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You’re Fine Just the Way You Are

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I’m a week late in honoring Mr. Roger’s birthday—he would have been 91 on the 20th of March. He is best known for his gentle ways and his homespun wisdom. Sometimes now, and especially when he was alive, he is/was ridiculed for this. My thought is that some people make fun of his loving goodwill not because they think it’s stupid but rather because they’re desperate for that gracious acceptance and are terrified that it’s a sham, like so much else in this world.

I assure you that loving kindness is alive and well in this world. There are many people who are welcoming, friendly, and reaching out a hand to others. They are right in your community. In fact, you may be sitting next to them in school or at work. Like Mr. Rogers, they, too, like you just the way you are. You can be yourself, and that’s enough!

I like you just the way you are!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren (and Mr. Rogers!)

An Irish Blessing to Honor St. Patrick’s Day

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To honor St. Patrick’s Day, here is a blessing for luck, peace, and happiness (this blessing was originally posted on March 17, 2016):

May love and laughter light your days,

and warm your heart and home.

May good and faithful friends be yours,

wherever you may roam.

May peace and plenty bless your world

with joy that long endures.

May all life’s passing seasons

bring the best to you and yours!

 

May the luck and the blessings of the Irish be with you this whole week through.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

12 True Statements About You

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For this week’s mid-week boost, let’s remind ourselves of some of the many Truths about ourselves. Repeat these often to yourself:

I unconditionally, unshakably, totally, and completely love myself

I accept myself

I honor myself

I approve of myself

I respect myself

I protect myself

I take care of myself

I forgive myself

I appreciate myself

I am pleased with myself

I am a good person

I am happy to be me

 

You ROCK!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

9 Quotes to Celebrate Earl Nightingale’s Birthday

 

Earl Nightingale was one of the first motivational speakers that I listened to regularly. I took a number of his recordings out of the library and listened to him repeatedly. I found his messages—and his gravely voice—to be very comforting. He instilled in me a sense of hope, which was something I really needed at that time. Because of this, he has a special place in my life.

To honor him, here are 9 quotes to enjoy:

~Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use.

~You’ll find boredom where there is the absence of a good idea.

~ A great attitude does much more than turn on the lights in our worlds; it seems to magically connect us to all sorts of serendipitous opportunities that were somehow absent before the change.

 ~Work never killed anyone. It’s worry that does the damage. And the worry would disappear if we’d just settle down and do the work.

~The more intensely we feel about an idea or a goal, the more assuredly the idea, buried deep in our subconscious, will direct us along the path to its fulfillment.

~We can let circumstances rule us, or we can take charge and rule our lives from within.

~We all walk in the dark and each of us must learn to turn on his or her own light.

~Don’t concern yourself with the money. Be of service … build … work … dream … create! Do this and you’ll find there is no limit to the prosperity and abundance that will come to you.

~You are, at this moment, standing right in the middle of your own acres of diamonds.

I hope these quotes can help you as they have helped me over the years.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Counteract the Effects of Being Bullied Through Increasing Endorphins

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As we head into the new week, some of us may be worried about how to prepare ourselves for the bully in our workplaces. No matter how much we arrange our schedules to limit our contact with them, sometimes they seem like guided missiles locked onto us intent upon maximum damage and destruction. That statement may seem overly dramatic but when in day-to-day proximity of a bully, their tactics can feel like they’re aiming for total annihilation.

Naturally we should stand up for ourselves as best as we can, but don’t bother trying to change their mind about us and we shouldn’t think that we can show/prove that we’re capable, competent, and worthy of their respect. Their minds are closed and locked against us, so let’s not waste our time.

Instead, let’s concentrate on filling ourselves with endorphins. Our positive thoughts about ourselves and about our happiness, contentedness, and fulfillment from other aspects of our lives are our most potent weapons to counteract a bully’s attack.

Here are some ways to flood ourselves with endorphins in the midst of the workplace:

~in our mind, repeating positive statements about ourselves: I am capable; I am competent; I am doing good work, I am helpful to others; I am cheerful,; I am creative…

~pictures of our loved ones: recreate the happy feelings we had when the picture was taken…

~quietly listening to uplifting music…

~quietly listening to inspiring messages…

~connecting with nature: taking a short walk during the lunch hour, closely observing a small bouquet of flowers we give ourselves to have on our desk, gazing out the window for a few moments and watching the weather, the clouds, the trees swaying in the breeze, birds and wildlife moving around…

~reading poems or essays that create feelings of hope within us…

~reading a short passage from sacred writings…

These techniques are a few ways to remind ourselves that we are much more that our work. We have way more potential and opportunity that just what’s available through work. This can keep us hopeful and looking forward to the Goodness that’s awaiting us in the future!

The more we do these and other techniques to strengthen ourselves within, the less affected we’ll be by the bully’s attacks.

We can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Bullying: Taking Care of Yourself—24 Power Statements

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When you believe in yourself you believe in possibility. When you believe in possibility you believe in yourself. ~Dr. Joe Dispenza

 

Today we’re halfway through the week. Oftentimes we start the week out with a strong positive outlook but by midweek we might begin to lose our resolve. Here are a few statements to use to remind ourselves that we have what it takes to live a soul-prospering life, Use any or all of them frequently throughout today and the following days. Also, feel free to tweak them to better suit you and your circumstances.

 

I am capable

I am competent

I know what I’m doing

I am intelligent

I am dedicated

I am hard working

I am honest

I am honorable

I am a person of high integrity

I am kind

I am generous

I respect others

I am dependable

I am reliable

I am trustworthy

I am helpful

I am upbeat

I am ethical and have strong values and high morals

I am rock solid

I have a can-do attitude

I am persistent

I persevere

I find a way

I am crafting a wonderful soul-prospering life for myself

Choose the statements that resonate with you and repeat them often throughout your day.

I’m with you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Workplace Bullying: Take Care of Yourself – Hidden Gems

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One way to take care of ourselves if we’re a victim of workplace bullying is to remember and know deep within ourselves that we are much, much more than the small piece of ourselves that the bully is targeting. This poem reminds us about the Hidden Gems within each of us.

 

HIDDEN GEMS

By Ella Wheeler Wilcox

We know not what lies in us, till we seek;
Men dive for pearls—they are not found on shore,
The hillsides most unpromising and bleak
Do sometimes hide the ore.

Go, dive in the vast ocean of thy mind,
O man! far down below the noisy waves,
Down in the depths and silence thou mayst find
Rare pearls and coral caves.

Sink thou a shaft into the mine of thought;
Be patient, like the seekers after gold;
Under the rocks and rubbish lieth what
May bring thee wealth untold.

Reflected from the vastly Infinite,
However dulled by earth, each human mind
Holds somewhere gems of beauty and of light
Which, seeking, thou shalt find.

 

I hope this helps you. Next week we’ll talk more about how to take care of ourselves while we are in a bullying situation and as we are searching for a new position.

We will get through this together. As beloved family members frequently counsel me, “This, too, shall pass.”

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Self Talk to Neutralize a Bully’s Statements About You

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We’re half way through the week and it can seem as if the weekend—and relief from the bullying at work—will never get here. I have put together a few self talk phrases that I have found helpful and I think they can help you as well. My intent behind them is neutralizing the guilt and shame you may feel that can result from being bullied.

Some of the phrases may have a spiritual bent to them. Please don’t let that put you off. Freely substitute words and concepts that resonate with you. Remember to repeat these, or the ones you craft for yourself, OFTEN. I can’t stress enough the importance of repeating uplifting messages ALL the time when you’re in a bullying situation.

I am innocent

I am anointed by and with Grace and Mercy

I am innocent

I am absolved

I am innocent

I am exonerated

I am innocent

All unjust and malicious accusations regarding me and all gossip about me have been expunged from my mind, my soul, and my spirit

I am innocent

My slate is wiped clean

I am innocent

I am blessed

I am innocent

Magic and Miracles abound in my life

I am innocent

As you can probably guess, I have found the phrase “I am innocent” to be particularly helpful. The bully wants you to believe that everything is your fault, that you are to blame. This is absolutely not true! While the bully is berating you try repeating to yourself the phrase “I am innocent”. Let me know how it works for you.

Good luck, I’m thinking of you. Feel free to share self talk statements that you find very helpful. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Bullying: Get Out

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Two weeks ago we talked about adult bullying and we’ll be continuing this discussion this week. In these posts, I’m referring to bullying that takes place in the work environment.

First of all, though, before being too quick to label a boss or co-worker as a bully, take time to think it through. Some bosses are tough and demanding but they are fair—they don’t belittle or humiliate colleagues or subordinates. Also, colleagues and bosses may have prickly personalities or serious, no-nonsense attitudes but that doesn’t make them bullies. Additionally, co-workers may be going through a difficult time in their personal life and that may make them snippy. Keep this in mind as you think through your interactions with the person(s) in question before jumping to conclusions about them.

When you are dealing with a bully, the most important thing to keep in mind is to get out. You are never going to change them, convince them of your worth and/or your expertise, and over time you will not be able to withstand their onslaught.

There are two ways to get out:

~You or the bully can be transferred to another department or division within the company;

~You or the bully can leave the company.

Perhaps you work in a large enough organization that has a separate HR department and perhaps your company has clear policies regarding bullying and other behaviors that can create a hostile work environment. And perhaps the HR department actually has some backbone and will take appropriate and effective action when complaints are brought to them.

I wouldn’t count on this, though.

I have heard a number of instances where the HR department as well as the higher-ups and executives are well aware that bullying is going on but they ignore it—they don’t do anything about it. And then they scratch their heads and wonder why morale is so bad and why the good people are leaving in droves….

My recommendation is to leave the company. You may like many of your co-workers and you may enjoy the work you’re doing, however, the toll to your career, your self esteem, your mental well-being, and your physical health is not worth it. As I said earlier, you will never convince the bully to change their behavior toward you. No matter how many awards or how much recognition you receive, they will never think well of you. They will only re-double their efforts to tear you down.

You must leave.

You may be thinking that it’s fine and dandy for me to recommend that you leave the company, however, your financial situation requires that you stay employed. Then what do you do?

We’ll be talking about this in upcoming posts. Check back next week.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Soul-Prospering – My Writing: Sharing a Short Story (and a Blog Hop!) with You

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I believe each one of us is on this Earth for a specific reason and that reason is to live a soul-prospering life. When we do this, we’re contributing our unique combination of gifts, abilities, and talents to the overarching goal of creating a better world. In the process, we get to live a deeply satisfying and fulfilling life that matters profoundly.

With this in mind, I’d like to share what I’m doing to live my soul-prospering life. Since I’m the author of this blog, I’m sure it comes as no surprise that I like to write. Here is a flash fiction story that I wrote this summer. Flash fiction is a short story of 500 words or less, although some people say the upper limit is 1000 words.

A special treat for you is that this story is part of a blog hop.  At the end you’ll see links to others’ flash fiction stories.  This is my first time participating and I’m very excited about it.

My story is 493 words and is called Black Moon. I hope you enjoy it-enjoy the other stories as well!

Black Moon

Mama turned from the front window of our snug cottage hidden in the dark woods. Even though the lights were out, the star glow was enough to show me her worried face. “A Black Moon on All Hallow’s Eve.  I thought surely you’d– ”

“What, Mama? Whatever it is, I’ll do it.” I didn’t know what was upsetting her but I wanted to make her smile. “It’s still my birthday.  We can be happy about that, right?”

“Of course, my love!  The second New Moon in a month combined with your thirteenth birthday on All Hallow’s Eve. A very special night, indeed.”  Mama hugged me, her fuzzy sweater tickling my nose.

Rustling in the woods drew her to the window.

Oh! A sharp twinge in my hips.  I waited for pain but it didn’t come.  Instead, it felt…natural.

A sudden rush of raw power from Mother Earth coursed through me from my feet to my head.  What was going on?

Rather than fear, giddiness filled me. I bounded to Mama and threw my arms around her. “I lovelovelove the night!”

Mama laughed. “That’s because you’re a vampire.”  She growled, pretending to nibble my neck.

“No, Mama.”  I giggled.  “Then I couldn’t eat your yummy meatloaf, so full of garlic.”

“Hmmm, true.”  Mama pretended to think.  “I know!  You’re really a pixie or a wood sprite, and you fly like the wind.”

“Nope, not it.” I moved from her embrace and rolled my shoulders to ease the cramping. “Flying isn’t the only way to race like the wind.”

“Then you’re a zombie.”  She lumbered toward me, arms outstretched.

I shrieked. “No, Mama!”  The bones in my feet crackled as I dashed away from her.

“Then you’re a fairy or maybe an elf.”

“They’re too small and scrawny and won’t make decent toothpicks much less tasty tidbits.”

“Well then, that leaves one thing.  You’re a–”

Yips and barks close to our cottage.

Too close.

“Oh no!”  She let out a cry of fear.

My gaze sharpened on her. She looked delicate as she backed away from the window.

A howl echoed on the still night air.  My pulse quickened.  My bones ached, muscles throbbed. It felt so good! I stretched in anticipation.

She blindly reached back for me.   “Hide! Wolves!”

Yes Mama, yes. That’s it!

I snapped my jaws now filled with gleaming teeth. I crept toward her, reveling in the power of my new form.

She saw me. Surprise on her face.

I inhaled. Ahhh, the sharp tang of fear.  My mouth watered.  I moved in.

A hard thump at the door followed by a rumbling growl that shook my bones. I stopped, crouched. Uncertain.

She dropped to her knees, relief flooding her face. Now on her hands, too. Broadening, elongating.

Huge.

Now I was surprised.

She padded to me, her claws clicking on the hardwood floor. “Welcome, Pup!” She nuzzled me, her soft fur tickling my nose.  “Come, meet your true family.”

 

Happy Halloween, my dear Pep Pals! Feel free to share in the comments what you do that’s soul-prospering. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Here are the links to the other stories in this blog hop.  Have fun reading!

  1. <a href=”https://inkmapsandmacarons.com/en/snow-white-tabloid-style” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Snow White Tabloid Style, by Fannie Suto</a>
  2. <a href=”https://samanthadunawaybryant.blogspot.com/2018/10/31-of-31-days-of-halloween-writing.html” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Starving Artist, by Samantha Bryant</a>
  3. <a href=”https://wp.barbaralund.com/storytime-blog-h…ers-origin-story/ ‎” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>The Halloween Dance, by Barbara Lund</a>
  4. <a href=” www.elizabethmccleary.com/the-ghost-in-my-yard-blog-hop-october-2018” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>The Ghost In My Yard, by Elizabeth McCleary</a>
  5. <a href=” https://www.katharinagerlach.com/posts/storytime-bloghop-halloween-2018/” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Her Majesty, by Katharina Gerlach</a>
  6. <a href=”https://ctbridges.com/holloween-blog-hop” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Chris Bridges Posting Storytime Blog Hop. Give her shout out and say Hello!</a>
  7. <a href=”https://dailypeptalks.wordpress.com/2018/10/31/5609/ ‎” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Black Moon, by Lauren M. Catherine</a>
  8. <a href=”https://www.jqrose.com/2018/10/storytime-blog-hop-poes-heart-celebrate.html” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Poe’s Heart, by J. Q. Rose</a>
  9. <a href=”https://wp.me/p1z8Ja-3h” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Hanks A Lot, by Joe Bouchard</a>
  10. <a href=”http://reprobatetypewriter.com/storytime-october-2018” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>In The Gray Lake, by Karen Lynn</a>
  11. <a href=”http://www.vanessawellsbooks.com/blog.html” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>The Right Honorable Brotherhood of Spirits, Poltergeists and Ghosts, by Vanessa Wells</a>
  12. <a href=”http://billbushauthor.com/october-2018-storytime-blog-hop” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Life of a Pumpkin, by Bill Bush</a>
  13. <a href=”http://www.ginafabio.com/posts/storytime-blog-hop-why-should-i/” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Why Should I?, by Gina Fabio</a>
  14. <a href=”https://www.junetakey.com/storytime-blog-hop-october-31-2018-have-a-hallowing-halloween/” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Reaper, by Juneta Key</a>