How to Shut Up the Critics and Naysayers

Perhaps you find yourself in a situation where it seems everyone around you is criticizing your dream, saying “it can’t be done”.  Possibly people who are close to you, people you thought you could count on for support and encouragement, aren’t so sure about your dream.  Maybe some people are laughing at you and you find yourself the butt of jokes.

How do you shut up the critics, naysayers, and people who are ridiculing you?


Get busy!

Become so focused on, and immersed in, bringing your dream into reality that you don’t hear what others are saying—you lose track of them.

If you find yourself discouraged or stopped because of someone else’s opinion about what you’re doing, that tells me that YOU AREN’T BUSY ENOUGH WITH YOUR DREAMS!!  You’ve taken your focus away from your dreams and turned it toward other people’s opinions.


Your homework is to GET GOING!  Take the next steps!!!  Break them down into manageable and easily doable pieces and then GET BUSY!!

You can do this, I am sure of it!!

Post in the comments section how great it feels to dive into your dreams and to be working toward achieving them.

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,


Apple_pie_Pi_Day_-webPS  In honor of Pi Day today (the mathematical notation 3.14) have a piece of your favorite type of pie!


You Just Never Know

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“No one knows enough to be a pessimist” ~Earl Nightingale

This quote reminds us that no one has a crystal ball and no one can clearly and with certainty look into the future and know with 100% accurately what will happen.  No matter what anyone says, no one can tell the future.  This means that you can’t discount your dream until you see it through—investigate it completely and follow where it leads.  This also means that you really can’t let anyone else’s opinion of your idea stop you from pursuing it.

Even if they’re experts.

But you do know, even if you don’t have tangible proof.  You know it “in your bones”.

YOU are the one who hears the Still Small Voice inside of you.  YOU are the one who has the special vision that your dream gives to you.  Because of this, you see connections, possibilities, and opportunities that no one else can sense.  YOU are the one who has the special gifts, talents, and abilities that are needed to achieve your dream—it’s all part of the package that comes with it  (you wouldn’t have had the dream if you didn’t already possess the raw ingredients needed that enable you to achieve it).

There are many unknown factors involved in new undertakings that aren’t detected or anticipated before starting.  It isn’t until steps are taken that they’re revealed.  Naturally some of these factors create challenges that need to be solved but, oftentimes, other factors turn out to be catalysts that spur the project onward in ways that seem miraculous.

But no one really knows this until the first step is taken, and then the next, and then the one after that….

You MUST follow where your interest, enthusiasm, and gut instincts are leading you.  You must investigate, follow through.  You just don’t know—no one knows—if something will work or not until you roll up your sleeves, jump in there, and dig into it.

So don’t join the ranks of the pessimists and think that you can’t achieve your dream simply because there’s no proof that you can do it.  Get busy instead!  Become so engrossed in moving toward your goals and dreams that you no longer hear the naysayers.  Keep moving forward and eventually everyone else will see what you knew all along:  you CAN–and you did– achieve your dream!

Your homework today is to roll up your sleeves and get busy!  Take the next step—break it into microscopic pieces if that’s what it takes to make progress.  It doesn’t matter if the step is large or small; the important thing is to move forward.  So get going!!

You can do this, I know you can!  I believe in you!

Post in the comments section below links to articles on the Internet about inventions that are now part of the fabric of our everyday life but were, at first, laughed at by experts.  Here’s a link to get you started: The Experts Laughed

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,


Happy Birthday Earl Nightingale!

Today, Earl Nightingale (known as the Dean of Personal Development) would have turned 93.  This blog post is in tribute to him and the powerful influence he had on my life.

Earl Nightingale is my hero.  I “met” him in the early 1980’s during a difficult time in my life.  I was lost, confused, frightened, and felt isolated and alone.  I “met” Earl through an audio program that I’d borrowed from my local library (it was a collection of his well-known works).  The moment I turned it on, his gravel-y voice calmly delivering his wise message instantly soothed me.  It felt like he was tossing me a lifeline.  It seemed that he was taking me by the hand and gently pointing out the way, all the while letting me know that everything was okay, this situation was no big deal, and I would be just fine.

As I studied his messages and did my best to implement them, gradually I felt surer of myself and my place in this world.  Even though he’s been gone from this earthly plane for 25 years, he’s still inspiring me and, now, I hope you, too.


One of the outstanding character traits of Earl Nightingale was his curiosity.  His fascination with the world around him and his passion for passing along his discoveries was legendary.  He has inspired—and still is inspiring—many thousands of people to become better versions of themselves.

Sometimes it’s hard to be excited about our goals and dreams and to have confidence that we’ll achieve them.  We all know we must have at least a little bit of belief in our abilities and capabilities and a tiny modicum of enthusiasm for our goals and dreams, but we just can’t seem to muster any of it—not even the tiniest bit.  Perhaps it’s because we’re anxious or afraid, or possibly we’re confused and lost, or maybe we’re discouraged.  Whatever it is, the result is the same:  we aren’t moving forward and there seems to be no hope of forward movement in the near future.

If this is ringing true for you, it’s counter-productive and silly for me to tell you to:  Pep up! Get excited! Go team, go!  Rah, rah, rah!  Instead, I encourage you to emulate Earl Nightingale and look at your situation with curiosity.

Curiosity is neutral.  It’s a state of no expectations and it’s an openness to any experience and any outcome.

Approach your situation as if you’re a scientist intent upon observing why a certain thing behaves the way it does.  Or, perhaps have the attitude that you’re an explorer whose task is to report all that you’re experiencing to the people back home.  Or maybe you can approach your situation as an athlete learning a new technique, observing and noting how it feels and how best to assimilate it into your training routine.

In all of these scenarios you’re keenly aware of what you’re seeing, hearing, and sensing, and making note of it all.  Some aspect of what you’re observing may particularly intrigue you.  As you delve into it, you’re led to the next step, and the next….  Soon you’ll discover that you’re full of energy and enthusiasm for your goals and dreams.

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Your homework today is to have the attitude of curiosity.  Look objectively at the pathway to your goals and be curious about it.  Ask yourself the questions of who, what, when, where, why, and how.  Investigate the answers and then ask the questions again.  Keep asking and keep following where the answers lead you.  You may find yourself going in a whole new direction, one you’ve never considered before.  And it just might be the direction that leads you to the breakthrough that will make all the difference.

Post in the comments section below how curiosity—switching into neutral—has helped you move forward.

You are absolutely AWESOME for forging ahead—because curiosity is a valuable and essential technique to help you move forward!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,


Never Give Up!

“Never give up; never ever give up.”

~attributed to Winston Churchill

Your homework for today is to not give up.  Instead, take the next step.  Break it into very small pieces if you need to, but take the next step!

Once you take the next step (no matter how small) then post in the comments section “I did it!”

I know you can do this!

I’m so proud of you!  Woo Hoo for YOU!

Your Friend,


Character, Integrity, heroism

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“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge.”  Dr. Martin Luther King.

As we move toward our dreams and goals, we will meet challenges, obstacles, and setbacks.  In order to be successful, we know we have to meet and overcome them.  But they’re so big and seem so hard.  Quickly we become intimidated and overwhelmed.  The next thing we know, we’ve given up—stopped making forward progress.

We think meeting these tests means we need to sound a noisy charge, stand heroically tall, have superhuman character and integrity…and we think we know that we don’t have any of these traits and characteristics.  Then those negative recordings in our mind start saying “I can’t” or “I don’t have what it takes to be successful”.

While big, showy efforts can work—and they certainly garner a lot of attention—what we don’t realize is this is not what true character, integrity, and heroism is.  True character, integrity, and heroism is measured by breaking steps into teeny tiny pieces that work for us—are doable in our busy, over-committed lives.  True character, integrity, and heroism is measured by regularly taking the next step, no matter how small and seemingly inconsequential. True character, integrity, and heroism is measured by following through and sticking with it and trying and tweaking and trying again and again for as long as it takes.  It’s in these small, quiet actions that true strength, true honor, and true courage are formed.  This is what Dr. King is talking about!

Your homework for today is to turn your focus to an obstacle that you think is blocking your next step.  Actually, the obstacle is the next step!  Don’t shy away from it!  Instead, break it into microscopically small pieces if you have to.  Then choose one of the pieces that to you seems so easy you could do it in a snap.  Then do that little piece!  It doesn’t matter how small it is.  It doesn’t matter that it seems inconsequential.  And it really doesn’t matter if your friend, family member, or a stranger thinks you’re being silly for being able to handle only that tiny little piece.  This is about you and your journey.  You’re allowed to take steps in as small or as large of a piece as suits you and serves you best.

You can do it!  Go you!

Post in the comments section about how empowering it is to take a step toward your goals and dreams.

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,


You can, Too!

You can do it.  You CAN live the life of your dreams.  No matter what shortcomings you have, no matter what things you’re lacking, no matter what issues you’re dealing with, no matter what limitations you think are holding you back, someone somewhere at some point in time was successful in spite of—and sometimes even because of—that very same thing that you have or don’t have.

It’s true.

Check it out!

Your homework for today is Googling successful people who have the lack/limitation/shortcoming/issue that you have that you think is responsible for holding you back.  You’ll find at least one person who is leading a successful, fulfilling, exciting life in spite of—or because of—that limitation.

For instance, if you think you’re too short to be successful, click here for a link to a list of successful short people—men and women 5’5” and shorter.

If you think you’re too old to be successful, click here for a link listing people who found success after the age of 50.

Now it’s your turn.  What limitation do you have that you think is insurmountable?  Google it and see who’s successful even though they, too, have that lack.

Post in the comments section below what you’ve found out.

Now, take that next step!!

I’m so proud of you!  Yay you!

Your Friend,


PS:  Three cheers for the Internet!

No Matter

It isn’t what a person is, or was, that matters; it’s what the person can be that’s important. ~paraphrase of a quote from the Hopalong Cassidy TV program

This quote reminds us that as we plan the upcoming week, remember to draw a line under everything in the past; do your best in this moment, and keep an eye to the future.  It doesn’t matter into which family you were born, what anyone things or says or does regarding your goals and dreams, or what you did or did not do in the past.  You are allowed to achieve your goals and dreams!

Your homework for today is to write down your plans for this coming week–things you must do as well as things you want to do.  Remember to include some steps on the path to your goals and dreams!  Be sure to break them into very small, easily managed pieces.

You can do this!  Go you!

In the comments section below, post about something fun that you’re planning to do this week (subtle hint to schedule in some fun-time for yourself)!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,


Crafting a soul-prospering life.