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What Do I Want? Quiet Contemplation to Hear What Your Soul is Saying

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If your soul had a voice, what would it say? ~Iyanla Vanzant

 

This is one of the quotes from yesterday. I’m repeating it today because this one struck a chord with me. Thinking about what I want in terms of how my soul would answer that question helps me tune out the suggestions that well-meaning friends, family, and others have given me over the years.

I know the people who care about me want Life’s finest for me and they are trying their very best to help me get it. But their idea of what Life’s finest is and my idea aren’t always the same, especially when it comes to living a soul-prospering life.

The best way to hear your soul–the best way to quiet the loop of what your friends and family have told you that’s continually chattering in your mind–is in quiet contemplation. This rumination doesn’t have to be done in a prayerful or meditative state and it doesn’t have to be done in any particular pose or any certain place or time. You can be engaged in an activity you enjoy–gardening, woodworking, cooking, tinkering in your workshop. Lightly listen as you’re enjoying yourself; notice your feelings and gently figure out exactly what activity–and what particular part of the activity–is giving you pleasure and bringing you joy.

This is your soul speaking!

Find a way to bring this–what your soul is telling you–into your dealings every day and you’ll be firmly on your path to crafting a soul-prospering life for yourself!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

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Who Am I? It’s a Great Day to Be…!

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I subscribe to a marketing newsletter and the fellow who writes it often starts it with “It’s a great day to be you!” When the newsletter arrives once a week, I usually read it first thing in the morning when I start my work day. Thinking the thought “It’s a great day to be me!” gives me a boost that lasts throughout the day. If it’s a particularly tough day, the thought buoys me when I may have otherwise stumbled.

Recently a friend and I met for coffee. She’s having a tough time of it and is starting to lose hope and become demoralized. I remembered the statement from the newsletter so I told her about it and suggested she repeat the statement when she first opens her eyes in the morning and then repeats it throughout her day. She thought it was too simple and dumb, and said that it smacked too much of “new-agey woo-woo stuff”, but she agreed with me that she had nothing to lose.

She’s been doing it for only a short while and, no, it hasn’t solved all of her problems. Yet. And no, she isn’t like the Disney version of Snow White with bluebirds gaily chirping on her shoulder and cute, fluffy woodland creatures frolicking at her feet as she whistles while she works, but she says it has been helping.

Maybe she’s shifting her vibration and the Universe is responding but it could also be that saying “It’s a great day to be me!” is turning her attention to the good stuff that’s in her life–in spite of the challenges.

We talked about other statements to say, and here’s a few we really liked:

It’s a great day to be me!

I’m lucky to be me!

All sorts of good stuff is coming my way and happening to me today!

Feel free to use these statements yourself–or tweak them so that they are powerful for you.

You may be wondering, “How does this fit into our topic this week of who am I?” I’m glad you asked! These positive statements are showing you who you actually are: you’re a person who can help yourself when you run into a rough patch–you don’t have to rely on others and stay stuck while waiting for help; you can help yourself! When you realize this about yourself it makes you feel a little more capable a little more confident. This then bolsters your feelings of self-reliance and self-efficacy and this raises your confidence and gives you a strong foundation for an unshakable belief in yourself and a genuinely positive attitude.

I’ve followed my own advice and am saying these statements to myself. Join me and my friend in this habit of waking up and saying: “It’s a great day to be me!” and “I’m so lucky to be me!” and “Good stuff is coming to me and happening to me today!”

Let me know the wonderful changes that you notice!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

Crafting a Soul-Prospering Life: 5 Things Soul-Prospered People Know About Themselves

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Here are a few things people who are crafting soul-prospering lives for themselves know about themselves:

~Who they are–they have a clear sense of self;

~What they do–they know what they are good at and, therefore, how they can be effective in helping others with that same thing;

~Who they do it for–who they serve;

~What the people they serve want or need– what problem or issue they’re helping solve in partnership with the people they serve;

~What the people they serve are getting out of it–how the lives of the people they’re serving are transformed as a result of what the person is giving them.

 

People who are living soul-prospering lives can also be described as people who are living their purpose, achieving their mission here on earth, pursuing their destiny.

How about you? How do you describe yourself and your purpose/mission/destiny?

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Crafting a Soul-Prospering Life: One Size Does NOT Fit All!

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I guarantee you that your idea of a soul-prospering life is different than anyone else’s so don’t go freaking out over it and thinking that there’s something wrong with you. In fact, it’s a VERY excellent thing if your imaginings about what your soul-prospering life is turns out to be unique to you–different than anyone else’s!

Even if the same things matter to you and your group of friends, each of you will approach the things in a slightly different manner and different aspects of the things will have greater importance to one person than to another. This is a good thing! There are so many different people “out there” eager for help and insights and inspirations that one size, one message, does not fit all!   We need the message to be said in many different ways, which increases the chance of more people “getting it”.

Go after your soul-prospering life–be proud of it! Be glad that one size does NOT fit all!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Crafting a Soul-Prospering Life: 12 Inspiring Quotes for the New Week

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One of the first things to do in order to craft a soul-prospering life is to get your thoughts right.

Each day is another stepping stone to your soul-prospering life. If you use faulty materials in the form of unhelpful assumptions about yourself (I don’t have what it takes) or misshapen materials in the form of negative thoughts (I can’t, it’s too hard), then the path you’re building won’t be strong and stable and it won’t take you where you want to go.

Here are thoughts you can think the first thing in the morning. Keep these handy to refer to throughout your day:

Don’t let idiots ruin your day. ~Unknown

Today is going to be awesome! ~Unknown

Make good on the promises to yourself. ~Unknown

Feel beautiful today! ~Unknown

Starting today, forget what’s past, appreciate what you have, and look forward to what’s ahead. ~Unknown

If you want your life to change…your choices must change and today is the best day of your life to begin. ~Unknown

Don’t look back. You aren’t going that way. ~Unknown

A little step may be the beginning of a great journey. ~Unknown

Your future is created by what you do today. ~Unknown

Your future is not in your past. Stop looking behind you! ~Unknown

It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood! ~Mr. Rogers

I believe in you! You CAN create a soul-prospering life! ~Lauren, Your Friend and Pep Pal, YesICanPepTalks.com

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

Happy New Year 2018: How to Keep Going When You Want to Give Up

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Sometimes all the pep rallies, power words, compelling reasons ‘why’, and affirmations aren’t enough. In spite of them, you still feel demoralized and disheartened and you reallyreallyreally want to give up.

We’re six days into the New Year and perhaps things aren’t going nearly as well as you had hoped. Maybe you’re finding that, after less than one week into the New Year, your plan is in tatters.

What do you do?

For sure the answer ISN’T doing things like: giving up, throwing in the towel, walking away, telling yourself that you don’t have what it takes.

These are NOT helpful and they will not get you closer to your soul-prospering life. All these will do is demoralize and dishearten you further. And that won’t do anything but keep you stuck where you are.

Not a good scenario.

This is when you have to hunker down and tap into that brute, animalistic force within you.

It’s when you focus on the next step ahead of you–the best action that you see you can take right now–put your head down, and just bull forward.

Remember that you may have to break the next best action into tiny bits and pieces and select the one that you can manage right now; it’s okay to do this, in fact I recommend it.

All of these little bits and pieces of steps DO add up and they WILL eventually take you to your soul-prospering life.

The key is to take action; keep taking the baby steps as well as the tiny bits and pieces of baby steps. By doing this you are forging ahead toward your soul-prospering life.

Don’t worry about how long it’ll take, worry instead about making sure you take a small action today–and every day–that will help you craft your soul-prospering life.

You can do it! I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

Happy New Year! A Pep Rally for 2018!

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There is nothing random in the universe. Everything has a reason and a purpose behind it. We may not understand it, we may not have the science and math to explain it, but there is a reason and a purpose for everything.

Including you.

Because everything has a reason and a purpose behind it, there wasn’t any random, spur-of-the-moment creation. Everything has been meticulously planned down to the smallest detail.

Including you.

Therefore, the family you were born into, your nationality, your level of intelligence, your socio-economic status, your gifts and talents…none of this was random. It was specifically, willfully, with forethought, planned out and created.

You are in the right place in the right time and just as you ought to be in order to carry out your purpose. You have what it takes to craft a soul-prospering life for yourself–a life that makes a difference, that has an impact.

Don’t get caught up in the minutia, the little things in life such as whether or not your skin is the right color or whether or not you’re the right gender or whether or not you have the right type of last name. First of all, there isn’t much you can do about it and, secondly, these things don’t really matter anyway.

The things you can’t change about yourself–your height, your coloring, your age, etc.–don’t have any bearing on whether or not you’ll be successful because it’s your belief about what you can and can’t do, and your attitudes about yourself and the world that will determine whether you’re successful…or not.

The way you have been created has given you something unique to say and to do in this world, and it’s your mission, your purpose, to see that it gets done. What you look like, where you come from, your particular outlook on life, is what gives you your unique perspective and makes what you have to say fresh and new.

No one else can say and do what you can. No one else can bring your particular sense and sensibility and passions to the world. This is the stuff of which your compelling ‘why’ is made.   Even if other people are passionate about the same things you are, the uniqueness of you gives you a special something that no one else has. You bring something different–and desperately needed–to the conversation.

Because you are who you are, you are able to reach people in a way that no one else can.  

You have what it takes–it’s all there inside you. Trust yourself. Trust everything that you are–all of who you are–because it’s all there specifically to help you Live your purpose and your passion and achieve your mission here on Earth.

So stop fretting about things that don’t really matter and things you can’t change about yourself. Focus instead on your purpose and your mission–which is the basis of your compelling ‘why’. Then, to the best of your ability, get out there and do it!

Happy 2018!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren