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Mother Nature’s Wisdom

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Summer is in full swing and Mother Nature is at her most bountiful abundant prolific time.

This week we’ll talk about the wisdom we can glean from Mother Nature. She has much to teach us, if we’d only pause a moment and become aware of her. She doesn’t use abstract concepts that we have to wrap our minds around, rather she actually shows us through the actions of living things the Guiding Principles of Life.

Let’s make a pact that this week, as we explore and extract the teachings from the natural world around us, we’ll spend as much time as we can outdoors quietly watching, looking, and seeing what we see. Then we’ll take the time to note our observations and ponder how they might apply to our life.

Let’s start this today!

In the comments below, feel free to let me know what you discover. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Noblesse Oblige: What to Do if You’re Feeling Bad About Yourself – 6 Steps to Take

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When you’re feeling bad about yourself and can’t seem to shake it, here’s what to do:

1. Ditch the negative people around you as fast as you can! The reason you can’t shake feeling bad about yourself and your life is probably because you’re hanging around people who don’t value you, appreciate you, and/or celebrate you. They’re also the people who see nothing but woe and disaster ahead of you, which is most definitely NOT what you need right now.

What do you do? DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM THEM AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!!

Call up a few of your friends who make you feel great about yourself and always have something nice to say to you. Be up front with them and tell them you’ve had a hard day and you need them to remind you of a few good things about yourself. Jot them down and keep them handy in a scrapbook or in a folder on your mobile device or computer.

2. You’ve forgotten or lost–or never had it in the first place!!–a vision of the fabulous future that awaits you.

What do you do? REMEMBER THE DELICIOUS FUTURE THAT’S WAITING FOR YOU!

Get out your vision board, your mission statement, your Scrapbook of Optimism and remind yourself that the rough patch you’re in right now is NOT permanent–it, too, will pass. Remind yourself that better days are ahead. Remind yourself that, no matter how wonderful your life may have been in the past, your best days are still yet to come–they’re still ahead of you!

And, if you don’t have an exciting future imagined for yourself, then immediately and right now and at this very instant start dreaming! Write it all down, make a collage, choose some sort of item or symbol that reminds you of your dreams and keep that symbol where you can see it every single day.

3. Get the icky feelings and emotions out of your system!  Best advice from a dear friend: vent, steam, rant, rave, cry, gnash your teeth, shake your fist, scream if you have to and then take the next step forward.

What do you do? DON’T WALLOW; KEEP PRESSING ONWARD!

4. Pressing forward looks like this: networking to find a new job, bartering with friends and loved ones to get the help you need to clear out the clutter in your home, taking classes online to improve your knowledge and skills…. Put on your Thinking Cap and come up with the things YOU can do that will help YOU.

What do you do when you’ve done all you can? LET GO AND TRUST THAT THE GOOD WORKS YOU JUST DID ARE GOING FORTH AND BRINGING GOOD STUFF BACK TO YOU

5. Make your waiting time productive by pursuing things that interest you, that make you feel good, that bring you peace and contentment. I’m not talking about hedonistic pursuits, I’m talking about the soul-prospering pursuits.

What do you do next? GET BUSY!!

Some soul-prospering pursuits are: spending time with your hobbies, enjoying the people you love and who make you feel loved and cared for, following the thread of a new idea or activity that has captured your interest, taking a class in a topic that, for you, is “off the wall”, volunteering your time and helping others…. I’m sure you can come up with your own ideas to follow through on.

6. What do you do after all this? REPEAT THESE STEPS AS OFTEN AS NEEDED.

 

Let me know how these simple steps work out for you. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,
Lauren

Noblesse Oblige: Take Care of Yourself – 13 Quotes

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Perhaps you’ve had a hard day where everything seemed to go wrong: the project at work you were excited about was given to someone else instead; an account at work that was your “baby” was shut down without warning; people whose character and integrity you thought you could rely on, end up ditching you at the first opportunity….

Here are a few quotes to keep in mind:

Surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself. ~LiveLifeHappy.com

Don’t feel sorry for yourself if you have chosen the wrong road; turn around. ~Edgar Cayce

People inspire you, or they drain you–pick them wisely. ~Hans F. Hansen

You may not control all of the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. ~Maya Angelou

Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently. ~Henry Ford

Never mind what others do; do better than yourself, beat your own record from day-to-day, and you are a success. ~William J. H. Boetcker

Defeat is simply a signal to press onward…. ~Helen Keller

Let your hopes, not your hurts, shape your future. ~Robert H. Schuller

Just because today is a terrible day doesn’t mean tomorrow won’t be the best day of our life. You just gotta get there. ~Anonymous

If you want to improve your self-worth, stop giving other people the calculator. ~Tim Fargo

Ten years from now, make sure you can say that you chose your life–you didn’t settle for it. ~Anonymous

Make sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you. Know your worth even if they don’t. ~Anonymous

You are the hero of your own story. ~Anonymous

 

Which quote did you like the best? Let me know in the comments below. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Noblesse Oblige: Giving–To Yourself!

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When we think of giving and donating we think of our favorite charities and non-profit organizations. We may also think of community-based needs such as the local food bank, soup kitchen, or local fundraising efforts on behalf of a family or individual facing an overwhelming challenge.

But what about us? How often do we give to ourselves?

The kind of giving I’m talking about is the type where you cherish yourself and the life you’ve been given; you show your love to yourself by honoring and respecting yourself. For instance, you move yourself up on your list of priorities from the bottom to the top, or at least the middle of the list….

Here are a few suggestions of ways to cherish yourself and your life:

~Cleaning out the clutter in your home;

~Straightening up the landscaping;

~Working on that idea that will give you the soul-prospering life you seek;

~Enjoying hobbies;

~Scheduling time to pursue things that have captivated your interest;

~Getting rid of all the junk food in your refrigerator, freezer, and pantry;

~Adding enjoyable physical activities to your life–a fun way to get in your exercise;

~Each morning saying “I can’t wait to see what wonders, laughter, and interesting things this day will bring!”;

~Each evening saying “Thanks for the great day!”, then think about at least 3 good things that happened to you during the day;

~Saying kind and encouraging statements to yourself, especially if it’s a tough day…..

 

I’m sure you can think of other ways that will “hit the spot” in cherishing yourself.

Treat each day as if it’s your birthday because, in a sense it is–you birth from your nighttime slumbers into a fresh, new day filled with possibilities for you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Noblesse Oblige: A Good Idea

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The idea of noblesse oblige came about during the Middle Ages, during the time of chivalry and courtly love. The concept is that people of privilege have an obligation and a duty to help those who are less fortunate.   The saying goes: to whom much is given, much is expected.

We are all privileged in some way.

Even if we don’t have much in the way of tangible things to offer–money, food, clothing, etc.–we all have abundance in some aspect of our lives. Perhaps we’re good listeners or we have a beautiful smile or an infectious laugh–these are a bounty worth sharing! Maybe we’re good at noticing someone’s new haircut or a piece of distinctive jewelry and we’re always quick to compliment them. This, too, is a wonderful thing to give to others.

Do you know there are benefits to being generous? Here are six:

~Being generous helps you develop an attitude of giving and helping rather than taking. This creates in you a more positive, optimistic outlook;

~Generosity gives you a physiological, psychological, mental, and spiritual boost–It feels good to know that you can be helpful and that you’ve helped someone;

~Giving helps you overcome feelings of discouragement;

~Helping others gets you out of your own little world. You meet other people, thus enlarging your social and professional circle.  People with better social networks are better adjusted and tend to live longer;

~Volunteering, getting involved in charities and other organizations helps you grow as a person; it’s a way to find out your likes and dislikes;

~Helping others helps you gain a new perspective on your own troubles and on your overall life.

 

What are your favorite ways to give back or to reach out a helping hand? Let me know in the comments below. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Who Are You? Build Your Vision

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I was helping a friend do a little spring–um, summer!–cleaning and clearing of her home. She’s had a few tough knocks from Life in the recent years and she wants a new, fresh start. She thought clearing out the old from her home and repainting would help her press the reset button. She asked me to help her and I was glad to pitch in.

The problem was that it was slow going with throwing out things or putting them in a box for the local thrift shop. My friend kept getting bogged down with reminiscing and sentimental feelings evoked by some objects. A few years ago she lost her loved ones and, as you’d expect, her home had pictures of them, letters from them, as well as gifts they’d given her. I’ve had enough experience with my own grief and mourning that I knew she still needed time before she’d be able to clearly decide on this memorabilia.

But, I knew she was getting bogged down in the past–a past she could never return to or change. I had to do something to gently help her. She’s artistic and we started talking about how pleased her loved ones would be to see her growth and development. We talked about projects she has planned and the pieces she’s working on now. Talking about the here and now as well as her future helped her get going again. She told me later that our talk helped her see that moving forward did not mean that she had to leave her loved ones behind; she still could have a connection to them, even though it’s much different than the relationship she had when they were here on Earth.

This underscored to be how important it is to have some sort of vision for our future–even if that future is only a day or an hour from now. It helps us break free from the past as well as move through the rough patches that we come across from time-to-time.

Take time today or this evening to develop a vision for yourself. It doesn’t have to be perfect because you’ll probably tweak it with nearly every step you take. And, if the thought of creating a vision seems too much, then think of it as having an idea of the wonderful future that awaits you.

You CAN do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Who Are You? Quotes from Helen Keller

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Helen Keller was a remarkable person. As a result of a severe childhood illness, Helen Keller lost her hearing and sight. Through the dedication and unshakable belief of Ann Sullivan, Helen’s teacher and companion, Helen learned to read Braille, became highly educated, and went on to live an inspiring life.

I have gathered a few quotes of Helen’s. Her common-sense observations are filled with simple, yet profound, wisdom. I think her words will stir you as they have stirred me.

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved. Helen Keller

 

Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. Helen Keller

 

No pessimist ever discovered the secret of the stars, or sailed to an uncharted land, or opened a new doorway for the human spirit. Helen Keller

 

Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in this world. Helen Keller

 

What I am looking for is not out there, it is in me. Helen Keller

 

Everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence, and I learn, whatever state I may be in, therein to be content. Helen Keller

 

The marvelous richness of human experience would lose something of rewarding joy if there were no limitations to overcome. The hilltop hour would not be half so wonderful if there were no dark valleys to traverse. Helen Keller

 

The world is moved along, not only by the mighty shoves of its heroes, but also by the aggregate of tiny pushes of each honest worker. Helen Keller

 

When we do the best that we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another. Helen Keller

 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren