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Productive Waiting: Touchstones and Reminders

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I’ve found it to be very helpful to have something tangible to remind me of happy events, important goals, and the things that I’m very thankful for.

For instance, while walking along a beach, I came across a heart-shaped rock. I keep it on my kitchen counter near the sink and I see it every day. When I see the rock, I recall the scent of the ocean, the call of the seagulls, and the swish of the waves on the sand. Also the heart shape of the rock is a note to me from the Universe that all is well, and that there is plenty of goodwill and caring for all.

Touchstones and reminders can be anything that’s meaningful to you. I’m sure you’ve heard–or maybe know–of people who have good luck charms such as a rabbits foot, a four leaf clover, and a horseshoe.

You’ve heard of professional athletes who have certain rituals before or during or after each game.

Your reminder or touchstone can be anything physical, not only something to touch or hold, but it can also be a scent or a taste or a sound. Here is a short video of two of my touchstones:

 

 

The hula girl, who I haven’t named yet (any suggestions?) reminds me of Girl Power! The turkey, who I’ve named Rodney (he looks like a Rodney to me!) reminds me that being goofy is a good thing!

What are your touchstones and reminders? Feel free to share them in the comments below. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Productive Waiting: Gratefulness

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Yesterday we talked about using your waiting time productively by putting together your Vision Album for your future–doing this in either an “old fashioned” hard-copy photo album or putting together a digital slideshow.

Today, let’s do the same thing and build a Gratitude Album for ourselves. By doing this, we are aligning with the “good stuff” in our life and the more in tune with it that we are, the more of it we will notice and the more we will bring into our life.

Making a Gratitude Album and referring to it often reminds us that there are wonderful things in our lives even if everything around us looks hopeless. Looking at the album first thing in the morning and last thing before sleep helps us also remember why we’re pressing forward in spite of the odds and in spite of the naysayers. Taking peeks at the album throughout the day can give us that boost we need so that we don’t give up or knuckle under.

Just like your Vision Album, your Gratitude Album doesn’t have to be elaborate or fancy or contain every little jot of every little thing you’re grateful for. You can add to and tweak the album as you go along–it isn’t something chiseled in stone, so you don’t have to “get it right” the first time!

It can also have symbols. For instance, you can include a picture of the gorgeous cherry tree in front of the public library and this can be your symbol of your gratitude for all of Mother Nature’s majestic beauty.

Above all, have fun with this! Make it a point to pull a few pictures together today–even one image from a recent event in your life will do. Regularly add a little bit here and there as you go along!

Have fun!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Pep Rally! 16 Positive Statements

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We need to retrain our minds to think positive and, when we find ourselves with thoughts that depress us, make us fearful, or frustrate us to no end, we need to quickly snap our minds back to the positive.

Here are 16 short statements to keep handy to use frequently–every single moment of the day, when we’re faced with a particularly tough spot:

Yes I can!

NO!  Not today!

This isn’t going to push me down, it’s going to push me ahead!

I’m pressing through to my breakthrough

I have what it takes.

I am fully equipped–I have what it takes to succeed.

This will be my greatest victory yet.

My best days are still ahead of me.

I am smart, I am strong, I can figure this out.

I CHOOSE to be happy today.

I CHOOSE to find the beauty around me today.

I CHOOSE to move forward.

There’s a winner inside me and I am letting her/him out!

The rest of my life is the very best part of my life.

I am talented, I am creative, I am resourceful, I am inventive.

I am born to win, I am born with greatness, I am a champion.
 

A bonus: A question to ask yourself throughout the day:

What can I do right now that will move me toward my soul-prospering life?  Then roll up your sleeves, dive in, and get busy doing that thing or those things!
You can do it!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Pep Rally! No, NOT Today!!!!!!!!!

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You may be in the fight of your life right now–one that’s taking every ounce of your strength and every drop of your ingenuity to stay alive.

When I’ve been in situations like this, what I found to be most discouraging were the naysayers and the Negative Nellies and Dismal Daves telling me I was going down this time. I had moments when things really did look dismal and I was close, so very very close, to agreeing with the gloomy doom-eys and I was just about ready to throw in the towel.

During one of these tough patches, I remember being in the car and searching for peppy songs on the radio–something to lift my spirits. Randomly, I stopped on a station in the middle of a song and I heard the lyrics “…No! Not today!…” That stuck with me and it was just the boost I needed to help me dig my heels in one more time.

That statement empowered me and I felt the strength stirring again. Repeating the statement frequently, sometimes every moment, helped keep me going.

Your situation may look bleak and the overall odds may not be in your favor at this time, and maybe when it’s all said and done this situation will eventually get the best of you. But for right now, tell yourself: NO! NOT TODAY!!!

NO! NOT TODAY!!!!

Whenever you’re feeling that you have no options, or that giving up is your only option, I encourage you to say to yourself   No! NOT today!

Say it as often as you need to each moment of each day and let its power push you through the “impossible” parts.

You can do it; I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Mother Nature’s Wisdom: Abundance

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Whenever I’m feeling down or panicky about my situation–especially if I feel that there are few options–I remind myself to observe Mother Nature.  Years ago I realized that Mother Nature is all about abundance not only in the amount of things but also in the variety of them.

If you’re feeling lack and limitation in your life, remind yourself that Mother Nature doesn’t have only one flower that blooms at only one time of the year or only one flower in one place in the world:  there are flowers blooming everywhere you look, even in the harshest conditions–scientist have discovered blooms of algae underneath the ice in Antarctica!

And flowers aren’t in only one particular size or shape or variety, they’re all sizes, all shapes, all colors, multi-colors, even.  And they don’t only bloom during the day, there are varieties that bloom at dusk as well as in the night!

If you feel that your situation is hopeless and there’s no way you can possibly work your way out of it, remember that Mother Nature has creatures in every conceivable nook and cranny of the Earth–no place is too hot or too cold or too bright or too dark or too much or too little of anything.  There are creatures thriving in the harshest deserts and the deepest oceans.  And it isn’t just one creature in these inhospitable places but these areas are teeming with a variety of life!

Remember YOU are part of Mother Nature.  The same amino acids–the building blocks of life–that form all Mother Nature’s life forms, have also come together to form you! If Mother Nature has abundance for her creatures, then she also has abundance for you!  She may not drop it in your lap, though.  Animals have to forage for food, birds have to build nests, and you’ll have to roll up your sleeves and get to work, but the raw materials are there for you.

You can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Mother Nature’s Wisdom: Awesome Trees

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I have a special place in my heart for trees. I loved climbing them as a child and I loved playing in the tree fort my dad built for us kids.

Trees can be tall and stately like oaks or pines, they can be graceful like a beech and maple trees, and in the fall many delight us with their beautiful display of multi-colored leaves.

When we hit a rough patch, we can take a lesson from the trees. For the most part, they stay firmly rooted during storms–they have unshakable foundations–yet they are flexible, bending and swaying in the turbulent weather. Even when they suffer damage–limbs are ripped off in high winds or a lightning strike seared them in half. they grow new limbs, new trunks, and form new leaves and seeds.

In what soil are your roots planted?

To be strong and firm, they need to be in excellent soil, and that soil is you. To have your roots outside of yourself makes them too vulnerable to forces that you can’t do anything about.

Are your branches flexible?

To develop and maintain the ability to handle change well, devise a program of self-study where you are pursing topics that interest you and delving into subjects that capture your imagination.

Do you sprout new shoots when setbacks occur?

We all have obstacles and disappointments. Instead of wallowing and getting stuck, can you find a new perspective or has new information come to light that you can build upon?

Are you adding beauty and grace to the world?

Offer shade or rest to others through kind words and a helping hand; share information and your skills with others and help them as they live their lives.  Remember, too, to have fun!  Play Frisbee with your friends, toss a ball back and forth with your kids, go to the playground and swing on the swings!

What lessons and gifts have you received from the trees you’ve known? Feel free to share in the comments below. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Mother Nature’s Wisdom: Balancing Busy-ness with Rest

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Each animal and plant has a circadian rhythm that’s finely tuned to its particular species. Whether they’re wired to be awake in the daylight or if they are made for the night, they work and keep busy at the allotted time period and when that’s over, they rest.

They have flawlessly balanced being busy and fully resting.

What a concept!

They aren’t like us where we work, work, work until we collapse with some nervous disorder. And they aren’t like us where they can’t sleep at night because their minds are going around and around in worry. They really aren’t like us because when they’re resting, they aren’t constantly checking phones, emails, social media….

Another bit of wisdom we can glean from Mother Nature: Work when it’s time to work; rest when it’s time to rest!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren