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Inspiring Quotes: 6 to Help You Grieve



As part of loss, we grieve.   Grief is the feelings that are inside of us.

We can feel silly grieving if it doesn’t involve the loss of a loved one. We may think that we should buck up, keep a stiff upper lip, and that we should carry on as if nothing happened.

But the loss of a job–even one we hated–or the break-up of a marriage, or any other transition–even ones we’ve longed for such as finally getting out on your own or finally retiring–can trigger grief.

It is perfectly normal to grieve your loss. Here are a few quotes to help you through:

The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing, and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares. ~Henri J.M. Nouwen


I remember my aunt telling me however I chose to handle this would be the right way.   There isn’t a handbook or a script.   You just take it as it comes, one day at a time. ~Kayla


Loss and heartache do not define you. They are only one part of your story. ~Unknown


The deeper that sorrow cares into your being the more joy you can contain. Is not the up that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven? ~Kahlil Gibran


The darker the night, the brighter the stars; the deeper the grief, the closer is God!   ~Fyodor Dostoyevsky


What feels like the end is often a new beginning. ~Unknown


A reminder: when you are dealing with a grief, reach out to others.   Counselors, religious leaders, and other professionals are trained to help. Also, friends and loved ones can offer comfort and support.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,



Inspiring Quotes: 6 to Help with Loss



Sometimes, no matter how much experience we have or how talented and gifted we are or how strongly we believe in our Vision, things don’t go our way; a door closes…permanently.


We must come to terms with it. Here are 6 quotes to help us do this:

Believe me, every heart has its secret sorrows, which the world knows not, and oftentimes we call a man cold, when he is only sad. –Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, Hyperion


Look for the gift.   Every experience–even the difficult ones–holds a gift. The gift isn’t found wrapped in pretty paper with a sparkly bow; instead, you find it wrapped within your heartache and sadness. Go ahead. Unwrap it.   It’ll be one of the best gifts you’ve ever received. ~Unknown


The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of those depths.   ~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross


Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in my perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have–life itself. ~Walter Anderson


When you lose something in your life, stop thinking it’s a loss for you. It is a gift you have been give so you can get on the right path to where you are meant to go, not to where you think you should have gone. ~Suze Orman


When you go through hell, your own personal hell, and you have lost–loss of fame, loss of money, loss of career, loss of family, loss of love, loss of your own identity–and you’ve been able to face the demons that have haunted you, then you learn to appreciate everything that you still do have. ~David Cassidy


A reminder: when you are dealing with a loss, reach out to others.   Counselors, religious leaders, and other professionals are trained to help in these situations. Also, friends and loved ones can offer a shoulder to cry on, a sympathetic ear to listen, and a warm hand to hold.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,



Inspiring Quotes: It Isn’t Costly, A Poem by Edgar A. Guest




A poem to keep in mind this week:


  Does the grouch get richer quicker than the
     friendly sort of man?
  Can the grumbler labor better than the cheerful
     fellow can?
  Is the mean and churlish neighbor any cleverer
     than the one
  Who shouts a glad “good morning,” and then
     smiling passes on?

  Just stop and think about it. Have you ever
     known or seen
  A mean man who succeeded, just because he
     was so mean?
  When you find a grouch with honors and with
     money in his pouch,
  You can bet he didn’t win them just because
     he was a grouch.

  Oh, you’ll not be any poorer if you smile along
     your way,
  And your lot will not be harder for the kindly
     things you say.
  Don’t imagine you are wasting time for others
     that you spend:
  You can rise to wealth and glory and still pause
     to be a friend.

~Edgar A. Guest



Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Inspiring Quotes: 6 for Banishing Discouragement

I apologize for the delay in getting this post to you.  I was unable to log into WordPress yesterday.





We all have disappointments and frustrations and, from time-to-time, we sometimes allow those to get the better of us.  The next thing we know, we’re feeling discouraged.

Here are a few quotes to help turn discouragement around:

One of the things I learned the hard way was that it doesn’t pay to get discouraged.  Keep busy and making optimism a way of life can restore your faith in yourself.  ~Lucille Ball


We all have to start somewhere, and doing something is better than nothing at all.  Start small so you don’t get discouraged and give up.  Remember it is all about consistency.  ~Khloe Kardhasian


No matter how frustrated, disappointed and discouraged we may feel in the face of our failures, it’s only temporary.  And the faster you can stop wallowing in guilt, blame, or resentment, the faster you can put it behind you.  ~Fabrizio Moreira


History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually encountered heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed.  They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats.  ~B.C. Forbes


A man can get discouraged many times but he is not a failure until he begins to blame somebody else and stops trying.  ~John Burroughs


Ships don’t sink because of the water around them; ships sink because of the water that gets in them.  Don’t’ let what’s happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.  ~Unkown


Which quote did you like the best?  Keep it handy and refer to it often and it’ll give you the boost you need.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Inspiring Quotes: 6 for Banishing Worry




All of these quotes have the old-fashioned common sense that Grandma was so good at dispensing.   Let me know which quote you like the best.

That the birds of worry and care fly over your head, this you cannot change, but that they build nests in your hair, this you can prevent.  Chinese Proverb


Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere. – Erma Bombeck


There is a great difference between worry and concern. A worried person sees a problem, and a concerned person solves a problem.  Harold Stephen


We can easily manage if we will only take, each day, the burden appointed to it. But the load will be too heavy for us if we carry yesterday’s burden over again today, and then add the burden of the morrow before we are required to bear it.
– John Newton


If you can’t sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there worrying. It’s the worry that gets you, not the lack of sleep. Dale Carnegie


Worry a little bit every day and in a lifetime you will lose a couple of years. If something is wrong, fix it if you can. But train yourself not to worry. Worry never fixes anything. – Mary Hemingway


Which quote was your favorite? Let me know in the comments below. Thanks!

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Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Self-Encouragement: Benefits



You may be thinking that you have a supportive group around you: trusted friends, loved ones, great mentors and teachers, and a network of encouraging colleagues to whom you can turn. You’ve hit rough patches before and you had no trouble finding sympathetic and helpful people. That’s fantastic and I’m very glad you have that.


I challenge you, though, to learn to encourage yourself.


If you realize how to do this for yourself, you will develop invaluable abilities and benefits:   you’ll deepen your self-confidence; you’ll develop potent stick-to-it-ive-ness; you’ll build vigorous resilience. You’ll know you can depend upon yourself to figure “it” out and to pull yourself up.

An additional benefit is that your encouragement will be tailor made just for you–you’ll know just how to motivate yourself and exactly what will sustain that energy.   You won’t have to tweak a system to sorta, kinda, hopefully get it to work for you. It’ll work 100% of the time because YOU are the one who crafted it!

Take time each day this week to note things that lift your spirits, that urge you onward when you’d rather quit, and the things that make all the time and all the effort “sooooo worth it”. Jot them down and keep them handy for when you need a boost.

You can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Self-Forgiveness: A Deeper Dive



I came across an excellent article on self-forgiveness as a critical component of healing guilt and shame.  I found it on Psychology Today’s blog.    It’s a bit of a lengthy read, but if you’re struggling with guilt, shame, and blame (or if you know someone who’s grappling with these) this article is well worth it.

The article talks about:

~The devastating effects of guilt, shame, and not forgiving yourself;

~An explanation of the difference between guilt and shame;

~Obstacles to self-forgiveness;

~Forgiving yourself when you’ve harmed others.


The article takes a closer look at four avenues of self-forgiveness:


~Common humanity;

~Earning forgiveness;

~Asking for forgiveness from Source.


My takeaway from this article was the discussion on forgiving yourself when you’ve caused harm to another.  When people talk about forgiveness, usually it’s from the vantage point of having been harmed by someone.  This is the first article that I’ve found that openly discusses how to forgive  yourself when you’ve been the perpetrator of the harm.

What insights did you get from the article?  Let me know in the comments below.  Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,