There is an important thing to do before taking the first step. If you’ve started without doing this, no worries! You can do it now–or when it becomes necessary.
Get some cotton (imaginary cotton is just fine) and then:
Stuff your ears with it so that you can’t hear what other people say about you and your dreams and goals.
Most people are trying to be helpful and show their support for you, but sometimes it comes out wrong. They don’t intend to be hurtful or insulting but, without meaning to, their suggestions come across that way.
Some people in your life are naturally negative, even when they’re trying to be positive! No matter how perfect the thing, they’ll naturally find the flaw or the problem. And no matter how happy the occasion, they’ll find something that isn’t quite right. And no matter how well you’ve done something, they’ll find a reason why it isn’t good enough.
Then there are those few people who don’t like you and who don’t wish the best for you. They may even be openly hostile and venomous toward you.
The best way to deal with them is to not listen to what they say: plug your ears with cotton! As much as you can, avoid the negative and the venomous ones all together. If you have no choice, though, limit the time your time with them as much as possible.
Don’t try to justify yourself and what you’re doing, don’t try to explain yourself, and– above all–don’t try to prove them wrong. None of this will change their minds about you and what you’re doing. If you engage them in any way, chances are the whole situation will devolve into a complete mess. None of this will make you happy and it certainly won’t take you any closer to your dreams or goals
Engaging them isn’t worth it.
You have better things to do with your time. You can’t afford to indulge in having bad feelings and negative thoughts. Your goals and your dreams are too important, too valuable, to allow yourself to be derailed.
But, man oh man does that person–or those people–get under your skin!
What do you do about this? How do you get back on an even keel?
The very best thing you can do is to take the next step! You may be agitated and as a result only able to handle a little piece of a step; that’s okay. Do something–anything, no matter how small–that will move you forward.
You may be so agitated, though, that you can’t move forward, even the tiniest bit. In that case, do some self-soothing things such as talking to a person who believes in you, who always makes you feel good about yourself. You can read a book that uplifts you and never fails to put you into a positive frame of mind.
Take a moment to remember and think about the accomplishments you’ve had so far, not only with your dreams and goals but also the times when you helped someone. Perhaps you need to reach out now and help a neighbor or a friend.
You may need to spend time in nature–take a walk or work in the garden. Perhaps it’ll help to play with your kids or your pet.
Once you’ve re-centered, then take that step!
Your homework today is to write down things you can do that will make you feel better when Life or a person has got you down.
For extra credit, find someone you know who’s struggling or maybe doesn’t feel so great about themselves. Give them a pep talk. Tell them the things you admire about them. Remind them of what they’re good at. You’ll make their day–and your own, too!
You can do it! Yay you!
I’m so proud of you for turning around a negative situation. You rock! I knew you could do it!