Feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and plain-old out of sorts? One quick and easy way to help yourself out of this mess is to be a help to someone else.
When feeling off kilter, oftentimes we give in to it and let it steamroll us until it’s done. When it’s finally through with us, we’ve lost a day or two—sometimes more than that, much more. Sometimes, we try to use logic and reason to get out of the slump—or even try to bully ourselves out of it—usually with little success. Still we’re beaten up by these emotions. Again, we lose days. In addition, after all is said and done, we usually end up feeling worse about ourselves.
Not a good plan.
A better strategy is to reach out a helping hand to someone. It helps us as much as it helps the other person. Of course writing a donation check is great but nothing does the trick of pulling you out of the doldrums than doing something nice for another—especially if what you do is unexpected.
The cool thing is we don’t have to get all elaborate and fancy with it and we don’t have to put forth a huge effort. The helping hand can be something as simple as paying for the latte of the person in line behind you or letting someone in front of you in traffic. You can hold the door open for someone, too, or it can be as simple as a smile or greeting someone pleasantly.
The biggest pay-off for you will be when you help someone you know—the closer to you the bigger the pay-off for you in confidence and optimism. Again, it doesn’t have to be a huge deal. In fact, it’s best to pay attention and do something nice and/or helpful in the moment. Your attentiveness and observation is one of the best ways to demonstrate that you care.
Your homework for today is to be helpful and nice to at least one person close to you. Challenge yourself to be present in the moment and “tune into” the person. What simple thing can you do for them right here, right now, in the moment, that would show them how much you care?
The benefit to this is you’ll make someone you care about very happy, which will strengthen your relationship, and it’ll pull you out of the doldrums. You’ll feel like a million bucks!
For extra credit, make a list of people you can help and the different things you can do. Have it handy so that you can immediately refer to it when you’re feeling out of sorts.
Do it now!
I’m so proud of you. You’re awesome for doing this!
Post in the comments section some of the simple acts of kindness you did today.