I’m a week late in honoring Mr. Roger’s birthday—he would have been 91 on the 20th of March. He is best known for his gentle ways and his homespun wisdom. Sometimes now, and especially when he was alive, he is/was ridiculed for this. My thought is that some people make fun of his loving goodwill not because they think it’s stupid but rather because they’re desperate for that gracious acceptance and are terrified that it’s a sham, like so much else in this world.
I assure you that loving kindness is alive and well in this world. There are many people who are welcoming, friendly, and reaching out a hand to others. They are right in your community. In fact, you may be sitting next to them in school or at work. Like Mr. Rogers, they, too, like you just the way you are. You can be yourself, and that’s enough!
Previously we talked about how Source has anointed and consecrated us, and that we are holy. Even though we know this, sometimes the concept is nebulous and, therefore, doesn’t do much for us. Today and this week let’s make that more than just a nice thought. Let’s make that tangible so that we can bring that anointing and consecration into our lives and make it a real thing that we can feel and experience. Let’s make it something that we can truly know and believe for ourselves.
Here are three techniques that I use to help myself. First, though, let me add a disclaimer: I don’t always remember to do these things for myself. Sometimes life distractions get in the way and discombobulate me so I forget about these techniques—I’m not perfect! 🙂
As I’m washing up in the morning, instead of rushing through it or doing it mindlessly, when I’m in the shower, I’ll think about the water. I’ll tune into it running down over my head, my face, my shoulders, my arms, my body, my legs, and my feet. I imagine that the water is Source anointing and consecrating me. The water is not only washing away the earthly dirt, but it’s washing away the residue of yesterday and the unhelpful stuff I may be clinging to.
Then I think about the shower water flowing over me on a deeper level, that it’s cleaning and clearing blockages and sticking points and aligning me to the Divine. I think and say, “Every atom, every molecule, every structure, every cell, every tissue, every organ, every system, and all that is me is alight, alive, aglow, and aligned with Divine Source. I am resonating and vibrating at Divine Source’s frequency. I am aligned with all that is Good, all that is Holy, and all that is Divine.”
I think about this in an experiential way, meaning that I tune into my body as I am thinking and saying these statements and feel where they are resonating in my body. I tune in and describe what it feels like and the emotion it’s eliciting. I anchor those feelings and emotions so that as I go through my day and if/when I start to become discombobulated in some way, I can tune back in and remember Source’s anointing so I can focus and re-center on that.
Another technique is to eat intuitively. When at the grocery store, instead of just grabbing this ‘n that to throw together into something somewhat edible, I’ll pause and think about each item first. I’ll hold the item near my heart chakra and tune in to how it’s making me feel, what emotions it’s bringing out.
For instance if I’m using this technique while buying bell peppers, I’ll hold one in my hand and ask myself how this makes me feel. I’ll tune into my thoughts, the feelings in my body, and the emotions I’m experiencing. I might think, “I like the green bell pepper but wow, those red peppers and the orange ones and those bright yellow ones! Holy moly, I love those colors!” In that case, I’ll choose the red, orange, and yellow peppers instead.
Do this for all the food you choose on that shopping trip, knowing that this is your inner wisdom guiding you, which is connected to the Divine. Actually, it’s Divine speaking to you through your inner wisdom. And don’t worry if you don’t really feel anything or you’re not sure. You really can’t make a wrong choice. It might take a few tries over time to be able to feel the little nudges and the small quiet voice of your inner wisdom.
Also, don’t worry if you find yourself in the cookies section or the chip section and you really, really, really want to buy some. Give yourself permission to buy one package. When you feel that you need to eat these things, especially if it’s a pressing need, go ahead and eat them, but try to be do it in moderation. As you’re eating, ask yourself, “Why do I feel I need this? What problem am I trying to solve? What lack am I trying to fulfill?” Tune into your body and where you’re feeling sensations and what emotions are coming up. Once you have some of these answers you can then think about solving them in a healthier way—solving them without reaching for cookies or ice cream or chips and dip.
Another technique I use is listening to uplifting messages and sounds. Depending on what I think I need at that moment or that day—again, it’s a matter of tuning into my inner wisdom—I go to YouTube and I find audios/videos such as birds chirping, or Gregorian chants. Other days it’s wind chimes with nature sounds, or Tibetan singing bowls, or maybe inspiring messages. Other times it’s Ella Fitzgerald that “hits the spot” for me! I turn the volume very low if I’m at work so as not to disturb my colleagues.
These are three techniques that help me keep myself centered on the Truth about me which is I’m a child of the universe no less than the trees and the Stars and I have a right to be here. This is True about you, too. And the other truth about me—and you—is that I am anointed, I am consecrated, I am holy.
Feel free to tweak these techniques as needed to make them resonate more deeply for you. In the comments section let me know how they work for you. Thanks!
One of the most important parts of the day is the early morning hours when we first awaken. How we use those minutes sets the tone and the pace for the day. Successful people as well as experts in the Personal Development field encourage us to start with something positive and uplifting.
Here is a Pep Rally to help us get off on the right foot each day. Thee best way to use these statements is to stand tall in front of a mirror, smile brightly, and say these with as much enthusiasm as possible:
I am in charge!
I am in charge of myself
I am in charge of my life
I am in charge of my present moment
I am in charge of my future
I am in charge of what I think about
I am in charge of what I believe about myself
II am in charge of what I believe about my dreams
I am in charge of my capabilities, skills, and abilities
I am in charge of my competency, intelligence, common sense, and street smarts
I am in charge of saying yes
I am in charge of saying no
I am in charge of my emotions and feelings
I am in charge of how I interpret each situation
I am in charge of looking for the good, the benefit, the catapult moving me forward in all situations
I am in charge of taking action, taking baby steps, of moving forward
I am in charge of getting it done
I am in charge of just doing it
I am in charge of my moods and temperament
I am in charge of taking one more step
I am in charge of the cards that Life has dealt me
I am in charge of whether an event, a situation–or what another has or hasn’t done to me or for me–whether it makes me or breaks me
I am in charge of what I do and what I do not
I am in charge of my doubts
I am in charge of my fears
I am in charge of my worries
I am in charge of my sadness
I am in charge of my anger
I am in charge of my disappointment
I am in charge of my frustration and annoyance
I am in charge of my despondency and depression
I am in charge of my anxieties and panicks
I am in charge of my body
I am in charge of my mind
I am in charge of my soul
I am in charge of my spirituality
I am in charge of how I respond to others
I am in charge of how I respond to situations
I am in charge of how I respond to events
I am in charge of how I respond to getting the short end of the stick
I am in charge of my freedom
I am in charge of my thoughts
I am in charge of my dreams
I am in charge!
If any of these statements resonate with you, jot them down and keep them handy. Say them often to yourself through out thee day.
We all have cherished memories of wonderful times in the past, and we also can remember times that weren’t so great. It’s okay to think of these every once in a while, but to dwell in the past…not such a good strategy.
As the poem below points out, living in the present moment and looking ahead to the bright promise of the future is a great way to begin again.
The New Days
The old days, the old days, how oft the poets sing,
The days of hope at dewy morn, the days of early spring,
The days when every mead was fair, and every heart was true,
And every maiden wore a smile, and every sky was blue
The days when dreams were golden and every night brought rest,
The old, old days of youth and love, the days they say were best
But I—I sing the new days, the days that lie before,
The days of hope and fancy, the days that I adore.
The new days, the new days, the selfsame days they are;
The selfsame sunshine heralds them, the selfsame evening star
Shines out to light them on their way unto the Bygone Land,
And with the selfsame arch of blue the world to-day is spanned.
The new days, the new days, when friends are just as true,
And maidens smile upon us all, the way they used to do,
Dreams we know are golden dreams, hope springs in every breast;
It cheers us in the dewy morn and soothes us when we rest.
The new days, the new days, of them I want to sing,
The new days with the fancies and the golden dreams they bring;
The old days had their pleasures, but likewise have the new
The gardens with their roses and the meadows bright with dew;
We love to-day the selfsame way they loved in days of old;
The world is bathed in beauty and it isn’t growing cold;
There’s joy for us a-plenty, there are tasks for us to do,
And life is worth the living, for the friends we know are true.
As a follow-up to yesterday’s post encouraging us to hang in there when the inevitable challenges show up, below are a few techniques that might help us.
Talk to a friend or loved one who can be counted on to be positive, encouraging, and supportive.
If we don’t have anyone in our life like this right now, then we can go to YouTube and listen to the many, many motivational and inspirational messages posted there.
Have a small victory–a large one is good, too!
We can do an easy task, for instance, cleaning out and straightening the junk drawer in the kitchen. Having a small victory can go a long way toward helping us gain perspective on our circumstances.
Perhaps there’s a colleague or a neighbor that is struggling. Reach out a helping hand. This can help us get out of our own way and can help us see that we aren’t the only one with problems and difficulties.
If nothing else, we can share our smile with passersby and hold the door open for the people coming behind us.
Be gentle and kind.
While we might be tempted to find fault with ourselves, this is counter-productive. This only adds to the bad feelings we may be experiencing.
Instead realize that we did our best with the information and skills we had at the time. It’s fine to note the places where we might improve or use a different tactic next time, but to dwell on it doesn’t help.
Kindness and gentleness–which is NOT the same as letting ourselves off the hook–are what are needed now. These can go a long way toward soothing and calming us so that we can think and then take action. Clear thinking and taking action are the two most important things we can do.
The next moment is fresh and new and ready for us to begin again.
The next moment is full of potential. We can choose right here and right now to make a fresh start. No matter what has or has not happened in the past, we can begin anew now.
It is not enough to begin; continuance is necessary. Success depends upon staying power. The reason for failure in most cases is lack of perseverance. ~ Miller
Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time. ~ Thomas A. Edison
Most people never run far enough on their first wind to find out they’ve got a second. ~ William James
All of us have bad luck and good luck. The man who persists through the bad luck – who keeps right on going – is the man who is there when the good luck comes – and is ready to receive it.~ Robert Collier
Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. – Thomas Edison
If you are going through hell, keep going. ~ Winston Churchill
Your homework today is to earmark time in your upcoming week where you can take the next step.
We’re all busy and our time is over-committed. With that in mind, make sure you break the steps into teensy-tiny, itsy-bitsy pieces that are so small that they can easily fit into the little smidgens of free time in your schedule. Then do those bits and smidgens!
This world is a noisy, crazy–sometimes terrifying–place and it seems as if it’s getting noisier, crazier, and more terrifying by the minute. We’re overwhelmed by it all and, what’s worse, it seems as if there’s no relief coming anytime soon.
This is how Sitting in Silence can help. This practice gives you the opportunity to make much needed space–margin, as it’s called these days–in your life.
To be a vibrant, whole person who’s fully engaged in living life, you need this space. You need space to think, space to feel, space to make sense of things. You need space to absorb your thoughts and feelings, and assimilate them into your life. These are the basis of your success and happiness in life.
I urge and encourage you to Sit in Silence every single day. Do it first thing in the morning for fifteen minutes. Stick with it for a month and see what happens. I am positive you’ll be pleased with the calmness that will settle into your life.