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Optimum Times for Your Breathing Practice

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Experts will tell you that first thing in the morning and last thing at night are excellent times for a breathing practice. This is because the conscious mind is quiet at these times, making the subconscious easier to access.

I agree with this.   However, I’ve found that any time is a good time to take a moment and do your breathing practice!

Here are times when I pause to breathe slowly, deeply, and gently:

  • during rush hour traffic!!!!
  • when there is a lot of pressure at work;
  • when co-workers, friends, family, loved ones are getting on my nerves;
  • when I feel overwhelmed, scattered, and don’t know what to do next;
  • when I’m worried, anxious, or fretting over something;
  • when I’m sad (it helps me process the sadness and understand where it’s coming from)
  • when I’m angry or frustrated or feeling impatient;
  • when I’m disappointed or feeling discouraged….

I find that when I take 5 minutes to do a slow, deep, gentle breathing practice I gain control of my emotions. I can take a longer view of situations and feel more hopeful about my options. I may still have uncomfortable feelings but they are no longer running the show. I can experience them without being steamrolled by them.

Turn to your breathing practice the next time you’re feeling out of sorts. Let me know how it works out for you.

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Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Breathing Slow and Easy

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Sometimes we get ourselves all gummed up about the things we want to do. We over-think them and make them way more complicated than they need to be.

 

Is this how you’re feeling–frustrated because this seems to hard and is too much to handle? I know I’ve caught myself nearly hyperventilating because I was thinking too much about breathing into my diaphragm then into my lungs and trying to really fill them all the way up to the tippy top.

Oy!

I had to remind myself that all we’re intending to do with this breathing exercise is to slow down and to allow the breath to come into and out of our bodies gently and naturally.   When we slow down, we relax (at least a little bit!). When we relax our muscles aren’t constricting our torsos and abdomens and our bodies can then naturally breathe deeper.

This isn’t about forcing air in or forcing it out. It isn’t about filling our lungs so full that we feel as if we’ll pop!

Slow and easy.   That’s what it’s all about.

Take 5 minutes right now to sit quietly, relax your chest and neck, and slowly, gently, allow the air to come into your body. Then slowly and gently allow the air to leave your body. Repeat this sequence for 5 minutes. I’ll bet you’ll feel better afterward!

Let me know in the comments below! Thanks!

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Your gently and slowly breathing Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Time to Breathe

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5 minutes. That’s all it takes.

Today, gift yourself with a few moments to sit quietly and breathe.

Let your body relax for a few moments. Let your muscles unfurl and allow your bones and skeleton to do its work and hold you up.   If you are sitting or lying down, allow the chair or bed to support you and hold your weight. Your body, your muscles, tendons, ligaments, can all let go and relax.

Now, take a long slow deep breath in. Allow the air to come into your lungs rather than forcing it in. How ever the air is coming into your body on the intake is just fine.

Now, allow that breath to slowly leave your lungs. How ever it leaves your body is just fine. If you can expel deeply, getting out all the old, stale air at the bottom and the edges of your lungs, then that is fine.   If not, that is fine, too.

How ever you are slowly and deeply breathing in and slowly and deeply breathing out is just fine.

Relax.

You’re doing it right!

 

 

Breathe in long, slow, and deep.

Now breathe out as slowly and deeply as you can.

 

Breathe in long, slow, and deep.

Now breathe out as slowly and deeply as you can.

 

Breathe in long, slow, and deep.

Now breathe out as slowly and deeply as you can.

 

 

Do this for at least 5 minutes. It’s fine to do this longer but even just 5 minutes is amazingly beneficial.

Enjoy! Have fun with this! You are doing it just right!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Point #1 of Sitting in Silence – Sitting in Silence Day 3

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The world is a place filled with all sorts of uproar and rushing and confusion.  Don’t you ever want to step to the side out of the way and sit down to catch your breath—or even lay down and take a nap?

Exactly. 

Sitting in silence allows you to move out of the pandemonium of the world and into your private haven of peace.

If you haven’t already, take a moment to sit in silence right now.  If you’ve already done this, take this moment to do it again.  Feel the peace.  Allow it to infuse your body, mind, and spirit.

Something Better is Up Ahead! 

Please share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below.  Thank you!  Also, remember to forward these posts to your friends and family.  Thank you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Sitting in Silence – Do it Now! Day 2

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If you haven’t already sat in silence today, take a moment to do it right now.  If you’ve already done this, take this moment to do it again. 

Something Better is Up Ahead!  But it won’t *just happen*; you have to help it along.  One way to do that is by regularly sitting in silence.  As explained in yesterday’s post, this will help you hear your Inner Wisdom.  It’s by following your Inner Wisdom that you craft your soul-prospering life.

Please share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below.  Thank you!  Also, remember to forward these posts to your friends and family.  Thank you!

Something Better is Up Ahead!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Inner Wisdom Through Silence: Day 1

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Now that we’ve done a little cleaning and clearing of our environments as well as our minds and emotions, we have a little bit of space. 

That means we have room for Silence.

Even if it’s only a tiny smidgen of room, it’s enough.

It’s through Silence that we can re-train ourselves to sense our Inner Wisdom.

Ideally, sit in Silence at the beginning of the day and then again right before bed.  If this doesn’t work for you, then any time is a good time.  Silence can be very restorative—and restful.

It doesn’t have to be a long, drawn-out thing—a few minutes can be beneficial.  You don’t have to hold any particular position such as sitting in a lotus position.  You don’t have to wear any type of special clothing—regular clothes or even your jammies will do.  No special equipment is needed either.

All you need is yourself and a few minutes to just sit quietly.

When in Silence, sense the world around you—are there birds chirping?  Do you hear traffic sounds?  Is the sun just coming up—can you feel its warmth?  Can you taste the breeze or do you notice the scent of the fresh air? 

After doing this for a few minutes, turn your senses inward.  Are you hearing the Still Small Voice?  Do you feel a tug or a pull of a desire? 

No worries if you don’t sense your Inner Wisdom now.  And don’t worry if it seems like the only thing on the inside of you is Monkey Mind, or worry or sadness, or frustration.  Listening to these, really listening as if it’s a beloved loved one trusting you with their fears, disappointments, and annoyances, you’ll gain valuable insights.  Keep listening and soon you’ll sense your Inner Wisdom lovingly and gently offering comfort and help. 

Your Inner Wisdom has always been right there for you.  It’s there for you now and it will always be there for you, no matter what.

Don’t worry or be afraid or be hesitant.  We’ll do this together.  We’ll help each other and hold each other’s hand.  No worries!

Remember, we’re doing this because Something Better is Up Ahead!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

30 Days of Gratitude to Finish 2020: Day 31

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Happy Last Day of 2020!

Today is also the last day of this series of 3 Gratitudes.  I hope, though, that you continue each day to think of at least 3 things you’re grateful for.  Scientists have proven the immense physiological and psychological benefits of gratefulness and, of course, for centuries spiritual leaders have been telling us that being grateful is the right way to live life.

In keeping with my challenge this week, these are 3 gratitudes related to difficulties:

The difficulty:  Yesterday we discovered another setback knotted up in the mess of our beloved family member’s finances.  After a year of digging through the muck and mire, it’s very, very discouraging to still be finding surprises.

  • I am grateful I have a team of family members standing strong and helping me to stand strong during this continuing discovery and working-through-to-solutions process;
  • I am grateful for these heartbreaking difficulties because they’re teaching me that it’s possible to take the next tiny step, in spite of my overwhelming desire to run far, far away;
  • I am grateful that I’ve learned to lob myself softballs when looking for the tiny next step to take—find the little bit of action I can take that’s well within my capabilities, that’s easy for me to do.
  • Bonus gratitude:  I am grateful for the deeper compassion I have developed through this process of caring for my loved one.  I am much more attuned and sensitive to people who are vulnerable.  I do what I can to help and protect them, including supporting agencies, organizations, and individuals who are also watching out for and protecting people who are very vulnerable.

Feel free to share in the comments below the difficulties for which you are grateful.  Thank you!

If you think these posts will benefit loved ones, friends, and others you know, please feel free to share them!  Thank you!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!  I’m excited for the Big Adventure awaiting us in 2021!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

30 Days of Gratitude to Finish 2020: Day 30

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These are 3 difficulties that I’m grateful for:

  • I am grateful I was furloughed from my job.  A company graciously made room for me as my original company gets back on its feet.
  • I am grateful to be temporarily at this new company—even though it’s only temporary==because the  new company has a wonderful attitude toward its employees;
  • I am grateful for the department I’m in and the team members I’m working with because they are welcoming, helpful, and supportive.
  • I am so grateful that everything is working out—and I trust that everything will continue to work out well.

Feel free to share in the comments below the difficulties for which you are grateful.  Thank you!

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Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

30 Days of Gratitude to Finish 2020: Day 29

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As I was driving to work this morning, I was thinking about this month of 30 Days of Gratitude.  I realized that the vast majority of my gratitudes were all things that brought me joy and made me feel good in some way—peaceful, content, confident, valued…. 

Then I thought about the “bad” stuff—the obstacles, difficulties, and heartbreaks.  I don’t think many of those—if any!—made it to my gratitude list…yet. 

Okay.  I’m going to challenge myself for the rest of this week—the remainder of 2020—to think about the difficulties and heartbreaks and other “bad” stuff that happened this year.  I’ll view it from the lens of how each one of those events may have benefitted me—and then be grateful for that benefit. 

Would you like to join me?

Here goes!  These are my 3 gratitudes for today–difficulties that I’m grateful for:

  • I am grateful to have taken over the care of a beloved family member.  It’s been a very difficult journey getting everything straightened out, but I’m grateful because now I know for sure our beloved relative is getting the care, the supplies, and the services that she needs.  That all of her needs—including her financial affairs—are being handled with love and compassion;

 

  • I’m grateful that my family has come together to support me in taking care of our beloved family member.  They have devoted countless hours of hard work in untangling the financial mess, thinking through the home maintenance issues with me and coming up with creative cost-effective fixes, and supporting me as I’ve dealt with attorneys, accountants, and other professionals;

 

  • I’m very grateful for the lessons learned from this whole experience:  family really does come together in a time of trouble; there are professionals who will stand beside you and fight for what’s right for your loved one; many times my heart broke but that breaking made my heart able to be more compassionate and hold more loving kindness; I don’t have to “do it all”—others will help; I don’t have to have everything figured out and have answers for every possible permutation of a problem, I can let it unfold as it will and handle the issues as they come up; I can let go and step back and let others step forward and shine as they unleash their talents and expertise.

 

As much as we may want to stomp our foot and cry “Unfair!” when “bad stuff’ happens, we also have to admit that there is usually a silver lining.  Are there difficulties you experienced this year that now in looking back you have come to recognize the gift they gave you?  Feel free to share your gratitudes in the comments below.  Thank you!

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Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

 

30 Days of Gratitude to Finish 2020: Day 28

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Ack!  This didn’t post as it should have!  Sorry about that.

Welcome to the last few days of 2020.  It’s the perfect time for a little light evaluation of your 3 gratitudes over this past month.  For my own, I’ve noticed most of my gratitudes have to do with being grateful for my friends and loved ones as well as being grateful for Mother Nature’s splendor.  I find I’m also grateful for the peace and inner quiet I find during the day.

There isn’t any right or wrong thing to be grateful for and it isn’t good and it isn’t bad if your gratitudes fall in a wide range of categories or if they fall into one or two categories.  This evaluation exercise is to bring attention to what you are focusing on or what you are noticing.  This gives you the opportunity to think about it and decide if this supports and enhances you living your soul-prospering life.

Let me know what you think.  Together we can help each other live the soul-prospering lives we’ve always dreamed of!

My 3 gratitudes for today are;

  • I am grateful to work from home today.  It’s a nice transition back to work after a few days off to celebrate Christmas;
  • I’m grateful that my loved ones and friends all found a way to connect over the holidays.  Even though it wasn’t quite the same as in-person visiting, I enjoyed seeing everyone and spending time with them on Zoom.  Thank you Zoom!
  • I’m grateful that it’ll be clear tonight so I can gaze at the stars and the moon that is nearly full.

What are your 3 gratitudes for today?  Feel free to share them in the comments below.  Thank you!

Please share this post with your friends and loved ones.  Thank you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren