Barriers to Change

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It is undeniably true that continuing effort will often bring success. But when all of your best efforts have failed…there may be a barrier between you and the change you want to make.  Consider the possibility that this barrier is in actuality a protection and that you have a good reason for avoiding this change.  ~Lynne Bernfield, When You Can You Will

 

I came across today’s quote as I was leafing through the book When You Can You Will by Lynne Bernfield, M.A., M.F.C.T.

The truth of it made me stop and think.

In innumerable ways we’re told that ‘quitters never win and winners never quit’. While it’s important to keep trying, evaluating, then trying again, it’s also very important to stop and take the time to think about what the blockage is telling you.

What larger failure or pain is the barrier protecting you from?

Perhaps it’s your way of protecting yourself from making a fool out of yourself. Maybe your Greater Self is trying to tell you that you need more preparation.  Perhaps your Greater Self knows that when you make the changes that your life will be altered in profound ways and maybe you need to slow down and think through how you’re going to handle it.

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Hmmmm.

Interesting to think about and see how it applies to our lives!

What do you think about barriers actually being ways that we’re caring for and protecting ourselves? Let me know in the comments section below!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Are You an Amateur or a Pro?

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Maria Forleo, anIinternet entrepreneur, interviewed Steven Pressfield, a successful author, about Steven’s latest book entitled Turning Pro.  In the interview Maria and Steven talked about the transformative power of deciding to be professional about going for their dreams.

I thought it was a thought-provoking interview and I think you’ll like it. Click here to be taken to Marie’s post on Turning Pro.

One thing that I found particularly interesting was when they talked about having to let go of some friends as they moved toward their dreams.

I’m interested to hear what you think about the interview. Let me know in the comments below.

Enjoy!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Playlist for When You’re Feeling Discouraged

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Please note:  This post was updated on May 22, 2017.

When you’re working hard to improve your life but that change is slow in coming… when you’ve done everything you can think of yet nothing seems to be making a difference…when you reallyreallyreally want to follow the advise of that negative voice within you that’s telling you to quit, give up, throw in the towel…

Here’s a short playlist of songs I found on YouTube that can help you hang tough and carry on:

~Never Surrender – Corey Hart https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4pg6Jh94Lo

~Hold on Tight – Greg Holden https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TAONwC1CWhE

~Hall of Fame – The Script feat. will.i.am https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mk48xRzuNvA

~Keep Your Head Up – Andy Grammer https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CmrOB_q3tjo

~Stand – Rascal Flatts https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G_Vzpjv_kR4

~I Won’t Back Down – Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nvlTJrNJ5lA

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Hang in there and take the next little tidbit of a step. You can do it, I know you can.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

PS Thank you to these artists who have posted their official videos on YouTube.

 

Tidbit of a Step

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Do what you can, with what you have, where you are. ~Theodore Roosevelt, 26th President of the United States

 

Today’s quote reminds us that we shouldn’t put off starting or taking the next step just because everything isn’t perfectly aligned.

We don’t have to have all the answers. All we need is enough of an answer to help us take the next tidbit of a step.

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We don’t have to have the strength of giants. All we need is enough strength to take us to the next tidbit of a step.

We don’t have to be as brave as a super hero. All we need is the courage to take the next tidbit of a step.

Action Plan: Take the next little tidbit of a step.  That’s it; you’re done for the day!  Yippee!

Tomorrow, take the next little tidbit of a step. That’s it; you’re done for the day!  Yahoo!

The following day, take the next little tidbit of a step. That’s it; you’re done for the day!  Yayyayyay!

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Repeat until you reach your dreams!

You can do it, I know you can!

I’m proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Just Exactly What IS Positive Thinking?

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I was watching the movie What the Bleep Do We Know?! and Miceal Ledwith, one of the scientists interviewed in the movie, said—I’m paraphrasing here—that what passes for positive thinking is really just a thin smear attempting to disguise a vastness of negative thinking.

Hmmmm.

There are times when I am in a rut with how I habitually think about certain things and, once I realize this, I can–and do–choose to think more positive thoughts instead.

However, there are larger issues in all our lives and pasting a smiley face over these is exactly what Miceal Ledwith was speaking about, I think. In this instance, it’s silly to think that “turning that frown upside down” is going to make a difference; we need to take a look at the deeper issues involved.

Having said that, I think we can take a hopeful attitude–if not actually positive–that as we do the work of bringing peace to these weightier concerns, we will discover answers.

What do you think about Miceal Ledwith’s statement? Let me know in the comments section below!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Review Your Week and Month: Are You Out?

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Your success is not in your comfort zone. ~Barry Skalka, SCORE Mentor

The challenge is not to be in the know but to be in the mystery ~Fred Alan Wolf, Ph.D. in What the Bleep Do We Know!?

Are you out–of your comfort zone, that is!

These quotes point out a critical fact about moving toward your dreams: You are going to spend a lot of time feeling uncomfortable because you’ll be unsure of what you’re doing and where you’re going. This is because you’ll be doing, thinking, feeling, deciding, in ways you never have before. Feeling nervous, anxious, unsure, and plain old uncomfortable are normal and natural signs that you are breaking new ground; you’re on your way to your dreams!

Anxiety & doubt are normal signs that you’re breaking new ground; you’re on your way to your dreams! @YesICanPepTalks Tweet this!

To make sure you stay outside your comfort zone, search out that which you don’t know, have no template for, and that makes you stretch and grow beyond what you think are the ends of your capabilities. The good news is that even though, periodically, you may have to travel by yourself, you aren’t alone. Most of the time, there are at least a few pioneers who have traveled a similar path as yours and usually they’ve left breadcrumbs and trail markers along the way.

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You may be by yourself but you aren’t alone. Other travelers have left trail markers along the way! @YesICanPepTalks Tweet this!

Action Plan:

As you review your week and the month of March, note the areas–the tasks and the projects–where you are procrastinating. Most likely it’s due to feeling uncomfortable in some form. Remind yourself that this is normal and natural. In fact, celebrate this because it means you’re moving out of your comfort zone!

Yay YOU!

And, as always, make sure you congratulate yourself for the progress you have made–no matter how small–and the times you did step out of your comfort zone–no matter how brief. This is GREAT stuff!

Celebrate your progress, no matter how tiny, and your forays out of your comfort zone, no matter how brief.   via @YesICanPepTalks Tweet this!

Yay YOU!

Let me know in the comments section below about the progress you’re making. I want to celebrate with you!

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Here’s what I’m celebrating that I did: I made a 8.5″ x 11″ poster in PDF format that’s FREE for YOU! Check out the “Free” tab above (click here to be taken to it) and follow the instructions. It’s my pleasure to share this with you!  🙂

Remember: If one of your friends, loved ones, or colleagues can benefit from this post, please feel free to pass it along. Thanks!

YOU’RE AWESOME!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren