Bull’s Eye!

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Today is the first full day of spring (first full day of autumn for our friends in the southern hemisphere).  There’s no better way to celebrate the change of season than to review the week.

You can’t hit something that you aren’t aiming at!

Everyone aims at things—targets, they’re usually called.  When we think of targets, we think of bulls’ eyes and those silhouettes of people-targets at gun ranges.  But, consider this:  every time you start out to do something, you have a target—a goal—in mind.

For instance, suppose you’re planning stop at the grocery store to pick up a few things for dinner.  That’s a goal, a target.  Eventually, you pull into your favorite store’s parking lot because that was your target, your goal.  You didn’t wind up at a different grocery store or at the playground or some other place because you weren’t aiming at them—they weren’t your goal.  Your aim was to get to your favorite grocery store.  And you achieved it.  The proof that you were successful was that you served a delicious dinner to your family!

How did you know you were on track and that you would reach the store?  In reality, this process is automatic so you didn’t notice that your mind was busy steering the car, regulating the speed, stopping at traffic signals; your eyes were looking for the familiar landmarks along the way telling you where to turn and how much farther you had to go.  And, perhaps your eyes were noticing differences in the route and sending signals to your brain to recalibrate the way.

And, sure enough, soon you pull into the parking lot!

Same with our dreams.  We need markers along the way to let us know we’re making progress.  And, we need to be aware of them so we can make sure we’re going in the right direction and we can acknowledge our achievements .

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Your homework today is to review what you did this week toward achieving your goals and dreams.  What needs tweaking?  What steps need to be broken down smaller?  What abilities need strengthening and polishing?  What skills do you need to acquire?

The second part of your homework is to celebrate your achievements!  What went right?  What did you do well?  What are you particularly proud of?  What would you like to do again and again?  What new thing did you discover about yourself?  What happy surprises and serendipitous events did you experience this week?

You done good, Kid!  I knew you could do it!!

Post in the comments section about what you’re doing to celebrate yourself this week—we want to celebrate with you!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,

Lauren

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“I Like You Just the Way You Are.” ~Mr. Rogers

 

This post was updated on 12/4/17:

TOP POST #14: “I LIKE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.” ~MR. ROGERS

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“I like you just the way you are.” ~Mr. Rogers

Happy Birthday, Mr. Rogers!  Today would have been his 86th birthday.

One of the most memorable statements Mr. Rogers would often say is “I like you just the way you are.”  What a relief to have someone say that to you!  What a gracious gift saying it to someone else—even if you don’t particularly like the person.

That last sentence sounds contradictory but think about this:  Most of us have struggles and we’re sometimes amazed to have made it through the day.   Most people are buried under piles of “you should, you ought to, and you’d better”.    It could be that we aren’t seeing the real person so we don’t really know if it’s them we don’t like or the way the pressure is twisting them that we don’t like.

Also consider this:  There are different levels of ‘like’ ranging from the kind of like that’s a common respect of all living things to the type of like that’s deep admiration, bordering on love.  So, when you say to a person, “I like you just the way you are”, it’s okay to intend it in a respectful way rather than meaning you’d like to be the person’s best friend.

More importantly, though, think about what it could do for the other person to hear someone say “I like you just the way you are”.  For a moment, they can let go of their burdens and cares; they can just be—maybe even take a breath, something they may not have done in a long while.  You saying “I like you just the way you are” can be a healing touch to a place inside them that’s been hurt too long.

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Saying “I like you just the way you are” can have magical and miraculous results.

Your homework today is to join the many others’ in honoring Mr. Rogers’ birthday by putting on a sweater.  Be a good neighbor to someone by saying “I like you just the way you are”.  The second part of your homework is to go to your mirror, look deep into your eyes, and say to yourself “I like you just the way you are”.  Give yourself a big smile when you say it!

I LIKE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!!  I think you’re awesome!

Your Friend,

Lauren

Of Course Not!

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Sometimes we don’t move forward because we don’t know—we don’t have the answers for things that might happen down the road.  We think we must have all our ducks in a row—we must have all the solutions before we start, right?

Of course not!

Of course you don’t have all the answers you’ll need on the pathway to your goals and dreams.  Of course you won’t know everything about everything.

How could you possibly?

You don’t have the answers and your ducks are in a crooked row because you don’t have enough information.  And you can’t get the information until you take the next step!

The good news is that you don’t need to know everything right now!  That’s the beauty of taking it one step at a time, moving forward bit-by-bit:  you have time to look around and notice things.  With each step, each bit of forward movement, you have a slightly different perspective.  You’ll discover new things that you weren’t able to perceive before or, perhaps, notice a different aspect of something familiar that you thought you knew well.  This will give you additional information that helps you take the next step.  And when you take that next step, another new thing or new aspect is revealed giving even more information.  As you repeat this process, eventually you will have all the answers you need in order to successfully travel the pathway to your goals and dreams.

You won’t find the solutions or the answers until you take the next step, then the one after that, and the one after that….

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So the next time the voice inside your head—or a well-meaning friend or family member—asks you if you know all the answers, you can say “Of course not!” then merrily go on your way taking the next step!

Your homework is to take the next step knowing that it will give you information that you need right now.  Break the step into as small of a piece as you need—one that is comfortable and doable for you. Move forward!

You can do it, I’m sure of it!

Post in the comments section the new things you’re finding as you take the next step, whether it’s a brand new discovery or just a little different shading of something you thought you already knew.

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,

Lauren

The Right Stuff

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We humans are an imaginative, industrious, inventive, ingenious lot.  Wherever there has been lack, limitation, hardship, blocks, challenges, and the like, humans have rolled up their sleeves and gotten to work figuring it out—figuring a way over, under, around, through.

And we humans have succeeded.

We’ve met and surpassed all the times when it seemed that there was absolutely-no-way-on-this-green-earth-that-there-is-a-solution-to-this-problem.  And all the times when the experts said “This problem is just too big and too knotty.  We’re going down!”  Someone somewhere wasn’t satisfied with that answer, wasn’t convinced it was true.  And, sure enough, eventually someone figured it out.

You are made of this same strong, never-say-die stock because you are the culmination of all that have gone before you.

You have the blood of a long line of victors and champions running through your veins.  Coded into your DNA are all the accomplishments, all the successes, and all the magnificent feats of your predecessors—not only of your family but of the whole human race.

You, too, can meet your challenges and you, too, can figure it out.

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Just as I have faith in my fellow human beings and I believe we’ll figure it out, I also have faith in you; I believe you, too, will figure it out.  I know that whatever it is that you need to figure out, you’ll do it.  I believe it; I know it!

Your homework today is to go for it!  Get busy!  Take that next step!  Break it into small, microscopic pieces if you need to—just take the next step!

You can do it, I know you can.  I believe in you!

In the comments section, post your victories today—we want to celebrate with you!  Remember: no accomplishment is too small to be applauded.

I’m so very proud of you!

Your Friend,

Lauren

Attitude Determines Altitude

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“Your attitude determines your altitude” ~Earl Nightingale

What thoughts are in your mind when you wake up in the morning?  These will set the tone of your day.  It’s impossible to think negatively but yet be cheerful, optimistic, and enthusiastic all day long.  Of course, through focused thought and willpower, for a short while you can manage it but for anything longer than a few minutes, it can’t be done.  Something will give way and it’s usually the positive thought that’s crushed.

Whether it’s because humans have a natural propensity for the negative (nature) or if we’ve been conditioned by Madison Avenue or enculturated by our times (nurture), negative thoughts tend to overwhelm the positive thoughts in our minds.  This is why you have to be vigilant and watch the thoughts you think and make sure they are the highest and best thoughts you can manage at that moment.

Your homework today is to start your day with mirror work.  As you comb your hair, brush your teeth, and get ready for the day, get your mind ready as well.  Look in the mirror and say:

Things are going my way;

I am rockin’ this day!

WooHoo!

I’m looking good;

Just as I should!

WooHoo!

Have fun with this and make up your own rhymes.  And don’t forget to dance and hop around!  You’re in the bathroom, after all, and who’s going to see?!

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The second part of your homework is to choose some pep words or phrases and carry them with you either jotted on a piece of paper or as a notation in your phone.  Keep your attitude flying high by referring to these pep-er up-ers frequently throughout the day—your own personal Pep Rally!

You can do this, I know you can!

In the comments section, post the pep words or phrases you’re using today.

I’m so proud of you.  You are awesome for taking steps each day!

Your Friend,

Lauren

Pep Words and Phrases

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Have you made a list of words that pep you up and phrases that motivate you and keep you perking along?

Here are some quotes to inspire you to take action now:

“Do it now!” ~ W. Clement Stone

“Get ‘er done!” ~ Larry the Cable Guy

“Whatever you want to do, do it now.  There are only so many tomorrows.”  ~Pope Paul VI

“Life is not lost by dying; life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day, in all the thousand small uncaring ways.” ~Stephen Vincent Benet

Here are a few cheers to use:

I got {clap at the same time you say “got”} the spirit, {clap} I’m hot, {clap} I can’t be {clap at the same time you say “be”} stopped!

Go (insert your name here), go! {clap}   OR   Go {clap when you say your name}, go! {clap}

Yes I can! {clap with each word}

Repeat these cheers several times each and enjoy how your energy and enthusiasm soars!

Your homework today is to make a list of pep words and phrases.  If you already have one, then add some new words and phrases to it.  Keep this list handy so you can refer to it during the week.  Also, pull out a word or phrase that sticks with you and is meaningful.  Post this where you can see it every day.  Refer to it often.

The second part of your homework is to stand in front of your mirror and look deep into your own eyes and say your pep words and phrases.  Smile when you say them, be enthusiastic.  Do this every day, even several times during the day.

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You can do this!  You rock!!

Post in the comments section below some of the pep words and phrases that are your favorites.

You’re fantastic!  I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,

Lauren

Inspect What You Expect

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“Inspect what you expect.”  ~Napoleon Hill

Napoleon Hill was the author of Think and Grow Rich, one of the most important books in the Success and Achievement industry.  Hill spent twenty years researching why some people were successful and others weren’t—was it a matter of luck or were there particular skills and habits that controlled whether or not a person achieved his or her dreams?  He discovered that people can learn to be successful; success is like any other skill that, through applied study and practice, people can become good at it.

One of the habits Napoleon Hill discovered that all successful people had in common was that they regularly evaluated where they stood along the path to their dreams.  They assessed the things they were doing well and noted what needed improvement.  Hill found that successful people patted themselves on their backs for their successes and the progress they were making, and he found they also came up with a systematic course of action designed to strengthen their weaknesses.

It’s been a week since our last review session.  We have an opportunity to take a page out of every successful person’s book and reflect on how far we’ve come.

Your homework today is to carve out some quiet, alone-time for this review—time and space for thinking and contemplating.  Note your successes and the progress you made this week.  It doesn’t matter if you have “only” small successes and “only” microscopic progress.  The point is you’re moving in the right direction!  Congratulate yourself for this.  It’s awesome!

Observe areas that need strengthening.  Make a few notes about what can be done to improve.  Break the ideas into small steps and even smaller pieces that you can easily do.

Next, look at the upcoming week.  What steps will you commit to accomplishing?  When will you do them—do you have to shift things around; can you delegate some tasks; can you ask for help on other tasks to make them go quicker?  Do you need to break the steps into smaller pieces that fit easier into your schedule?

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Make sure you honor your successes and progress!  Post in the comments below what you’re doing to celebrate.

You’re making fantastic progress!  I’m so proud of you!

You’re Friend,

Lauren

PS  For extra credit go to your local library and borrow a copy of Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.

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