Run Your Own Race

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We all have our own races to run that are on pathways purposely and exclusively designed for each one of us.  Sometimes our path intersects with another person’s.  Our path might parallel someone else’s, and be so close that the paths may seem to be one in the same.  There are slight enough differences, though, that makes each path unique to each particular person.

Your path is perfect for you.  If you were on someone else’s path, you’d fall flat on your face.  You’d struggle, be out of step, and off kilter.  It would not be comfortable or fun at all.  That’s because you are not designed for the other person’s path and the other person’s path is not designed for you.

It would be the same if someone else tried to run on your path.  They, too, would fall flat on their face.  In spite of their talents, skills, and intelligence, and no matter how successful they already are, they would be out of their league and over their head on your path.  That’s because they are not designed for your path and your path is not designed for them.

Competing in a race and on a path you were never designed for is a sure recipe for disaster, heartache, and spectacular failure.

So, stop wishing you were on someone else’s path running their race.  Stop comparing your differences and instead celebrate them.  They are the very reason you are going to achieve your dreams!  No matter how seemingly small or apparently insignificant, your path—your race—and the talents, skills, and intelligence you have are exactly what’s going to help you achieve your dreams.

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Your homework today is to tune your ear to your Still Small Voice inside.  Focus your attention on your talents, skills, and intelligence.  Do what you can to move toward your dreams.  Take the next step!

You can do it, I am absolutely sure of it!  I believe in you!

Post about how great you feel on your own path running your own race.  Yippee!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,

Lauren

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The Great Law

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The Law of Success and the Law of Cause and Effect are one and the same.  This is neatly summed up in the following quote:

”The Great Law briefly and simply stated is that if you think in negative terms you will get negative results. If you think in positive terms you will achieve positive results. That is a simple fact which is the basis of an astonishing law of prosperity and success.  In three words:   Believe and Succeed.”  ~Dr. Norman Vincent Peale (1898-1993)

Believe in the Still Small Voice inside you that urges you on.  Believe that within you are all the raw materials you’ll need to achieve your goals and dreams.

Shake off disappointment and negative thoughts.  Let go of resentments and frustrations.

Pull yourself up.  Stand straight and tall.  Throw your shoulders back.  You have what it takes—you can achieve your dreams!

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Your homework for today is to go to your mirror and look into your eyes.  Smile at yourself and stand tall.  With great energy and enthusiasm tell yourself:

I can do it!

I have what it takes!

I am approved and authorized to go for my dreams.

Yes I can!

Repeat these statements first thing in the morning and right before you go to bed.  Also, repeat them throughout the day.  And, by all means, come up with your own pep phrases and use them frequently each day.

Post in the comments section any phrases you’ve made for yourself that you’d like to share with us.

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,

Lauren

Antidote for a Bad Day

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How many times have you had a bad day?  More importantly, how many times has that bad day affected the several days following it?  How long did you stay frustrated, angry, disappointed, negative, lethargic, and/or unmotivated?

Those were hours and days that you did not spend moving toward your goals and dreams.

Ralph Waldo Emerson, one of the leaders of the Transcendentalist Movement in the mid-19th century, had something to say about this:

Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.

He’s encouraging us to let it go.  What’s done is done.  We can’t go back to the past to change it and our worrying, anger, despondency, lack of motivation, and the like, is not going to change what happened.  Learn what you can from it; write down action steps you can take to improve, and resolve to follow through with it.  Then draw a line under it and call it a day.  Let it go.

Get a good night’s sleep then wake up in the morning with the promise to yourself that today will be a better day.  Expect it!  If your mind tries to remind you of the past, firmly turn your attention to something positive about the moment you are in right now.  Perhaps you hear birds singing or maybe the aroma of fresh-brewed coffee is in the air.  Keep your focus on the positive and on moving forward!

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Your homework is to repeat pep words to yourself that make you feel energized when you say them.  Here are a few to get you started:  zest, zip, vibrant, pizzazz, sizzle, gusto.  Don’t forget to look through your thesaurus for new pep words.  Keep these handy throughout the day and repeat them to yourself as needed.  Then, take the next step!  No matter how small the increment, move forward toward your goals and dreams.

You can do it!

Post in the comments section some of your favorite pep words.

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,

Lauren

Bull’s Eye!

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Today is the first full day of spring (first full day of autumn for our friends in the southern hemisphere).  There’s no better way to celebrate the change of season than to review the week.

You can’t hit something that you aren’t aiming at!

Everyone aims at things—targets, they’re usually called.  When we think of targets, we think of bulls’ eyes and those silhouettes of people-targets at gun ranges.  But, consider this:  every time you start out to do something, you have a target—a goal—in mind.

For instance, suppose you’re planning stop at the grocery store to pick up a few things for dinner.  That’s a goal, a target.  Eventually, you pull into your favorite store’s parking lot because that was your target, your goal.  You didn’t wind up at a different grocery store or at the playground or some other place because you weren’t aiming at them—they weren’t your goal.  Your aim was to get to your favorite grocery store.  And you achieved it.  The proof that you were successful was that you served a delicious dinner to your family!

How did you know you were on track and that you would reach the store?  In reality, this process is automatic so you didn’t notice that your mind was busy steering the car, regulating the speed, stopping at traffic signals; your eyes were looking for the familiar landmarks along the way telling you where to turn and how much farther you had to go.  And, perhaps your eyes were noticing differences in the route and sending signals to your brain to recalibrate the way.

And, sure enough, soon you pull into the parking lot!

Same with our dreams.  We need markers along the way to let us know we’re making progress.  And, we need to be aware of them so we can make sure we’re going in the right direction and we can acknowledge our achievements .

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Your homework today is to review what you did this week toward achieving your goals and dreams.  What needs tweaking?  What steps need to be broken down smaller?  What abilities need strengthening and polishing?  What skills do you need to acquire?

The second part of your homework is to celebrate your achievements!  What went right?  What did you do well?  What are you particularly proud of?  What would you like to do again and again?  What new thing did you discover about yourself?  What happy surprises and serendipitous events did you experience this week?

You done good, Kid!  I knew you could do it!!

Post in the comments section about what you’re doing to celebrate yourself this week—we want to celebrate with you!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,

Lauren

“I Like You Just the Way You Are.” ~Mr. Rogers

 

This post was updated on 12/4/17:

TOP POST #14: “I LIKE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.” ~MR. ROGERS

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“I like you just the way you are.” ~Mr. Rogers

Happy Birthday, Mr. Rogers!  Today would have been his 86th birthday.

One of the most memorable statements Mr. Rogers would often say is “I like you just the way you are.”  What a relief to have someone say that to you!  What a gracious gift saying it to someone else—even if you don’t particularly like the person.

That last sentence sounds contradictory but think about this:  Most of us have struggles and we’re sometimes amazed to have made it through the day.   Most people are buried under piles of “you should, you ought to, and you’d better”.    It could be that we aren’t seeing the real person so we don’t really know if it’s them we don’t like or the way the pressure is twisting them that we don’t like.

Also consider this:  There are different levels of ‘like’ ranging from the kind of like that’s a common respect of all living things to the type of like that’s deep admiration, bordering on love.  So, when you say to a person, “I like you just the way you are”, it’s okay to intend it in a respectful way rather than meaning you’d like to be the person’s best friend.

More importantly, though, think about what it could do for the other person to hear someone say “I like you just the way you are”.  For a moment, they can let go of their burdens and cares; they can just be—maybe even take a breath, something they may not have done in a long while.  You saying “I like you just the way you are” can be a healing touch to a place inside them that’s been hurt too long.

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Saying “I like you just the way you are” can have magical and miraculous results.

Your homework today is to join the many others’ in honoring Mr. Rogers’ birthday by putting on a sweater.  Be a good neighbor to someone by saying “I like you just the way you are”.  The second part of your homework is to go to your mirror, look deep into your eyes, and say to yourself “I like you just the way you are”.  Give yourself a big smile when you say it!

I LIKE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!!  I think you’re awesome!

Your Friend,

Lauren

Of Course Not!

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Sometimes we don’t move forward because we don’t know—we don’t have the answers for things that might happen down the road.  We think we must have all our ducks in a row—we must have all the solutions before we start, right?

Of course not!

Of course you don’t have all the answers you’ll need on the pathway to your goals and dreams.  Of course you won’t know everything about everything.

How could you possibly?

You don’t have the answers and your ducks are in a crooked row because you don’t have enough information.  And you can’t get the information until you take the next step!

The good news is that you don’t need to know everything right now!  That’s the beauty of taking it one step at a time, moving forward bit-by-bit:  you have time to look around and notice things.  With each step, each bit of forward movement, you have a slightly different perspective.  You’ll discover new things that you weren’t able to perceive before or, perhaps, notice a different aspect of something familiar that you thought you knew well.  This will give you additional information that helps you take the next step.  And when you take that next step, another new thing or new aspect is revealed giving even more information.  As you repeat this process, eventually you will have all the answers you need in order to successfully travel the pathway to your goals and dreams.

You won’t find the solutions or the answers until you take the next step, then the one after that, and the one after that….

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So the next time the voice inside your head—or a well-meaning friend or family member—asks you if you know all the answers, you can say “Of course not!” then merrily go on your way taking the next step!

Your homework is to take the next step knowing that it will give you information that you need right now.  Break the step into as small of a piece as you need—one that is comfortable and doable for you. Move forward!

You can do it, I’m sure of it!

Post in the comments section the new things you’re finding as you take the next step, whether it’s a brand new discovery or just a little different shading of something you thought you already knew.

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,

Lauren

The Right Stuff

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We humans are an imaginative, industrious, inventive, ingenious lot.  Wherever there has been lack, limitation, hardship, blocks, challenges, and the like, humans have rolled up their sleeves and gotten to work figuring it out—figuring a way over, under, around, through.

And we humans have succeeded.

We’ve met and surpassed all the times when it seemed that there was absolutely-no-way-on-this-green-earth-that-there-is-a-solution-to-this-problem.  And all the times when the experts said “This problem is just too big and too knotty.  We’re going down!”  Someone somewhere wasn’t satisfied with that answer, wasn’t convinced it was true.  And, sure enough, eventually someone figured it out.

You are made of this same strong, never-say-die stock because you are the culmination of all that have gone before you.

You have the blood of a long line of victors and champions running through your veins.  Coded into your DNA are all the accomplishments, all the successes, and all the magnificent feats of your predecessors—not only of your family but of the whole human race.

You, too, can meet your challenges and you, too, can figure it out.

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Just as I have faith in my fellow human beings and I believe we’ll figure it out, I also have faith in you; I believe you, too, will figure it out.  I know that whatever it is that you need to figure out, you’ll do it.  I believe it; I know it!

Your homework today is to go for it!  Get busy!  Take that next step!  Break it into small, microscopic pieces if you need to—just take the next step!

You can do it, I know you can.  I believe in you!

In the comments section, post your victories today—we want to celebrate with you!  Remember: no accomplishment is too small to be applauded.

I’m so very proud of you!

Your Friend,

Lauren

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