I guarantee you that your idea of a soul-prospering life is different than anyone else’s so don’t go freaking out over it and thinking that there’s something wrong with you. In fact, it’s a VERY excellent thing if your imaginings about what your soul-prospering life is turns out to be unique to you–different than anyone else’s!
Even if the same things matter to you and your group of friends, each of you will approach the things in a slightly different manner and different aspects of the things will have greater importance to one person than to another. This is a good thing! There are so many different people “out there” eager for help and insights and inspirations that one size, one message, does not fit all! We need the message to be said in many different ways, which increases the chance of more people “getting it”.
Go after your soul-prospering life–be proud of it! Be glad that one size does NOT fit all!
There is nothing random in the universe. Everything has a reason and a purpose behind it. We may not understand it, we may not have the science and math to explain it, but there is a reason and a purpose for everything.
Because everything has a reason and a purpose behind it, there wasn’t any random, spur-of-the-moment creation. Everything has been meticulously planned down to the smallest detail.
Therefore, the family you were born into, your nationality, your level of intelligence, your socio-economic status, your gifts and talents…none of this was random. It was specifically, willfully, with forethought, planned out and created.
You are in the right place in the right time and just as you ought to be in order to carry out your purpose. You have what it takes to craft a soul-prospering life for yourself–a life that makes a difference, that has an impact.
Don’t get caught up in the minutia, the little things in life such as whether or not your skin is the right color or whether or not you’re the right gender or whether or not you have the right type of last name. First of all, there isn’t much you can do about it and, secondly, these things don’t really matter anyway.
The things you can’t change about yourself–your height, your coloring, your age, etc.–don’t have any bearing on whether or not you’ll be successful because it’s your belief about what you can and can’t do, and your attitudes about yourself and the world that will determine whether you’re successful…or not.
The way you have been created has given you something unique to say and to do in this world, and it’s your mission, your purpose, to see that it gets done. What you look like, where you come from, your particular outlook on life, is what gives you your unique perspective and makes what you have to say fresh and new.
No one else can say and do what you can. No one else can bring your particular sense and sensibility and passions to the world. This is the stuff of which your compelling ‘why’ is made. Even if other people are passionate about the same things you are, the uniqueness of you gives you a special something that no one else has. You bring something different–and desperately needed–to the conversation.
Because you are who you are, you are able to reach people in a way that no one else can.
You have what it takes–it’s all there inside you. Trust yourself. Trust everything that you are–all of who you are–because it’s all there specifically to help you Live your purpose and your passion and achieve your mission here on Earth.
So stop fretting about things that don’t really matter and things you can’t change about yourself. Focus instead on your purpose and your mission–which is the basis of your compelling ‘why’. Then, to the best of your ability, get out there and do it!
Your motivating factor, your compelling reason ‘why’ regarding the particular brand of soul-prospering life you want to craft, is essential to energizing you through the tough times.
Here are some examples:
Whys that grow organically out of difficult personal experiences:
Enduring grueling challenges such as poverty and abuse. These experiences have the ability to maim and crush people, but they can also be the furnace that forges a spirit that’s stronger than steel or titanium.
Whys that have their roots in observations of others’ suffering:
While you may not have suffered a particular hardship, it nonetheless affects you deeply whether you observe it in your personal life or your professional life. For instance doctors, lawyers, and other professionals that donate their time and expertise to people who can’t afford their services yet they desperately need them.
Whys that come from a “higher calling”:
These kind of ‘whys’ are easy to see in world-class athletes. They are obsessed with excelling in their particular sport but yet they may not be able to fully articulate the reason why. This type of ‘why’ is not limited to athletes. I know of a man who is a drummer. He is totally consumed with rhythms–he can’t stop himself from tapping out a beat! He makes his living picking up different gigs as well as teaching drumming, although making a living at it isn’t a requirement of a compelling ‘why’. I have another friend who is an avid knitter. She always has a project at hand and is constantly on the lookout for patterns, yarns, and the like, yet she has never made so much as a penny from her knitting.
Don’t worry if you can’t fully articulate your ‘why’ to anyone else. You don’t need to say it to anyone. Your ‘why’ is not a justification or something that causes someone else to give you permission to go for your soul-prospering life.
Your compelling ‘why’ is only for YOUR benefit.
NOTICE THAT NONE OF THESE ‘WHYS’ HAVE THEIR ROOTS IN MAKING MONEY.
Money and recognition may come as a by product of the ‘whys’ but that is not at all the reason for the ‘why’
Keep working with your ‘why’ so that its roots are deep within you. You need it to intensify, which is what it does when it goes to the core of you. It may take a little time for this to happen, but keep working with it and it’ll happen!
It’s only the third day of the New Year. We’re still excited about our goals and resolutions, although we may have found that we were a little too ambitious about the things we thought we could fit into our schedules and do each day.
But that’s okay! We’re okay! Everything’s okay!
And we haven’t lost hope!
Though, we can feel within ourselves those first few wispy threads of panic: Will this year truly be different? Do we really have what it takes to make the changes and do the things that will help us craft a soul-prospering life?
The answer is YES! You CAN make this year truly different and you DO have what it takes to craft your soul-prospering life!
The key is to come up with a compelling “Why?!” Why do you want this year to be different? Why do you want to craft a soul-prospering life?
Dig into yourself for these answers. Don’t be satisfied with the first ones that pop into your mind such as: I’m tired of my life the way it has been or I’m fed up with settling for crumbs.
These are good reasons, however, they aren’t specific enough. They aren’t deep enough. When you run into rough patches that will threaten to crush your soul (and you will have these types of challenges, guaranteed), you’ll need to have a deep, compelling reason why you are putting in all the time, all the effort, and making all the sacrifices in order to craft a soul-prospering life.
Your ‘why’ doesn’t have to be powerful or meaningful to anyone else but YOU because ONLY YOU need to use it to help you keep taking baby steps toward your soul-prospering life.
Take time today to think about and craft a deeply personal and evocative “why?!” for yourself. When you’re feeling a little tired or discouraged, or when you’re faced with a thorny challenge–and you will–you’ll be so glad you have this ‘why’ to power you through.
The only way we can craft our soul-prospering life is through being true to ourselves. Sure we may achieve great things by climbing the corporate ladder or by pursuing a profession that someone else chose for us but, in spite of all the success, we’ll still feel hollow inside. Even with financial success, material possessions, and the recognition of the world, we’ll feel that something is missing.
Stay true to yourself. Pursue your dreams, the whisperings of your heart and soul. Follow the Still Small Voice within. You may still achieve financial success and fame as well, but that won’t be where your focus is. You’ll be wrapped up in living your purpose, making a difference, and creating meaning in the lives of others.
This post was published earlier this year on 1/27/17 and it continues to be an excellent reminder that it’s the journey and not the destination that that matters. It’s what we learn, who we meet, the new things we see, and the interesting things that we discover. And it’s how all of this enriches us and our life and how we then share this with others.
This poem also reminds us that riches and influence can be useful tools in crafting a soul-prospering life, but they aren’t what’s truly important. It’s the comforting silence as well as the laughter shared with dear friends and loved ones; playing with your kids; making a difference in someone’s life. These achievements are the true successes in life.
Your Friend and Pep Pal,
I’d Rather Be a Failure by Edgar A. Guest
I came across this poem and I thought you might like it, too.
I’d Rather Be a Failure by Edgar A. Guest
I’d rather be a failure than the man who’s never tried;
I’d rather seek the mountain-top than always stand aside.
Oh, let me hold some lofty dream and make my desperate fight,
And though I fail I still shall know I tried to serve the right.
The idlers line the ways of life and they are quick to sneer;
They note the failing strength of man and greet it with a jeer;
But there is something deep inside which scoffers fail to view—
They never see the glorious deed the failure tried to do.
Some men there are who never leave the city’s well-worn streets;
They never know the dangers grim the bold adventurer meets;
They never seek a better way nor serve a nobler plan;
They never risk with failure to advance the cause of man.
Oh, better ’tis to fail and fall in sorrow and despair,
Than stand where all is safe and sure and never face a care;
Yes, stamp me with the failure’s brand and let men sneer at me,
For though I’ve failed, the Lord shall know the man I tried to be.