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Off Kilter?

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Feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and plain-old out of sorts?  One quick and easy way to help yourself out of this mess is to be a help to someone else.

When feeling off kilter, oftentimes we give in to it and let it steamroll us until it’s done.  When it’s finally through with us, we’ve lost a day or two—sometimes more than that, much more.  Sometimes, we try to use logic and reason to get out of the slump—or even try to bully ourselves out of it—usually with little success.  Still we’re beaten up by these emotions.  Again, we lose days.  In addition, after all is said and done, we usually end up feeling worse about ourselves.

Not a good plan.

A better strategy is to reach out a helping hand to someone.  It helps us as much as it helps the other person.  Of course writing a donation check is great but nothing does the trick of pulling you out of the doldrums than doing something nice for another—especially if what you do is unexpected.

The cool thing is we don’t have to get all elaborate and fancy with it and we don’t have to put forth a huge effort.  The helping hand can be something as simple as paying for the latte of the person in line behind you or letting someone in front of you in traffic.  You can hold the door open for someone, too, or it can be as simple as a smile or greeting someone pleasantly.

The biggest pay-off for you will be when you help someone you know—the closer to you the bigger the pay-off for you in confidence and optimism.  Again, it doesn’t have to be a huge deal.  In fact, it’s best to pay attention and do something nice and/or helpful in the moment.  Your attentiveness and observation is one of the best ways to demonstrate that you care.

Your homework for today is to be helpful and nice to at least one person close to you.  Challenge yourself to be present in the moment and “tune into” the person.  What simple thing can you do for them right here, right now, in the moment, that would show them how much you care?

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The benefit to this is you’ll make someone you care about very happy, which will strengthen your relationship, and it’ll pull you out of the doldrums.  You’ll feel like a million bucks!

For extra credit, make a list of people you can help and the different things you can do.  Have it handy so that you can immediately refer to it when you’re feeling out of sorts.

Do it now!

I’m so proud of you.  You’re awesome for doing this!

Post in the comments section some of the simple acts of kindness you did today.

Your Friend,

Lauren

A Little Help from Myself

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It’s okay to do things to help yourself.  In fact, it’s vital that you do this.  Some of us may have grown up in circumstances where we were taught that it isn’t okay to do this.  Others of us may find ourselves currently in situations where we’re led to believe that it’s selfish or wrong to help ourselves.  Or, perhaps you just never considered acting for your own benefit.

If helping yourself is a new experience for you and you aren’t sure enough of yourself yet so you’re looking to others for permission and approval, please let me be the one to give you this support and encouragement.

You have permission to help yourself.  You are approved to take the actions that will help you live the life of your dreams.  You are forgiven for having these goals and dreams.

Helping yourself, taking care of yourself, is some of the most important and noble work you can do.  By following through with these steps, you are honoring yourself, your family, and your friends.  You’re also honoring your community, your country, and the world.

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Your homework is to find a place where you will be undisturbed for about 20 minutes.  Have a mirror handy.  Use the mirror to look at yourself right in the eyes.  Repeat the following:

I love you

I love you

I love you

I am approved

I am approved

I am approved

I have permission

I have permission

I have permission

My dreams are right and good

My dreams are right and good

My dreams are right and good

My dreams are right and good

My dreams are right and good

My dreams are right and good

 

I am forgiven

I am forgiven

I am forgiven

My slate is wiped clean

My slate is wiped clean

My slate is wiped clean

My slate is wiped clean

My slate is wiped clean

Thank you

Thank you

Thank you!

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I love you

I love you

I love you

I love you!

Now go and take that step!  And post below in the comments section how you’re doing.

I am so very proud of you!

Your Friend,

Lauren

Lions and Tigers and Bears, Oh My!

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Let’s talk about anxiety and panic attacks.  If you suffer from these, you may have noticed that they may be showing up more now that you’re working toward your goals and dreams or they may have increased in their intensity.

I want you to understand that I’m not a trained healthcare professional and I’m not offering any type of diagnosis or professional advice; please consult with your healthcare provider. Having said that, here are a few things I’ve observed to be helpful that you might consider discussing with the professionals with whom you are working.

First of all, stay as calm as you can and know that this, too, shall pass.  You can remember a time when you weren’t panicked or anxious, which means you’re not constantly terrorized.

Then consider:

~Get out and get around other people.

When you’re feeling anxious or panicked, it can be helpful to get out of yourself.  What I mean by that is to stop focusing on yourself, your body, and the thing that triggered your anxiety/panic attack.  Get out and be with others.  Of course spending time with friends and family who care about you can be very comforting, but if that isn’t possible, you can still be with others by going to your local library or visiting a popular park.  Even visiting a grocery store, a coffee shop, or a church—any place where people congregate—can be reassuring.

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~Give something away.

When you are out and with others, give something away to them.  Probably the most important, valuable, and helpful thing you can give away is your smile and a kind word or two.  Not only will the recipients feel better but you’ll feel great!

Your homework for today is to make a list of people you can be with and/or places you can go when you’re feeling anxious or panicky.  Also think about times and situations that might trigger your anxiety and panic.  Brainstorm ideas for how to be proactive and handle these things before they trigger your anxiety and panic.

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I’m so proud of you for doing this work and learning how to control your emotions rather than have them run roughshod over you.  You rock!  I knew you could do it!

Your Friend,

Lauren