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Walk the Talk: The Benefits

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When you Walk the Talk and Do the Work of striving toward your dreams, you increase the likelihood of creating a soul-prospering life for yourself and there are other benefits as well.

When you consistently walk the talk and do the work, you can look forward to:

~Increased self-reliance

Let’s face it, crafting your soul-prospering life isn’t easy; you’ve probably endured many a rough patch.  And you made it through.  It may not have been pretty, and you may not have the outcome you hoped for, but you made it through.

You’ve learned that you can rely on yourself—you can count on you—in spite of what you think your shortcomings are (not smart enough, not talented, don’t have the “right” education…).  You were able to figure enough of it out so that you made it through.  And, since nothing’s cast in concrete, there’s always the opportunity to keep plugging away at it so you can modify the outcome!

~Increased self-esteem

Because you’ve been through the rockslides of life and you discovered that you can rely on yourself, your self-esteem naturally improves.  While you still may not be the most talented or smart or graceful about the whole thing—and I must interrupt here and say if you’re thinking this about yourself, or anything similar to this, STOP IT RIGHT NOW because you’re comparing yourself to others and you’ll always come out the loser when you do that—in spite of all of this, you did it and are continuing to do it.

Yay you!

~Increased self-awareness

You know yourself much better.  You have a better understanding of your strengths and weaknesses.  You know what to do to shore up your weaknesses and how to play to your strengths.  You’ve found people who will help you when you need it as well as discovered those who truly celebrate you.

Best of all, though, is that you have a deeper, wider understanding of your purpose and passion.  Along with this, you’ve probably discovered new ideas about how to bring your special talents to the world.

 

Walking the talk, doing the work, may be difficult and heartbreaking at times, but there now is a depth and wisdom to you and your character that you wouldn’t have gotten any other way.

And this is so worth it!

Walk the talk:  Do the Work!

I know you can do it!  I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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Motivation: 6 Inspiring Quotes to Make Yourself Proud This Week

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Make yourself proud of you this week.  Here are six inspirational quotes to keep handy to help you take a step, then then next one, then the one after that.  Keep going!

 

Do not give up your dream because it is apparently not being realized, because you cannot see it coming true. Cling to your vision with all the tenacity you can muster. Keep it bright; do not let the bread-and-butter side of life cloud your ideal or dim it. ~Orison Swett Marden

 

Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth. ~Bradley Whitford

 

There can be no failure to a one who has not lost one’s courage, one’s character, one’s self respect, or one’s self-confidence. ~Orison Swett Marden

 

It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop. ~Confucius

 

If you do not feel yourself growing in your work and your life broadening and deepening, if your task is not a perpetual tonic to you, you have not found your place. ~Orison Swett Marden

 

Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time. ~Thomas A. Edison

 

You can do it; I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

Self-Mastery: Thoughts

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At the very bottom of the foundation of our lives are our thoughts–whether they uplift us or discourage us. For this reason, the very first thing we must master if we are to live soul-prospering lives is our thought pattern.

We know this requires mindfulness and we also understand that it involves being positive and optimistic.

But what about the days when it isn’t possible to do this, what do we do then? Perhaps we had a difficult day at work and, to top it off, we had to stay late. Or maybe we’re handling challenging situations in our personal life. It just might be, though, that we’ve been working on moving toward our soul-prospering lives but the progress is tiny, and now we’re plain old discouraged. During times like these, we just don’t have the wherewithal to monitor all our thoughts and when we try to be positive, it feels like we’re being incredibly naïve and foolish.

Mindfulness doesn’t mean ferreting out and hearing every tidbit of a thought that we have and then measuring each one with some sort of positivity scale. It would be an impossible task and, most likely, we’d drive ourselves batty if we tried it.

Also, it isn’t reasonable to expect that every thought is going to be positive. We’re allowed to be discouraged, sad, angry, worried, and the like. Feeling our emotions is what make us human and is what adds depth and richness to our experiences. “Negative” emotions are “bad” only when we find ourselves wallowing in them or when they are the only emotional responses we have.

To get a handle on our thoughts, schedule time to learn what triggers negative thoughts in us. For instance, we know when we’re with certain people we tend to become easily annoyed, or when we’re called on to give a presentation we know we become tense, nervous, and worried. We may discover that when we’re faced with an unfamiliar task, whether in our professional capacity or in our personal lives, we find ourselves thinking I can’t or it’s too hard.

As I said, it’s okay if we find ourselves responding in a knee-jerk fashion with the thoughts we’re accustomed to thinking. As we work with mindfulness and adding more uplifting thoughts into our thought patterns, we’ll lessen these habitual responses.

When we identify our triggers, prepare phrases and words ahead of time that, when you need them, they are handy.

Don’t stress over making these phrases and words positive. Instead, strive to make them as uplifting as possible. They’ll ring truer and be more believable, especially when the circumstances are particularly difficult.

Here are some thoughts that uplifted me when I felt foolish using positive statements:

~I’ll figure it out somehow. I don’t need all the answers right now; I just need one bit of information at a time;

~I only need to take one tiny little step–just do what seems to be the next best thing;

~I can call or I can ask my mentor/friend/librarian/colleague;

~Right here, right now, I am okay;

~Universe, I put this in Your Hands to work out because I have no clue what to do next. Show me what I need to do and make it very clear!

~Universe, I have no idea how You’re going to work this out because it seems impossible to me. I trust that You have it all figured out and that You’ll let me know when it’s my turn to do what I can.

 

Let me know if any of these helped you. Also, let me know what uplifting thoughts you use. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Other People: How to “Get Over It”

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Wouldst make thy life go fair and square?
Thou must not for the past feel care;
Whatever thy loss, thou must not mourn;
Must ever act as if new-born.
What each day wants of thee, that ask;
What each day tells thee, that make thy task;
With pride thine own performance viewing,
With heart to admire another’s doing;
Above all, hate no human being,
And all the future leave to the All-Seeing.

Goethe.

 

 

We know we need to let go, to forgive; most of all we know we need to move on.

But how?

How do we do that when the injustice, the hurt, the humiliation, the pain, the loss is still so fresh and sharp, even though the original incident happened years ago?

The best, most effective way is to stop looking at the past and the thing that happened. Instead, look to the future.

But what if we can’t tear your focus away from the past; what if the future has no joy or hope?

The solution is to build a better image of the future, something we can look forward to. If we can’t do this then that means we’ve built up a much stronger, more compelling image of the past than we have of the future.

Focus on you. Focus on where you are headed. Focus on your dreams. If this is too much and you can’t do it, then focus on the next best step you can take in the next moment, the next hour, the next part of the day. Keep focusing on this–taking the next best step. Focus on it minute by minute.

Be relentless about this focus and you will find one day that you have dropped the heavy baggage from the past–the injustices and insults, the hurts and humiliations, the pain and pessimism.

Give it a try and let me know how it’s working out for you. You can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Delaying Your Dreams

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Every day you put off your dreams is not pushing your dreams back one day later. Actually, it’s exponential that you’ve pushed them back.  ~Les Brown

 

I got to thinking about this quote trying to figure out what Les Brown meant by “…it’s exponential that you’ve pushed them (your dreams) back.”

 

Here’s what I’ve come up with:

As you work toward your dreams, the Unseen/Unknown goes to work supporting you, helping you, guiding you, preparing the way for you, bringing events and people and situations together in just the right mix at just the right time for you.  It does this to support you taking the next step to make it to your dreams.

So, when you don’t work toward your dreams one day, all that intricate timing and fitting together falls apart and the opportunities and options and breaks and serendipitous and lucky events all evaporate.  It takes time and effort and planning and working behind the scenes for the Unseen/Unknown to bring things together again for you.

The kicker is, though, it won’t be the same opportunity, option, lucky break, serendipitous event.

Will it be better than the one that would have come along if you had kept on keeping on? Who knows?

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In my opinion, it’s better to play it safe and take full advantage of all that the Unseen/Unknown has set up for you. You do this by TAKING THE NEXT STEP!

Let me know what you think in the comments below!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Goals: Keep Your Eye on the Ball

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“Keep your eye on the ball!”

I’m sure you heard this as you were growing up, especially if you played sports–whether on teams or only in gym class. Coaches told us that keeping our eye on the ball, knowing where it was and anticipating where it would be on the field or court, was an essential ingredient in performing well and winning the game.

Dad would also tell me to keep my eye on the ball. He was using this as a metaphor, though, for doing well in school–and later on, doing well in life.  He was telling me to not let distractions and petty annoyances get me off track.

Even though I’ve tried to follow this advice, I admit that I’m not the best at it–in fact, at times I’ve been down right bad at it. I’ve let frustrations at the office slow me down.  I’ve hesitated to implement ideas because of worries about the economy.  I’ve been intimidated by others’ expertise and success.

In short, I’d taken my eye off the ball of striving toward my goals and living the life of my dreams.

I saw a TED-x talk on YouTube given by Emily Balcetis about this very topic. She and her colleagues have actually proven that Dad and my coaches were right:  keeping your eye on the goal–the metaphoric ball–actually DOES makes tasks, projects, and the journey seem easier to achieve.

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This is great news because it means that it IS simple to achieve our goals and dreams after all. We don’t need complicated formulas or convoluted practices.  All we need to do is keep our eye on the ball–on the goals and dreams of our heart and soul.

Go for it–you can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

4 tips for Encouraging Others Who Have Hit a Rough Patch

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When a friend, loved one, or co-worker hits a rough patch, oftentimes we aren’t quite sure what to say or to do.

While the tips we talked about in Tuesday’s post are wonderful, (3 Tips for Encouraging Others), here are 4 additional tips that can also help:

1. Small gifts:

No need to break the bank! A small bouquet of flowering “weeds” from alongside a road can be lovely. An interestingly shaped leaf, a colorful rock, or a

2. Share uplifting resources:

Perhaps you have a cherished poem that uplifts you or a favorite motivational speaker, share these with someone who may be going through a tough time.

3. Be transparent:

It can be helpful to talk to them about difficulties you’ve faced and what you did to overcome them. Hearing what another has done can spark ideas about what they can do to help themselves and it also gives them hope that their situation can be conquered.

4. Volunteer:

Perhaps you can offer to search the Internet for local and online resources that can help them with their specific difficulty. Or perhaps you can offer to sit with their kids if they need time alone to think and plan their way out of the rough patch. Also, you can drop off homemade chicken soup or a casserole.

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This short list should get your creative juices flowing. When you come up with other ideas, please share them in the comments section below!

Please pass this post along to a friend–thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren