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Counteract the Effects of Being Bullied Through Increasing Endorphins

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As we head into the new week, some of us may be worried about how to prepare ourselves for the bully in our workplaces. No matter how much we arrange our schedules to limit our contact with them, sometimes they seem like guided missiles locked onto us intent upon maximum damage and destruction. That statement may seem overly dramatic but when in day-to-day proximity of a bully, their tactics can feel like they’re aiming for total annihilation.

Naturally we should stand up for ourselves as best as we can, but don’t bother trying to change their mind about us and we shouldn’t think that we can show/prove that we’re capable, competent, and worthy of their respect. Their minds are closed and locked against us, so let’s not waste our time.

Instead, let’s concentrate on filling ourselves with endorphins. Our positive thoughts about ourselves and about our happiness, contentedness, and fulfillment from other aspects of our lives are our most potent weapons to counteract a bully’s attack.

Here are some ways to flood ourselves with endorphins in the midst of the workplace:

~in our mind, repeating positive statements about ourselves: I am capable; I am competent; I am doing good work, I am helpful to others; I am cheerful,; I am creative…

~pictures of our loved ones: recreate the happy feelings we had when the picture was taken…

~quietly listening to uplifting music…

~quietly listening to inspiring messages…

~connecting with nature: taking a short walk during the lunch hour, closely observing a small bouquet of flowers we give ourselves to have on our desk, gazing out the window for a few moments and watching the weather, the clouds, the trees swaying in the breeze, birds and wildlife moving around…

~reading poems or essays that create feelings of hope within us…

~reading a short passage from sacred writings…

These techniques are a few ways to remind ourselves that we are much more that our work. We have way more potential and opportunity that just what’s available through work. This can keep us hopeful and looking forward to the Goodness that’s awaiting us in the future!

The more we do these and other techniques to strengthen ourselves within, the less affected we’ll be by the bully’s attacks.

We can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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A Mid-Week Pep Rally!

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I don’t know about you, but oftentimes I need a little boost mid-way through the week. Here are eight pep statements that I’ve used over the years:

This setback is actually a set-up for something fantastic for me

As I keep taking steps, magic and miracles are being released to help me

I have what it takes

I’m smart, I’m strong, I’m creative, I’m tough, I’m inventive, I’m resilient

My breakthrough is just around the corner

I can do this and I AM doing this

All is well

This too shall pass

 

Feel free to tweak any of the pep statements so that they’ll resonate more powerfully for you.

I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

One with Source

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As we look ahead to the upcoming week, we may be nervous about the difficulties we’ll be facing. This can leave us feeling unsure of ourselves and that we’re on shaky ground. This can leave us vulnerable to others’ opinions and judgments about us: that we’re wrong or not right, that we don’t have what it takes, that who we are is not good enough.

None of this is true!

But when these false statements are getting to each of us, SAY THESE STATEMENTS THAT ARE THE TRUTH ABOUT EACH OF US:

I am One with Source

I am blessed

I am sanctified

I am anointed

I am consecrated

I am favored

I am holy

I am sacred

I am redeemed

I am forgiven

I cherish myself because I am One with Source who infuses and envelops me with Mercy

I cherish myself because I am One with Source who infuses and envelops me with Grace

I honor myself because I am One with Source who reveres me

I honor myself because I am One with Source who venerates me

Source has ordained me to be who I am and has declared me to be Good

Source has appointed me to be me and has proclaimed that I am Holy

Source has decreed that I am Sanctified

Source is pleased with me

Source is delighted with me

I am One with Source

 

Say these statements to yourself as often as you need to this week. Feel free to tweak them so they resonate more deeply with you.

I am with you.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Thank You Friends and Loved Ones!

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As we craft soul-prospering lives for ourselves, we can go through challenging times, especially if we’re making seemingly drastic shifts and big changes. It can be very frightening to be out of our comfort zone. We can feel very alone and isolated.

Friends and loved ones to the rescue!

They hold our hand when we need it. They encourage us when we need a boost. They pick us up and dust us off when we fall. They cheer for us and celebrate us even when there seems to be no finish line in sight.

They like us and love us just the way we are.

Each one of our friends and loved ones adds a little something unique and special to our lives that without it, our lives would be so very different and diminished.

Thank you friends and loved ones! You ROCK!!!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Kindness Matters

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We’re half way through the work week and it may have been a brutal one so far. Or up to now, the work week might be mind-numbingly, soul-crushingly boring! Whatever the case, we may need something to lift our spirits so we can power through the rest of the week. Here are two short articles that prove kindess matters. Even the smallest gestures that we don’t even think twice about can make all the difference to someone else.

You may have seen this article on the Internet about the man in his 80’s who bought a VCR on eBay, which enabled him to take a stroll down memory lane. His thank you note to the seller went viral. Click here to view it.

This article from the Internet gathers some of the responses when a Twitter user issued a call for stories of strangers’ random acts of kindness that had a big impact on them. Click here to view it.

I hope these lifted your spirits. These give us hope because they show that most people have generous hearts and that they want to be helpful and do good.

Yay for people reaching out a helping hand!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Remember These 7 Truths About Yourself

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When we’re in a difficult situation, such as being targeted by the bully in the workplace, oftentimes we have trouble remembering—and believing—the Truth about ourselves. Being in these circumstances can cause us to doubt our capabilities and our competencies to perform even the simplest, most basic of tasks. Our minds can become scattered and our ability to focus can be hampered. We can’t and we don’t think straight about ourselves.

Worst of all, we might question our worth as an individual. In extreme circumstances, we may even question our existence—whether or not we should even be on Earth.

First of all, if you are thinking these kinds of thoughts, GET HELP. Reach out to trained counselors and therapists, speak with your minister or spiritual leader, and/or talk to your doctor. There are also support groups, prayer circles, helplines, and other resources available to assist you. REACH OUT TO THEM.

Let me also point out that the thoughts you may have of questioning your worth and whether or not you should even exist is—if for no other reason—the bottom-line justification to GET OUT of ALL abusive situations.

If you find, though, that you can’t immediately leave until other pieces come together, such as finding a new job, then repeat the following Truth statements about you to yourself. Constantly repeat these in your mind. Constantly. I’m not kidding and it isn’t a dramatic overstatement when I implore you to keep repeating these statements non-stop to yourself.

The following statements have a spiritual bent to them but please don’t let that put you off. I find it to be very helpful to think that there is a Benevolent Being “out there” who has Goodness in mind for me.

Here are the Truths—feel free to tweak them so they are more meaningful to you:

 

I am a child of the Universe, no less than the trees and the stars….I have a right to be here. Inspired by The Desiderata by Max Ehrmann

 

God has anointed me. I am consecrated and I am holy. Inspired by Joel Osteen’s messages

 

I have good things, good people, good experiences in my life and they make me happy, in spite of what others—bullies—are trying to do to me. Inspired by the 23rd Psalm

 

God put deep loving thought into creating me and, when finished with me, God declared that I am Good. Inspired by Joel Osteen’s messages

 

I am sheltered. I am protected. Inspired by the 91st Psalm

 

God does not make junk, therefore, I am not junk. Inspired by spiritual books and materials I have studied.

 

God has a Purpose and a Reason for each and every creation, including me! Inspired by spiritual books and materials I have studied.

 

Remember these Truths about yourself. Keep repeating them in your mind. Non-stop. Let their wisdom seep into every cell and fiber of your being. Feel their strength and comfort.

I am with you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren