I just heard something really cool about affirmations and I knew you’d be blown away by, too.
I just heard an interview by Brendon Burchard, a popular high performance coach, who talked about some of the research he’s concluded on peak achievement. In a small section of the interview he talked about the surprising things he and his research team discovered about affirmations.
In speaking to thousands of high performing international business people and world-class athletes from around the world, Brendon Burchard’s research has debunked another “truth” about affirmations: they must be “I” statements. He and his team concluded that affirmations are more powerful when they are stated in the second or third person, instead of the first person.
For instance, here is a positive statement in the first person: “I am so lucky to be doing work I love. I am honored to be helping others. I feel great when I have a positive impact on others, helping them improve their lives.”
Here is that same statement in the second person: “Brendon, you are so lucky to be doing the work you love. You are so honored to be helping others. You feel great when you have a positive impact on others, helping them improve their lives.”
Here’s the same statement in third person: “Brendon is so luck to be doing work he loves. Brendon is honored to be helping others. He feels great when he has a positive impact on others, helping them improve their lives.”
Which new technique feels more comfortable for you, statements in the second person or in the third person? I think I prefer second person.
I’m going to give this a try and I’ll let you know how it goes. Join me and let me know how it goes for you! Thanks!
Perhaps they are too far down the road. Even though we think we formulated affirmations for just a few steps ahead, perhaps those steps are bigger than we realized and, as a result, our affirmations are trying to push us to take too big of a step or a step we aren’t ready to take. Break your affirmations into little steps.
~Leave some room, some air, in them for Magic.
Perhaps the affirmations we made are too structured, too defined, and there’s no room for unexpected better things to come along. For instance, I have a friend who talks to the Universe and says what she’s striving for and gives what she thinks is the best course of action, but then she says that she’s leaving the actual “how” of it in the Universe’s hands. Sure enough, more often than not, something unexpected usually happens and it’s something she never thought of–and it’s usually better in some way. Give your affirmations some elbow room to work out!
Above all, keep going! Keep taking steps and affirming that everything is working out for you!
Give these two suggestions a try when you hit a rough patch with your affirmations. Let me know how they work out for you. Thanks!
Let’s get the week started right. This poem reminds us what’s important, and it isn’t what the world tells us is right and valuable. It’s what our own hearts and souls tell us.
To live as gently as I can; To be, no matter where, a man/woman; To take what comes of good or ill And cling to faith and honor still; To do my best, and let that stand The record of my brain and hand; And then, should failure come to me, Still work and hope for victory.
To have no secret place wherein I stoop unseen to shame or sin; To be the same when I’m alone As when my every deed is known; To live undaunted, unafraid Of any step that I have made; To be without pretense or sham Exactly what men think I am.
To leave some simple mark behind To keep my having lived in mind; If enmity to aught I show, To be an honest, generous foe, To play my little part, nor whine That greater honors are not mine. This, I believe, is all I need For my philosophy and creed.
They say to me that they have no idea what a soul-prospering life would look like for them. They tell me they’ve been searching all their lives and they feel they’re no closer to discovering it than when they first started looking.
But all it does is keep you stuck, and yearning, and wishing…and unhappy because you know you have so much more inside.
What do you do about this?
You take 15 – 20 minutes of quiet, uninterrupted time and answer the following questions, but do NOT let the Practical Pete/Pam part of your mind interfere!
~What do I love doing or what do I enjoy doing?
~If making a living weren’t a consideration, what would I love to do or what do I think I’d enjoy doing?
Yes, yes I know you’ve seen these questions before but you thought your answers were so ridiculous, pie-in-the-sky, impractical, and just plain old nuts that you thought it was a worthless, time-wasting exercise.
If you want to live a soul-prospering life, you MUST take these unrealistic, outlandish ideas seriously!!!
Of course do your homework and your due diligence, but do it in a way that helps you take baby steps towards your dreams, NOT in a way that shoots down your dreams!!!
You just don’t know how things are going to work out. Remember my friend who’s the avid knitter–we talked about her on Tuesday. She thought her “regular” job would have to support her knitting passion but, as she followed her heart and didn’t worry about the money, she found that her knitting paid for itself. In spite of the fact that she was giving away a much of her knitting the charitable organizations she founded and others she was affiliated with, not only did the knitting pay for itself in real dollars and cents, but there was even money left over!
My advice is to presume that your dreams are your Destiny calling to you and to keep reaching, stretching, and moving toward it.
You’re excited, and you have dreams and plans…but you just can’t seem to start.
Maybe you’ve told yourself that the timing isn’t right, or you have too much on your plate right now, or when you have more money….
These seemingly practical reasons are nothing more than fear dressing itself up in a disguise that’s designed to keep you in your comfort zone.
The key to overcoming this, the key to starting, is to start–to take action.
Yesterday’s post urged you to choose one of your wild and crazy ideas to begin working on. Yes it’s big. Yes it’s overwhelming. Yes it’s scary. But the more you stand there staring at it and trembling and shivering, the more you will shake and quaver.
The best thing is to find a piece of the whole that seems like it’d be fun and/or easy. Start with that. Break it into small doable pieces. Choose a piece and do it.
When you’ve completed that little piece, make sure you reward yourself! This is incredibly important! Acknowledge the fact that it was hard and scary. Also acknowledge that you took a little step anyway and, surprise!, it wasn’t that bad after all!
Then choose another little piece and do that. Remember the reward! Then repeat this sequence to keep yourself going.
Crafting a soul-prospering life sounds great, but how do you actually do this? It’s easier than you think.
It’s easier because you already know what it is that will give you a soul-prospering life. All you need to do is turn away from what the world says is valuable and worthy, quiet your mind, and follow the Still Small Voice within.