that it can’t go full-out today.  Forcing yourself will create frustration for you.  Instead, take a look at your plans for the day and see where you can give yourself some slack.

Do what you can to take the next step but sometimes you have to draw a line under it.  Tomorrow is another day and you can get a fresh start in the morning.

Your homework today is to take a moment to determine why you’re feeling below par.  Have you been getting enough sleep?  Have you been eating well—loading up on fruits, vegetables, and lean protein while laying off soda, chips, candy, and the like?  Have you been working all the time—do you need to kick back and relax?  Are you feeling discouraged because the steps on your path are too large—do you need to break them into smaller increments?  Are you overloaded and overwhelmed—can you delegate tasks or enlist help from co-workers, family, or friends?

Make tweaks to your schedule, diet, habits, and plans as needed.  Do something nice for yourself!

The second part of your homework is to do some Mirror Work.  Smile at yourself as you repeat the following pep statements:

All is well

I’m making great progress

I’m on track

I’m in the right place at the right time

I love you

Add other pep statements and power words that resonate with you.

Post in the comments section below some of your favorite pep statements.

You are AWESOME!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,



Perhaps well-meaning people around you are being “helpful” and pointing out pitfalls and dangers on the pathway to your goals and dreams.  Maybe the daily news reports of doom and disaster are getting to you and starting to make you feel helpless and hopeless.  And don’t forget about the people who seem to take pleasure in letting you know that you don’t have what it takes to make it.

Ack!  What are you supposed to do?!

The best thing is:  take a lesson from professional horse racing, namely the blinders horses wear.  Use this idea to protect yourself from the negative influences surrounding you.

Trainers use blinders so the horse won’t be distracted, sidetracked by other horses, and perhaps frightened by things they see in their peripheral vision.  The blinders help the horse focus on the track, keep moving forward, and to run their own race.

Do this same thing for yourself!

Your homework for today is to look at your daily life—the people you are in contact with, TV and radio programs, lyrics of the music you listen to, and the like—and put your blinders on.  Keep negative influences from burrowing into your mind and triggering unhelpful thought patterns!

Winning with Blinders web“Putting on your blinders” can be:  not participating in and walking away from gossip sessions at the water cooler at work; limiting your contact with negative co-workers and others; turning off negative TV and radio programs.  Blinders can also be taking positive steps such as choosing uplifting music and encouraging family members to speak of positive, hopeful, exciting events in each person’s day as you enjoy the family meal together.

The second part of your homework is to note the specific times and situations in which you’ll need blinders.  Thoroughbreds do not wear blinders all the time and neither should you.  Prepare for the specific situations, times, places, people, and the like, by having your blinders handy, i.e. knowing what you’ll do to protect yourself from the negativity around you.

And remember:  take the next step on your pathway to your goals and dreams!

You can do this!

In the comments section, post about how putting on the blinders helps you feel more confident, enthusiastic, and happy.

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,


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Sometimes we get confused on our journey because it looks like we’re off track.  To us, it seems like we’re moving sideways or in circles or—worse!—that we’re going backward.

Keep going!

As long as you are taking steps that seem to you like they are the best forward movement to make, then you are on the right track and doing the right thing.

It’s a false impression that you’re taking a circuitous route and it’s an illusion that you’re moving backward!

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Soon you’ll see that what seemed like the scenic route or what you thought was going backward was actually a shortcut.  It brought you to valuable places, people, resources, and the like, that you would have missed out on had your path gone the way you thought it should go.

Your homework for today is to shake off the confusion and take the next step!

You can do it, I know you can!

Post below about the happy surprises and serendipitous things that happened, or are happening, as you continue to move forward.

You’re awesome!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,


Crafting a deeply meaningful, soul-prospering life