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Self Care: Nine Inspiring Quotations



This week we’ll be talking about caring for ourselves.  Here are a few quotes to ponder today.


Your Friend and Pep Pal,



Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.  ~Joel Osteen


It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because there’s nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control? The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized.  ~Wayne Dyer


The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.  – William James


To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.  – Thich Nhat Hanh


We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light.  – Mary Dunbar


My guiding principles in life are to be honest, genuine, thoughtful and caring.  ~Prince William


Dedicating some time to meditation is a meaningful expression of caring for yourself that can help you move through the mire of feeling unworthy of recovery. As your mind grows quieter and more spacious, you can begin to see self-defeating thought patterns for what they are, and open up to other, more positive options.  ~Sharon Salzberg


We emphasize negativity and violence in the media because that’s what grabs everybody’s attention, but in the real world, it’s mostly people being very cooperative and caring and connected and kind. That’s the norm of human experience. And yet, what gets our attention is the very opposite.   ~Richard Linklater


I know from personal experience how fear and low self-worth can cripple one’s ability to succeed in life. But with a little support, caring and inspiration, miracles can happen.  ~Richard Hatch


Have a great week!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,



Back by Popular Demand: Quotes to Inspire You



Need some inspiration? Here are a few quotes:


When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps. ~Confucius


Wisdom is knowing what to do next; virtue is doing it. ~David Star Jordan


Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved. ~Helen Keller


Talent is cheaper than table salt. What separates the talented individual from the successful one is a lot of hard work. ~Stephen King


In essence, if we want to direct our lives, we must take control of our consistent actions. It isn’t what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently. ~Tony Robbins


Defeat my serve as well as victory to shake the soul and let the glory out. ~Edwin Markham


Never let the odds keep you from doing what you know in your heart you were meant to do. ~H. Jackson Brown, Jr.


Use what talent you possess; the woods would be very quiet if no birds sang except those that sang best. ~Henry van Dyke


Why should you continue to go after your dreams? Because seeing the look on the faces of the people who said you couldn’t do it, will be…priceless! ~Kevin Ngo


Which quote(s) did you like best?

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Spirituality: Happy Friday the 13th with 13 Inspiring Spiritual Quotations to Celebrate!




A cherished friend of mine is a graduate of Colgate University. The number thirteen is a lucky one for all people connected to Colgate University and every Friday the Thirteenth is a celebration day for them.

In honor of my friend’s achievement of graduating from Colgate University, and to join in the celebration of the number thirteen, here are thirteen inspirational quotes about spirituality.

Being on a spiritual path does not prevent you from facing times of darkness; it teaches you how to use the darkness as a tool to grow. ~Unknown

There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle that shines or the mirror that reflects it. ~Edith Wharton

People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they’re not on your road does not mean they are lost. ~Dalai Lama

A Spiritual Badass: sends out love to strangers; is always seeking the lesson; knows that happiness is a choice. ~Unknown

The candle loses nothing by lighting another candle. ~Italian Proverb

Maybe the journey isn’t about becoming something but rather unbecoming everything that isn’t really you so that you can be who you were meant to be in the first place. ~Unknown

Throw kindness around like confetti. ~Unknown

Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle and the life of the candle will not be shortened. ~Buddha

Someday we’ll forget the hurt, the reason we cried, and who caused us pain. We will finally realize that the secret of being free is not revenge but letting things unfold in their own way and own time. After all, what matters is not the first but the last chapter of our life, which shows how well we ran the race. So smile, laugh, forgive, believe, and love all over again. ~Unknown

Three years from now make sure you can say that you chose your life, you didn’t settle for it. ~Unknown

Sometimes when you don’t know what to say, a hug says enough. ~Unknown

It is well with my soul. ~Horatio Spafford

Be kind when it is possible; it is always possible. ~Dalai Lama


I think each of these are filled with simple wisdom and timely reminders; I hope they are as meaningful for you as they are for me.



Your Friend and Pep Pal,



Spirituality: Routine



All the things that don’t serve you are holding you back. They’re keeping you feeling helpless and hopeless; they’re pushing you down. Get rid of this toxicity, these contaminants.

A big part of crafting a soul prospering life is releasing and letting go, as well as forgiving and becoming at peace with, whatever went before and whatever is in the moment now.

There are many, many methods to do this such as silence, meditation/prayer, contemplation, movement, journaling, and the like. The experiences of the people I’ve talked to about this confirmed my own practice of releasing and letting a routine part of my day. The easiest time to incorporate this is first thing in the morning and last thing at night.

My current routine is, each morning when I first wake and each evening before I fall asleep I say:

I release and let go of all that no longer serves me: the people, the places the things, the situations, the circumstances, the events, including the emotions, the feelings, the thoughts, and the memories. I release and let go of all the pain, the sorrow, the sadness, the frustration, the worry, and all other emotions that no longer serve me. I am sorry; please forgive me; thank you; I love you. 

I accept and receive all goodness, blessings, favor, prosperity, abundance, health, well-being, love, kindness, magic, miracles; all that is rightfully mine. I accept and receive all the emotions, feelings, thoughts, memories, and all other emotions and feelings that support, nurture, encourage, and celebrate me. I am sorry; please forgive me; thank you; I love you.


Then I deliberately create the feeling of the good feelings within me and I’m mindful about what they feel like and where I feel them in my body. I allow these good feelings and emotions to infuse. Then, if it’s the morning, I begin my day and, if it’s the evening, I nestle snug in my bed and go to sleep.

Please note that I don’t hold rigidly to the wording. Sometimes I mention a particular thing or person or event that’s a sticking point at that moment. In that case I will hold an image of it in mind and say several times the Ho’oponopono practice of “I am sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you”.

What’s your morning and evening routine? If you don’t have one, feel free to try out mine and let me know what you think. I don’t mind at all if you tweak it to suit you. Let me know what you do!


Your Friend and Pep Pal,




Spirituality: What I’ve Discovered



I came across a the summary of the most recent Pew Research Survey on Religion and Spirituality in America. What the researchers discovered is something I’ve noticed in my own corner of the world: my friends, my family, and my own views. The report states that religiosity is declining in America but spirituality is increasing.

This is something I’ve found to be true in my own sphere. While my friends and family have developed–and are continuing to deepen–a reverence for life and they accept that there is a spark of the divine in all of us, they are not regularly attending Worship Services of any kind.

My friends’ interest in reading Holy Books, inspired writings, and of attending centering prayer circles and the like has increased. And, my friends are much more apt to talk about feelings of awe, wonder, and gratitude from a spiritual perspective–one that accepts there is some sort of Consciousness that supports and nurtures us all.

An interesting note to the research is that the people who claim affiliation with a religious belief system is stable. The reason there is a decrease in religiosity and increase is spirituality is not because of people leaving organized religion but rather that as the older generation, who make up the majority of people claiming affiliation, pass away, the younger generations, who generally are the unaffiliated, are not stepping into those now vacant positions.

Whether it’s because of the strong views of the affiliated or the growing spiritualism, I’ve observed in my corner of the world that, overall, people are becoming more respectful of others’ belief systems and more accepting of the idea that there’s more than one path to the Divine. And that’s a good thing!

What have you noticed regarding the spirituality and/or religiosity of your friends and family over the years? Whether you live in the United States or not, I’m interested to know if you’ve noticed the same trends in your country or region of the United States.

Thanks for sharing in the comments below!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Spirituality: A Few Ways to Nurturing and Strengthening Optimism




A spiritually based quiet time–whether something from organized religion, a spiritual observances, or a practice you’ve devised for yourself–is essential to stripping away all the junk that seeps in from the outer world. We do this so we can hear the whisperings of our soul, the urgings of our heart, so that we can follow the Still Small Voice within.

What to do during this quiet time:

~Several people, including Julia Cameron, suggest journaling and using this as a way to get rid of the junk that clutters up your mind and prevents or dampens good thoughts and feelings from being fully expressed;

~Some people combine meditation and contemplation with a gentle exercise program, everything from walking the dog or strolling through a park to a yoga practice or some other form of exercise that combines movement with deeper thought.

~Other people sit or recline and are quiet and still, some empty their minds while others just let themselves be and allow their thoughts to go where they will without attaching to the thoughts;

~Many people find that background instrumental music helps them get into a meditative, contemplative state.

There are many more methods. One isn’t better than another; there is no right way. It’s perfectly fine to take a little bit from one practice, a little bit from another method, and mix it all up with your own personal tweaks.

Find the thing that works for you. And, you may find that some days one technique works and other days you need to do a different practice.

Whatever you find that works for you is perfect.

The reason to do this is to empty your mind, body, soul, spirit, as well as your mental, emotional, and physical self of all the negative thoughts, emotions, feelings, habits, routines, and junk that you’ve picked up over the years.

The point is to make plenty of room in yourself and your life–as clean and as clear of a vessel as possible–so that you can realizing that yes, you do have a place and a purpose in this world.

Don’t be afraid to release and let go of all the stuff that no longer serves you and open to, accept and receive all the Goodness that is specifically and purposely made for you and, even now, is in storage for you just waiting for you to say YES! and THANK YOU!

You can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Spirituality: Quiet Time that Nurtures and Strengthens Optimism



Crafting a soul prospering life and spirituality both require quiet time–time to contemplate, ruminate, think things through and decide–choose–what to apply to your life and how to apply it. As I said in yesterday’s post, this quiet time can encompass a religious tradition, a spiritual practice, or something totally unique and personal to you.  

I urge you to make time every day for silence, quiet, solitude. Uninterrupted time when you can think, or better yet, where you can just be.

You don’t have to carve out days of time or even hours. A regular practice of 15 minutes each day is great, though I like to spend around 30 minutes in quiet contemplation. And, I’ve found that during particularly hectic and jam-packed weeks, that 5 minutes first thing each morning is enough to get me through to the days when I have a little more time.

The interesting thing is, you can even do this when you are in the midst of your day: in meetings at work, watching your kids play soccer, grocery shopping, and the like. Do this by becoming an observer with no attachment to what’s going on around you.   Become a quiet oasis in the middle of all the frenetic activity swirling around you. Observe without judgment or bias, just as a scientist would. Note the insights that come to you.

Quiet time is the way to extricate and cleanse yourself from the rush, angst, hubbub of the world.   It is the way to hear the whisperings of your heart and the urgings of your soul so that you can follow the Still Small Voice within.

This quiet time is essential because you MUST believe in yourself, your reason for being born as who you are, and your destiny–what you are meant to do–to contribute–in this lifetime.

Make it top priority to find a time of day and an amount of time to do this. If you really have no time for quiet solitude time, note during what activity you’ll become the quiet oasis. Set the bar low, make it easy to achieve so that you’ll do it again and again.

Commit to taking time each day for quiet time, even if it’s only 5 minutes here and there throughout your day. That’s perfect for right now.   Keep doing this and you’ll find that you’ll establish a regular practice that works for you.

Promise yourself that you will do this. I know you can. I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,