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Success Secrets from Mother Nature: Red-Tailed Hawk Part 1: Just Hangin’

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In my neighborhood we have at least two Red-Tailed Hawks that live with us–in the wild, of course! Yesterday, I was taking a break from working and was gazing out the window. It was a beautiful sunny, early fall, day–the leaves with a hint of color and a powder blue sky decorated by a few beached white clouds. As I was taking in the scene, I noticed one of our resident hawks lazily circling on the air currents.

My first thought about the hawk was: Not a care in the world; just effortlessly gliding along.

This got me to thinking….

How many times do we worry and fret, allow our stomachs to knot up, and then we end up losing sleep because of something gnawing at us? More than that, though, how many times does that issue resolve itself and, on its heels, another one comes along…starting up the whole worry process again? If we aren’t careful, this cycle of worry can go on for years–decades, even–firmly entrenching itself as a habit pattern–a bad habit pattern.

We can take a lesson from the hawk as it was ‘just hangin” on the air currents. Perhaps it was hungry and eager for a meal. Instead of fretting about it and flapping its wings all over the place and squawking and carrying on, it was just hangin’, gliding through the air.

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As it circled, the hawk probably had its eyes open and was attentive to what was happening on the ground (the most likely location of its meal), but it was probably alert to other opportunities that might come along–keeping its options open (for instance, it could have grabbed a bird in mid-flight)!

Then, as I watched, the hawk altered its pattern. It folded its wings and swooped below the tree line into the meadow beyond. I imagined that the hawk’s choice of just hangin’ and being open to the possibilities paid off in the form of a tasty meal.

Like the Red-Tailed Hawk, as we move toward our dreams, we can relax and just hang, being open to what comes along. When an opportunity does present itself, we can swoop in and take advantage of it!

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Your homework today is to take time to just hang. That doesn’t mean to veg-out like some sort of zombie. It means to suspend judgment and worry and, in a relaxed state, observe what’s going on around you. When you spot something that can help you move forward toward your dreams, take action!

You can do it!

I’m proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

A Perfect Day to Delight in the Beauty of the Season

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Copyright 2015 Artisans Workshop Designs

 

No matter where you are and no matter what you have to deal with today, you can pause and delight in the beauties of this season. Yes, you have worries, yes you have cares but you also have a moment to notice the splendors right in front of you.

 

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Copyright 2015 Artisans Workshop Designs

Your homework is to look around you and delight in the day.

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

Turn Wishing into Doing

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WISHING

Do you wish the world were better?
    Let me tell you what to do.
Set a watch upon your actions,
    Keep them always straight and true.
Rid your mind of selfish motives,
    Let your thoughts be clean and high.
You can make a little Eden
    Of the sphere you occupy.

Do you wish the world were wiser?
Well, suppose you make a start,
By accumulating wisdom
In the scrapbook of your heart;
Do not waste one page on folly;
Live to learn, and learn to live.
If you want to give men knowledge
You must get it, ere you give.

Do you wish the world were happy?
    Then remember day by day
Just to scatter seeds of kindness
    As you pass along the way,
For the pleasures of the many
    May be ofttimes traced to one,
As the hand that plants an acorn
    Shelters armies from the sun.

~Ella Wheeler Wilcox

 

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Your homework today is to live your life in the way you think is right, thus setting the example for the world to follow.

One excellent example to set is to follow your dreams.  Take a step today that will take you closer to achieving them.  Break the step into little pieces—ones that are small enough to be very comfortable for you.  Then do those bits and pieces!

You can do it, I’m sure you can!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Waiting for Rescue

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Many times we don’t take action–or we take only half-hearted action, because we’re waiting for someone to rescue us.

Part of the reason is that if someone would rescue us then we wouldn’t have to do anything. We could stay as we are living our life the way it is now. We can stay comfortable in the life that we know well–even though it may not be the life of our dreams.

If someone would rescue us then we wouldn’t have to leave our comfort zone.

Although, it may be that being rescued isn’t what we really want.

Consider this: Perhaps we want someone to see us and think enough of us and want more and better for us and then do something about it. These feelings and desires are tied up in being valued and being thought important enough that it is worth it for the person to put forth the time and effort to help us. Perhaps what we really want is validation that we’re valuable, we’re worthy of being cared about and cared for; that our lives matter and we matter.

It’s hard to let go of that–looking outside ourselves for validation, for verification of our worth, for confirmation that we have a right to exist.

But we have to.

We must turn away from looking outside of ourselves.

It’s unhealthy to keep looking outside of ourselves for this because we will never consistently get it. Even if our friends and family are the most caring, supportive, and loving people in the world and generously shower us with their love and caring, these people are people, meaning that they are not perfect. They will have days when they are frustrated so they don’t have much love and caring for us. They have their own concerns and issues to deal with in their own lives and, again, they might not be able to give us all we need.

Sounds like there’s no hope for us, right?

WRONG!

There IS hope! There IS something you can do!

You can do this–all of this–for yourself!

You’re the one who knows exactly the love and care you need each moment of the day. You’re the one who can tailor the love and care to your personality and to your specific needs in any particular moment!

You CAN love and care for yourself! You CAN rescue yourself!

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Your homework today is to think about the areas of your life where you are waiting for rescue. In that particular area you may need the help of experts, however, analyze the situation and ask yourself what little piece of it can you do. What little bits of steps can you take to assist the experts, making it easier for them to help you and thus enhancing the help that they give you.

As you look at the areas of your life where you’re waiting for rescue and as you take little bits of steps to solve little bits of the problem for which you are waiting for rescue, you will begin to see that you CAN help yourself. You DO have what it takes to move forward, even just a teensy tiny bit. Your confidence will grow. And, as you continue doing what you can to help yourself, you’ll soon find that you are your own rescuer!

WooHoo!

You can do it–just take it one little teensy tiny step at a time!

I’m so proud of you for the wonderfully caring and loving way you take care of yourself.

WooHoo!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Things CAN Change for You

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Things CAN change for you and they WILL as long as you take steps to help yourself.  

Meeting with others for brainstorming and collaborating is great. Taking classes, going to workshops and lectures is also great. Thinking positive, saying power phrases and pep words to yourself through out the day is great, too. But what super-charges all of this is actually applying, following through with, all the ideas, knowledge, and help that comes your way.

You have to do the work.

You have to take the steps.

You have to do those things that you think, guess, hope, and know will help you.

You gotta take action!

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https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Stages-of-change.png

Your homework today is to take a look at the areas of your life that aren’t changing for you. Take a close look and be honest with yourself.

What are you not following through on? Break it into teensy tiny bits of steps then do those bits!

What actions do you hope will help you but you aren’t doing anything about it? Break them into tiny jots and specks then do them!

Are you waiting for someone else to do the work–are you waiting to be rescued? Find the little parts that you can do yourself.   Be sure to break them into itsy bitsy dabs and smidgens, then do them!

You CAN be your own rescuer just by taking action!

You can do it, I know you can!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Rev Up Your Enthusiasm

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Enthusiasm is a choice. Our circumstances may be outside our control, but the attitude we bring to our circumstances is entirely within our own power. ~Michael Hyatt

 

 

Many times, as we’re working toward our goals and dreams, we can get bogged down in the day-to-day particulars of what needs to be done.   Quite often these tasks are time consuming, not glamorous, and not a lot of fun. But they need to be completed because they’re part of the steps we need to take to move us toward our dreams.

We find that we have to force ourselves to muscle our way through procrastination, foot-dragging, and inertia.

There’s gotta be a better way!

Good news: There is!

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When you’re mired in the minutia, remind yourself of your dream. It’s the whole reason why you’re doing this!  Reconnect with the excitement and enthusiasm that naturally grows out of your dream.

Your homework today—whether you are bogged down or not—is to take time to think about your dream so you can reconnect with the enthusiasm and excitement it generates in you.

Find a quiet place where you can be undisturbed for 15 – 20 minutes. Then think about and experience your dream.

This is more than an intellectual exercise; make this a sensory experience. For instance:

~How will you feel when you achieve your dream—or even when you are farther down the road and closer to achieving it? Will you feel relief? Freedom? Joy?

~What will you do?  Will you payoff your credit cards and other debts you’re carrying? Will you help a loved one? Will you give back to the people who have helped you? Will you pay it forward and reach out a helping hand?

~What treat will you give to yourself? Will you do an item on your Bucket List? Will you purchase a snazzy car or some other big-ticket item? Or will you renovate your home, perhaps turning the spare bedroom into that personal library/study that you’ve always dreamed of?

Sometimes, though, your dreams are so far off and you’re so tired from working that thinking about what it’ll be like when you’ve reached your dreams does not really help. Sometimes it can feel unbelievable and add another layer to the exhaustion you may be feeling.

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In that case, your homework is to still take the time to sit quietly but instead of thinking about the end result of your dreams, think about a few steps down the road. Think about and experience what it will feel like to be through the muck that has temporarily ensnared you. Think about how good it’ll feel to have made it through to the next step.

~Will you feel relief to be finally done, once and for all, with this current step?

~Will the pressures ease up when you make it to the next step?

~Are you excited to see what Good Stuff awaits you farther down the path?

~Once you get past this, will you treat yourself to a rest such as spending an afternoon—or even a whole day!—with your favorite hobby or pastime?

When you feel the enthusiasm, even if it’s just a little glimmer, focus on it. Let it infuse your body, mind, and spirit. Feel where in your body that it’s strongest. Really feel it. Give this your undivided attention so that you can help the enthusiasm grow and strengthen—just like you would do for a delicate flower.

You can do this, I know you can!

I’m so proud of you for hanging in there and taking one little tidbit of a step after the other. You’re AWESOME!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren