You’re frozen, paralyzed, and can’t move forward. You know you want to take the step, you know it’ll take you that much closer to your dreams and goals, but you just can’t do it.
You feel out of control and nothing around you seems familiar. Your old ways of responding to situations may not work and your mind is blanking out on what to do. You’re beginning to believe the notations on the edges of antique maps might actually be true: “Here be dragons”!
Believe it or not, it’s a good thing when you’re feeling this way! All that’s happening is that you’re doing something different and stretching yourself. Your brain no longer has a familiar template to work with so it’s sending signals to you saying “Danger, danger, Will Robinson!”
It isn’t unusual at all that–as you move toward your dreams–anxieties, fears, and even abject terror can be triggered. It’s normal and not something to panic about. All it means is that you’re moving out of your comfort zone.
Not a big deal, truly. Slowing down and taking smaller steps will usually help you feel more stable.
Please know that I am not diminishing or invalidating anything you’re experiencing. What I am trying to do is help you by pointing out that you’re still on this side of the dirt so this isn’t fatal. It isn’t cataclysmic either because the world is still spinning and gravity is still holding everything in place.
I’ll bet you can remember times when you weren’t anxious and you felt safe and okay. So that says that your feelings of fright are not here to stay–they’re just passing through. Soon, if you pause and take slow, deep, calm breaths and repeat to yourself that all is well, you’ll find yourself feeling less anxious and overwhelmed. Your reason and logic will come back and you’ll be able to use them to further calm yourself down.
Your homework for today is to remain present in your anxiety. I know it’s a tough thing to do because you want to run and hide. Do what you can to get a grip on it rather than letting it spiral out of control. The more you are present in the moment with it and the braver you are in looking at it right in the face, the better you’ll understand it and the easier it will be for you to find the gift it has for you.
For right now, you might be able to do this for only a very short while. That’s okay. Every time you do this, every time you don’t give in all the way and every time you push back just a little bit, you become stronger and you gain a little piece of understanding about yourself. Challenge yourself each time to do just a little bit more than the last time, even if it’s just a tiny bit. Tiny bits count!
If you can, for extra credit, after you’ve calmed yourself a little bit, think about what might have triggered your anxiety. Remember who you were with, where you were, what was being said, what were you thinking, any scents or any other sensory details. Scents and other sensory impulses can be very powerful and trigger long-forgotten recollections
It might not have been anything you actively did but rather something someone said or something you observed–or even an impression that was operating at nearly subconscious level.
Try to identify the trigger. Knowing this can help you brainstorm things you can do when you find yourself feeling anxious. If you’re prepared, then you can do something about it and help yourself feel better.
This can be hard work to find your way out of the panic, but you can do it! Keep working at it, you’re doing fine! It’s going to take a little bit of time and effort because it’s a new skill for you–remember the earlier post that you’re a learner! You can do this, though, as long as you keep at it bit by bit.
For another extra credit assignment, find a teensy-tiny, itty-bitty piece of a step that you can quickly and easily do, then do it.
Don’t worry if these extra credits are too much for you to do right now. One day you’ll be able to do it, I’m sure of it!
It’s a very big deal that you’ve calmed yourself down, even just a tiny bit. You’ve struck a blow against your anxieties, fears, and panics. Yay you!!
You did excellent work today! Feel proud of yourself because this is sometimes hard and scary work. You did it, though! Good for you!
**As an aside, when you do releasing-type work, whether it’s with physical things, such as decluttering your home, or if you’re working with identifying emotional triggers and other blocks, be sure you drink plenty of water to flush out your system. Also, eat foods that are fresh with life in them, such as raw vegetables and fruits. Finally, make sure you get plenty of rest and sleep. Releasing-type work is strenuous and your body needs sleep and rest–maybe even a little more than usual.
I am so proud of you. You rock!
**Please note that I am not a medical professional and do not intend to dispense any kind of medical advice or recommendations. I’m sharing what’s worked for me. Please consult with appropriate health care professionals regarding your particular situation.