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Silence and Meditation: 24 Ways to Do It

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Yesterday we admitted that one of the reasons we don’t have a regular meditation practice is because we’re afraid it may be painful–sitting in one twisted position for hours (days!) on end…! We talked about several different types of meditation and that one of them might be just the ticket for you.

I also wanted to draw your attention to the fact that there are plenty of ways to meditate, to “sit” in silence, that don’t require sitting in one position for a long time.

Here are some suggestions, 24 to be exact:

Taking a slow walk – being aware of the sights, sounds, aromas…

Observing nature – closely watching squirrels, birds, ants, bees…

Moving your body – dance, walking, yoga, gentle exercise…

Doodling – making random marks or shapes;

Studying closely a favorite photograph – of loved ones, a landscape, flowers…

Repetitive activity – gardening, cleaning, folding laundry, kneading dough…

Making sounds – hum one or two notes, play with wind chimes, experiment with pots and pans and empty bottles…

Still water – fill a bowl with water and make ripples, waves, splashes, or gazing into the stillness…

Running water – let water run through your fingers or dangle your feet in a pond or in your bathtub!

Gazing into a flame – a candle flame, flames in a fireplace or fire pit

Gratefulness – counting your blessings instead of your troubles

Laughing – yes, this is a valid meditation technique AS WELL AS yoga technique! Even if you aren’t in a good mood or feel stupid laughing at nothing, force yourself to do it anyway. Soon, you’ll be laughing on your own. If you need a boost to get started, there are YouTube videos of people laughing.

Focus on a peaceful image – water gently lapping on a beach, a burbling brook, a field of flowers swaying in a playful breeze, a beautiful spring day, a peaceful snowy evening…

Memory – remembering and re-living a happy event: the holidays with your loved ones, a special vacation, the birth of a baby…

Listening to music – classical music, sacred music, uplifting music…

Guided meditations – many, many choices on YouTube

Breath – focusing on your breathing, counting your breaths, breathing deeply and slowly…

Rhythmic playing – gently bouncing a ball, easy tossing and catching a ball by yourself, looking through a kaleidoscope…

Letting go – letting your body totally relax, feeling as if you’re melting into the chair or floor or bed…

Daydreaming – softening your focus and gazing out the window

Holding an object – rosary beads, smooth stone, special object…

Rocking – by yourself or with a loved one in a rocking chair, standing and shifting from foot to foot…

Human contact – hug yourself, hug a loved, hold a friend’s hand…

Ponder – an inspiring thought, a sacred passage, something a friend or loved one said that has resonated with you.

 

The point is that there isn’t only one right way to meditate…although the one right method is the one that works best for you (there can be more than one right method for you).

Choose several of these types because you may find that when you’re in certain moods that some methods work better than others for you.

Experiment and have fun with this! Then commit to doing some type of meditation every day; you’ll be very glad you did!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Attitudes and Expectations: Expect To…

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Expect to enjoy yourself as you go for your dreams;

Expect to meet interesting people along the way as you go for your dreams;

Expect to meet helpful people who’ll encourage you as you go for your dreams;

Expect to learn some very interesting things about yourself as you go for your dreams;

Expect to find talents, abilities, and gifts inside yourself that you had no idea you had, as you go for your dreams;

Expect to do, see, and experience things you never thought possible as you go for your dreams;

Expect to be excited and energized as you go for your dreams;

Expect to have a peaceful contented mind as you go for your dreams;

Expect to build a life that matters , that makes a difference, as you go for your dreams;

Expect to love Life as you go for your dreams;

Expect to fall in love with yourself as you go for your dreams;

Go for it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Attitude and Expectancy: Is Yours Truly Positive?

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I’m sure you know it’s important to have a positive attitude. Not only does this make your path to your dreams easier and more pleasant, but studies have shown that optimistic people reap physical, mental, and emotional benefits as well.

How positive is your attitude, though?

It’s easy to be upbeat when everything is going well. But if the surface gets scratched or dinged just a little bit, do your good spirits quickly deflate like punctured tire?

If so, then I encourage you to take a close look at your expectancy. It can be quite a surprise to discover what you truly expect. You may find that although you say you believe things will turn around for you, when you look closely at what you’re actually expecting, you may be shocked to find that you really don’t think things will turn out well at all.

One quick way to get a read on your expectancy is to think about what’s your state of mind first thing in the morning or the last thing at night? How do you approach new tasks or situations? If you find any of the following–even just a little bit–then you need to take a closer look at your expectations:

~Waking up with dread;

~Going to bed mentally exhausted;

~Reluctant or hesitant to try new things;

~Anxiety when the boss assigns you to a task you’ve never done;

~Procrastinating, especially when faced with something new….

 

As you go through your days this week, stay mindful of whether you’re reluctant, tired, anxious or dragging your feet, or if you’re excited, energetic, and eager to get started. If you aren’t enthused, then do a little bit of digging to find out what’s the thought–the assumption or expectation–that’s at the core. Keep track of what you discover so that you can find a pattern or the common thread. This will help you in overcoming and resetting your expectations.

I know this sounds like a lot and perhaps you’re feeling a little nervous about this topic. Don’t worry; we’re going to be talking about attitude and expectations this whole week. In fact, tomorrow I have a YouTube video to share with you that I think you’ll find helpful.

You can do this; I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

12 Quotes of Inspiration

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The number one reason people fail in life is because they listen to their friends, family, and neighbors. ~Napoleon Hill

 

You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it. ~Margaret Thatcher

 

Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no help at all. ~Dale Carnegie

 

Our greatest fear should not be of failure but of succeeding at things in life that don’t really matter. ~Francis Chan

 

Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success. ~Dale Carnegie

 

The only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary. ~Vidal Sassoon

 

Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone. ~Pablo Picasso

 

All progress takes place outside the comfort zone. ~Michael John Bobak

 

Your problem isn’t the problem. Your reaction is the problem. ~Anonymous

 

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you. ~Lolly Daskal

 

If you want to achieve greatness stop asking for permission. ~Anonymous

 

The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away. ~Anonymous

 

Which quote resonated with you? Keep it handy throughout your day and refer to it frequently. Let it give you the boost you need!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Playlist for When You’re Anxious or Frightened

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Life can be scary, especially when we let our imaginations go and conjure all sorts of disasters waiting to befall us. Or, our imaginations can be more petrifying by not dishing up anything specific but yet terrorizing us with the Nebulous Unknown.

I hope one or all of these selections can help you feel grounded and safe when you’re in the throes of fear and anxiety:

 

The Cradle Song composed by Brahms

 

Ave Maria composed by Franz Schubert

 

Ave Maria composed by Bach/Gounod

 

Canon in D Major composed by Pachelbel

 

Clair de Lune composed by Debussey

 

Let it Be composed and sung by The Beatles

 

Twinkle Twinkle Little Star sung by Jewel

 

Over the Rainbow as sung by Judy Garland

 

Angel Standing By as sung by Jewel

 

 

If you have favorite songs that help you feel calm and safe, please share in the comments below.  Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Playlist to Harness Your Anger

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The power of anger can feel almost uncontrollable, and that can be very scary. As a result, oftentimes we feel we need to “stuff” our angry feelings because we want to scream, shout, and throw a fit…but we know that won’t solve anything. But yet, what do we do with all that energy?

One of the best ways to release the steam that builds up when we’re angry is through music and movement. Here is a short playlist to help you do that.

Even though some of these songs are about love gone wrong, feel free to substitute words and names so that the song is customized to you and your situation.

Remember to use the energy to help you take the next step!

Enjoy this playlist!

 

These Boots Are Made for Walking sung by Nancy Sinatra

 

Gonna Wash That Man Right Outta My Hair sung by Mitzi Gaynor

 

You Better Be Good to Me sung by Tina Turner

 

My Boyfriend’s Back sung by The Angels

 

That’ll be the Day sung by Buddy Holly

 

That Don’t Impress Me Much sung by Shania Twain

 

Change sung by Taylor Swift

 

Me, Too sung by Meghan Trainor

 

Shake it Off sung by Taylor Swift

 

Confident sung by Demi Lovato

 

 

Feel free to share your playlist with us. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Back by Popular Demand: Playlist for When You’re Feeling Discouraged

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Following on the heels of yesterday’s post of a playlist for when you’re anxious and filled with dread, here’s an updated playlist for when you’re feeling discouraged. Please note, the original of this post was published on March 29, 2016.

I hope one or more of these selections stir you to take the next step toward your dreams!

 

Ride of the Valkyries composed by Wagner

 

William Tell Overture composed by Rossini

 

1812 Overture composed by Tchaikovsky

 

In the Hall of the Mountain King composed by Grieg

 

Flight of the Bumblebee composed by Rimsky-Korsakov

 

Sabre Dance composed by Khachaturian

 

 

And whether or not you’re American, there’s nothing like a John Phillip Sousa march to get the old juices flowing again! J

 

Stars and Stripes Forever composed by John Phillip Sousa

 

 

 

Here is the original post and playlist published on March 29, 2016:

 

~Never Surrender – Corey Hart

 

~Hold on Tight – Greg Holden

 

~Hall of Fame – The Script feat. will.i.am

 

~Keep Your Head Up – Andy Grammer

 

~Stand – Rascal Flatts

 

~I Won’t Back Down – Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers

 

 

Feel free to share your favorite playlist with us.  Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren