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Crafting a Soul-Prospering Life: 5 Things Soul-Prospered People Know About Themselves

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Here are a few things people who are crafting soul-prospering lives for themselves know about themselves:

~Who they are–they have a clear sense of self;

~What they do–they know what they are good at and, therefore, how they can be effective in helping others with that same thing;

~Who they do it for–who they serve;

~What the people they serve want or need– what problem or issue they’re helping solve in partnership with the people they serve;

~What the people they serve are getting out of it–how the lives of the people they’re serving are transformed as a result of what the person is giving them.

 

People who are living soul-prospering lives can also be described as people who are living their purpose, achieving their mission here on earth, pursuing their destiny.

How about you? How do you describe yourself and your purpose/mission/destiny?

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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Happy New Year 2018: How to Keep Going When You Want to Give Up

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Sometimes all the pep rallies, power words, compelling reasons ‘why’, and affirmations aren’t enough. In spite of them, you still feel demoralized and disheartened and you reallyreallyreally want to give up.

We’re six days into the New Year and perhaps things aren’t going nearly as well as you had hoped. Maybe you’re finding that, after less than one week into the New Year, your plan is in tatters.

What do you do?

For sure the answer ISN’T doing things like: giving up, throwing in the towel, walking away, telling yourself that you don’t have what it takes.

These are NOT helpful and they will not get you closer to your soul-prospering life. All these will do is demoralize and dishearten you further. And that won’t do anything but keep you stuck where you are.

Not a good scenario.

This is when you have to hunker down and tap into that brute, animalistic force within you.

It’s when you focus on the next step ahead of you–the best action that you see you can take right now–put your head down, and just bull forward.

Remember that you may have to break the next best action into tiny bits and pieces and select the one that you can manage right now; it’s okay to do this, in fact I recommend it.

All of these little bits and pieces of steps DO add up and they WILL eventually take you to your soul-prospering life.

The key is to take action; keep taking the baby steps as well as the tiny bits and pieces of baby steps. By doing this you are forging ahead toward your soul-prospering life.

Don’t worry about how long it’ll take, worry instead about making sure you take a small action today–and every day–that will help you craft your soul-prospering life.

You can do it! I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

Happy New Year! A Pep Rally for 2018!

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There is nothing random in the universe. Everything has a reason and a purpose behind it. We may not understand it, we may not have the science and math to explain it, but there is a reason and a purpose for everything.

Including you.

Because everything has a reason and a purpose behind it, there wasn’t any random, spur-of-the-moment creation. Everything has been meticulously planned down to the smallest detail.

Including you.

Therefore, the family you were born into, your nationality, your level of intelligence, your socio-economic status, your gifts and talents…none of this was random. It was specifically, willfully, with forethought, planned out and created.

You are in the right place in the right time and just as you ought to be in order to carry out your purpose. You have what it takes to craft a soul-prospering life for yourself–a life that makes a difference, that has an impact.

Don’t get caught up in the minutia, the little things in life such as whether or not your skin is the right color or whether or not you’re the right gender or whether or not you have the right type of last name. First of all, there isn’t much you can do about it and, secondly, these things don’t really matter anyway.

The things you can’t change about yourself–your height, your coloring, your age, etc.–don’t have any bearing on whether or not you’ll be successful because it’s your belief about what you can and can’t do, and your attitudes about yourself and the world that will determine whether you’re successful…or not.

The way you have been created has given you something unique to say and to do in this world, and it’s your mission, your purpose, to see that it gets done. What you look like, where you come from, your particular outlook on life, is what gives you your unique perspective and makes what you have to say fresh and new.

No one else can say and do what you can. No one else can bring your particular sense and sensibility and passions to the world. This is the stuff of which your compelling ‘why’ is made.   Even if other people are passionate about the same things you are, the uniqueness of you gives you a special something that no one else has. You bring something different–and desperately needed–to the conversation.

Because you are who you are, you are able to reach people in a way that no one else can.  

You have what it takes–it’s all there inside you. Trust yourself. Trust everything that you are–all of who you are–because it’s all there specifically to help you Live your purpose and your passion and achieve your mission here on Earth.

So stop fretting about things that don’t really matter and things you can’t change about yourself. Focus instead on your purpose and your mission–which is the basis of your compelling ‘why’. Then, to the best of your ability, get out there and do it!

Happy 2018!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Happy New Year 2018: How to Craft a Compelling ‘Why’

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Your motivating factor, your compelling reason ‘why’ regarding the particular brand of soul-prospering life you want to craft, is essential to energizing you through the tough times.

Here are some examples:

Whys that grow organically out of difficult personal experiences:

Enduring grueling challenges such as poverty and abuse. These experiences have the ability to maim and crush people, but they can also be the furnace that forges a spirit that’s stronger than steel or titanium.

Whys that have their roots in observations of others’ suffering:

While you may not have suffered a particular hardship, it nonetheless affects you deeply whether you observe it in your personal life or your professional life. For instance doctors, lawyers, and other professionals that donate their time and expertise to people who can’t afford their services yet they desperately need them.

Whys that come from a “higher calling”:

These kind of ‘whys’ are easy to see in world-class athletes. They are obsessed with excelling in their particular sport but yet they may not be able to fully articulate the reason why. This type of ‘why’ is not limited to athletes. I know of a man who is a drummer. He is totally consumed with rhythms–he can’t stop himself from tapping out a beat! He makes his living picking up different gigs as well as teaching drumming, although making a living at it isn’t a requirement of a compelling ‘why’.   I have another friend who is an avid knitter. She always has a project at hand and is constantly on the lookout for patterns, yarns, and the like, yet she has never made so much as a penny from her knitting.

Don’t worry if you can’t fully articulate your ‘why’ to anyone else. You don’t need to say it to anyone. Your ‘why’ is not a justification or something that causes someone else to give you permission to go for your soul-prospering life.

Your compelling ‘why’ is only for YOUR benefit.

NOTICE THAT NONE OF THESE ‘WHYS’ HAVE THEIR ROOTS IN MAKING MONEY.

Money and recognition may come as a by product of the ‘whys’ but that is not at all the reason for the ‘why’

Keep working with your ‘why’ so that its roots are deep within you. You need it to intensify, which is what it does when it goes to the core of you. It may take a little time for this to happen, but keep working with it and it’ll happen!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Top Posts #6: I’d Rather be a Failure by Edgar A. Guest

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This post was published earlier this year on 1/27/17 and it continues to be an excellent reminder that it’s the journey and not the destination that that matters. It’s what we learn, who we meet, the new things we see, and the interesting things that we discover. And it’s how all of this enriches us and our life and how we then share this with others.

This poem also reminds us that riches and influence can be useful tools in crafting a soul-prospering life, but they aren’t what’s truly important. It’s the comforting silence as well as the laughter shared with dear friends and loved ones; playing with your kids; making a difference in someone’s life. These achievements are the true successes in life.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

I’d Rather Be a Failure by Edgar A. Guest

 

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I came across this poem and I thought you might like it, too.

I’d Rather Be a Failure by Edgar A. Guest

I’d rather be a failure than the man who’s never tried;
I’d rather seek the mountain-top than always stand aside.
Oh, let me hold some lofty dream and make my desperate fight,
And though I fail I still shall know I tried to serve the right.

The idlers line the ways of life and they are quick to sneer;
They note the failing strength of man and greet it with a jeer;
But there is something deep inside which scoffers fail to view—
They never see the glorious deed the failure tried to do.

Some men there are who never leave the city’s well-worn streets;
They never know the dangers grim the bold adventurer meets;
They never seek a better way nor serve a nobler plan;
They never risk with failure to advance the cause of man.

Oh, better ’tis to fail and fall in sorrow and despair,
Than stand where all is safe and sure and never face a care;
Yes, stamp me with the failure’s brand and let men sneer at me,
For though I’ve failed, the Lord shall know the man I tried to be.

 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

Thanksgiving: Stop Comparing Yourself!

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When we find ourselves thinking that we’ve nothing to be thankful for–or very little to be thankful for–it’s probably because we’re comparing ourselves either to others or to some standard of perfection we’ve concocted that, in reality, is unattainable.

I came across this poem that I think sums it up nicely:

 

Hard Luck

 

         Ain’t no use as I can see

         In sittin’ underneath a tree

         An’ growlin’ that your luck is bad,

         An’ that your life is extry sad;

         Your life ain’t sadder than your neighbor’s

         Nor any harder are your labors;

         It rains on him the same as you,

         An’ he has work he hates to do;

         An’ he gits tired an’ he gits cross,

         An’ he has trouble with the boss;

         You take his whole life, through an’ through,

         Why, he’s no better off than you.

 

 

         If whinin’ brushed the clouds away

         I wouldn’t have a word to say;

         If it made good friends out o’ foes

         I’d whine a bit, too, I suppose;

         But when I look around an’ see

         A lot o’ men resemblin’ me,

         An’ see ’em sad, an’ see ’em gay

         With work t’ do most every day,

         Some full o’ fun, some bent with care,

         Some havin’ troubles hard to bear,

         I reckon, as I count my woes,

           They’re ’bout what everybody knows.

 

 

         The day I find a man who’ll say

         He’s never known a rainy day,

           Who’ll raise his right hand up an’ swear

         In forty years he’s had no care,

         Has never had a single blow,

         An’ never known one touch o’ woe,

         Has never seen a loved one die,

         Has never wept or heaved a sigh,

         Has never had a plan go wrong,

         But allus laughed his way along;

         Then I’ll sit down an’ start to whine

         That all the hard luck here is mine.

 

 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Thinking: 6 Quotes for the Right Attitude

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Thinking and attitude go hand-in-hand.  Here are six quotes to ponder over the weekend as you prepare for the upcoming week.

 

Some men have thousands of reasons why they cannot do what they want to, when all they need is one reason why they can.  ~Martha Graham

 

Any fact facing us in not as important as our attitude toward it, for that determines our success or failure.  The way you think about a fact may defeat you before you ever do anything about it.  You are overcome by the fact because you think you are.  ~Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

 

Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than what people do or say.  It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill.  ~W.C. Fields

 

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing:  the last of human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.  ~Viktor Frankl

 

A great attitude does much more than turn on the lights in our worlds; it seems to magically connect us to all sorts of serendipitous opportunities that were somehow absent before the change.  ~Earl Nightingale

 

We cannot change our past.  We cannot change the fact that people act in a certain way.  We cannot change the inevitable.  The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.  ~Charles Swindoll

 

Which quote resonated with you?

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren