Counteract the Effects of Being Bullied Through Increasing Endorphins

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As we head into the new week, some of us may be worried about how to prepare ourselves for the bully in our workplaces. No matter how much we arrange our schedules to limit our contact with them, sometimes they seem like guided missiles locked onto us intent upon maximum damage and destruction. That statement may seem overly dramatic but when in day-to-day proximity of a bully, their tactics can feel like they’re aiming for total annihilation.

Naturally we should stand up for ourselves as best as we can, but don’t bother trying to change their mind about us and we shouldn’t think that we can show/prove that we’re capable, competent, and worthy of their respect. Their minds are closed and locked against us, so let’s not waste our time.

Instead, let’s concentrate on filling ourselves with endorphins. Our positive thoughts about ourselves and about our happiness, contentedness, and fulfillment from other aspects of our lives are our most potent weapons to counteract a bully’s attack.

Here are some ways to flood ourselves with endorphins in the midst of the workplace:

~in our mind, repeating positive statements about ourselves: I am capable; I am competent; I am doing good work, I am helpful to others; I am cheerful,; I am creative…

~pictures of our loved ones: recreate the happy feelings we had when the picture was taken…

~quietly listening to uplifting music…

~quietly listening to inspiring messages…

~connecting with nature: taking a short walk during the lunch hour, closely observing a small bouquet of flowers we give ourselves to have on our desk, gazing out the window for a few moments and watching the weather, the clouds, the trees swaying in the breeze, birds and wildlife moving around…

~reading poems or essays that create feelings of hope within us…

~reading a short passage from sacred writings…

These techniques are a few ways to remind ourselves that we are much more that our work. We have way more potential and opportunity that just what’s available through work. This can keep us hopeful and looking forward to the Goodness that’s awaiting us in the future!

The more we do these and other techniques to strengthen ourselves within, the less affected we’ll be by the bully’s attacks.

We can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

A Mid-Week Pep Rally!

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I don’t know about you, but oftentimes I need a little boost mid-way through the week. Here are eight pep statements that I’ve used over the years:

This setback is actually a set-up for something fantastic for me

As I keep taking steps, magic and miracles are being released to help me

I have what it takes

I’m smart, I’m strong, I’m creative, I’m tough, I’m inventive, I’m resilient

My breakthrough is just around the corner

I can do this and I AM doing this

All is well

This too shall pass

 

Feel free to tweak any of the pep statements so that they’ll resonate more powerfully for you.

I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

One with Source

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As we look ahead to the upcoming week, we may be nervous about the difficulties we’ll be facing. This can leave us feeling unsure of ourselves and that we’re on shaky ground. This can leave us vulnerable to others’ opinions and judgments about us: that we’re wrong or not right, that we don’t have what it takes, that who we are is not good enough.

None of this is true!

But when these false statements are getting to each of us, SAY THESE STATEMENTS THAT ARE THE TRUTH ABOUT EACH OF US:

I am One with Source

I am blessed

I am sanctified

I am anointed

I am consecrated

I am favored

I am holy

I am sacred

I am redeemed

I am forgiven

I cherish myself because I am One with Source who infuses and envelops me with Mercy

I cherish myself because I am One with Source who infuses and envelops me with Grace

I honor myself because I am One with Source who reveres me

I honor myself because I am One with Source who venerates me

Source has ordained me to be who I am and has declared me to be Good

Source has appointed me to be me and has proclaimed that I am Holy

Source has decreed that I am Sanctified

Source is pleased with me

Source is delighted with me

I am One with Source

 

Say these statements to yourself as often as you need to this week. Feel free to tweak them so they resonate more deeply with you.

I am with you.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Thank You Friends and Loved Ones!

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As we craft soul-prospering lives for ourselves, we can go through challenging times, especially if we’re making seemingly drastic shifts and big changes. It can be very frightening to be out of our comfort zone. We can feel very alone and isolated.

Friends and loved ones to the rescue!

They hold our hand when we need it. They encourage us when we need a boost. They pick us up and dust us off when we fall. They cheer for us and celebrate us even when there seems to be no finish line in sight.

They like us and love us just the way we are.

Each one of our friends and loved ones adds a little something unique and special to our lives that without it, our lives would be so very different and diminished.

Thank you friends and loved ones! You ROCK!!!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

The Number 1 Ingredient of a Soul-Prospering Life

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The Number 1 ingredient for a soul-prospering life is self-respect. It’s based on integrity and character. All of these are the foundational bedrock of true self-love. Out of this grows unshakable inner peace. The following poem by Edgar A. Guest portrays this beautifully:

Myself

by Edgar A. Guest

I have to live with myself and so

I want to be fit for myself to know.

I want to be able as days go by,

always to look myself straight in the eye;

I don’t want to stand with the setting sun

and hate myself for the things I have done.

I don’t want to keep on a closet shelf

a lot of secrets about myself

and fool myself as I come and go

into thinking no one else will ever know

the kind of person I really am,

I don’t want to dress up myself in sham.

I want to go out with my head erect

I want to deserve all men’s respect;

but here in the struggle for fame and wealth

I want to be able to like myself.

I don’t want to look at myself and know 

I am bluster and bluff and empty show.

I never can hide myself from me;

I see what others may never see;

I know what others may never know,

I never can fool myself and so,

whatever happens I want to be

self respecting and conscience free.

 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Kindness Matters

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We’re half way through the work week and it may have been a brutal one so far. Or up to now, the work week might be mind-numbingly, soul-crushingly boring! Whatever the case, we may need something to lift our spirits so we can power through the rest of the week. Here are two short articles that prove kindess matters. Even the smallest gestures that we don’t even think twice about can make all the difference to someone else.

You may have seen this article on the Internet about the man in his 80’s who bought a VCR on eBay, which enabled him to take a stroll down memory lane. His thank you note to the seller went viral. Click here to view it.

This article from the Internet gathers some of the responses when a Twitter user issued a call for stories of strangers’ random acts of kindness that had a big impact on them. Click here to view it.

I hope these lifted your spirits. These give us hope because they show that most people have generous hearts and that they want to be helpful and do good.

Yay for people reaching out a helping hand!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

3 Ways to Make Tangible The Divine’s Anointing

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Previously we talked about how Source has anointed and consecrated us, and that we are holy. Even though we know this, sometimes the concept is nebulous and, therefore, doesn’t do much for us. Today and this week let’s make that more than just a nice thought. Let’s make that tangible so that we can bring that anointing and consecration into our lives and make it a real thing that we can feel and experience. Let’s make it something that we can truly know and believe for ourselves.

Here are three techniques that I use to help myself. First, though, let me add a disclaimer: I don’t always remember to do these things for myself. Sometimes life distractions get in the way and discombobulate me so I forget about these techniques—I’m not perfect! 🙂

First Technique:

As I’m washing up in the morning, instead of rushing through it or doing it mindlessly, when I’m in the shower, I’ll think about the water. I’ll tune into it running down over my head, my face, my shoulders, my arms, my body, my legs, and my feet. I imagine that the water is Source anointing and consecrating me. The water is not only washing away the earthly dirt, but it’s washing away the residue of yesterday and the unhelpful stuff I may be clinging to.

Then I think about the shower water flowing over me on a deeper level, that it’s cleaning and clearing blockages and sticking points and aligning me to the Divine. I think and say, “Every atom, every molecule, every structure, every cell, every tissue, every organ, every system, and all that is me is alight, alive, aglow, and aligned with Divine Source. I am resonating and vibrating at Divine Source’s frequency. I am aligned with all that is Good, all that is Holy, and all that is Divine.”

I think about this in an experiential way, meaning that I tune into my body as I am thinking and saying these statements and feel where they are resonating in my body. I tune in and describe what it feels like and the emotion it’s eliciting. I anchor those feelings and emotions so that as I go through my day and if/when I start to become discombobulated in some way, I can tune back in and remember Source’s anointing so I can focus and re-center on that.

Second Technique:

Another technique is to eat intuitively. When at the grocery store, instead of just grabbing this ‘n that to throw together into something somewhat edible, I’ll pause and think about each item first. I’ll hold the item near my heart chakra and tune in to how it’s making me feel, what emotions it’s bringing out.

For instance if I’m using this technique while buying bell peppers, I’ll hold one in my hand and ask myself how this makes me feel. I’ll tune into my thoughts, the feelings in my body, and the emotions I’m experiencing. I might think, “I like the green bell pepper but wow, those red peppers and the orange ones and those bright yellow ones! Holy moly, I love those colors!” In that case, I’ll choose the red, orange, and yellow peppers instead.

Do this for all the food you choose on that shopping trip, knowing that this is your inner wisdom guiding you, which is connected to the Divine. Actually, it’s Divine speaking to you through your inner wisdom. And don’t worry if you don’t really feel anything or you’re not sure. You really can’t make a wrong choice. It might take a few tries over time to be able to feel the little nudges and the small quiet voice of your inner wisdom.

Also, don’t worry if you find yourself in the cookies section or the chip section and you really, really, really want to buy some. Give yourself permission to buy one package. When you feel that you need to eat these things, especially if it’s a pressing need, go ahead and eat them, but try to be do it in moderation. As you’re eating, ask yourself, “Why do I feel I need this? What problem am I trying to solve? What lack am I trying to fulfill?” Tune into your body and where you’re feeling sensations and what emotions are coming up. Once you have some of these answers you can then think about solving them in a healthier way—solving them without reaching for cookies or ice cream or chips and dip.

Third Technique:

Another technique I use is listening to uplifting messages and sounds. Depending on what I think I need at that moment or that day—again, it’s a matter of tuning into my inner wisdom—I go to YouTube and I find audios/videos such as birds chirping, or Gregorian chants. Other days it’s wind chimes with nature sounds, or Tibetan singing bowls, or maybe inspiring messages. Other times it’s Ella Fitzgerald that “hits the spot” for me! I turn the volume very low if I’m at work so as not to disturb my colleagues.

These are three techniques that help me keep myself centered on the Truth about me which is I’m a child of the universe no less than the trees and the Stars and I have a right to be here. This is True about you, too. And the other truth about me—and you—is that I am anointed, I am consecrated, I am holy.


Feel free to tweak these techniques as needed to make them resonate more deeply for you. In the comments section let me know how they work for you. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Crafting a soul-prospering life.