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Fall in Love

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Today is the day before Valentine’s Day.  Usually, the focus is on romance and couples and the dreamy, starry-eyed expression of that love.  Romantic love is great fun as well as deeply and profoundly moving, and I hope everyone has a Special Someone in their lives with whom to share this special type of love.

But if you haven’t already, also fall in love with your dreams and goals—especially your most cherished ones.

It can be scary admitting to yourself that you’re in love with your goals and dreams.  But it’ll be one of the best things you’ve ever done in your life—just like when you told your Special Someone that you loved her/him.

We make a promise to our Special Someone to care for them and be with them no matter what.  Sometimes it’s hard to follow through, but we do it because we’re people of honor and integrity; we said we would and our word is our bond.

We should make this same commitment to our goals and dreams.  Promise to never toss them to the side when it seems too hard or too much to stick with it.  Pledge to be there for them while making great progress as well as during the inevitable setbacks.  Vow to believe in them and have faith in them even when it seems crazy to do so.  Above all, swear your oath to respect them, honor them, and to cherish them.

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Your homework for today is to make a commitment to your goals and dreams no matter what.  Now think about what this looks like in your everyday life:  What are you going to think, say, and do regarding your goals and dreams?  How are you going to treat them now that you’re in love with them and have committed to them?  How will you think about them—what self-talk will you use?  What would you do and think if someone was dismissive or derisive of them—would you continue to call that person a friend?

Post in the comments section how your attitude toward your goals and dreams has changed now that you’ve committed to them.

I’m so proud of you for continuing to take these steps toward achieving your goals and dreams.  You’re a rock star for doing this!

Your Friend,

Lauren

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What You DO Have

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“It is not what we have that will make us a great nation; it is the way in which we use it.”  Teddy Roosevelt.

I’ve taken the liberty of tweaking that quote to:  It is not what you have that determines whether or not you live the life of your dreams, it’s the way in which you use it that makes all the difference.

You’ve been told that it doesn’t matter if you’re old or young, tall or short, or skinny or husky; it doesn’t matter if you’ve gone to college or barely graduated with a GED.  It doesn’t matter what your skin color is or what religion you practice (or don’t practice) or what gender you are.  It doesn’t matter what family you were born into or on which side of the tracks you grew up.  All this is true.

Did you know, though, that it also it doesn’t really matter if you’re particularly talented or gifted in anything?  Furthermore, it doesn’t matter what particular talents and gifts you do have   For example, Teddy Roosevelt was an invalid as a child yet he didn’t let that stop him.  He filled his bedroom with books and photographs and had all sorts of unusual pets, which he studied, such as hedgehogs and snakes.  He challenged himself to become like the fearless men he so admired.

Your homework for today is to take inventory of what you do have, paying particular attention to your character traits.  Oftentimes, people are successful because of their character traits, not because they are talented or gifted or if they had a million dollar idea.  Taking action, persistence, and firm resolve are far more important and valuable to your journey.  If you’re a little rusty in these traits, think about what you can do to strengthen them.  Identify times and situations in your weekly schedule when you can practice these.

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For extra credit, think about the hum-drum, unexciting skills you have that you probably take for granted.  You can read, write, and do basic calculations such as addition, subtracting, multiplying and dividing.  Perhaps you can drive a car, ride a bike, walk, and run.  What other things can you do that you don’t think twice about?  Consider ways in which you can use these skills and abilities in new ways to help you take the next step.  Think of times and situations in the coming week when you can use these skills with more awareness and confidence because they are helping you achieve your goals and dreams.

For double extra credit, read a biography on Teddy Roosevelt and pay attention to how he did not accept the limitations of being a sickly and weak child.  Note how he took what he had and made the very best of it.  How can you apply this to your life and the journey to the life of your dreams?

In the comments section, post about your new appreciation for the skills and abilities you have.  Share how they’re helping you in the steps you’re taking.  And, tell me how Teddy’s story has inspired you.

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend,

Lauren

Week in Review

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We’ve finished the first week of February.  WooHoo!  You did it!  Yay you!

Congratulations for sticking with this!  Good job on taking steps especially when you didn’t want to or didn’t feel like it or if you were frightened.  By consistently taking regular steps no matter what, this is how you build strength and resolve.  This is how you build steadfastness and determination.  This is where grit comes from.  All these things are learned skills that get better and better with practice.  It isn’t any different than the hours you put in with your hobbies learning new skills and techniques and re-inforcing the ones you already do well.

You are awesome!  Celebrate that!

The first part of your homework today is to do a spot check and see how you’re doing.

Are you having trouble with any of the steps?  Do you need to break them down into smaller bits, or perhaps you need to rename them?  Did your resistance get the better of you so you kept putting off taking steps, waiting (hoping) for a day when you felt better?  Re-read the post on permission and approval.  Also, do some mirror work to bolster your confidence and resolve.

Are there some of the homework assignments that sounded interesting but you haven’t had a chance to do?  If so, take a moment now to do them.  Is there an assignment or two that resonated with you?  If so, take a few moments to do them again.

Perhaps you didn’t have much time as you thought you would.  Take a look at your weekly schedule.  Are there tasks you can delegate?  Are there ones you can say “no” to?  Can you shift things around and find pockets of time for pieces of steps?

Take a look at your upcoming week and identify time you’ll devote to taking steps and moving toward your goals and dreams.  Of course taking action every day is best, but it’s just fine if you have just a few moments a few days a week—or only one day—to devote to achieving your goals and dreams.  As long as you’re regularly and consistently devoting time to your forward progress, you will achieve your dreams.

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The second part of this homework is to CELEBRATE!  It doesn’t matter if you just thought about your goals and dreams or if you made huge strides this week.  Celebrate what you did do—especially the small increments of forward movement.  It’s on the back of small, tiny steps that the road to your goals and dreams is paved.

You can do it, I know you can!

Congratulations again!  I’m so proud of you; you’re making great progress!  Post below the successes and achievements you’ve had this week—I want to celebrate with you!

Your Friend,

Lauren

A Little Help from Myself

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It’s okay to do things to help yourself.  In fact, it’s vital that you do this.  Some of us may have grown up in circumstances where we were taught that it isn’t okay to do this.  Others of us may find ourselves currently in situations where we’re led to believe that it’s selfish or wrong to help ourselves.  Or, perhaps you just never considered acting for your own benefit.

If helping yourself is a new experience for you and you aren’t sure enough of yourself yet so you’re looking to others for permission and approval, please let me be the one to give you this support and encouragement.

You have permission to help yourself.  You are approved to take the actions that will help you live the life of your dreams.  You are forgiven for having these goals and dreams.

Helping yourself, taking care of yourself, is some of the most important and noble work you can do.  By following through with these steps, you are honoring yourself, your family, and your friends.  You’re also honoring your community, your country, and the world.

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Your homework is to find a place where you will be undisturbed for about 20 minutes.  Have a mirror handy.  Use the mirror to look at yourself right in the eyes.  Repeat the following:

I love you

I love you

I love you

I am approved

I am approved

I am approved

I have permission

I have permission

I have permission

My dreams are right and good

My dreams are right and good

My dreams are right and good

My dreams are right and good

My dreams are right and good

My dreams are right and good

 

I am forgiven

I am forgiven

I am forgiven

My slate is wiped clean

My slate is wiped clean

My slate is wiped clean

My slate is wiped clean

My slate is wiped clean

Thank you

Thank you

Thank you!

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I love you

I love you

I love you

I love you!

Now go and take that step!  And post below in the comments section how you’re doing.

I am so very proud of you!

Your Friend,

Lauren

Super Bowl!

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In honor of tonight’s Super Bowl:

Forget about the times you fumbled; forget about the incomplete passes; and forget about being stopped at the line of scrimmage.

Acknowledge the successes: the interceptions, the third down conversions, and the scores.

No matter what, though, always keep your head in the game and your eye on the ball. Stick to your game plan and what you do best. Focus and concentrate on what you can do to help yourself with the next play. Keep pressing forward, keep standing strong.

You can do it, I know you can. I’m so proud of you!

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No homework today: Enjoy the game!

Your Friend,
Lauren

Stop, in the Name of Love

 
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When we make a mistake and when we suffer a setback or a failure, oftentimes we feel like a loser.  We chastise ourselves for not being smarter or for not anticipating this.  It may cause us to question our intelligence, competency, capabilities, and the legitimacy of our desire to go for our goals and dreams.

For the love of yourself and who you are, STOP!  Stop yourself before you go too far with this!

Just because you made a mistake or had a setback or experienced a failure, that does NOT negate or invalidate the fact that you have every right to go for your goals and dreams.

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You are NOT a loser, YOU ARE A LEARNER!!!

Let me repeat that:  You are NOT a loser, YOU ARE A LEARNER!!!

Did you get that?  You are NOT a loser, YOU ARE A LEARNER!!!

One more time!  You are NOT a loser, YOU ARE A LEARNER!!!

You may have to tweak your plans a bit or do more research or brush up your skills.  You may have to break the steps into smaller pieces.  This is normal and natural.  This is all a part of the journey to your dreams and goals.

Treat yourself kindly and gently.  Brush yourself off and tell yourself that this is not the end of the world, because it isn’t.  Think about how far you have already come in these first few weeks of the year.  Give yourself credit for all the things you’ve learned.  Pat yourself on the back for all the steps you’ve taken, no matter how small.  Take a moment to think about the good things you have done, whether or not it’s in relation to your goals and dreams.  I’m sure you’ll find that you’re a terrific person!

Take a little time today to do something nice for yourself (remember you don’t have to spend money).  Things like playing with your pet, visiting or calling family or friends, sitting or walking in nature, reading a good book, and listening to good music are all things that will restore your spirits.

You can do this, I know you can!

Your homework for today is to repeat to yourself:

I am a learner

I am a learner

I am a learner

Also repeat:

Every day in every way I am getting better and better (a quote attributed to Emile Coue, a French psychologist and pharmacist in the early 1900’s)

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Repeat often throughout the day, especially first thing in the morning and the last thing before going to sleep.

For extra credit, read any biography or memoir about anyone who’s achieved a level of success and you will find that they’ve all had bumps–and out-right disasters–to deal with as they went for their goals and dreams.  By picking themselves up and trying one more time, they eventually achieved success.  You can, too!

I am so proud of you for loving yourself enough to take care of yourself.  I’m proud of you for loving yourself enough to give it another shot.

I knew you could do it!

Your Friend,

Lauren

Have I Told You Lately…?

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This is what I believe and know to be true about you:

You are strong;

You are capable;

You are competent;

You are intelligent;

You have your own special brand of genius;

You are smart;

You have loads of common sense;

You can figure things out;

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You are an overcomer;

You are a warrior;

You are a victor;

You are a champion;

You have what it takes to achieve your goals and dreams;

You are fully equipped and empowered to make your dreams and goals come true;

You have grit;

You have determination;

You are persistent;

You have high character;

You have high integrity;

You are a person of worth;

You are a person of value;

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You are generous;

You reach out a helping hand to others;

You are beautiful;

The world is a richer place because you are part of it;

You are brave;

You are courageous;

You are in the right place at the right time doing the right things in the right way.

Your homework is to read this often and let the words sink into your mind and your bones.  Believe them because they are true.

You can do this!  I believe in you!

I’m so proud of you for moving forward.  I knew you could do it!

Your Friend,

Lauren